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so confused about him.
16/F
So theres this senior in my school named tanner. Known him like 5 years but only started talking to him this school year because hes in one of my classes. Well weve been through some stuff this year. He has a girlfriend of 2 years. But me and him have had this chemistry from day one. So we talked and flirted for a while nothing technically crossing his "cheating" line that ive set for us. I wont do that to his girlfriend. No kissing or even holding hands. Well anyway my bestfriends knew everything we talked about and eventually decided to screw me and tel his girlfriend everything. It got into this huge mess so we decided that we just wanted to be friends. So we were for a little while but mainly we just didnt talk to each other because its impposible for us to not flirt with each other. He got injured recently and wasnt in school for two months he just got back this monday. Take into consideration that we didnt talk at all during that time. Well the monday we talked alot in class & he called me after school and asked me if i wanted to play basketball with him and a few friends. I told him no because i dont know his friends but then he was like pleaseee i havent seen you in a really long time and i really want you to come. So i went. Well most the time his friends were off by thmselve leaving me and him together. There was lots of contact we were touching each other alot more then nessaccary for basketball and we were joking around alot. I had tons of fun and im sure he did too. After i left he texted me and said you looked so sexy just to let you know. Then he asked me to hang out again thee next day. So sat waiting for him to show up for an hour and a half in the mean time he drove his truck by me 3 times. Well i went home and later that night he texted me and said way to show up . According to him he was on the opposite side of the building i was on the whole time. Then he said something about just me and him going and i said i didnt care if his friends were there that they were funny and i didnt think it would be as much fun with just us two. I meant to say it like i didnt think hed have as much fun with just me but it came out wrong and he said ok and i said night cause i didnt realized how badly that had come out. So today in class we didnt talk at all but i feel like he was a little angry or upset he was moving alot and keep looking at me. So we were both a little agitated but tomoorow everything will go back to normal like it always does. Honestly i dont knw what to do about this whole situation because theres a part of me that wants to leave him alone because apparently he loves his girlfriend otherwise hed break up with her to be with me and then theres another part that thinks hes afraid and he wants to be sure that hes not gonna break up with her for no reason i really like him but i feel like i get my hopes up then they fall and i cant stop myself from doing it because i feel like there could be some chance for us. I would love advice on anything about this please and thank sorry its so long.
THANKS AGAIN
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I have been through this same scenerio, you have to ask yourself, is he and his girlfriend having sex?? And maybe that's why he doesn't want to break up with her, because he is not sure if you would have sex with him? I only ask that because guys at this age think about sex A LOT. Or is it that he does not know that you like him like that anymore? More or less, you need to tell him that you do like him like that, unless you are too scared to tell him and afraid of getting hurt or embarresed. I, myself am 28 years old/F and remember those high school days of boy/girl drama. I look back on those days, and think, wow, I had it made. Life was sooo much easier then. He may love his girlfriend, but not be IN LOVE with her anymore, hince trying to get with you/hang out with you. I can tell you this, he doesn't want to break up with his girlfriend, and find out that you won't be with him. I would tell him that you would like to try and be in a relationship with him and explain the reasons why, like you said; the chemistry between you two, you guys make each other laugh, and you have fun together, and make it be descreet just between the two of you, so there is no drama involved in case it turns out bad, I'm hoping he doesn't have a big mouth and would tell all of his friends to the point where it would get back to his girlfriend. All you can do at this point is put yourself out there and see what happens. It may be a hard transition for him AND you, but it's definitly a way to find out where this is going to lead. And trust me, once you become 28 years old, you will look back at this and think the same thing that I am thinking. Life was soo much easier then. Hope things go well!
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First, let's address the girlfriend who finked on you: she is really jealous of the attention you're getting. Maybe she has designs on Tanner, too, I don't know, but you just got a glimpse of how sometimes irrationally competitive women are with each other. Since your friend can't mind her own business, it is time to hit the eject button on her.
As for the whole you and Tanner thing, I think you read that about right. However, it also could be that his relationship with his girlfriend is on a downward slide and that is why he is so hots on to reconnect with you, to have you warming up in the bullpen when he needs to tell his girlfriend to hit the road.
Now why was Tanner moody after you told him to bring his friends? Well, he sees his friends as third wheels and cock blockers when they are around when he is with you. And the message you conveyed left him the impression that you didn't want to be alone with him so he can really put the moves on you. You can rectify this by approaching him and apologizing and telling him you still really like him and don't mind being alone with him.
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