Hello, call me Abby =] I'm eighteen and a senior in high school this year. I've always had great advice, I'm just not so great at following it =P Feel free to ask me anything, I'll do my best to give you an answer.
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i know your period isn't going to be totally red all the time and might be a little brown, but the past few days that i guess i've had mine it's been like totally brown. i've had my period since may, it's only starting to get regular i think, and usually it'd be more brown in the beginning and then get heavy and really red. is there something wrong? i'm not sexually active at all. thanksss (link)
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I dont think there is anything wrong. The color can vary for no reason, its still perfectly fine. Some colors (like a yellowish) mean infection, but I dont think that is brown.
-Abby
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ok...so at my work there's a really nice guy that everyone likes and i just found out he has a crush on me. then the other day he started asking me out to the movies and stuff and i would absolutely love to except im 17 a nd hes 24 and i dont know if it would be worth the risk. OH by the way my dad is our boss. and the last thing i want is for him to find out im going out with one of his employees whos over 20. i mean i actually really do like him but, Should i risk it? (link)
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I dont think there is any harm in taking a risk. Go out with the guy, and see if he is worth it. One date wont tie you down. You dont even have to tell your dad, until your sure you really like the guy. No use making a fuss over one date. Love doesnt happen without a risk!
Have fun!
-Abby
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i want my boobs bigger!!!!! i mean, im 14 years old, and i hardly have boobs. i mean im a 34b. Any exsercises or ANYTHING i can do NATURALLY!?!?! (link)
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There are no exersises, products, or anything other than plastic surgery that will make your breasts bigger.
Im sure as you get older you'll get bigger, but it all has to do with genetics. Learn to love your body!
34b isnt a bad size, either. B to small C is the average size of healthy people.
-Abby
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this is kinda weird but i can get a guy to kiss me but i want a guy to like me? how do i flirt in a way that says i like you instead of it saying i want to kiss you? (link)
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Moving to fast just shows a guy you want a quick hookup and not a solid relationship. Go slow, bond with the guy, learn about him and vice versa.
Talk, laugh, flirt a little bit but never overboard, and If the guy feels the same way about you, he'll get the hint.
Good luck!
-Abby
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my 17th birday is coming up and i have NO clue what to ask for. what are some good ideas please. money isnt a problem. =] (please dont tell me makeup, clothes, or typical things. thankkss) (link)
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17 is a big number, so why not ask for some big things?
How about a nice piece of jewelry? Like a seiko watch, a tennis bracelet, anything tiffanys or diamond stud earrings. Classic pieces that will always be stylish.
A non-trendy designer purse is something that you can carry for decades if well taken care of. Louis Vuitton, Coach, or Chanel are nice ideas.
How about some room decor? You can already begin to plan your dorm room for college since it wont be long before your there.
Pamper yourself. Ask for a spa/nail giftcard, or a new robe or uggs.
Do you have a car? Accesorize it!
Whatever you ask for, Have a happy birthday :)
-Abby
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i dont know what to get my boyfriend for his birthday or just something as a gift to him when i feel like it. i just need some ideas. he luvs to play guitar and he wants a new electric gutar and i was thinking about saving up my money for that and then giving it all to him, but i dunno i wanna get him random gifts cuz i didnt get him that much on valentines day (link)
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If you want to get him a guitar, make sure you will have enough $ before hand (sometimes you have to order it weeks before) and ask his parents if that is appropiate (his parents might have gotten him one, or they might not be comfortable with such expensive gifts)
If you want another meaningful idea, how about a treasure chest? I made a treasure chest filled with inside jokes, notes, little gifts,meaningful items, letters, trinkets, and anything else that was important for a special guy, and he loved it. He also really appreciated all the hard work I put into it. He keeps it in his room on display even though its hot pink (which says a lot about a straight guy, lol) As long as you put thought and effort into it, it will be the best gift ever.
Good luck!
-Abby
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ok i need a boy friend i havn't dated a guy in like 2 yrs so i need help soo it would be nice if some people gave me advice.
Thanks, Bailey (link)
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Put in some effort! Try to met new guys. Go to clubs, parties, join teams, get involved in your community etc. Im sure there will be a ton of guys there, and your probably have something in common! The only way to get a guy is to put yourself out there.
Good luck!
-Abby
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okay so i have a wonderful boyfriend and i know he loves me so much. i have a problem though, there's a girl in my grade who he dated freshmen year for like 10 months ( we're juniors i highschool now), then theres 3 other girls who he dated but the length he dated them ranges from 2 weeks to 2 months so no big deal. my problem is i always feel i guess awkward when i'm walking with him and one of them walks by. is this normal? i know he doesn't have feelings for them anymore but with his longest relationship i know he lost his virginity to (we haven't done it) so i'm always wondering what goes through his mind when she walks past. it's difficult and i don't know how to change the way i think about this please help! (link)
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First off, he is with you and not them, which means your already ten times more important. He probably feels awkward when they walk by too! And the girls probably feel awkward. So relax, its normal.
-Abby
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i was talking to one of my guy friends and he said that a girl wearing her hair up is like a mohawk. that its weird and ugly in his opinion and that all girls should wear it down. is this just some guy's opinion or do a lot of guys think this way?? thanks!! (link)
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That was just one guys opinion. Besides, a mohawk is a lot different than most up-dos! Dont worry about what he says, because I dont know many high school guys who are experts on hairstyling.
-Abby
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Why are guys turned on by not wearing underwear? I once told this guy I was, and he was like running out of breath ;]. haha but seriously, what's so great about not wearing underwear? (link)
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While it may make guys turned on because they can just imagine pulling your pants off and getting right in, its not the most respectable way to go about (thats why you'll always see the biggest news story is when a celebirty is not wearing pants.)
-Abby
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15/f/110-115 lbs./5'4"
if i eat 0-500 calories a day and excercise for 10-30 minutes 3-6 days a week how much weight do you think i will lose over the course of a week? (link)
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You sound perfect for your height and weight. Im shorter than you and I weigh like 130 and Im not fat.
Rapid weightloss over a week is impossible. You wont lose a noticable amount of weight, and you'll just be endangering your health. Even if you stopped eating for a week it wouldnt make a huge impact on your body size, but it would take a toll on your health.
2000 calories is the reccomended amount of calories daily for the average person. If you dont get enough, you wont have any energy for the day or to work out.
Try toning and gaining some muscle instead. You'll be tigther, slimmer, and healthier. This can be done with cardio and weight training. Why dont you join a gym (like LA Fitness) where they have trainers you can ask all your questions too and make a plan thats suited for your body.
Good luck and be healthy!
-Abby
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a few days ago i got a stain on my jeans from my period. what i did was i put tide to go on it, scrubbed it with soap and water and rinsed it out. i put it in the laundry room for my mom to wash it and she did. the thing is, its still there! i cant wear them anymore and they were one of my better jeans. is there anything i can do to get it out or are they no longer wearable? (link)
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Once you've washed your jeans, Im afraid the stain is set in.
But for future reference:
Treat jeans with a stain remover and scrub with COLD WATER. Let your jeans soak for a while in detergent and than scrub again. That will get the majority out. Use a pretreater and wash in cold water, and hopefully the stain will come out. The sooner you do this after its been stained, the better of a chance you have of it coming completely out.
Good luck!
-Abby
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15/f
Okay. This is going to sound very weird...but how on EARTH do girls in my school show off their cleavage so damn MUCH? I mean...it's like WHOAH CLEAVAGE MUCH!??!....is it the kind of shirts they wear? Or do they just push themselves up? O_O (link)
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Hehehe yeah as the saying goes if you've got it-flaunt it!
Girls use many things to enchance their cleavage. Push up bras, padded bras, tight fitting shirts, very low cut shirts is it. You don't need push up bras or padded bras if you've got decent sized boobs, just put on a shirt and let them out lol. Whenever I wear a cami It looks like Im wearing a push up bra when Im really not.
But, i think its best to not show so much. You want guys to be intrigued and curious, but if you show off your whole chest, theres nothing to the imagination. So sure, flaunt a bit, but dont try to be like other girls. They think their guy magnents, when in reality, guys think there trying to hard.
-Abby
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I am femal 28 with two kids.I have a boyfriend who i love.He want talk to me.He shares with friends and i feel left out.I can't help him understand how it feels.What do i do? (link)
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You have to sit down and talk to your boyfriend. Tell him exactly how you feel, and how what he does hurts you. Be calm, and he will be understanding. Show him you want to make things better and hear his opinion, and make your relationship the best it can be. It may sound cliche, but communication is key.
Good luck!
-Abby
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This may seem like the preppiest question you have ever heard but I gotta ask it-How do you straighten your hair right? I mean like every time I straighten my hair it doesn't seem to be "straight enough" to my friends. i really need advice on how to straighten your hair right (link)
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Are you using a straightener? Or are you just blowing your hair out straight?
Invest in a good ceramic hair straightner (a Chi hair straightener is great, but its expensive)
Buy product from a drug store or beauty supply store meant to protect ur hair/straigten it. Ask the salesperson their opinion. Shower, blow your hair out, than apply the product, and pull the straightner slowly thru a strand of hair about an inch to two inches wide. Try to get as close to the roots of your hair as possible. You will probably have to go over pieces a couple times to recieve desired straightness.
If this doesnt work, than try going to a salon and seeing what they can do for you.
Good luck!
-Abby
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this is probably under the wrong category, but i couldn't think of a better one.
i haven't had my period in like three months, and it's never been regular but i'm really paranoid, and i'm also wicked modest or whatever so i'm afraid to go to the doctor. i'm a virging but i'm scared that sperm like, seeped into me. i know it's ridiculous but i can't get it out of my head. sooo, i'm wondering what the problem could be? like, my sleeping pattern has been SO SO SO messed up lately. from like 4am - 5:30 pm, so could that be the cause? ): help please. (link)
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You are NOT pregnant. Not. Unless the penis enters your vagina, you cannot be pregnant.
It is probably your schedule thats making you irregular. Sleep patterns, stress, change of environment, health, and the things you eat can change your period schedule. My friend didnt have her period for four months.
Try to get your sleeping more regulated, and eat healthy food. If you don't get your period soon, see a doctor. There might be something more serious behind it.
Good luck,
-Abby
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I want to have an orgasm, but I want to give it to myself. How do I do it? (link)
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Masturbate and find out what gives you the most pleasure. Some people just finger themselves, others use the help of vibrators or dildos. Some people find masturbating in the water very erotic. Find out what works for you.
It is often hard for girls to get an orgasm until they know what turns them on, and even the enviroment they are in can determine wether she will get one or not. Some woman (like in sex) need a romatic atmosphere, and if your stressed out their is a less change of having an orgasm.
Just try and try again, and Im pretty sure you'll get one.
Good luck (and have fun)
-Abby
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My Life is in Ruins! Anybody I like or love is in a earth hell!
First my aunt has an abusive boyfriend who she can't get enough of. Even though i fight with her like we are sisters, i love her and it hurts me see her...well, get hurt. I want her to break up with this guy because...well, ever heard of kaite brown? I can't talk to her because she is never home but her friend told me and her friend said not to tell my aunt because that would cause drama.
Another thing wrong is my grades! My mom is a perfectionist when it comes to school. see, she got pregnant with me at an early age and when i was little she said i was a mistake and that she could have done better without me. she pushes me and i end up in tears instead.
Another thing wrong is that my grandparents substitute as my OWN PARENTS because my dad and mom work like crazy! we never even get to watch movies.
My other aunt thinks about suicide like crazy! and i seriously don't want to be like her! but my life is the the dump and i know that i shouldn't but I WANT TO DIE!
As that isn't enough, these girls at my school are making me a social reject and making rumors like i had sex with 18 guys! i wanted to punch them but...i walked away.
then i had a fight with my best friend from my other school [her name is ashley] she made another best friend and now they trash talk about me...URRRR this is too much...but it still goes on...
My sister is 4 and she never sees my mom which gets me mad because she will grow up thinking i am her parent!
A 14 YEAR OLD CAN'T HANDLE THIS! (link)
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Do NOT let other peoples problems come down on you. Your aunts, parents, and friends can handle it themselves, you do not need their drama. Focus on YOU and making YOU better. If you really hate the situtation you are in, do amazing at school. Get yourself out of there. Good grades in highscool will get you into a great college, and even on a scolarship. Dont let anyone bring you down. You are NOT a mistake. God doesnt make mistakes. Your mom probably just said that when she was mad, but she loves you deeply. I think its impossible to not love your own child. Prove her wrong by being the best you can be and getting yourself out of these ruins. Be proactive. Sometimes when you cant depend on people, you've gotta fight for yourself. I learned that lesson the hard way.
Be your best. Try your best.
Good luck
-Abby
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I'm a teenager who was raised Catholic but now I'm like agnostic or atheist or something.
I don't really believe there was a guy named jesus who died for everyone's sins. i really do not believe that. so how can i call myself a christian?
i do not agree with the christian ideals on premarital sex. i lust all the time- so i don't want a religion that prevents lusting.
i also masturbate. i'm not going to stop it for some higher power that isn't even real.
what should i do? i don't believe anything.
i don't want to be a Christian. I never really was one in the first place. (link)
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If you don't want to be Christian, than don't. Religion is about finding yourself, and what makes you truly happy. But being Christian isnt about dreading the rules or beliefs, its about accepting life for its journey and living it right. About being a good person. Just because you are attracted to guys, want to have sex before marriage, and etc, doesnt mean you cant be christian.
Whatever you do, do what you believe in. You dont have to be any type of a religion, or you can be five different religions. Whatever fits in your lifestyle and what you believe in.
-Abby
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ok im 16/f and my bf 16 we have been going out for almost two years..ok well when he fingers me i cant seem to umm well moan i guess. I know he kinda wants me to and i want to too i just cant like how do i make it more pleasureable to myself? is there anything he can do to make it better? and what can i do to make myslef moan?
thanks (link)
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Masturbate and "explore" yourself and find out what makes you especially happy. Than you can tell your boyfriend where to touch and how to do it. He wants to please you, so Im sure he'll be happy to oblige.
Good luck!
-Abby
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