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I'm danika :) i'm 17 and i've been an advice columnist for almost 2 years i'm not on here a lot anymore but feel free to leave me and inbox and i'll get back to you asap

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my hair is black and i tried dying my hair medium brownish with loreal paris and clairol.. are they any good.. and if there are better products for dying my hair what are they.. thanks a bunch

yes they are good products.. they are a brand name so they have to be good... i think garnia frutise is a wonderful hair dying thing and then there is some others... hope this helps and you like your hair!...

ps. don't dye it too often or else your hair will turn dry and you hair will start to fall out!

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I want to lost weigh by June for FL but I need some motivation. Everyday I wake up saying today im going on a diet but then it always turns out the next day and then again the next day. I need some motivation, does anyone know any good ideas to keep me motivated to me goal? please help

say to yourself... "this week im going to go on a diet and then after that i will have a reward at the end of each week for my wonderful acievements" you have to want it your self... no one else can make you do it.. you have to want it bad!... you have ot have the curage to say "i want a salad please" or "no thank you" .. hope you reach your goal!

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Hey does anyone know where to find black jeans that are flared? Like stores that hold them. I hate straight-legged pants.. and whenever I try to find black jeans the store helpers dont seem to GET that I want BLACK jeans.. not a different material of pants..

Either that or they point out some dark clue jeans and I don't understand how they think it's BLACK. I don't want gothic pants or anything, I just mean simple black flared jeans or some cute black jeans that AREN'T straight-legged, because I honestly need some new clothes and have wanted them for the longest time.

So anyone know what good stores to look in for this type of stuff?

Thanks

i have found that boscovs, bon-ton, and maybe even the deb have a good selection of black jeans.. i got mine there.. im not sure if you have those stores wher you are located though... hope it helps!

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I'm 16 and I have this friend I have known for like 5 years. She's like a sister to me and I love her to death. The bad thing is that I feel like I can't trust her. I went to my ring dance and I didn't want to go with my ex-b/f who still likes me and I didn't want to hurt his feelings so I didn't tell him. Well I told her and my other best friend not to tell him or mention anything about the ring dance to him. Well they didn't and everything was ok and all then he came up to me at karate class (we take karate together that's how we met.) and told me that my friend had told him I went to ring dance with someone else. I couldn't believe she told him then she was talking about me to this other guy that I didn't like but he liked me. I stopped talking to him cause he was bad news and all. I don't know what to do with her. Please help me.
~confused chica~

let her know that you know what she did and ask her why? most likely she will lie but tell her you know what _______ (< her name) im sick and tired of your lying and i would like the truth right know please we have been friends for 5 years and i think it's about time you fess up! .. etc. let me know how it goes etc. hope it helps..

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ok, i'm am in love with this one girl. and we've went out before but she said that she wasn't ready. (that was about a year ago)ok lately i've been hearin that she hates my guts and that she likes one of my friends.and me and her haven't talked since last year. so wat do i do? (rate very well)

thanks

talk to her! i doubt that she hates you!... do you always listen to what people say? you shouldn't .. i odn't think you did anything wrong for her to "Hate" you.. tell her how you feel how you really like her.. and all.. girl love to hear that stuff im telling you! let me know how it goes and if you need to ask me anythign else let me know!

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hey...i'm thinking of getting my cartilage peirced does anyone know if it hurts and how badly? and also like whats thing like if its in a certain ear your gay and if its in the other you aren't..?

lol no! it doesn't hurt for me at all.. actually i got mine pierced like with a belly button hole peircer and that didn't even hurt!.. my friend said hers did but mine dind't hurt at all! .. there is nothing that i hurd of being gay and not gay in an ear!! that's crazyy..! any more further questions let me know!

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I recently started going out with this guy, I am 16 and he is 18. We make-out tons and tons, and its great and it feels great. But then that makes me wonder if he is only in it for the physical aspect, I asked him if thats all it was, he said no and that he likes being around me and he likes hanging out with me. Whell things dont feel right at all, I feel like im just his toy or whatever and he doenst tell me how he feels about things. Its often hard to express myself as well because I dont know how he would react. Its just weird, I just want to make things better

Okay you really need to run it by him that it doesn’t feel right.. And spill your guts to him! .. If he gets all effective then I don’t think that he is a really great guy to be going tout with .. I don’t think that he would go out with you if you were just his little play toy! .. I think he’s got to like you or else he would be pushing to have sex already!… plus he could have picked lots of other girls .. But he picked you and that’s the special part!.. Let me know how everything went!

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my life is messed up. all my life it seems like i've been trying to find the perfect guy for me. but they always end up liking my cousin or friend. like now i like this guy and i thought he liked me. he was flirting and messing with my emotions. and today he asked another girl out and for her number that happens to be my friend. and last year i liked this guy and he started dating my friend. and most of the time all the guys like my cousin because she's pretty. i feel like a nobody. but i really want to get to know that one boy that likes my friend. what's wrong with these boys.. better yet, what's wrong with me? and i'm not the kind of girl that gets stuck on one boy but i really like this one. how could he do this to me?

hunny.. guys are like that they will eat you up with all these words and then spit you out like a piece of garbage!! ... don't worry too you will one day find the perfect guys just for you! .. maybe your looking in the wrong places... many girls are just love hungry.. so just slow it down and start to talk to this boy and tell him how you feel! .. you will be supprised how he may react!... let me know how everything goes!

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I know this has been asked 100 times before but I need some help. After school I am always hungry (I have lunch at 10:30). And of course I always reach for something unhealthy and not very filling. So my question is what is a low-calorie yet filling snack? I am not as active as I should be so I don't use many calories. So what is something that I could burn off easily?

try a fruit! like a bannana or soemthing .. lol i do the exact same thing!! also there are nutri grain bars (peanut butter is really yummy! ) and like the low card oreo's and stuff (those are good too!) soo try them and let me know how it's working!! =)

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I've been thinking of becoming bulimic for awhile now... and I don't think there is nothing that can stop me, I just need to lost the weight because I feel so fat and left out all my friends are skinny and im fat and I hate it and it will stop when I become bulimic... im not going to stop

being blemic isn't the answer!! just go to the gym and work out or exercise some other way!! if you become blemic there are a lot of health issues that are involved.. you won't be able to stop!! you will look your self in the mirror and say "I hate you and your going to starve you fat pig!" you need to rething your conclusion to being overweight.. and don't have it end wiht being blemic.. there are other solutions.. that will not cause you to be in danger.. please re think it and if you need anymore support or have anymore questions let me know okay?

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My dad died a month ago and ever since then my mom's been really happy. They used to fight all the time and they were going to get divorced because of it. But ever since he died she's been soo happy and she's been going out with all of these different guys most of which hit me or her. If I ever even mention my dad or I cry about it she starts screaming at me and telling me that I'm a pathetic baby. I loved my dad he was soo good to my mom he tried so hard to make it work between the two of them for me and my older sister (she moved out before he died). I hate my mom she's put us through so much and I just can't stand her. So recently I've been staying with some of my friends a lot and I tried LSD. It was really great and it helped me a lot just to get away from everything that's been going on. I've heard all the horror stories about drugs but I just can't believe that they would be true. Well my question is is there anyway for me to get away from my mom so I don't have to deal with her always being a bitch to me and hitting me? And are drugs really as bad as people make them out to be or are the stories just bullshit like they are for LSD?

okay well hunny first of all i am here for you 100% ... remember your dad is always with you no matter what he is looking down on you.. know your mom... you might want to have a convo with her.. but i dont' know if you would want ot ... you have to know that life is short and if she goes too your going to be killing yourself tell yourself "i could have saved her" or "why" or even "why did i have to leave it like that" soemwhere around those lines.. you should treat everyday like it's your last ... now the drug part.. yes everythign they tell you is 100% true.. they are hallusinagens and as you might know they make you see things that aren't there.. there were soem cases when people have died because they thought they saw somethign and ran for it and got hit by a car, fell off the edge of a building, etc. so please hunny i am telling you it is not good at all! you need to stop before it become worse and you get addicted.. http://www.nida.nih.gov/Infofacts/LSD.html there is a website if you want to look up on it.. let me knwo how everything works out! or if you need anymore help let me know!

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i have had this best freind of mine since i was in 4th grade. recently in 8th grade she and i started acting really different. i cared what other people thougth of me, and she couldnt care less...i knwo i shoudlnt care...but thats not what im askin advice about. well one time she told me that she had to go to the doctor and i might never see her again and left it at that. so i was worried. well it turned out that she had family problems and she was cutting herself. well we 'broke up" as friends and my parents are always askin why dont i ever talk to her anymore. im afarid that they wont except that we broke up bcuz she acted weird and i just thougth she was plain weird for an answer...what do i do?

okay im really sorry who ever wrote the answer to this was not me!! so i will answer it! okay... well you really shouldn't care what people think.. there decision should not effect you! at all... cutting yourself is a disease it is not for attention.. oviously something was getting to her.. see cutting is a control thing most of the people can't control there life and the only thing that they can is there body. so thats why some people go anerexic or even cut. cutting themselves is a way to relieve pain to them everyhting just fades away when they do. i think that you should maybe give her a call some time and talk about the old times and now your parents should understand you gotta remember they were a kid once too! they will most likely help you get threw it... it's alright if you don't want to tell anyone but keeping it inside is just going to make everything worse.. if you need any more help just ask! i hope everything goes well!

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I thought you were going to give advice! If u arent going to give advice then why even do this! You are messing with peoples feelings! God Damn i cant believe you!

omg!! i am soo sorry some one must have my password and is messing with my website..

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Yeah...so my friend is staying at my house for a week because her parents are out of town. But my house is so....BORING! And the TV is broken, so that pretty much stinks. =( Any ideas what we can do??? ITS SOOOO BORING!!!! lol

13/f (both of us)

hmm... lol well try and go outside and get some fresh air!! maybe go down to the local park and chill! tv is sorta boring anyway! lol but not all shows... maybe even make up some games play cards.. take some walks you knwo the usuals! lol

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Danika, ok well there is this guy i liked for a long time. Well i found out the other day that the person i like, likes my best friend. My best friend doesn't like him i dont think. Now i dont know if i should like him anymore since it seems as if he doesnt care at all. And if all this time i spent liken him was a complete waste of time... i dont know please help if u can...

tell him! most likely he will care.. and if not then he's not a very good person! ... it's not good not too because as little as you know he could like you too! just as much.. best friends usually turn out to be the best relationships ever!plus they last the longest so tell him and let me know how you made out!

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the guy that i like told me that he likes me too and while he was gone for spring break, we talked a lot. but now that he's back, he doesn't talk to me. i try to keep the conversations going but he doesn't even bother to answer me when i ask him questions. so he obviously doesn't like me anymore and i don't think i like him. but now when i see that he's flirting with other girls i get really pissed off.. and that confuses me because i don't like him anymore.

i think hes doing it on purpose!! most guys like to do that because they want to get you jealous.. maybe, what i am thinking is that he does still like you but he is afraid to tell you so instead hes trying to get you mad so you will maybe talk to him! try to talk to him more get his sn and talk to him on there it is way easier to talk to him on here then actually in person trust me! so talk to him and let me know how it goes :-)

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hey ok i think i like this kid hes like perfect nd like once and a while we flirt nd i love it like i feel so good and i think i really like him i always dream about him like "yea my dream guy is ******" but he dosn't know i like him so should i tell him or not? im scared that if i do we won't be friends...

deffidently tell him!.. it's not good to keep it all inside... you never know you two could be going out righ twhen you tell him! he might like you just the same! and if he wion't talk to you anymore because of that.. then he's not really a great friend know is he?

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ok so I've liked this guy "cody" since september 2004 (its april 05 now) and it seemed as though he liked me a while back too. he would always talk to me. we'd hang out at school. talk on msn and he would basically just tell me everything about himself and ya, you get my point. in november a lot of people new I liked him however he didnt know who I liked so he bugged me about it on msn and I folded and told him I liked him. of course he liked "bethany" at the time so nothing happened (plus he was supposed to have asked her out but that never happened either) So when he stopped liking bethany things were still the same between us however slowly when february came we started drifting further apart and basically its gotten to the point where the only thing we do is make smart comments to each other. I really dont know what has happened but I still like him and my friends think he may like me a bit but I find that hard to believe cause he's more mean to me than he is nice. I'm wondering whether I should move on and forget about him. or re-tell him that I like him and see what happens. please help. anything you can tell me would be great. thanks!

i think you should re tell him that you like him and see what happens from there.. usually guys would be mean to try and flirt with you because they don't really know how to act around you? you know what i mean? my guess is that he does like you and is trying to hide it... so re tell him and let him know how you actually know how you feel... and deffidently dont' give up! unless if he actually doesn't like you... i will leave it with this quote "Never give up on something that makes you smile"

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i met this guy, he's 13 and i'm 14.. but he's really awesome and i'm pretty sure i like him. i know he likes me because he told me and i told him that i like him because im pretty sure that i do. problem is this: my parents dont want me to go out with him. they think he's too flirty and i'm more mature than him and all that crap. but all of the guys i've dated are really flirty and i dont think he's immature at all- we get along well and everything. i'm kinda questioning whether or not i like him now because my parents have been telling me a whole bunch of reasons why i shouldn't date him.. how do i figure out if i like him? and how do i get past my parents not liking him?

don't let your parents decision effect yours... if you like him they should exept the fact that they do and believe me.. they will come around.. but remember though your parents know a lot so take there opinion into conversation but nagotiate with them.. tell him " i really like him, cna't you just give him a chance ... i know he's not exactly what you are looking for but just give him a chance." or something around those lines ... im sure they will understand.. plus i know you like him.. you told me you liked him .. your parents decision is just effecting yours .. don't let that happen .. you need to make you own decisions.. just take ther advice into consideration.. hope this helps...

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hi,
i want to go to the semi with my friends cousin, but im not sure if i should ask him. Hes really nice 2 me and hes also really HOTT .... i liked him 4 a while and im not sure if my friend knows. I also have a boyfriend but he said he didn care if i go with anyone else cuz he live FAR AWAY !! but i think he might be mad. I really wanna go with my friends cousin but im just not sure how to ask him, and how to tell my friend that i like him , asked him to the semi, and that he said yes or no. [i didnt ask him i dont no how 2] please help me out.

thanks

i say go wiht him! ask him.. long distance relationships are hard to work out! ... try to ask him on the phone or the computer or even have your friend to ask him!... tell your friend .. she will most likely be happy because look on the bright side.. if you too get married... you will be related!! lol... but be true to yourself.. if this relationship between you and your long distance boyfriend isnt' working out ... dump him.. hope everything goes well!

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