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Well, I'm M/15. I feel like I need a meaning. It feels like I'm lost. I think I need friends or people who understand me. But that seems impossible. I miss how I used to feel. I am not really religious but I believe there is a god. The things I like are sciencey and sometimes go against religions. But now I don't know what to believe. Do my feelings have to do with a soul or a god? but then theres the possibility that Its just in my head and theres some psychological problem in my head. Weather its what I breath and eat or hormones or anything of that nature. I find the scientific explanations easier to believe. They seem more "realistic" But I still hope there is a spiritual side to all of this. I'm lost :( for example: in reality I probably won't find the answers I really need here. But then I have a hope that somehow, someone sent from god will happen to find this and it would have some meaning. Please don't give me a jesus lecture. I have my parents for that. (link)
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Your feelings have to do with you being a teenager. All the things you have been experiencing have beset all kids your age since time immemorial. Hell, James Dean made a career out of portraying that. Your brain is developing little by little each day and your thoughts, feelings, sensibility and preferences are evolving in the process.
So the takeaway for you on this is to just relax. If you have questions about certain ideas you can spend time exploring them. And btw, there is no obligation for you to arrive at any final answers within any given time frame. Some people go through their entire lives undecided about certain issues. That's not because they are flip floppers, but due to the complexity of certain grand concepts. This is exacerbated by the fact that no matter how educated anyone is, when you put what they know against everything there is to know, they (and I include myself in this) are still rather ignorant.
I'm a strong atheist, but you can go your whole life not having made a final judgment as to the validity of religion. Just keep an open mind, act and think rationally and be as in control of your life as you can without allowing others to interfere in or sabotage it.
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i have been having random outbursts at people because of the stuff that they do not like. im male and 19 years old. so one day, my mom talks to me about school tests and i had gotten mad over something , so then i went downstairs. the next day, she didnt speak nor talk or look at me. it was really hurting me.so then i went outside yesterday and i had mistakenly come late. so like my dad comes in and starts yelling at me at how i didnt close the bag of a loaf of bread right. i had gotten pissed off and he had hit me with the bag for no apparent reason. i didnt say anything to make him angry at me. i had went back to my room and started crying at how my mother never speaks to me or looks at me because of my behavior. now both my parents are always talking garbage and how im gonna get kicked out of school in june. its really depressing to me because i always lose interest in fun things, i cant sleep at night, i dont feel like coming back home. i am scared to go outside or tell somebody, what should i do?? im so sad i feel like hurting myself. (link)
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There are too many gaps in your narrative for me to have any idea how to answer your question.
The only thing, if this is even possible, you can do given the info you have thus far presented would be to sit down with your mom and dad and try to talk things out calmly so that you can get on the same page with them.
Before you do that, though, you might get some counseling so that you can sort out your feelings beforehand. Plus the counselor can give you some strategies on how to discuss those issues with your folks.
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im always horny. im a teenage guy, and im always goddamn horny. how do i stop being horny all the damn time. I'm horny. (link)
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Dude, strap yourself in and get used to the ride. You won't stop being horny (barring some health issue) until you die. Yeah, when you get older you won't be getting hard with each change of the direction of the wind like teenagers do, but men are programmed to spread their seed around as much as possible by mother nature, so just learn to deal with the constant need to breed.
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So I met and started dating this really sweet boy in January, shortly after getting out of a long, complicated and personally detrimental relationship with an older man. I am 20 years old, this new boy is also 20. I have had more fun with him than i think I've ever had in my life. Hes a sweet, caring, genuinely nice boy and I can say I've fallen in love with him. I have been super happy except recently I've started noticing things that kind of upset me.
For one, we are out of that "honeymoon" phase where he thinks about and puts me first and calls me sweet names all the time. He used to say I was perfect, call me princess and precious, etc Now its just babe or love and honestly I understand that this happens and its not a big deal, but it would be nice if every once in a while he would still call me sweet names and text me nice things. I dont think that would be too much to ask for. I kind of feel like the "new" feel of the relationship has worn of, sort of like a little kid with a new toy. They're super excited about it for a few weeks and then they're not.
Another thing that is bothering me is something I found out about him a while back but I didn't think it was a problem. He told me, reluctantly, that when he was younger he used to have an anger problem. That as a kid he was always angry at his parents and he didn't understand why. He said it was bad when he was a teenager and he would yell and them and get upset over everything, and now he said he's learned to control it a lot so it doesn't show, but it still happens to him sometimes. He told me "if you ever see me get quiet or unenthusiastic about something, or answer in short sentences just know it has nothing to do with you, I'm just upset" And i told him good, because i had noticed him be like that and thought it was my fault and he got super sad and sad nooo baby, don't ever think it's your fault i dont want anything to make you feel like what we have isn't real. That was sweet and all, but ever since then I notice him get upset a lot more often which makes me think back also to the fact that were not in the beginning of the relationship and he's not trying to be perfect anymore. And it bothers me because from the very beginning I told him that I'm a very happy person and i thought he was too, but now I see that he gets upset over any small little thing he doesn't like and he gets all quiet and like keeps to himself and it makes me feel bad, I don't know how to handle it like I try to give him his space but it upsets me.
I don't want to talk to him about all of this because I'm not very good at expressing in words to others how i feel and I feel like I would mess up what I'm trying to say. I just feel like things are different now like the way he treated me for the past 4 months is changing and it makes me sad. I even had a dream about it last night that I was with him and a lot of people in my childhood house where i grew up and there was a party but something went wrong and he turned evil and told me he wanted to break up and got everyone at the party against me and tried to steal the house, idk it was a strange dream and honestly a nightmare.
It's also important to note that he's a gentleman in every sense of the word. like hes sweet and gentle and not at all mean, so I don't know why I had that dream or feel sad about the situation. I just basically feel like I'm not as important to him now as I used to be, because it's not like he does anything wrong to me, but he doesn't really do anything special either.
I don't like feeling this way, what can I do or how can I change my mentality about this? (link)
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There are a couple of things going on here and they tend to work against each other.
He is trying to be the typical macho male and suck it up and handle his problems all by himself while shutting you out of how he feels because he is leery of looking weak and whiny.
For women, when guys clam up, they tend to take it as he doesn't want to let you in to his emotional life and it creates a kind of distance in the relationship in a woman's mind.
But a lot of this is society's fault. Men are raised to be self reliant and stoic. Shows of aggression are often rewarded, but emotional self disclosure is definitely not. This is what women fail to understand about men and, to be honest, women actually exacerbate this because they want their men to be like daddy, the pillar of the household. Women never want a weak daddy.
Women bond through a lot of self disclosure. They talk endlessly about how they are feeling to each other and society says that it is okay for women to be weak and to cry. So you want some self disclosure about his feelings in order to further cement your sense of intimacy with him.
Now there is a point at which being pouty gets old. It could be that he just needs to grow up some more to fully grasp how he should handle his anger issues. He seems to be making an effort at compartmentalizing that anger, but it is also true that the more you try to repress something the more likely it is to express itself at some (often inconvenient) time.
There is no guarantee that he will have this resolved in his mind in the near future. So you have a decision to make. Women often want to change or fix men. But I think this guy will have to fix himself at his own pace. Moreover, if you break up with him, he will be pissed about that, but it also simplifies his life and leaves more time for him to be introspective and maybe even get professional help.
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hi guys, so i have been talking with my aunts boyfriends son. i asked the question if it was awkward or not and the people who answered said it wasnt awkward because we are not blood related, so i sort of went for it. But, this guy keeps hooking up with this one girl that i am kind of friends with, (she knows that i like him, and i found out she likes him too) and everytime its just me and him we kiss. and he told me afew weeks ago he wanted to take me to the movies, just me and him. and he is still implying that he has interest in me, but why would he be all over this other girl too? They have sex and everything too. All he does is talk alot of crap about her too and says he doesnt like her. So if anyone can help me and tell me if it sounds like he's playing me please tell me! and for some more information, him and i have hooked up, no sex, but as i wsid before everytime its just me and him we kiss. soo im just not sure. please help. thankyyou! =] (link)
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He's doing it because he can. I did that in high school, too. I remember one assembly in a gym where they had the lights out and I was making out with BOTH an ex-girlfriend and one of her friends. Both of them had boyfriends at the time. Did I get a little buzz off of it? You bet your sweet ass I did!
Look, guys get validation, especially from their friends, according to how many women they can get with. This is also exacerbated by the fact that you are in competition with the other girl and women hate to lose out to other women like you wouldn't believe because attention in the female world is the coin of the realm. So he basically has the two of you submitting to his whims because of that native jealousy between girls.
So the hest thing you can do at this point is to just walk away and let her deal with the headaches of dealing with a player. If you don't, you will look like a fool to your friends and they aren't likely to have all that much tolerance when you inevitably begin to lament the fact that he has a roving eye. Sympathy for victims only goes so far.
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Everytime we cuddle together she likes to lay her head on my belly and rub it and kiss it. She pokes at my belly button too and she tickles me alot. Why does she do this ? (link)
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Some girls have a thing about that. It's just like certain guys like certain types of female or male bodies so do some women focus on certain male or female bits. Some women actually like guys who have beer guts, perhaps because their dad did and they had a really good relationship with him, for example.
Just let her do her thing. She doesn't mean anything by it other than being playful. Enjoy the affection and the view.
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I've never had a real best friend untill now, I've been best friends with my friend Tiffany for about 3 years and we're like sister's. For some reason I get jeloues and depressed because she hangs out with other people and doesn't invite me. But when I do that she gets mad that I ditched her or whatever.
I had a group a friends a few years ago, and they pushed me away because of what I was going threw, Now I guess I feel like she's going to do that to me. It's always in the back of my mind whenever she hangs out with other people. I can't help it either. I shut down sometimes because I get so sad about it, scared almost. What should I do? I told her how I felt already and she said she understands but she doesn't know what to do about it. There isn't much she can do though, I mean this is my fault right? (link)
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The problem is that you guys are basically two peas in a pod. She feels hurt when she isn't included in your social activities and vice versa.
The problem is that different friends have different uses. For example, there are friends I like to go to the ballgame with and others I like to go to concerts with. Different friends have personalities and sensibilities suited for different contexts. Neither of you really understand that because both of you are somewhat needy and still growing up.
I can understand where you are coming from, but you are going to have to learn to step back and try to look at things rationally. Don't put all your social eggs in one basket. Take control of your life and know what you want when and have enough content so that you can bounce between social groupings. Talk it out with Tiffany and assure her that you aren't abandoning her and you should take it to heart if she says the same thing.
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I m from india .I like a boy since two year's but i just don't know how to tell him .what should i do? (link)
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Personally, the best, most efficient way to get with this guy is to just flat out ask him out. However, I'm not familiar with Indian dating etiquette, so I don't know if that is considered immodest for women.
Since you guys are in India, though, he's probably a cricket or soccer fan. Talk to him about that and sort of say, and you can do it in a humorous way, "maybe we should go to a match together sometime since I've never been." And ten later in the conversation tell him he's cute and smart. If he doesn't get the message after that his father needs to talk to him about women.
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im 18/f hes 19/m
well i like my bestfriend and were hanging out at his house again tomorrow, except this time we have no idea what to do. everytime i go over his house we play video games, watch movies, go for walks, play at parks, go to the shops, go on drives. And we never have any idea of what else to do, considering we hang out for 10+hours.
do you have any suggestions of things we could do? we're both limited on money and he says the balls in my court for whatever we want to do. but i just cant think of anything we havent already done! haha. we need to do something different considering we do the same thing all the time and its becoming very routine haha. he wont tell me what he feels like doing cause he says he'll be happy with whatever i decide. i just cant think of anything! help? (link)
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This guy does have something in mind but can't pull the trigger on it. Guys don't spend that kind of time with women unless they want to get more intimate with them. He is another "nice guy" who is too much of a pussy to just lay it out there for you to say yes or no too, which wastes a lot of his time and probably yours, too.
If you have this guy on the friend list, which is a kind of sexual exile, you need to tell him NOW that you have no intention of your relationship going any further than just being friends. When he said, "the ball is in your court," what he actually meant was, "please ask me to be your boyfriend because I don't have the balls to put the relationship on a closer basis myself."
Either that or he's gay, in which case everything I just wrote is moot.
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16/F
So theres this senior in my school named tanner. Known him like 5 years but only started talking to him this school year because hes in one of my classes. Well weve been through some stuff this year. He has a girlfriend of 2 years. But me and him have had this chemistry from day one. So we talked and flirted for a while nothing technically crossing his "cheating" line that ive set for us. I wont do that to his girlfriend. No kissing or even holding hands. Well anyway my bestfriends knew everything we talked about and eventually decided to screw me and tel his girlfriend everything. It got into this huge mess so we decided that we just wanted to be friends. So we were for a little while but mainly we just didnt talk to each other because its impposible for us to not flirt with each other. He got injured recently and wasnt in school for two months he just got back this monday. Take into consideration that we didnt talk at all during that time. Well the monday we talked alot in class & he called me after school and asked me if i wanted to play basketball with him and a few friends. I told him no because i dont know his friends but then he was like pleaseee i havent seen you in a really long time and i really want you to come. So i went. Well most the time his friends were off by thmselve leaving me and him together. There was lots of contact we were touching each other alot more then nessaccary for basketball and we were joking around alot. I had tons of fun and im sure he did too. After i left he texted me and said you looked so sexy just to let you know. Then he asked me to hang out again thee next day. So sat waiting for him to show up for an hour and a half in the mean time he drove his truck by me 3 times. Well i went home and later that night he texted me and said way to show up . According to him he was on the opposite side of the building i was on the whole time. Then he said something about just me and him going and i said i didnt care if his friends were there that they were funny and i didnt think it would be as much fun with just us two. I meant to say it like i didnt think hed have as much fun with just me but it came out wrong and he said ok and i said night cause i didnt realized how badly that had come out. So today in class we didnt talk at all but i feel like he was a little angry or upset he was moving alot and keep looking at me. So we were both a little agitated but tomoorow everything will go back to normal like it always does. Honestly i dont knw what to do about this whole situation because theres a part of me that wants to leave him alone because apparently he loves his girlfriend otherwise hed break up with her to be with me and then theres another part that thinks hes afraid and he wants to be sure that hes not gonna break up with her for no reason i really like him but i feel like i get my hopes up then they fall and i cant stop myself from doing it because i feel like there could be some chance for us. I would love advice on anything about this please and thank sorry its so long.
THANKS AGAIN (link)
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First, let's address the girlfriend who finked on you: she is really jealous of the attention you're getting. Maybe she has designs on Tanner, too, I don't know, but you just got a glimpse of how sometimes irrationally competitive women are with each other. Since your friend can't mind her own business, it is time to hit the eject button on her.
As for the whole you and Tanner thing, I think you read that about right. However, it also could be that his relationship with his girlfriend is on a downward slide and that is why he is so hots on to reconnect with you, to have you warming up in the bullpen when he needs to tell his girlfriend to hit the road.
Now why was Tanner moody after you told him to bring his friends? Well, he sees his friends as third wheels and cock blockers when they are around when he is with you. And the message you conveyed left him the impression that you didn't want to be alone with him so he can really put the moves on you. You can rectify this by approaching him and apologizing and telling him you still really like him and don't mind being alone with him.
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there\'s this guy who asked me to do something for him for work. we talked for like 2 hours the first night the next day he texted saying he wanted something fixed so i went back and we talked again for another hour. that was almost 2 weeks ago now that we did that. he texted me like 3 other times he didn\'t say much but were in the same math class so he texted one day saying ur not in class today..working from home :p so i texted back and was like yeah and we texted for like 10mins or so. after that he didn\'t text for like 3 or 4 days then in class when i was there he was like your here today and sat beside me..maybe because his friends were close by? :s but a day later today he texted and was like u still at the mall? and wanted a ride home so i did then we talked a little about star wars of allthings! so does he like me ? i thought so but i dont know.. how should i talk to him i wanna be atleast friends :) (link)
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Guys are target oriented. That means that whatever they do they are looking for some result from it. By spending so much time on you he is definitely showing interest because guys are not going to waste time on women they know they can't get or don't want.
By the way, the three or four day gap is either because he was just too busy or he had exhausted things to say to you and needed to reload.
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Hi,
I am a man. I am in my middle 20's and I have been in a relationship with the love of my life for almost three years now.
When I was 15 I lost my virginity to my father's girlfriend (she was 40 something at the time). I recall wanting to do it but now I feel like it was statutory rape. I look back on it as a shameful event and I never want to talk about it. This is actually the first time I've written it and told anyone.
My girlfriend/ soon to be fiance and I have never talked about me loosing my virginity. I feel like it will never come up but if it does I won't lie about it.
I just want to know if I was raped. Should I feel ashamed of what happened? Should I tell my girlfriend even though it is not a topic of conversation?
Thanks so much,
Advice (link)
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I lost my virginity about a week before my 16th birthday to a 21 year old married woman. Yeah, it wasn't cool for me to be doing a married man's wife. And yeah, technically it was rape on her part (in fact, she initiated our entire relationship). But do I hate myself for it or am I ashamed of it? Hell no. In fact, it bolstered my self confidence a ton.
Yes, it would give me the heebee jeebees to do my dad's girlfriend. I personally would not have gone there myself (even I have some boundaries), but you have to look at it as the intersection of your teenage horniness and her lust for a young buck who looked liked your dad. Yes, what she did was statutory rape. But it's not like you were an unwilling participant. You could have easily fended her off if you wanted to.
So relax and don't overthink this. Instead, focus on what you learned from it rather than getting sucked into the whole victimhood angle, which will only make you look like a wuss to your girlfriend. If the subject comes up (and none of my past girlfriends ever asked me about my first time, probably because I never cared about their's) just tell your girlfriend the truth if you just gotta be honest. Personally, I would think of it as TMI. You can lie and say you lost it to a girlfriend in high school if that won't make you be racked by unnecessary guilt. All women lie about how many guys they slept with before you (again, I never cared about how many boys/men my partners have been through as long as they are disease free and faithful to me) anyway.
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My teen wanted to post some videos he made on YouTube. We felt he was too young, but after MUCH fighting we tried to compromise under the conditions that he would show us the videos first, before loading them and would only load them if we approved. To make a long story short, 35+ downloads later, he is putting on material that is not appropriate for a 14 yr old and could very likely attract an older audience that could cause bigger problems. I want his site shut down. It is not visually provacative - it's verbally provacative - swearing, sexual language, etc. How can I shut down his account? Please don't tell me I can't. I am very worried. Thank you. (link)
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Wait a second:
So he has posted material to You Tube you find objectionable and you are still allowing him to use the computer without your direct supervision? And apparently a camera, too. Take his computer privileges away until the start of the next school year. Take his phone, too. Tell him he violated his trust with you and there are going to be consequences.
Yeah, he will scream about it, but tough. Deal with it or shut up. Tell him the more he acts like a spoiled whiny bitch the more you are going to put the screws to him. So he needs to man up and accept that he screwed up.
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I didn't know what category to put this in... I'm a female and recently, I've got a sore little bump near my clitoris, kind of on the labia majora... Yea, I had to look that up because I seriously never paid attention to what's down there. But it's sore and it itches only if something touches it, by that, I mean like if I'm lying on my stomach or using the bathroom. I don't particularly wanna tell my mom because she'll demand to see it and I just have this weirdo feeling of having people look at me there, it's just bothers me, so yea... I'm not asking for medical advice, just some suggestions on what it might be and if you think it's serious. (link)
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At some point you will need to go to a gynocologist. And you already have boyfriends. I'm sure they have performed oral on you, so they have seen your vaginal area. Therefore, you need to relax. It's just another part of your body. Yeah, I understand the hesitation to showing it to your mom, but you do need to see a gyno periodically just for good health reasons. If the bump continues to bother you after a month, go to the gyno.
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Hey do you think its odd to be 13 and still sleeps with your parents? it is really embarrasing and my grandparents make fun of me and even my own dad but my mom dont. I didnt have my own room until i was 4 and so I always slept eith my parents. Also my siblings and things would scre me about ghosts and stuff and a lot of times I see things like wierd stuff in the middle of the night and I think about ghosts. Also another thing i worry about is that someone will break in and I want to be with my mom. When I have friends spend the night with me I sleep in my own room with them and things (which most of the time we don't sleep) but anyway. Do you think it's wierd or abnormal please help!! Thanks! (link)
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Your jagging the fear thing way too much.
It actually is not good for your development as an independent human being to still be cuddling up with mom at night.
Your chance of being burglarized while you are home is exceedingly low. The overwhelming portion of them occur while people aren't home. Breaking into an occupied dwelling carries with it sentence enhancements and even possible kidnapping charges. You are unlikely to be able to defend yourself anyway at your age and your mom definitely won't.
Ghosts don't exist.
So chill out, sleep in your own room and don't give into the fear. Fear is used mainly to control people (in the case of the media, which has been on a big fear spree the last couple of decades, they use it to draw eyeballs). Don't let them control you. Take control of your life since you are the only one who can live it and go on from there.
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Ok so my name is Melinda Grace but everyone calls me 'Gracie'and Im 13. And lately my dad's been really unfair to me and my twin sis Lissa because he let's our older brother Matt do whatever he wants but he doesn't let us do anything and he grounds us all the time. Like how a couple days ago Matt heard me tell Lissa about this boy that I really like. He gave me his phone number and I think he wants me to be his girlfriend. But when matt heard me tell that to lissa he told my dad that I had a boyfriend and I was hanging around boys all the time at school. So dad got all mad and took my phone and started to read the text messages that 'my boyfriend' sent. All the messages said was that he thought I was cute and he wanted to kiss me, they weren't even that bad. But dad started yelling at me sayin how I was too young to be flirting and talking to boys and that I shouldn't even be thinkin about boys. Bbut I wasn't even flirting and what's wrong with talking and thinkin about boys?! So dad kept yellin and I started to walk away and he grabed my arm and keeped yellin at me so I screamed at him to let me go and now he took my fone and my laptop so now I hav to sneak and use Lissa's and I'm grounded 'until furter notice'. Its just soo unfair! Matt has a different girlfriend every week and all dad does is laugh and joke with him saying how matt's jus like dad was when he was he's age but if I even think about havin a boyfriend dad goes nuts! That's not fair! Matt's only 3 years older that's not much of an age difference. Is it bcuz I'm a girl? What do I do to make Dad understand? Isn't he being mean and showing favorism just because Matt is a boy? (link)
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Here is what is going on:
Your brother is a fink. Tell his friends and everyone else that he's a narc and can't be trusted. That ought to cool his jets. If my brother ever pulled that crap on me I would have put him in the hospital.
Okay, now realize that you're 13, first of all. Your father knows that the objective of adolescent males is to bone you so that they can brag about it to their buddies and "put points on the board". You may not have any intention of allowing them to do so, but your dad just can't handle that prospect. He also has a narcissistic thing going on, being afraid that you will become the town tramp if he doesn't keep the screws on you and embarrassing him.
Keep in mind that the media, especially local news, has been pushing fear in a big way the last few years and this has led to many parents helicoptering their kids (controlling their lives to an obsessive extent) out of what is mainly irrational level of fear ginned up in the media.
Now I don't think you did anything wrong here and your dad did not handle this like a mature adult. By the same token, teens have poor impulse control (your brain is still developing at this point and so the little voice that moderates impulse isn't that well refined yet) and aren't good at judging the full array of possible consequences of their actions. Their native insecurity also makes them subject to peer pressure instead of looking at it as they are the only ones who can live their lives and not to allow others to make decisions for you.
So take all these considerations into account and then talk to your dad about it. He has to relax because if he doesn't, he is going to totally undermine his authority through seeming so panicky. He needs to be more of a manager in questions like this instead of a dictator.
In response to that, you have to prove that you are capable of not needing to be shackled by acting responsibly and reasonably. That is the deal parents want with their children. Are you ready to really do it? Because once, and I mean ONE TIME, you show that you can't handle independence it will be snatched away from you. That is the way the world works.
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18/f
I am a somewhat shy girl. I'm not the type of person who likes to stand out from the crowd, and whenever I do, I get shy and embarassed. I blush a lot when the topic is always about me. I feel awkward when i'm the only one talking and a lot of eyes are on me. I get nervous and I just have no confidence in myself. I get dressed in the morning and leave for school and feel so boring. I don't feel pretty most of the time, even though my boyfriend says i'm beautiful. I walk down the hallways and see girls that have so much confidence. For example, there will be girls wearing skirts and heels to school.. i could pull that off but I would have no confidence in myself. Instead of walking with confidence, I would feel shy and awkward.
I guess what i'm trying to say is.. I want to be able to walk in a room with my head up high with confidence and be proud of who I am. How do I attain that confidence in myself?? (link)
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The simple questions are:
1. Are you cute? Yes you are because your boyfriend says so. He gets off bigtime looking at you. Enjoy that and show him your naked body often. Because you are like a super model to him. You might not believe it, but it's true. Except you have more mental content.
2. Are you moral and ethical? Sounds like it.
3. Are you kind to people? Sounds like it.
4. Are you smart? You probably are.
Here is the conundrum: when you are highly intelligent, often times that puts one in touch with one's ignorance (which will never be cured, only moderated to whatever degree you work on ameliorating it; one of us can know everything in such ahort lives) and the foibles of people, including yourself. That tends to keep one from taking oneself that seriously and making grand gestures or bring flash. It is pretty evident you aren't a narcissist, which is a good thing.
So you should like yourself a lot for all the above reasons. The thing is that you are the only one who can live your life and so you need to take control of it and live it according to what makes you happy. You can't let the opinions of others interfere with your vision of happiness (as long as said vision isn't self-destructive or delusional).
As for the pretty girls you cite, many of those girls already have an innate need to be onstage. They have gotten the message early in life that being beautiful is how women compete with each other. And so women's natural competitiveness with each other drives a lot of this narcissism, whereby attention becomes the coin of the realm to them. They collect attention like some kids collect comic books. A lot of these women are also as superficial as a paper cut. Yeah, good for a fuck or two just to say you've been there, but one gets bored with them easily. You are more of a three dimensional human being than that. So you have reason to feel that you're better than they are while having a sense of proportion that keeps you from being offputtingly haughty about it.
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Hi! In 2012, my friend and I are going to go to London for an anime convention and we're doing our planning now, the best we can anyway. We calculated the hotel cost as well as the convention cost, but we're having trouble finding how much the plane tickets would cost. All the sites I went to are extremely confusing... Or is it not possible to find how much the plane ticket would cost in July of 2012? We plan to stay for a week too... Are there any sites that give just the price? Or have updates to tell us when the price changes? (link)
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You don't need to make reservations now. Wait until winter and then check back. The tricky bit, though, is if the dollar sinks any lower it may start getting too expensive for you. London is one of the costliest cities in the world already.
And God only knows if any airlines will either go belly up or merge with another by then. Which is why making the plane reservations now is just too early.
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so im in high school. i am a junior. now the thing is girls always talk to me i'm not a "playa". but it seems every time i get close to a girl i end up fucking up every time so i'm just wondering what other guys do and don't do. (link)
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Anesthesia. Works everytime. *lol
Seriously though, the main thing about women is they want to know that you are hearing what they are FEELING, not necessarily what they are saying. Listen carefully to their words and the underlying thrust of them and then just repeat it back to them in your own words. When they have a problem they often don't want you to solve it for them, they want their feelings validated instead. Yu can start sentences with stuff like, "so what I'm hearing from what you are telling me," etc.
Once you start going out with a chick, just be honest. They also want you to be their dad (this doesn't mean you treat them like children or be a blowhard control freak, but someone who will tell her the way it is; for example, you don't ask her where she wants to go or eat, you tell her where you two are going, etc).
If you can get those two things right you are well on your way.
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Yea, it's kind of stupid to some people to do a school research paper on vampires, but I'm curious about all the legends and stuff. Are there any sites out there that might provide me with information? It can't be wikipedia. It can be a scientific site, a religious one, or maybe even one about how people actually think they're real and whatnot. I've searched on google, but I keep getting roleplaying sites and I don't think that's going to help me with my paper... (link)
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The History Channel has done stuff on vampires, including the legend of Vlad Dracula, also known as Vlad the Impaler.
Go to your local library and search their data base of periodicals. I'm sure there will be plentiful material there for you from magazines.
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