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Ok well i'm 13 and i was getting to know this girl. She just broke up with her bf. And she told me that she liked me. C the thing is i didn't know her that well and i started to try and talk to her more. I was starting to like her but i've only seen her once and only talk to her online. But i started to like her. Only i just started talkin to her 4 days ago. So i told her that i wasn't gonna ask her out until i got to know her better. The problem is now she's goin out with another guy. Is there somthin wrong with me should i have asked her out?

Plz Help

no, you shouldnt be going out w/ people you dont know. Shes really unfaithful if she didnt wait for you and most likely desperate. Watch her break up with this other guy in a week .. or some really short period of time. I wouldnt give it too long. Shes a fluezy and obviously not that cool at all. Dont bother. If she ever does come back to you, dont take her in. You did the right thing dont feel upset.

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Im in 7th grade, at Pontiac Jounior High and im having problems--My figure is my heads oval, Im REALLY skinny, im fit, i have green eyes blonde hair and im a white person. I need to noe wat to were to school (not uniforms) OO yeah im noot tall and not short so i guess im average. Im not ugly im really pretty, but iono wat to were my make up, jewlery, my hair. If u could please help me...i need ur help!!

*Baffled Beauty*

u wanna really make a statement. Ill help u :-) Ok try wearing chandilier earrings. They're the big dangly ones that basically look like.. well -- a chandelier. So in any case, try straightening your hair if its wavy/curly, or scrunching it if its straight. I dont know if you'd ever, but I like to wear leg warmers and knee socks. Not together obviously. But knee socks are for the really preppy look, and leg warmers you can just make it your own basically. Make up? Try colors that go well with green eyes. Like a goldish/biege would probably really help you out. And get some eye brightener, it will make your green eyes stand out. Ever think of putting eyeliner on the sides of your eyes, to make it look egyptian? Lol.. it actually looks really neat. Good luck sweeetie Muahhh

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how often should u feed a cat?

Well just fill there food dish, and whenever you see it getting empty, refill it. Just try and check on it once a day just to be sure. Hope i've helped. xoxox

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Hey..
I like this guy n i think he likes me too. Im scared to ask him out cuz my friends will maybe b mad at me well i hope it will all work out and im really scared..thank u!

Forget friends. They're not good friends if they dont talk to you or like you for who you're going out with. Do you really want to reject following your heart just so you can keep a bunch of crappy friends happpy? hey that rhymes. Lol.. in any case.. JUST GO OUT.

good luck, dnt be afraid
xoxoxo

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Hi my names Jess and i have this friend thats really annoying she thinks were the best of friends i dont want to be friends with her but i dont want to make it sound mean how do i let her down easy?

well really theres no way to make it easy. But when she talks to you dont talk back. Ignore her for a while, ignore IMs, dont take calls, and when she talks to you kinda nod and walk away. Just whatever you do dont be mean. This girl might not have many friends and she might feel bad, so maybe getting rid of her isnt the best idea, try like helping her. Just say well people dont always like it when you do this, but its not a big deal. And you can list a trait you have thats not so lovely so she doesnt feel like an idiot. Whatever you do, dont hurt the poor girls feelings. good luck

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Ok..just a couple minutes ago my friend told me that she saw my boyfriend smoking with his friends. Sure I think that him smoking is a problem..but what really makes me mad is that he told me that he stopped smoking. And the other day his friend walked up to him and goes "omg dude! you were like drunk last night" and he told me that he didn't know what he was talking about. But now that my friend saw him smoking I don't know what to think. Should I believe her and just ask him about it..or what? Dang I'm so confused

ask him about it. I know you think its terrible b/c he lied to you and all that, but its not the same thing as if he were telling you he didnt kiss a girl and he really did. nope, nope , nope. Its alot different, he probably didnt want you to feel bad for him or worry so he told you. He could have possibly even tried to quit and then went back. Talk to him about it, tell him your no trying to hassle him you just dont want him to be hurt. Tell him the bare truth. Just dont freak him out w/ websites and crap he'll think your like overwhelming. Take it easy and talk to him.

good luck sweeets

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im 14 and goin wit a grl i really like but all my freinds and even my dad say i should break up wit her and go out with this other grl. the problem is i like both of them alot but the grl im with usualy hase long relationships but the other grl doesnt. if i break up with the grl im with and then the other grl doesnt last long i will be givin up the relationship i wanted 4 a one week thing. if u can help me ill be really happy. thnx

well who do you see yourself with more? Someone you can trust and have a long happy relationship with, or someone who will cut your relationship short. I mean your still young im assuming you can date anyone you want you have a whole life ahead of you. Dont listen to what other people say, just go with the girl you really like. And you have to know who you like, its all in yer heart ;-).. gl..

xoxo Muah!

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I broke up wit my boyfriend and I still love him to death.. And i cant stop but I broke up wit him cuz of parental reasons ** He's 15 and im 13 ** Now all i do is think of him... But what makes me feel worse is that he was cring the whole day :-( i dont know what to do.. Cuz If i didnt break up wit him i would get into troble, loose my trusts from my parents and never get to see him or talk to him.. But now that i broke up wit him i can talk to him and see him :-(

well, tell him you still like him. You dont have to be officialy "boyfriend" and "girlfriend" .. just explain to him why you had to break up with him! He'll understand. Just say you want the same relationship, the only difference will be your titles for eachother. Not so bad, hey right?

So good luck sweeeets..

xoxxo

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my ex girlfriend is currently dating my best friend. I pretend i dont mind, but i really do because i still lik her and i know she still likes me, so wat should i do

tell her you still feel for her. See what becomes of it. if she doesnt feel the same way its unfortunately time to find a new girl :-( try hanging out with other girls too.. it might help a bit. good luck xoxo

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whats a good way to ask a someone to hang out? especially when they are extremely unpredictable, and you dont know what they would say. also im very shy. oh, and you have asked them before to hang out, but just could never a good time. lol thanks

lol .. hmm try asking online. I mean if they do say no itz not as bad in person.. and i mean common if they're a nice person who deserves to hang out with you they wont be mean about it. Dont be shy. If you cant ask them online ask them in person when other people arent around. Just say so are you busy ((date here)) ?
Nothing bad can come of it, its not like your asking them to loan you $$4000 dollars. Lol. Ask them what a good day is for them so they cant really get out of the question easily.. haha. And dont b .. shy! Practice in front of a mirror if you have to. Remember to always keep eye contact, a loud clear voice, and an upright back, like no slouching no1 wants to stare at that. lol.. good luck babe

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ok well i have this friend who cuts, but she wont tell me that she does. i found out from someone else. i want her to tell me because i can atleast try to help her stop. i had cut in the past but i stopped and now i want to help her. i dont know how to get her to tell me so i can help her. i can't let her know that i know though. please help if you can.

well you cant help her if she doesnt know that you know. So end that whole theory. Plus, give her tips on how you stop. By the way i commend you for stopping its a terrible habit. Tell her you can totally relate and she can get through this.. you just have to help her. Give her a journal as a little gift and tell her she has to get all her feelings down in words, not in blood and cuts.

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Ugh.. alright.. me and this guy like each other.. and whenever we hangout.. my bestfriend always happens to be there with us.. kinda like.. the 3rd wheel.. sometimes i feel like she likes him.. and sometimes i feel like he likes her.. I dunno what to do.. so if you can help me in anyway.. let me know.. thanks

stop hanging out with the 2 when theyre together. Seriously. Your the reason they hang out so end it. lol. Good luck hun.. by the way im sure a real best friend woudltn do that.. so u should be ok.


XoXoO
muahhh

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I am really trying to cut down on the snacks for when school starts. Unfortunately, I work in an icecream shop... for about 5 hours at a time...ugh...any tips on how to stop myself from eating the icecream I crave?

Think in your mind ice cream=bugs. Tell yourself there are bugs in the ice cream and hopefully you wont want it. Plus refill your craving for ice cream with something healthier, how about.. apples with cinnamon? oorrr ((this is atleast healthier than ice cream) strawberries and sugar occasionally?

good luck xoxoxo! Try getting some fat free ice cream too!! I heard some tastes really good !!!

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hello all. i wrote a book and it got published and the publisher said that my book would be in stores by june 14th and there still arent any books in any stores. any advice on why i cant find my book anywhere or what to say to my "agent/publisher?"

Just call her and ask when your book is coming out. hm.. wanna do me a huge favor and tell me the title of the book? I can search every fricken book store in the world.. lol and find out if its out anywhere. Just a little net searching. :-D thanks.. xoxo

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See I was goin out w/ this guy for lyk 2 months then one day he broke up w/ me...but the thing is i don't kno if he really broke up w/ me or if it was his brother that i think likes me to (they r the same age...my bf/x bf was adopted) but idk if my bf did break up w/ me or not my friends said that in his profile it still says that he loves me n i kno that he doesn't forget to take things like that out of his profile...but idk wut am i suppose to do i dont want 2 call him bc it will b to awkward n he is like never on IM so idk n if he did break up w/ me i want 2 kno why but i just feel way to weird tlakin 2 him on the phone n askin him that...plz help me wut should i do????

Ok, first of all break ups online are stupid. Even if it was him how could you know for sure someone didnt like hack onto his comp. or somethin? So call up. Just say whats up. If hes talking all wierd and feeling awkward you'll know he broke up wit hyou. If hes like heyy sweetie, you know your still going out. Or try having a friend being like well why did you break up with (your name)? Or saying did you really break up with (your name)? There are ways to find out. Chances are though his brother or whatever didnt break up with you on this guys sn b/c your boyfriend would easily find out... good luck sweets.

xoxoxo

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ok.. how many of you think its possible to love at 15? i kno there's girls on here and guys that say they love their bf/gf. but do most of you take it as "puppy love?" i think it is possible. bc see my bf now.. ive been with him 9 months and i lost my virginity to him and the thing is my mom and family dissapprove of me and him together... because hes black n im white. but i still go to see him and he comes to see me at like the park and stuff and we hang out. and im 15 and so is he. i mean i kno this may sound stupid but i really can see myself with him forever. like i dont want to be with anyone else. i kno i love him and not that fake stuff. i would do anything for him. i kno u all dont think i kno what love is bc im so young but thats ok. but i do love him with all my heart and i would die for him... but how many of you believe that u can love someone at 15?
id like to hear ur comments. ill rate. thanks..
Manda

I think there are rare oppurtunities where people do meet their real love. The way you describe it it sounds so natural and i guess.. meant to be. But the thing is make sure he's feeling the same way back so you dont get hurt. If hes a good guy and doesnt have a bad record of anything ignore authorities and keep on going out with the guy. The fact that your mom doesnt like him b/c hes black is pretty sad. And I dont suggest you having sex with the guy at 15.. but of course the choice is yours. And remember even when this rare young true love does occur, it doesnt even always last. It would seem a little un-natural for you guys to be together until your 20, but hey it could happen. As long as you enjoy who your dating and hes respecting you.

Hope you find the answers your looking for :-D

XoXo
If you ever need anything, leave one in the inbox, k babe?

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In December my dad lost his job. But about a month later became self employed. By then my mom had been suspecting that hes cheating on her... now my mom has confroted him about it((about 3 months ago)) and he has admitted to having a "friendship" whith the lady.He tells my mom that hes nothin with her JUST friends. So my mom asked him to please tell her to stop callin and to just loose all contact.Thing is my mom tells me everything and my dad has always been a role model to me... well mom and i went to his work when he wasnt there and set up a caller id well we found out that shes still callin at like 1am and 2am when hes sopposly painting a car. Sometimes dad doesnt come home till 3 or so. I see how this effects my mom who literally does EVERYTHING in the house and it makes me ANGRY! She crys constantly only shes like me and shell hide before she crys. Well ive been catching her and it hurts me soo much soo then i get really mad at my dad and sometimes all i want to do is Scream in his face and kick him out of the house! I want to tell him to please leave the lady hes having an affair with but i dont know how i dont want him gettin mad at me. Thats when my whole "indenil" stage pops up! i start to think that hes not and when she brings it up i get fusturated and ignore her or justr say some rude comment. Which makes her cry more! I just wanna know what to do without making my dad mad and my mom cry... should i write him a letter telling him how i feel???? ALSO my mom says she doesnt want me talkin to him about it but its effect my relationship with him... WHAT THE HECK DO I DO?
Ps. i have a boifriend and hes really supportive about this he gives me a shoulder to cry on and a ear to listen to me with but i feel like i cant be happy with my mom goin through her problems cause i feel like im rubbing it in her face HELP ME.....

Backed up in a corner

A letter would be good. Leavee it some where he'll see before he goes to work. Sorry babe it sounds really tough but anyone can get through this. Explain in this letter how hes broken a lot of trust and how you used to look at him as such a good role model and now all that is shattered. Ask him for the sake of you to change his life styles... and make commitments to your mother. EXPLAIN everything you feel. Everything. DOnt leave out one little detail. Something needs to be done. And if he wont do it for your mom atleast he'll do it for his own daughter.

good luck hun.. if you need ANYTHING leave one in my inbox ill help you through. You can IM me anytime you want also. Good luck Hun!

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i rlly dont wanna go to school tomorrow...i get made fun of, but thats not the point. i just wanna make myself throw up one time. ill never do it again..is that really bad?

it is bad. Hunnnny please dont do it b/c once you throw up once you will loose all control. Please sweets, dont do it you will be so sorry and you'll loose all the control you had before. Try iming me if things get really sucky: x mercy me 14 x .. just IM me and ill be there for you. You r probably a really sweet person just this world is nasty. Understand that people are terrible, dont listen to them. Just get through your school years the best you can. To get people off your back, everytime they make fun of you, immediatly talk to someone else and laugh and have a good time b/c they will realize your actually having a good day and they're an idiot b/c theyre talking to n0 one. Hunnny.. hang in there and leave on in my inbox if you need any other sort of assistance!!!!!! xoxoxooxoxoxoxo..

ill pray for ya!

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How do i overcome my shyness? Im like really shy around people i don’t know but once i get to know em im not what do i do? I don’t wanna be like this well at least this shy cuz people judge me.

try talking in front of a mirror. Be straight up. When people talk to you that you dont know pretend like you know them and just be smooth with it. Speak loud, keep eye contact, and make sure you straighten up your back. People will take you seriously. Just practice what you'll say to people. Soon things will improve, i promise. Good luck hun.. xoxo

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I have 2 best friends who are leaving me out a lot lately, we used 2 b extremely tighht but now they're bein kinda mean. One of them is very controlling and the other is a follower so the follower follows the controller and they do stuff against me. I really hate it. I always feel like the second choice or the third wheel. What should i do... i rate high!

you need new friends sweetie. Im sorta experiencing what you are and I promise things will clear up. Talk to new people. Your feeding their ambition by still hanging out with them b/c they want you to come back to them like a puppy dog after they treat you crappy. Ditch their sorry little @$$es .. lol.


good luck sweeeets

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