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Hi my name is Lee Ann. I am 29 years old and Graduated from Bethany college obtaining a bachelors of music. I am a happily married woman with two kids, ages3 and 2. I currently have six books out on the market, all of which can be found on amazon. The first is called The Leaf: One fallen heart and a burning desire, my second is called Avengement of Glory, my third is called Spiral of Enlightenment, fourth one is called Prodigy of the Immortal, fifth one is called Augment in the Realm of Darkness, and my sixth novel is called Bond in the Spiritual Heart. I started this advice column to see if I could give good advice. Turns out I am pretty good, better than I thought actually. I enjoy seeing people smile when I give them good advice and they use it. It makes me feel better as a person to help people. I want to make the world a better place and I think that starting an advice column is the right way to begin. Writing is a huge part of my life, without it, I wouldn't be able to function properly. After seven years, I think I have done pretty well as an advice columnist.

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pliz advice me i have a crush on this guy called Jake his in 12 grade and i'm in 10 grade i really luv him what should i do if i want to talk to him?

Maybe ask him if he can help you with someof your school work. Or bump into him and say your sorry and that will get him to notice you. Or have you ad yor friends invite him and his friends to the movies so you can get to know him and have him start liking you back.

ok well i have a pretty big crush on a girl at school. But there is a huge problem. Two other girls like me and i dont really like them and i dont want to say no to them cause they would freak out on me... I used to like one of the girls but now i dont and she still thinks i do. what should i do. i really dont wanna go out with them i want to go out with the girl a like. How should i begin to talk with her.

The two that you like just tell them that it would be weird you guys dated because you guys seem like good friends. Sometimes dating your friends can make you uncomfortable. Or you could tell them that you like someone else. For the girl you like if you have any classes with her you could ask for her help on a subject. Or have your friends and her friends all hang out together like going to the movies. You could invite her to come along that way you can get to know her better.

Does anyone know of any movies that have dancing in them?
I need hip hop or straight up street dancing movies.
Apart from Honey and You Got Served.

Dirty dancing has alot of dancing in it. grease or even From Justin to Kelley now that movie is from 2003 and it has alot of cool moves in it. It helps people to learn how to dance if they dont know how or they enjoy it alot.

At what age is it appropiate for a person to have sex? Ss we get older the standerds seem to be dropping. I just read a question by a thirteen-year-old asking if she should get on "the pill" if she has had sex. Since when is that what is on a 13-year-olds mind?

Alot of things have changed and the appropiate time to have sex is when your married. If you are married at 13 i think you have the right to have sex but if your not married then you shouldnt have sex. I do know people that had sex when they were in the sixth grade. Nowadays people are only 13 or 12 who are having sex. The buying of birth control pills is outragious almost everyone i know has the pills. This started about 5 years ago. It is crazy.

I basically just want to know what people think about this and whether I'm the one with the problem! Last night my male housemate asked me if i wanted to watch a film so i agreed even though it was about 11.30pm as i couldn't think of anything else to do. I started falling asleep in front of it and then waking up and not understanding what was going on so i decided to go to bed and i told him that. So he started saying how the evening had started off really well and now it had been spoilt and how i had agreed to watch it with him and i was breaking my promise. He kept sighing and just acting really unreasonably and going really quiet and pissed off. So i just went upstairs and told my other female housemate that i was not going to be made to feel guilty about not watching a film because its ridiculous. So he came upstairs and started yelling at me so i yelled back and it got totally out of control especially as all this is over a film!! So then he said that no one had ever upset him to this extent before and how he used to feel comfortable living in the house and now he won't anymore. Then i decided to go and talk to him because i dont like going to bed in the middle of an argument. He was just like don't worry i forgive you. So now its my fault!! WTF?? then he went and stayed at his friends house because he didnt want to sleep in the house cos of what happened. Does anyone else think this is strange? Or is it all my fault as he seems to think? I know maybe i shouldnt have yelled back but it really upset me! Thanks guys.

You didnt deserve to be treated like that especially over a movie. If your tired then you should go to sleep you shouldnt have to stay up all night just b/c he wants you to.I bet that if you werent tired you would have watched the rest of the movie. The best thing is to dump him b/c what if it was a serious argument. If he gets mad over you going to bed b/c you are tired then i cant imagine what he would do if you did something worse. I think that you deserve someone who respects you and your decisions. Someone who supports you in everything. It is definitely not your fault so dont even think that. Maybe something else was wrong with him and he took something small and made it a big deal. When something happens in someones life and they dont know how to deal with it they use other tings to get their anger out.

ok, im 13 years old and i have had this boyfriend for about 7 months now. he is having majior family problems and doesnt know how to deal with them anymore. he is one of those people who keep things bottled up inside of him. i told him he could always talk to me about it but i dont think he is comfortable talking to anyone about it. well, he is getting like really depressed and he told me he doesnt know if he can handle it all anymore. he is thinking about running away or killing himself. i told him not to and i pleaed for him not to but i dont think it is getting through to him. he told me that the last thing he wanted to do was hurt me but he is REALLY anrgy. i dont know what to say or what to do. he told me if he does anything he'll come to school and say good bye to me and stuff. PLEASE PLEASE help me! im so scared!

-Leah-

The best thing for this situation is to keep asking if you dont give up then it shows that you are strong enough to handle it. Maybe if you didnt ask him ut someone else maybe talk to the family members. Sometimes when parents do things they dont relize that they are hurting the children as well. If you talk to the parents they might be able to help you more. He is running away from what he fears. If he can conquer his fears then he can get over anything else. If his family shows that they really care about their sons feelings they will listen to you. Tell him that if he kills himself that the problem woont go away he will still be left with the same problem that made him leave. We can only solve our problems by talking to others. You need to be strong and dont worry. Never give up. I know that you might not be religious but praying about it might help you become stronger and give you the strength that you need to help him.

Okay. Long story short. I have religious Mormon friend. Religious as in very, very religious. Anyhow, we got into a discussion tonight at "impure thoughts" He seems to think it's a "selfish want" to think impurely about others. I said that it's impossible to be rid of them, that by repressing it them you are not getting rid of them, just concealing them and they will just build up. I said that what you need to do is deal with them and get them out of your system.

Now I feel really bad about the things I said. I guess it's because I should respect the fact he's pure rather than encourage him not to be. lol. I feel bad for him as I feel he is a little misguided and placing unnecessary restraints on himself. Does anyone agree with me on what I said to him? Is it impossible to debate with religious people? At the time I seemed to make a lot of sense. But now I'm thinking and maybe he is right. Should we avoid discussions like this in the future? Does someone with some experience with religion have an religious answer to this?

Thanks.

I am mormon. I think that thinking that way about people is wrong and no one should do it until they are married. Every religion will tell you that thinking impurely is wrong and a sin. The best thing is to not make him do anything and let him think the way he wants. He wants to be pure then i guess he can try and be pure.

im not sure if this is under the right category...
13/m.
everyone in my grade is making out, but i dont know how!
dont give me a website or anything, just how do u make out? plain and simple."you kiss and then you..." you get the idea.
all fives.

Well we you kiss a guy you kind go with the flow and keep kissing and you hold each other. Maybe one hand on his face and the other on his side or both hands on his face. When you finally do kiss all you do is just kiss and kind of move a around. When you start doing it you will feel inside where you are suppose to do. Its like a reflex you cant explain but if you try and do it you will know what to do.

ok well I have this boyfriend and we've been together for a long time and i truly love him and all but lately i've been thikning and i've gotten really confused because i care so much for him but i keep thinking that i can't make him as happy as i could be making him and that there's so much that i'm doing wrong. also i've been having alot of doubts i mean i keep thinking of dumping him not for the sake of me but for him. it upsets me because i'm confused about my feelings for him. it upsets me that i'm even getting thoughts like this. he is the most important thing in my life and i don't want to lose him and i love him but i just don't "feel" it anymore. i'm just not as interested in him but typing this makes me cry and it's really complicating things for me and i know it shows, and that's why my boyfriend has been asking if i'm happy with this relationship lately. i love him i do but i don't know if i'm in love with him anymore like it's not interesting or if i'm moving on though i don't want to.
P.S if it helps any i have to take meds for depression.

please help i don't want to make a mistake..

First off if you love the guy truly you shouldnt break up with him. If he actually thought that he didnt need you or didnt think you were good enough eh would have told you so. You are just afraid of actually being happy. Alot of women are afraid that when happiness comes along that they expect someting to go wrong. You are the perfect person for him and you shouldnt doubt yourself b/c i know you are a great person who cares alot about this guy and it seems like he cares for you to.

I'm wondering, I'm only 14 at the moment, but girls my age seem to go for the bad guys and the biggest jerks. Why is that? I am a gentleman and I am as nice as can be and they always tell me that but why do they go for the jerks?

Most girls seems like they like th bad boys but what they really want is the perfect nice guy. Right they think that if they a get a jerk as a b/f then they will look better. It is an image thing. You will find someone that likes you for being nice and a gentlemen. It just doesnt seem like that right now. They will come to you in time if you are patien and willing to wait for them.

Hi,

My name is Todd, I'm an only child, and I am 15 and in High School. I have a really good friendship with this girl who has some problems. We're not really dating, but she's a really nice person and she's very kind, however she's depressed quite a lot.

I found out that she cuts herself since I saw cuts on her arms, and when some people asked she said it was nothing. I knew something wasn't right since she's never usually been cut like that. I didn't want to tell her that I think she's cutting herself, since I don't want to make her feel worse, but I just wish I could do something to make her feel better.

I always listen to what she has to say (although it's not much [as she says]), and I always try to do great things for her like get her gifts and make her feel better.

I know, from what she told me, her family has issues since she isn't really given much attention. It's not that her parents are mean, it's just that they don't really care about her. She also has two older sisters (who have children also) and one younger sister, so things get hectic over there, from what I know. Her two older sisters occasionally come up once a week or so, and she is left to babysit her nephews and niece.

I always try to let her know that I care about her 24/7. I'm going to invite her over to my house this weekend since she's been to my place before and my parents are happy to see her. Plus, it's a lot quieter. :-)

I know I can't "give" her my family, but I want to do as much as I possibly can to make her feel better and less depressed.

I'm concerned because I don't want her to commit suicide, since that would kill me. ;-(

If you have any advice or solutions you can give me, PLEASE TELL ME.

One of my ideas was that if her family doesn't do anything for Thanksgiving, I was thinking of having her over for Thanksgiving, since my parents won't really be doing anything since my immediate family moved away.

Thank you very much! :-)

Having her over for thanksgiving is a great idea. There is nothing you can do but confront her. Listen i know you dont want to accuse her of doing something like that but if you dont do something she is going to continue to do it. And if she gets into the habit of doing something like that she wont be able to give it as easily. She may end up doing worse to herself if you dont speak up. When she becomes 18 she can move out and get away from her family b/c it seems to me that they are the problem and not the solution. The best thing for you to do is to support her and not push her but try and help her get through with what she is going through.

The other day i went to a haunted house. but, before i went with my friends ernie and roy. we went ot a bar and drank alotta budlight. I didn't think anything of it until when we go tinto the haunted houses i peed my pants and all over myself. My friends ernie and roy won't quit making fun of me and laughing at me. What should i do?

Well they dont have right to make fun of. If you stop drinking then it wont happen anymore. Sometimes when something happens to a person they make fun of you b/c if they dont like whats going on in their homelife then they need something or anything that will make them laugh. In a couple of years you will look back and think it was funny. But fi you dont like that idea then you will like this one. Something bad always happens to someone someday but you got it first. Just wait and see what happens to them and you will have the chance to laugh. They are not doing it to hurt you but to make you laugh.

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im going out with this girl sort off and we love each other and has said that to each other but i dont want to feel in love i dont want to be in love with her and i dont want her to love me back and i dont want that with anyone i dont no why its how i feel so i told her that and she said well i cant not tell u how i feel about u because i said can we jus like not say our feelings for each other but now she wont even talk to me what should i do?

Well when you are in a relationship it is kind of what you do. You tell each other how you feel. If you dont want to love her then you shouldnt be with her b/c if you continue to be with her you will fall even more in love with her. Maybe if you were just friends. She probably got offended when you asked her not to tell you how she feels. The best thing is to talk to her by writing her a note or calling her.

ok so my ex txtd me when he was at work and we were talking and he told me that we were freinds and what not...but i asked him y he told me it was going to be strange hanging out with me and he said that he was never a girl as a friend(this is true) and he doesnt know what they do as friends. and i told him that it shouldnt be hard being around me bc he knows me so well and that boys and girls that are friends just hangout and talk. is there anything else i can do to make him realize that its ok to be friends. he said he just doesnt know what they do cuz hes never had a girl as a friend. Thank you so much!!!

You just talk when you need a friend and when you go to te movies you just talk and watch the movie. You dont kiss or anyting like that when you are friends. When he sees you he should say hi and just pretend like you just met and you were friends.

Me and my friend are very close and we have been friends since first grade I get jealous when she hangs out with other people but yet I want to and I do hang out with other people. I feel bad and want to stop being like jealous of her having other friends. Please help me. Oh and I'll rate and give comments.
xoxpamela

i know what it is like to have a friend who hangs out with other people and you are left. The best thing to do is to meet other people and that will help you understand why she has toher friends to. You just need to get a closer friend like her that way if one is doing something then you have the other to hang out with. Try going into chat rooms and meeting new people or talking to someone in your school that you wouldnt normally talk to. Its hard for someone to hang out with everyone of their friends at the same time but if you have know her for so long she should give you more attention

hi you had answerd my question about my exboyfriend...well before i had read what you wrote i had sent him a txt message that asked him if he wantd to ever talk or see me again of is it hard for you to see me and talk to me thats y you pull away from me so much. he never said anything so i called him and he askd my y i was saying all of that and i told him i didnt want o wait around any longer if im just going to be hurt and i told him that i didnt like being at his house last nite bc he didnt talk to my much and he told me that he was really sorry that it was just strange but he still wants to hang out. i dont want to call or txt him anymore but i feel like if i dont then im going to lose him and i dont want to. i really love him...please help

Maybe if you start acting like friends. Maybe just be friends for awile until you guys are comfortable dating again and maybe being with someone else would help you. Having someone to be with is very special and if he is just going to hurt you then you shouldnt be with him. The best thing is to give him time and just be friends for the time being and if things work out then thats great but being patient with the person you love is the key. If you are patient enough he will come to you. This is about you and how you feel. If your heart tells you to wait for him then wait but if it is telling you to move on then you should.

welll this is kind-of like, comfusing.

Last night i went on a hayride with about 11 friends.. and my friend A brought her boyfriend.. and he brought a friend with him.. and he looked lonely so me and my friend D were always going over to talk to him.. and then they kept telling me to give him a hug but i kinda shyed away because i just met him.. so D gave him a hug and he looked at me while he was hugging her and then on the actual ride (that was all standing in line) i sat on the end and D was next to me, him next to her, and a girl next to him, and we gave him some of the blanket we brought.. and then we switched so i was sitting next to him and when i was scared D dared me to hide my face on his shoulder so i did and he smiled down at me and stuff and then he wouldnt laugh so I made him laugh by making a joke about something and stuff. and then while me and D were waiting to get picked up she was like "I think he liked you because in line he kept looking at you with the 'Oh she's cute' look. And he smiled at you when you dug her face into his shoulder."

what do you think?

I think he likes you. It seems like he wanted you to hug him more than he wanted your friend to do it. I think you should trust your instincts they tell what you want and if you feel like you like him then dont let him get away.

I don't know, I'm big on dreams, and thinking they have meaning. Well, here's the thing. I dreampt again last night, and want to know if anyone can interpret them...
See, I met this girl online in June, and we are exactly alike. She has become close to being my closest friend. Then I dreampt about her...
My first is that we were in a small town in a rural area (Illinois was the setting, I live in NJ). She wanted to travel down the Mississippi to get to the sea so we could find an island and live on it happily ever after. Well, we started down it in the trains the Mississippi supplies (Yes, it was something made up in my dream.) Well, we went from stop to stop, and it was a small city, then rural area. Well, we got seperated in Chicago, and I was conducting the train. The city of Chicago scared me, so I redirected it back, and we made it back to the original town. We got off, she found me, and was disappointed. Afraid of her getting angry, I loosened my resolve to stay, and agreed to go back on. I was walking on when I WANTED to go to the ocean, and not because I was made to. Then the dream ended.
The second was much shorter. I, for some reason, played football (I don't in real life). Well, she asked me to quit for her, and I unwillingly did. She then left me for some other football player, and I was left in the dust.
FYI, I have no relationship with her other than friends, and I am male. Yet in both, I was going out with her at the time. And I have no desire to in real life...
What do they mean?

I think that you do want to go out with her in your unconscious state but in your reaslity you have no desire to go out with her. You are afraid to ask her out b/c you might get rejected or she might make you do something you are not ready to do. Another reason could be that you are afraid of having a reltionship that could pull you away from what you really want. You may hae commitment issues and thats not bad for a person everone has them at some point.

What do you say when a guy asks you out. I'm only thirteen, so things don't come naturally. Do you just say "yes"? But that sounds like when someone asks you to marry them!! I think too much about simple things. CAn someone help mee?!?! Don't call me dumb please because you're just stating the obvious!

I'll rate honestly.

If you like the guy you say yes and if you dont you say no and say no in a nice way by saying i like us being friends. Its definitely not like being asked to marry them. When you are going out there is no guartee you will stay together so dont worry about it.

ok there is this guy. i talk to him on the phone every night. i really like him and i know he likes me too cause he said it to me on the phone yesterday. i had a secret i wanted to tell him which was that i liked him. he was trying to get the secret out of me for days. and everytime he would always say "you only have one life to live, so live it to the best," cause he didnt want me to be afraid of telling him the secret. so i told him and hes like, "well i like you too...where do we go from here?" and i said i dont know and there was silence for about 4 seconds lol. then he kinda chnaged the subject and after a while his mom was yelling at him to get off so we had to hang up. i can't help thinking about that "one life to live" thing though. should i ask him out? the only problem is that he isn't really allowd to talk to girls. he told me that if his mom answered then to pretend that he had the wrong number or just pretend to be a guy lol. but if his dad answered then it was ok. so i dont really know what to do. does this mean he won't ask me out? i really really really like him and i really want to go out on a date with him. what do you think, should i ask him out or wait until he asks me?

I dont think you should wait any longer. You should ask him out you have to at least rty and make it work. Write him a note or an email or just talk to him on the phone. Maybe he told his parents that he was going to the movies and you happened to be there to. IKt wouldnt be lying and technically you are his friend and he will be saying he is going with friends but to you two you are on a date. It willl be hard even with a mother like that but you will regret if you dont ask him. He will say yes b/c he likes you.

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