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Hey my friend told me about this place so that i would stop asking her for advice.....I went to a new school today and I made some friends and this and that, but when I first laid eyes on this boy that already had a gurlfriend and it was like love at frist site, but we talked and he seemed to like me, but when his gurl came around he wouldn't talk to her or look at her, and I don't want to make her think that Im a slut , but I don't want to hurt her feelings..andwhat do I do??

Just so there isnt complete tragedy, id say wait it out. Keep talking to him and become closer friends. Hang out... do whatever. If he likes you over her he'll break up with her. And your not a slut unless you sleep around... thats a slut. So if she is calling you a slut, she doesnt know the definition of one. And another thing if hes more important than what she thinx than ignore her and go out with him. You cant help the fact your in love. Just dont encourage this kid to be breaking up with her like dont keep pushing him b/c he might be confused right now.

good luck sweetie

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ok my best friends boyfriend was supposed to call her today and they were supposed to hang out nd' he hasnt even call yet nd' shes like all crushed n crying n everything...i cant stand seeing her like this...what can i say to her to help her feel better(theyve been together over a year)help me quik!! plz if ne1 can

ill even rate you 5'z

tell her its not a big deal he might have just been a little busy and she can simply ask him about it when it does happen. Tell her no matter what, you will always be there for her and your not goin' anywhere... cheer her up a little bit, tell her a funny joke, invite her over, make her feel good. Treat her to a manicure! Who knows... you can do anything b/c if its your best friend you'll know what she likes and how to make her happy. Tell her men are pig and they're not worth crying over.

good luck sweets!
best wishes to your best friend :-(

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well my bf started thinking all this bad stuff about our relationship just because his friend told him. like im sure he sorta felt it but his friend really brought it out. im really scared that once school starts and hes w/ his friend(s) more they will Really affect him up til the point that something bad happens. i think he really likes me or loves me but i donno i mean could he Love me if he lets his friends affect him?? i donno im scared. help

Talk to him when hes alone. Describe all your feelings, tell him its not that your against his friends, its just you dont want his friends seperating your relationship. Ask him how he feels and what hes been thinking on the topic. And just ask him not to let anyone interfere with your relationship.

good luck sweetie xoxo

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I`m 15 in about a month or so and I think i`m an alchoulic. I want to quit at times, but then again i dont. I didn`t come on here to get lectured, just advice on what to do in this situation. Thanks.

Signed
xx CaM

Try getting help from a doctor. They can direct you on what to do, and they'll tell you whether or not your an alchoholic. See the thing is alchohol is one of the hardest things to get un-addicted too and it will be really hard so im doubting theres anything you can do all by yourself. It may take a while but you need to take advice from the doctor and help yourself be freed of your habit. Best of luck..xoxoxo i really feel for you hun, i know its hard.

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HeY i need a little advice. Kinda long but please read, I'll rate ya good! Alright there is this older guy I like....I'm 14 & he's 17(but ill be 15 soon, he's a little old I know but just keep readin). I liked him ALL summer & now we go to the same school. He broke up w/ his girlfriend that he's been dating for like ever. He thinks they need a break. So now that they broke up he is being a little more flirty with me. Like the other night he was trying to make my brother jealous @ the pool and he started hugging on me. Haha stupid me didn't hug him back but we talked later on and he promised he'd hug me again if I hugged him back! Of course I will...alrite well I also found out he asked my brother if he thought my parents would let him take me out. Of course my brother said NO but that's just cause he's protective. So today @ school I saw him & he pushed me into someone(haha) but then he was talkin to my friend so I just kinda started talkin to someone else & didn't say anything to him. When we left that hallway he was like thanks for talkin to me(in a joking way)And then i felt really bad....ok this is gettin long so I'm gonna try and end this. My problem is I feel like I'm shy around him!!!!!!...and I don't really know if he is flirting w/ me? Does it sound like it? Well I need some advice on how not to be shy around him(I feel so stupid cause I just smile like crazy when he's around) Please help ill rate awesome *signed, crushin*

Never apologize for long questions! Details help me help you and Im one for details!Ok if you get all shy around him, it means your really falling for him. I think your ages are fine. Really... if your only like 2 years apart thats good and healthy. I know what your saying, you like the guy and you get all delerious,giggly, and bouncin around for no reason. I'll help you my best sweetie! Recognize first that you like him and you dont want to ruin things with shyness, the thought alone will make you speak up. Second off just say 'Dont mind me I get shy'. This way hes aware of the fact that no your not being a complete bitch, you just dont always know what to say. And honesty is good! About your brother.. hes just being protective, be greatful for that there are some guys who wouldnt give a crap if their sisters fell over and died... so hes a good sweet guy with a head on his shoulders... protectiveness! Its a sweet masculine thing! Haha.. i love guys like your brother. we need more of them. But anyway when this guy talks to you just remind yourself in your head... I NEED TO TALK... JUST BE WILD!!! And words will pour out. Its definetly a mental thing... which means its delt mentally. You should be loud and fun in no time.

Good luck sweetie!
Hope I helped!
BTW* TELL THIS GUY YOU LIKE HIM! YOU GUYS SEEM LIKE THE PERFECT PAIR!! Sooo good luck hun xoxo

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Me and my boyfriend want to go away sumwhere. We want to go with another couple too. We are from NH and Hes 19 and I'm 18. Most hotels at the beach wont rent to us because were not 21. Does any1 have any ideas of where we could go if your from the area thats nic ebut not wicked expensive. I know theres camping but are there any good cmaping spots? Thanks!!

Try atlanta georgia. Dirt cheap, and gorgeous, it may seem boring but i promise you'll have fun for cheap. Try looking up 'Country Inn and Suites' It is like approximately 60$$ a night and so beautiful!! Its really nice, please take a good look. Good luck!! xoxo

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I am a 15 yr old who plays sports but i got injured (i fractured a vertebra in my lower back) ne ways i had to sit out for over a month i could not work out... Just a simple yes or no is 5'9" and 140 fat or not ?

no! dont be crazy.. you are FINNNNNE!

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hey

ok, well this guy and i r good friends we talk like for 3 hours every day. well i dont know if i should say he is my boyfriend because he never asked me out but he calls "boo-boo"(i dont why) and babygirl and all ways says i love so he acts like hes my boyfriend but i dont know if he is or not. plz tel me what you think thnx alot

~*~Emily~*~

ask him out. He obviously likes you and would say yes. So go for it girl.. nothin wrong with it. Good luck xoxo

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hey..im looking for CUTE school clothes..and i wanted to ask from everyone to name off a BUNCH of stores that i can check out!!

thnx!

*i rate!:)*

hollister, Jc Penny, Macys, Kohls, abercrombie, pacsun, Delias, express, stuff like that.. good luck!

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you know how pac-sun has those cute shirts that have stuff about boys and all..and their really cute..do you know any other stores that have them?

try surf shops online.

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OK heres the thing me and my boyfriend have been going out for almost a year, and hes a grade younger than me, so next year ill be in a different school an im wondering if othr people are goin to make fun of me and stuff, i rlly like him but im afraid that it might ruin my reputaion, also im afraid wht will appen if he was to brake up wit me? will my reputaion be ruined forevr? PLEASE HELP ME!! I RATE HIGH!!

Ok what do you care about more, the boyfriend you love, or your reputation? No offense but you shouldnt bother going out with him if your reputation is more important. Ignore what people say, and if it helps dont bother telling them who you are going out with. If he breaks up with you, your reputation should be fine! People dump and go out with people all the time

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I need help witht this riddle please try n figure it out fo me ok here it goes....... there is a ,man on trial and a man steps up to the stand and asks to speak, the judge says who are u the man says brother n sisters i have none but the father of this man is my fathers son, how is the man related to the criminal. $M$

the criminal is the mans nephew.

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ok this mite seem complicating. I always hang out wit my older sis and her friend. Well theres this boy that my sisters friend knos n theyve known eachother for awhile. Well i like boy now and ma sis and her friend always try to ignore him wen he wants to hang out i wanna hang out wit him b/c i like him and they dont kno that.What should i do!? and how can i figure out if the guy likes me or not w.o askin him? he always looks at me n smiles n stuff but i dunno if hes jus b friendly or if he likes me?..xo`help!

tell your sister you like him. Ask her to try and hang around him for just a short while just to be nice and do a favor for you. Maybe you can offer to do something for her in return idk. Once your around him more, try hanging out with him on your own, you cant continue to make your sister do this forever. If she doesnt approve of him find out why. He might be a not good guy and in that case ignore him! Things should work themselves out. Try getting his sn! Maybe you can talk to him on your own. Good luck xoxo

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My bf jokes around with me all the time like he'll say
"your dumb" jk. Or eww who would want to go out with you? then he says no im jk your beatafull. (don't know how to spell it lol) Is he just flirting or is he really thinking that and just saying jk? we've been going out for 8 months and I really don't think he would say somthing like that. but tell me what you think!

hes teasing you... simply being silly. But if its bothering you tell him not to. If your the type that can handle a good laugh, do it back. Hahha.. play fight. Just make sure it doesnt turn into real fights that could be bad! ahh .. haha

good luck sweets xoxo

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Hey Guys! Well I just moved into a new house and I have painted my room pink! I love the color! Just to give you an idea its the color of peptobismol! (lol.) I love all colors (especailly pink and black) and I was wondering if anybody had any ideas on decorating (please dont leave me any messages saying do what u wanna do. i want real ideas) Tell me anything from shelves to posters! Whatever helps! Thanks in advance! -Sonnie

well try pulling in some more colors. If you like black take that old computer desk and paint it black. Just paint old furniture in the colors you like. You can get sparkle spray and spray the walls, lamps, etc. Hmm.. make it you. Get a bulletin board, get wood floors, use fake flowers ((which you can get cheap at like a walmart)) and just spice up the room. There is sooo much to do you are unlimited girl! Good luck xoxo... have fun!

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There is this guy i like in my Social Studies class. Everyone says he is really nice. I would go up and talk to him, but he is alwayse with his guy friends. They kinda intimidate me. So should I ask around about him (see if he is single, or even interested in me) or should i wait to see if he will come up to me?

Well never be afraid to be the one making the first move. Even if he is with his friends just say hi. Or just start talking to him about whatevers on your mind. If hes as nice as people say he is,and hes good boyfriend material he'll go right with the flow. You need to be friends with him before you can think about relationships and who likes who. So try and take it slow, be friends with him. You might not want to ask people if hes single because if you dont want them to know you like him... that may give them the hint. Or if your ok with people knowing it wouldnt hurt to go and ask. Its all up to you and its in your hands. So just be nice and appear really sweet... and be sweet. He'll have no problem talking to you. Good luck! Hope it all goes well.

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My brother is in Iraq, and hes only 21! it hurts so bad! hes my best friend and i'm only 13! he had to stay till next may and i cant send a lot of stuff and neither can he! what can i do? all my language arts projects are on him too! i wrote and 10 page story about a memory and he was it! can someone help me find out how to keep in touch and live my life not worrying soo much about him?

omg sweetie, it must be so hard. There is no way to stop worrying about him. Its a good sign you are worrying b/c it means you love him and you care for him. Not worrying is just the same thing as not caring. But you can EASE the pain, try thinking of the fact that hes sooo brave and hes going ahead and fighting for your country, know that he is one of the bravest men you will ever have in your life. It sounds like you love him, and I will pray for him, and have others do the same. What you can do to help is start donations and things like that to have sent out to soldiers. If it eases the pain I know my aunt is always sending boxes and boxes out of just supplies for soldiers and she has tons of people she knows send letters. I wish you all the luck and blessings there are in the world, if you ever need to talk to me Im right here in my chair waiting to help you. So just sleep well at night, and wake up in the morning with a brand new day, breathe in, breathe out, and thats all you can do. Know that you'll make it through.

Be strong! Good luck! xoxo
If you ever need me IM HERE!

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i have a welt on my leg that i got from a bad fall 2 years ago and i kno it's been a long time, but is there any way to make it less noticeable or get rid of it??

hm, i would definetly try going to see a doctor. They can give you tips on how to get rid of it and they'll recommend good creams or ointments. Because the thing is I really dont know your case and Im sure to fully get rid of it, it would require medical help... hmm thats about all i can say. Dont hesitate schedule or have one of your parents schedule an appointment. Good luck xoxo

P.S. for now, try rubbing body lotion on it to soften and relax your skin ... good luck!

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(f, 15) hey i'm really confused right now...my best guy friend in the entire world just asked me to be his girlfriend a couple of days ago. now he has an awesome personality, but i don't think i could get over the lack of physical attraction, so i know it seems really shallow but i said no. supposedly he got over it really quickly and likes my friend sarah now..i know that sounds good that he didn't get hurt, but now i'm really jealous..i don't know if i'm just jealous of her because all the guys like her, or if i really do like him, or i am just being selfish and want everyone to like me..it's driving me crazy..i'm really not a bad person, i just don't know how i really feel..it doesn't matter that much i guess since he doesn't even like me anymore, i just want to figure out my feelings and i don't know how to. please help!

It really doesnt sound like you ever liked him. If you did like him, you'd know it. I think the only reason your jealous in a way is b/c he got over you soo quickly and went to your friend, and you feel almost wierd in a way b/c he forgot you for her, which isnt all that cool. But anyway... he doenst sound all that faithful, if you did go ahead and go out with him he'd probably be over you fast. Hope I've helped. P.S. if you really need to sort your feelings I suggest getting a journal, and if you have one, try a big fat long entry. You'll eventually write something down that means something, and helps you out.

best wishes! xoxo

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ok my friend resently made out for the first time and like told meh the things i needed to do it and made me really confident to make out for the first time and now my best friend (hes a guy and im a gurl) mite come ova and hes the type who would make out wit me if i wanted to. Im going into the 8th grade and i really wanna go in being able to say i finally did it. I know thats no reason but thats y im asking u wat i sould do. I mean i had a crush on him for ova a year until now im not sure if i like him like that. So what should i do. I really wanna just get it ova with cuz so many people make a big deal about whether you have or not

If you want to make out with him do it. He doesnt seem like the type who would take advantage. And chances are you still have feelings for him, your just getting all nervice and shying away. But this isnt unusual, a lot of people feel this way. Good luck! XoXo

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