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i want a guy to touch me. but i dont want a reputation as a slut or whore.
okay so im 14 and a girl. i want a guy to touch me. but i dont say anything because i know its lust. and i dont want a reputation as a slut or whore. well im staying true to myself. im still a virgin. i dont plan on loosing my virginity for a long time. and i really like this boy, but if we date i dont just want him to touch me. however idk how to keep the lust under control? im not like a sex addict or anything but..?
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We could talk about respect, self-respect and setting limits and so on all day but when you're with a guy and you're hot for each other a lot of good intentions fly straight out the window! So how about a PRACTICAL approach for when the time comes? Kissing, holding you close and touching you intimately is going to get a bloke who fancies you seriously aroused. Fact. And there's going to come a point when the next natural step is, well...sex. You want to be able to 'defuse' that moment, but in a good way...right? How about you give him a sweet "it's your turn now" type comment and offer him, well, a handjob to completion...to put it bluntly. Hope that's not too blunt? There are big advantages. He won't be left feeling frustrated and a tad argumentative (it's a testosterone thing, trust me). In fact he should feel he's shown you that he's CRAZY about you, and in a very obvious way! He'll feel also that he's done whats kind of expected of him as a man. You can quite rightly feel that you've shown yourself as very nicely feminine. Womanly even. And enjoy the experience accordingly. In short, some very positive guy/girl 'bonding' without any of the risks associated with full sex. And of course, if he's not the one and you end up dumping him soon, you've still kept your virginity for Mr Perfect when he comes along. Actually a lot of younger guys are secretly quite relieved at an outcome like that early in a relationship. When a girl wants ACTUAL SEX we quite often think "Oh God...pressure! What if I'm not very good at it? What if she thinks I'm crap at it?" We guys have insecurites too you know mate, we just don't like to admit ours...but that's enough about ME!! Merry x-mas and keep true to yourself.
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You're a normal 14-year-old girl with her head on her shoulders and responsible. Your parents would be proud that you are thinking before acting on any sexual feelings or desires.
How do you keep it under control? Well, for starters always remind yourself you want to stay a virgin and make sure your partner knows this and there's no ifs, and or buts about it and physically stop them if need be and make sure they respect that.
When it comes to touch that's okay as long as you tell the person you are experimenting with or is your boyfriend what you will and will not do and set the rules you should be okay.
When at this stage of puberty your hormones and sexual thoughts are at a peak. That's why some people result to self-stimulation as a release. It could help you.
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