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DO NOT READ PAST THIS POINT IF YOU ARE UNDER 16 PLEASE . I Wanted to know if i'm the only one who has 1.been caught having sex and 2. been embarassed then looked back and found it funny.
So me and my boyfriend went on a romantic stroll and sit on the beach,time passed and we eventually had sex. I hear somebody on the phone saying something like ″Dude this guy is doggy stylin this sexy chick, get down here″ i think nothing of it. surely i miss heard him, right? My BF then goess ″i dont remember streetlights round here″ i look up properly and find out we were infront of some blokes house. Theres now roughly 10 audiance members on the bank cheering. we grab our clothes and run like shit!!
come oon, share your stories!! Tasha (link)
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Your post gave me a smile too mate, cheers! No, you're DEFINITELY not the only one who's been caught at it. And embarassing moments you look back at and laugh over, well...one of the joys of being alive. You've got your head screwed on right and a good attitude about it. Not really a place for explicit stories, as mentioned. Still, I don't think you'd 'beat' and audience of ten anyhow! A case of 'Tasha you LEGEND!!!' I reckon. Happy New Year...you're OK.
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I have a bad sore throat it hurts every time I sallow. Also I get a sharp pain in my ears. I have no fever or any other symptoms. I have taken some medicine to see if it will go away but it doesn't. Do I need to have my tosils removed? (link)
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When I was a youngster persistent sore throats were very often dealt with by removing the tonsils. In the UK at any rate it's fallen out of favour a lot since then and it's a much more rare operation now. The ears, nose and throat are closely linked biologically, and ears which hurt when swallowing is a common enough combination. Definitely a case of seeing the doctor. Modern antibiotics are fast and effective. I feel he'll only refer you to hospital for the removal of your tonsils if or when it becomes absolutely necessary. If it does come to that, it's not a high-risk op...so don't worry. It might even be and 'abnormal swallow' thing, caused by stress which is rather common in our modern world sadly, not any sort of infection at all. Treated by destressing, cutting down on coffee or those caf laden energy drinks for a start, which don't help. So tell him or her all the facts, not just a description of the pain if that aplies.
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my sister who is 22 went to jail for a year for fraud related charges. If I commit the same crime what is the likelihood I will be sent to the same place? I don't want her to be all alone in there. I am 18 year old and female as well. Also, it is a non violent crime and only a year so it doesn't seem too bad (link)
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Well there's a sort of logic there I suppose. But really, if I found you stuck in a hole what would you rather I do? Jump in and get stuck in it with you, to keep you company? Or get a rope and help you out? A year's not long at all. She'll be needing you soon enough. You be ready on the outside with your rope mate. That's the thought that'll be keeping her spirits up on the darker days.
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As much as i try to cum it never works, instead i pee a little. I get so fustrated!!! All i want to do is cum and what is really messed up i've seen other people cum like it's a hobby... Grrr... :( Will sombody give me some good girl cumming exlamation? Cause this not cumming thing is on my last flipp'n nerve!! Pls respond to this post as FAST as you can!!!!!!!!! Wait one more thing: WHY IS IT SO HARD!!!!?????? (link)
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Hi there. Hope you're not climbing the walls with frustration. There's no reason why you can't cum. Lets try a bit of biological savvy & a good dollop of positive thinking. What you're basically aiming at is gradually building up the tension in your pelvic and vaginal muscles until it's all released in a series of spasms. At the same time your brain's flooded with 'feel good' chemicals. Right? In this respect it's a purely reflex action, exactly the same as a guy ejaculating. So the more you put in as it were, the more you're likely to get out. Relax, lie back and use your fantasy. A favourite scenario, person real or imaginary etc. Really take your time. Banish those "it's hard and I can't cum" negative vibes. Or it will be hard, and you won't cum. Think "There's no reason why I can't...and I'm going to. Big time!" Of course the whole area is sensitive and responsive. So start off enjoying the whole area. But the majority of the most sensitive receptors, or nerve-endings are concentrated around the first inch or so of your front wall and even more so, your clitoris. In fact it's so sensitive that even rather indirect stimulation can be plainly felt. Possibly when you began self-pleasuring you found that crossing your legs and squeezing, or grinding against a pillow felt great? Yeah, it's THAT sensitive and it's the key to getting you to that delicious finish you're after. When you feel something promising begin to happen and you're feeling wound nice and tight, stay with it. Now I'm not saying 'fake' anything but this is the time to really let go. Initiate the things that you're wanting to happen, deliberately. Breathe hard and heavy, or 'passionately' in other words. Maybe tense and release your thigh muscles, or wriggle about a bit if you get what I mean. Get your whole lower body in synch. Really re-affirm your intent by actually saying "I'm going to cum!" or something similar. Do not underestimate the power of positive thought! This is maybe the point I want to make most of all. Women who enjoy it want it, believe they will and go for it. Just at the crucial moment you'll probably feel an intense urge to sort of 'push down' with all those important muscles, and quite likely feel as if you're going to well...pee! But when it occurs as a natural reflex response it is very unlikely that this will happen. I'd make a guess that you might be trying too hard to hurry that orgasm along yourself, and that's why you pee a bit, instead of cumming?? Still, don't worry about that, it's not important. Many of the same muscles are involved, and well... sex is pretty much concerened with fluids anyway. I'm sure the 'vibrator' option will occur to you. OK, they're very powerful ways of making virtually any woman 'cum' in the purely 'muscular spasm' sense. Most effective used outside, laid flat-ish along the areas we discussed and just more or less held there. But you wouldn't be alone in finding it a bit contrived, clinical and emotionless. Just a muscle spasm...like sneezing! Not very sexy or 'force of nature' at all! So how about trying the fingers, fantasy and positive thought approach first? Just keep affirming "I'm hot and horny. I deserve to cum...quite naturally...and I'm going to!" I'm sure you'll 'get there'. Work towards it, don't try and force it. I'll put the blokes side across. WE can't ejaculate (cum, spurt...whatever you want to call it) to order either, it only happens via stimulation and desire. Lot of girls forget that. True, it's usually a bit quicker, we worry more about holding it off long enough to please our partners before it's all over! Happy New Year...and hope cumming becomes YOUR hobby TOO in 2013.
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So I've had the same dream for 3 nights in a row now and it's really starting to scare me. It feels so real, but of course when I wake up, I'm fine.
So basically the dream goes along the lines of this guy who rapes me in my house. He gives me a needle with some kind of disease in it and then dashes off. I've never seen this guy in real life, and actually he looks almost like a cartoon, but he's a real man. Orangle hair, dark black moustache and he likes to disguise and travel everywhere to avoid the cops. So basically I tell the cops, and they go searching for him, but for some reason we're searching inside my house. So I wait in the closet where it's safe, but the cops totally miss him as he sneaks in my room, into the closet, rapes me again and almost kills me. And it keep happening in every dream.
There is more too it, but it would take forever to write every tiny detail. What does this mean? A dream of rape, does it mean something? It's freaking me out, someone please help. (link)
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Correct advice, I'll second that. Dreams often act as a 'safety valve' in which we face ideas we do not wish to in our conscious state. But the subject matter, however 'real' it seems is scrambled and coded rather than direct and literal. TV and video games just before you go to sleep are not good ideas, they stimulate the psycho-visual centres greatly and can be rsponsible for really vivid dreaming. Music, even fast paced club music on the other hand seems NOT to excite the same responses. And of course, forget ANY idea that it's in any way predictive of a real-world event. That's plain nonsense. By all means try and work out some of the coding for yourself, it's fun and defuses the dream too. Cops might just stand for 'authority fugures'. They fail to stop your attacker, so maybe you're feeling that some authority figure (parent, teacher etc) is not giving you the support you need or want, you feel they're failing you in some way? Rape...maybe NO sexual undertone at all...simply the concept of being forced against your will by someone more powerful than you, the control side of the offence? Get the idea? I assumed teacher or parent as your language sounds quite modern and young...apologies if you're 35 or something mate!! Read as 'boss at work' maybe? Most of all, don't worry!
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the condom split whilst my boyfriend and i were having sex,however he did not cum. i'd just after my menstrual cycle and im pretty sure im not pregnant, however i just want another opinion, help anyone?
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Hi there. Well, a guy may release some pre-ejaculatory fluid usually called pre-cum and it can contain sperm. But the actual risk is not that great, and lubricated condoms often contain a chemical that kills sperm too, making a low risk even lower. Condoms do pop or split during sex, but as long as one of you notices and he doesn't carry on regardless and come inside you then it's usually no problem. You did the right thing, and I'd say your chance of pregnancy is very slim here. Plus check the condoms you used, if they say 'spermicidally lubricated' or something similar then anything that might have oozed out a bit during sex will have been killed off, and you're double-safe! Maybe use ones that are in future, especially if you get a bit energetic and vigorous during sex? Best wishes.
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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vrfeRQ_mlE4
Obviously, it's not perfect, but western countries aren't perfect either. Our media is too black and white. The American median income is only around 45k, but on television, the vast majority of the time, you'll mainly see upper middle class or rich people. And people watch, wishing to one day be as prosperous, as our country heavily promotes materialism.
My mom is from a so-called "third world" nation in Africa, but she said the worst poverty she has ever seen has been in America. In African countries, people generally help each other. You can be a complete stranger (even if you're non-African) and someone will treat you like family. My parents' friends are called "auntie" or "uncle" even if we aren't related at all. I have relatives in Africa who are upper middle class and they often get complete strangers who show up completely unannounced, around dinnertime, because they are hungry and desperate. Instead of shooing them away, or calling the police, they help them out, out of kindness. Sometimes people will even be given a place to stay, depending on the relationship, or the stranger's character. But in America, everyone fears each other! Too much focus on differences. I guess that's why so many people own guns, or send their parents to retirement homes and stuff. They fear their own countrymen and lack compassion, and it's just sad America has developed to become this way. My sister is sick and relatives and family friends have all donated money, even a family who was struggling! I used to hate when my mom mentioned I should keep closer ties with family, because I'm someone who wants to be friends with EVERYONE, but now I realize that I can't expect others to be as compassionate as others in my family. I knew of materialism and spoke of it, but didn't realize it was everywhere, and I was part of the problem as well.
Also, in African countries, at least people eat food that is closer to nature, so they have far less illnesses and what not. Notice how cancer is a huge problem in America and Scandinavian countries. When you see how people generally eat in different countries, it's not very surprising: http://www.time.com/time/photogallery/0,29307,1626519,00.html
And when people get sick from processed foods, their doctors give them medicine that only makes matters worse. It apparently affects your pineal gland, which makes you less calm, less happy, and less spiritual. It contributes to why there's so many depressed, angry, and egotistical people in the western world, especially in America. The link between hate, fear, and processed foods truly shocked me. http://humansarefree.com/2011/02/how-to-clean-up-pineal-gland.html
I don't think our world is very balanced. If we could only work together, we could solve all of our problems. Separate "races" don't exist. It's scientific fact. Everyone has the potential to do anything they want, regardless of skin color. http://www.nowpublic.com/world/human-genome-project-announces-race-does-not-exist
Everyone has potential to be successful, and everyone has potential to be spiritual. All that separates us is culture. If someone from China adopted someone from Nigeria, the child would act and have the same value system as any other Chinese person. And vice versa. It is possible for a society to be technologically advanced AND still compassionate. Look at ancient Egypt, for example. Egypt was far more advanced than we are today.
I grew up in America, and I strugged a lot, and a few days ago I came to realize that my compassionate side was fighting against the materalistic society I've grown up in. I thought I was depressed, and lately I kept craving junk food, because I couldn't be the "perfect" person I wanted to be and messed up too many times. I wanted to do a certain profession and help other people so that I could finally feel respected by everyone. I wanted to prove negative stereotypes wrong, too.
But I recently realized that I don't have to do anything. I had to learn to love myself first. I had low self worth, had social anxiety, and procrastinated heavily because I didn't love myself, for simply being me. I've read countless of articles online about how to increase my self worth and etc and none of them worked one iota. I've never felt this peaceful since my very early childhood, before I could get corrupted by the world. Because I've realized that we're all connected. And I can't love others without loving myself. When I realized it was late at night, and for the first time, I really felt like hugging somebody. I'm in college, and my roomie was gone, and it just brought me to tears. I've ALWAYS felt uncomfortable hugging others, or with compliments me or is too nice to me. Peaceful, religious people used to piss me off, because I couldn't see where they were coming from. And I used to get the urge to eat junk food a lot, and I bought my favorite candy as a test and I still haven't felt the urge to eat it at all. And literally for the past week all I had been mainly eating was junk food. You know, for the first time in my life I actually feel like god exists. and I understand why bad things happen, because he allows us to decide our own lives. before when I thought those words it's like.. I was jut thinking them, but didn't really believe them. all true religions are connected. and even if someone believes a religion that goes against that, I shouldn't judge others for it. judging others is just egotistical. I'm now starting to catch myself for doing it. if the dualism does not end, our society will be ruined. everything in the bible suddenly makes sense for me and I had always been agnostic before. I kept trying to run from pain but pain is just a part of the process of life. like maybe if I have more stuff I'll be happier. maybe if I get a boyfriend I'll be happier. when I should just be happy now!
wow, sorry I've gone off topic but it now really makes sense how we really just need to love each other unconditionally. i'm not saying bad deeds should be rewarded, but I mean.. jesus sent his own son to die for all of us, even though all of us sin. and we're supposed to learn from him. i feel like so many people have religion wrong. it's not about trying to force your ideas on other people, it's about showing them love and trying to understand where they're coming from. maybe i went through the struggles in my life before so I could learn to be more compassionate. cause now I can understand where someone's coming from who is an atheist, agnostic, etc. cause I had to learn to lose my ego. I have to continue developing myself as a person from the inside, and by being satisfied by doing the best of my capability in school, to truly spread good in the world. I just can't believe it all makes sense now. Whenever people said stories about them finding God they all seemed like a joke to me. I used to hate going to church cause I never felt anything. but maybe this is just something that has to naturally develop. now I want to go to church as soon as possible, and truly pray. everything natural in the world is of god. and nature on its own is not good or bad. it is just one. no person is fully good or bad. from nuns to criminals. we all make up one people, but too many people don't truly see things that way. i just can't believe I feel this way and just felt the need to write about it. like I feel like I could die in the name of the lord right now, and I wouldn't be afraid. before I had been using music as my religion when the feeling I feel now is way better, and I feel grateful that my condition hadn't progressed to the point where I became obese, started using drugs, did very promiscuous things, etc. not that I look down on people who do those things.. well I used to actually, but now I realize its silly to, cause if I was in their shoes I might have gone down their path. I'm lucky to be part of a family that promotes healthy eating, lucky to not have been exposed to drugs, etc. I still feel overwhelmed! I think society can only progress if compassion drives industrialization, and not greed. (link)
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Hi there. I have no spirituality or religious conviction at all. But your observations and comments on western capitalist culture are so accurate unfortunately. Bizarre situation isn't it? Man alienated by his own man-made world!! And that is what we are. Industrialisation on the massive scale IS de-humanising and brutalising. Each step takes us further from the natural human condition. Man is by nature a social creature. But 10 million individuals do not make a society. For what it's worth, my view of many of what we call third-world contries is positive and admiring. Races living at one with the natural world, not set against it. Taking what they need from nature and no more, and giving back too. Keeping to the ideas of true society, helping their fellow man without judgment or question. Now maybe the scientists will come up with a source of clean, sustainable energy and our unbridled greed and mindless consumerism will just keep rolling along. But I feel many of us are now becoming aware that the earth's resources are finite. And the rate at which we are consuming them is not sustainable. And perhaps one day we will HAVE to return to earlier values, methods and ideologies. Perhaps for the first time, when man looks at the future he does not just see technological advances and greater industrialisation. Possibly we are NOW at the peak, and a more conservative use of the earth's resources is the path ahead? I find myself looking at little old England and thinking maybe a (still distant) future generation might find themselves looking at the same land and seeing a team of heavy horses pulling the plough again! At present, our society is pissing in the well it's got to drink from on the grand scale. And that's not a great idea! My 'gospel' I think is true socialism (NOT communism please note...which has been tried and found to be easily corruptible). Where each man gives according to his abilities and each man takes according to his needs. And after reading your question I'm definitely giving you a literary and intellectual 'hug' right now. I envy you your faith in a divine solution, but sadly I cannot share the same hope in my heart. Best wishes for the new year mate!
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Hi (17 from england)
So I'll be going to uni in about 8 months time.
Mentally, I'm ready-I'm very mature for my age and am bright enough to pass all my exams.
Phisically though I don't look old enough. I look about 15 or even 14 on some days. The thing is, my physique is petite. So I'm about 5 foot 5 but very thin. How can I look older,because I don't want my young looks stopping me from getting invited anywhere at uni. What should I wear to make me look older? Thanks (link)
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As I remember, university life is ABOUT being young. The girls mostly don't wander around the campus in drop-dead heels and full make-up. You slop around being big kids between lectures, and do childish stuff like sitting-up all night playing kids board games while drunk and silly. And getting torn-off a strip by your house master for that midnight water-fight in the quad! You live together, see things and moods in each other only your parents have really seen before and basically live in a way you never will again when you graduate and leave. Now I guess that won't ever change. Don't worry, just go, be yourself, enjoy yourself. It's the sort whose stuffed full of their own importance who gets left out a bit...but even they usually come round to it before long. Some of them, male and female will be special mates the rest of your life. Good luck. Meery x-mas & a happy new year. Next years Christmas parties you'll be looking at photos of and laughing about years later! ps I did all that, and much worse!! But I still got BSc (Hons) in Engineering Design. A '1st' too! I was at De Montfort. Happy days....
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Ok so theres these 2 boys i like who like me but idk who to choose i've known them both for a long time ones straight fwd while the others shy what do i do?!? (link)
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When you've had a really CRAP day, which one makes you 'smile inside' and feel good? Which one do you want to sit and chat and mellow-out with? Which one would be there for you, and let you do just that? Who do you want tell your troubles to, and share your laughs with? Easy choice now innit??
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I am a 17 year old virgin girl asking for guys advice, In general I don’t like dealing with a lot of emotions which is why I am currently in a very causal relationship type thing with this guy. I enjoy it, he enjoys it and neither of us has to fuss with commitment or dating. I never really believed that virginity was something special and just something you have to go through to enjoy sex, I want to lose my virginity and the guy I am currently fooling around with(who is a bit of a man whore) seems more than willing. my problem is I know it is not going to be good, that it could hurt, and I am mostly afraid that somewhere in the middle of it some deep seeded crazy female hormones will kick in and make me go crazy and become a class “A” psycho clinging bitch. I am really not worried about pain or blood I really feel bad for the guy, and want to know what I could do to make this better for the guy if at all possible. From the way I look at it the guy is really not getting anything out of this besides bad sex, stained sheets, and a crazy bitch.
Point = what can I do to make the first time I have sex better for the guy? (link)
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Hi there. The two things that worry a lot of girls (ie it might hurt and I might bleed a bit)you seem to be relaxed about. So you clearly understand your body, which is great. Yes, sexual arousal is driven by hormones. But no, it's never a runaway event. You'll remain mentally in control however excited you get. You won't turn into an out-of-control sex fiend who goes crazy during sex, so don't worry. All you really lose is your discrmination, and this could easily lead to a girl HAVING sex with an unsuitable partner. Try to avoid the 'it's not going to be good' vibe. Like so many things, thinking makes it so. As far as what the guy gets out of it, well quite a number of men are really keen on the idea of being a girls 'first lover' although it's never been an issue either way with me. Some girls see losing their virginity as a big issue, some don't. You've told me your opinion, which is perfectly valid. Try to think 'make it better for US' rather than 'him'. It's your party too you know! Sex being painful or it being difficult for him to penetrate you nicely is nearly always cause by involuntary tensing of your muscles which comes about through anxiety, tension and stress. So try to relax, mentally and physically. You want to be thinking 'this is going to feel great'...lose that negative vibe like we said. Of course, make sure he spends lots of time getting you ready, emotionally and physically. You want to be nice and wet naturally. And I'm sure you'll have noticed the physical changes in how you feel 'down there' when you get aroused. Don't let him rush you in any way. Please don't take this as any sort of criticism, but do make sure you use a condom. Besides pregnancy, you do say your guy is a bit free with his affections, shall we say. So there may be a risk sexually transmitted infection. OK, it's the real world. Most of us don't have a full and sworn statement of their partners sexual history when we start a relationship. And a lot of us do have fairly (even very!) casual sex from time to time. Condoms are the only effective protection against sti's. Promise you'll use one. Properly. On before any sort of penetration, and it stays on until it's all over. As for the 'clinging' bit...well it's not a 'psycho' situation but do be aware that there are 'bonding' hormones. However much you're determined it's a no-strings, fun only relationship the act of sex can easily bring-out some relationship-forming, father-of-my-children feelings. This causes so much upset in my experience, when each have different expectations. Again, it won't screw you up though. You're a rational, thinking indivdual. The feelings are not written in stone. The hormone is called oxytocin by the way, it's very real and it does make us focus on one person somewhat and want to form an exclusive relationship. I can't think of much else. Thanks for asking. Relax and enjoy the experience. Hope it goes well for you. If it's a bit less than a polished performance, well the only thing 'bad sex' really hurts is our ego, nothing more. Sometimes it'll feel great, sometimes not, sometimes just 'ok'. Be like that all your adult life to be honest. Merry x-mas and a great new year to ya!
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hey jasmine
i'm 15 years old and I've been fingered by 2 guys
but strangely i somehow don't get any kind of pleasure in fingering
is there something wrong ?
like i mean i read on a lot of websites about the reason being the guy not handling the clitoris but even that didn't help
please help !
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I sincerely doubt that you have 'faulty' sex organs that don't respond to stimulation. Are you physically responding. A gentle swelling, tingling feeling and darkening of your visible parts is usual. Along with 'feeling wet' of course. If there's none, he's not pressing the right buttons. If they're there but you're simply not getting a feeling of pleasure, something is acting as a mental block, or acting as a brake on your enjoyment. You'll have to look at, and into yourself to find the cause and the answer. As your other replies confirm, there's nothing wrong or 'dirty' about a girl of your age enjoying her boyfriend touching her intimately. Might there be some moral objections stemming from a religious upbringing? Obviously, I know nothing about you to base anything on whatsoever. But I hope it's a start. I do doubt there's anything physically 'wrong' as you hinted though. Best wishes.
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okay so im 14 and a girl. i want a guy to touch me. but i dont say anything because i know its lust. and i dont want a reputation as a slut or whore. well im staying true to myself. im still a virgin. i dont plan on loosing my virginity for a long time. and i really like this boy, but if we date i dont just want him to touch me. however idk how to keep the lust under control? im not like a sex addict or anything but..? (link)
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We could talk about respect, self-respect and setting limits and so on all day but when you're with a guy and you're hot for each other a lot of good intentions fly straight out the window! So how about a PRACTICAL approach for when the time comes? Kissing, holding you close and touching you intimately is going to get a bloke who fancies you seriously aroused. Fact. And there's going to come a point when the next natural step is, well...sex. You want to be able to 'defuse' that moment, but in a good way...right? How about you give him a sweet "it's your turn now" type comment and offer him, well, a handjob to completion...to put it bluntly. Hope that's not too blunt? There are big advantages. He won't be left feeling frustrated and a tad argumentative (it's a testosterone thing, trust me). In fact he should feel he's shown you that he's CRAZY about you, and in a very obvious way! He'll feel also that he's done whats kind of expected of him as a man. You can quite rightly feel that you've shown yourself as very nicely feminine. Womanly even. And enjoy the experience accordingly. In short, some very positive guy/girl 'bonding' without any of the risks associated with full sex. And of course, if he's not the one and you end up dumping him soon, you've still kept your virginity for Mr Perfect when he comes along. Actually a lot of younger guys are secretly quite relieved at an outcome like that early in a relationship. When a girl wants ACTUAL SEX we quite often think "Oh God...pressure! What if I'm not very good at it? What if she thinks I'm crap at it?" We guys have insecurites too you know mate, we just don't like to admit ours...but that's enough about ME!! Merry x-mas and keep true to yourself.
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Do you think being a vet would be depressing, seeing sick animals every day? (link)
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Hi there. The animals you help and save, and the response of their delighted owners will make you feel wonderful. Those you can't will sometimes break your heart. And like doctors and surgeons, ultimately all your patients will eventually die. As we all will. But the good you do will outweigh the depressing. It's a noble career. And a well paid one too. A good vet must be better than a docor. You can't ask your patients how, or even if they feel unwell. Of course, we can't go through life choosing only the pleasant experiences whatever our role. So if your heart's in it, go for it!
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im 12 and i have not yet started my period... im an elite level gymnast. ive been told that gymnastics stunts puberty, im starting to get really worried and idk what to do, i have been doing gymnastics for 8 years. im just really worried and i need your advice. PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!☆★☆ (link)
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I've got an idea there might be a misunderstanding here. Doing gymnastics can't affect your menstrual cycle, either when you start or disruptiing it when you're having them. But I recall there was a lot of fuss some time ago about Russian and East German olympic gymnasts being given hormonal treatments to delay puberty. The reason being that they'd keep slim 'boyish' figures (that is slim hips and no boobs!) and the added advantage that they wouldn't lose focus on training because of boyfriends! I'm almost CERTAIN that this is the root of this rumour. Gymnastics, I'm sure don't in themselves have any possible way of delaying puberty. I'm sure you'll start yours when your hormones kick-in just like any other girl.
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So this is gonna sound really weird but im a girl and I have been masturbating for longer than I can remember. I can remember balling up my blanket at pre school and grinding against it at nap time. I can remember doing it in first grade while thinking about my crush and making up these fantasies in my head like playing doctor. But I was just a little kid!! I can remember finally learning that what I was doing was even called masturbation! The weird part is I've always know to keep it a secret. Before I even knew what it was I never told anyone about it and I knew to only do it when I was alone. I guess what I'm wondering is.. How did I know what this was? How did I learn about feeling horny and pleasure from doing this and thinking about boy and girl encounters before I even knew what sex was? And I knew all of these fantasies without thinking of sex happening in them but just knowing they made me horny. I'm 17 now and I still masturbate on a regular basis. I've never used my fingers I still just rub up against a little piece of balled up blanket. I've never had sex and I don't feel like a nympho or anything like that. Also when I do do this, I reach a sort of climax where it feels really good and then I wanna stop because I'm not horny anymore. This can't be an orgasm right? It's not intense at all it's just kind of like a second or two of pleasure and then I can't get aroused again. Plus it takes me like less than a minute to get there. Any ideas? (link)
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Now here's a subject that fascinates me! Humans have what is know as 'empirical knowledge'. In short, that means 'stuff we've learned through observation and other sensory experiences'. Most people are comfortable with that idea, nice and down-to-earth and easy to grasp. Of course, you won't have watched anyone masturbating, and it's unlikely that someone sat down and described it to you. So how do you know? Well, we also have a kind of intrinsic (or pre-programmed if you like) knowledge, that is 'stuff we know...but we don't know how we know it'. It often seems flawlessly accurate and informed. Not such a comfortable idea as 'empiricism' eh? But it's real. It's generally believed to be carried genetically. Genes basically copy themselves. So essentially much of our genetic make-up is a 'carbon copy' of genes as old as the human race itself. It's a kind of 'blue-printing'. We develop according to a genetic 'master-plan' or instruction book. Now think about this. There's not substantially more zebras than there were 50,000 years ago, probably a lot fewer. Yet humans have multiplied many-fold and colonised the whole planet in this time. And we're still doing it! We have a longer fertile age range. We don't come into 'season' like other animals, we breed all year round. So, like it or not sexuality, driven by the urge for prolific breeding is a HUGE part of our genetic programming. No-one taught you it, you didn't learn it. Neither did I. Neither did anyone else. Full-on answer eh? As to the other part, well pressing firmly against that blanket will stimulate your clitoris, which is basically what masturbation is all about in a female. It's a perfectly natural and harmless facet of being a human. (As far as I'm aware no other animals do it, it's unique to us). You might work on improving the sort of 'quality' and duration of the experience with a little experimenting using your fingers. Most women like to orgasm from time to time, if not every time they masturbate. It's really about stimulating yourself until the muscles 'down there' gradually tense and tighten, until it's released in a sequence of muscular spasms (a clench, release, clench again...and so on process). It's accompanied by an intense 'feel good' sensation (nature really does want us to breed like crazy eh?!!)which you should really enjoy. But if what you're doing hits the spot OK for you, stay there. It's your individual enjoyment that's important. Hope I haven't bored you. But rest assured, knowing about sex without ever being told about sex is NOT a sign you're a nymphomaniac! See ya...
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Hi! So I'm a 12 year old girl and I have VERY bad paranoia. Well people say the world is ending on the 21st and I all know you all don't believe it so can you help me believe that it isn't true? Please? I'm about to cry! :( (link)
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Crackpot religions and self-styled prophets and psychics have been promising that the end is coming for EVER. Now the world's a small place these days with instant global communications on hand. Don't you think that if ONE SINGLE PERSON anywhere on earth could, or ever could have correctly predicted the future we would know about it? The Mayan civilisation became extinct. They couldn't even predict and prevent that! Relax mate. The nearest 'our' world came to effectively ending was back in the cold war years when the west faced-off against the USSR and her allies and we each had enough atomic weapons pointing at each other to blast civilisation to dust. Ask your parents about it. There WERE some moments we ALL worried! They passed. We're still here. Drop me a 'merry xmas' line on the 22nd and we'll both have a good laugh. I guarantee it.
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My school is doing a talent show and i have absoulutely no idea what to do! i will do it with other peeps or i will do it by myself. just HELP ME MAN! (link)
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How about a stand-up comedy routine? A sharp and witty monologue, your observations about talent shows (nerves...choosing what to do...bit of self-parody etc). Just a thought...
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What kind of gift a girl like most? (link)
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Jewellery, designer perfume, music, techy stuff like phones and iPads (or an accessory for it if price prohibits). Clothes are impossible, you'll get it wrong/wrong size. Tickets to a big show around christmas eve week. Delete those which don't apply. I've known pretty and well-dressed girls who never wear jewellery. Some with stacks of designer fragrances but who LOVE just one more to try! In general, something that looks like you've put a good deal of thought into or maybe heard her mention, or just know she likes. More important than the financial value I've alwasy found. An expensive piece of jewellery for a girl who never wears it will just live in the bedside table drawer. Avoid clothes or handbags and shoes at all costs! Happy Xmas!!
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how do you give a good first time blowjob???? (link)
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First we'll have to define 'good'. There are no sense-receptors in your mouth that directly provide sexual stimulation (or brushing your teeth would get you aroused!) so 'good for you' really depends on how much you want to do it. The obvious comparison is, receiving a shiny new i-phone as a present feels good. But watching your boyfriend unwrap a nice glitzy watch you've bought him as a present also makes you feel good. You'll probably find it much more pleasurable if you're feeling nice and horny when you do it, that is after he's been making a fuss of you and making you feel nice and horny first. If you are, and you're really keen on him in all respects, it should make you feel good. For him, well he'll almost certainly enjoy it. There are any number of variations of using your lips, tongue and hands. Too many to list. It's a case of trying things and seeing what works best for the pair of you. Asking which is best is like asking 'which is the best colour in a rainbow?' We all have our favourites. There's a couple of things to keep in mind. Although it's called a blowjob the thing you must NEVER do is close your lips around him and actually BLOW. You can do a bloke proper physical damage if you do and he doesn't immediately stop you. Also, cover your front teeth with your lips, you don't want to give him a sharp nip! You've got to assume that he's going to ejaculate. If the thought's making you nervous you could have a chat and agree that he finishes off outside your mouth at first, until you're a bit more used to the whole experience. Then try letting him come inside your mouth. On the same subject, swallowing semen is completely harmless. But the fact that it won't hurt you doesn't mean you have to. You might like, not mind it or possibly dislike the feel and taste. If you don't like it, either empty your mouth into a tissue, or always have him finish off outside. And DEFINITELY remember that it's not his RIGHT to have oral sex with you AT ALL if you don't enjoy it yourself.
Finally, keep it real with your expectations. If the first attempt isn't as slick and polished as you'd like, don't worry. If you sort of choke a bit, or end up getting a bit splashed or something, try and keep a sense of humour. Laugh it off with him if you can and try again. It's supposed to be FUN, not something to get stressed over. And practice makes perfect. Nuff info? Hope so. See ya!
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i am in deep trouble, i feel. i have been masturbating for the last couple of years since i was 11 and now i will be 17 in june 2013. i have masturbated almost everyday, twice a day . i have many problems now. such as mental problems. im losing my hair, my memory my concentration. i feel very week. ever bad symptom i have read about over do of masturbation . i have them all. ever single one . back pain and others as well. im trying to find all over the internet if all this is reversible. and if it means i have to stop masturbating and not have sex ever. then it fine by me. i cant study i cant do anything. please help. just reassure me that it is possible to get back on track . to become new as if i never masturbated before. plz plz help. (link)
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Hi there. Definitely listen to Razhie, masturbation cannot damage your physical or mental health. Step back, don't brainwash yourself with crackpot website diagnoses. Poor focus, concentration and short-term memory losses are pretty certain signs of stress. And you've definitely raised your stress levels with anxiety. These are definitely reversible, in fact they stop when your stress levels return to what's normal for you. Sort your head out first. And like the lady said, if you're left with any niggling physical problems go and see the doctor. They're not caused by masturbating. You might lay-off a bit at night if it's interfering with your sleep, but that's about it. No need to vow to never do it again, never have sex etc.
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