Hello, call me Abby =] I'm eighteen and a senior in high school this year. I've always had great advice, I'm just not so great at following it =P Feel free to ask me anything, I'll do my best to give you an answer.
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This question is for Christians, please.
I consider myself a Christian. I pray and whenever I do, I feel a sense of joy and I feel like I'm talking to the best person ever. But I always sin and I hate myself for it. Everyday, I judge people and I am vein and I get angry.
Whenever I do my hair or put on makeup, I feel like I'm being vein and I feel ugly in God's eyes. I also judge EVERYONE. Like, if I pass by an overweight person, I instantly think "That person is fat". This also makes me feel ugly to Him. I also gossip, lie..I do basically every sin except kill, steal, commit adultery, and worship idols. I repent though.
All of this sin that I do makes me feel like God won't accept me into Heaven when I die. I know that Jesus forgives us when we repent, but I sin so much that it seems like he would never let someone so sinful into his kingdom. When I ask to be forgiven, I always think "You've asked God to forgive you for doing that sin a million times. He won't give you another chance"
What do you suggest I do? (link)
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I've learned that God ALWAYS forgives if you are truly sorry. And you dont have to be a saint to get into heaven. As long as you are really trying to be a good person, God and Jesus will see that. Put effort into bettering yourself. Become friends with Christians and use them as a support group. A little will go a long way, so just try not to gossip or judge others. And its not a sin to think that way about a person (like an overweight person) because you cant really change what pops into your head, but acting and treating them differently is. Just be the best person you can be, and try resist sin. Wearing a cross necklace helps remind me to be a good person, and is a constant reminder of God's presence in my life.
Good luck and God Bless,
-Abby
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Okay, so I am so confused. I think I still like my b/f but IDONTKNOW. When he had a g/f I can admit I was jealous to see them together and when I would see myself wishing me and him were together. But now that he broke up with her, like I still like him, he knows I do. I only broke up with him before because I thought we were better off friends. Now I don't know. And I am so confused. Because I think this other guy likes me. He's 2 grades higher than me. But I don't know what to do, I am so confused about things.
help ? (link)
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Drop all other worries, and decide if you love either of the guys enough to waste your time thinking about them. What guy could you not live without talking to everyday? What guy makes your heart jump when you see him? Thats the only way to decide if hes worth your time and heart. Being jealous because he is with another girl isnt a good way, because some people just want what they cant have. So dont think about how old they are, or the situation, just worry about how you really feel. It will steer you the right way.
And if your not even sure if the other guy likes you, dont depend on him for anything.
Good luck!
-Abby
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Today a woman down the street called my mom and asked if I could come over and get aquianted with her kids so I can be her mother's helper. The reason she called is because a few months ago my mom gave her our number, I never met the woman. The problem is, I have no idea what I should do when I go to their house. I'm REALLY shy and i'm not all outgoing to adults (actually all people) like "OH HEY! NICE TO MEET YOU!! AWW YOUR KIDS ARE SOOOO CUTE! HI THER (INSERT KIDS NAME HERE)!! I want to be like myself when I go there, so how should I act to the mom? Also, what should I first say to the kids when i meet them? I don't want to seem like i don't like them. Ok second question: When i'm actually doing the job, WHAT ARE SOME THINGS I CAN DO TO KEEP THE KIDS HAPPY AND LIKE ME SO THEY ASK IF I CAN COME BACK? They are girls and i'm pretty sure they are 3 and 5 years old. Thank you! (link)
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Aside from being yourself, be polite and professional. Make small talk, even crack a few jokes, but than get down to the serious stuff. Moms love to know that their baby sitter or helper isnt just a irresponsible teen, but is someone to be depended on. Bring a list with you, and ask the mother to fill in where she can be reached, bedtimes or naptimes, foods that aren't appropiate, and any special rules the girls have to abide by (like if they do something bad, does the mother use time out?) Ask what is off limits in the house and what you and the kids can use. If they have any pets, cover them as well.
As for the kids, be funny, but dont let them think they can take advantage of you. Plan an activity or two like a game, arts and crafts (little to no mess, of course)or bring a book with you. Interact with the kids and play with them instead of watching tv all day, and Im sure they will want you to come back. Do not yell or get angry with them. Be calm, and they'll listen.
Good luck!
-Abby
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Ok so I am 13 and hav alot of hair on the bikini line and vagina. I dont know how to ask my mom if i can get a bikini wax. Also is 13 to young what is a good age? I wanna look oGood in a bikini this summer. Also is there any good advice to make it hurt less or any kits even (link)
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Your not to young, as there isnt a designated age or anything lol. If you dont want to ask your mom, you can easily find kits at your local drugstore, and there pretty inexpensive.
Good luck!
-Abby
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(Before I start I'm 18 and a freshman in college.) I was in a exclusive relationship about 8 months ago. It ended badly and I ended up getting hurt. My boyfriend of 1 year cheated on me, more than once. Anyways ever since then, I'v only had casual relationships, not sex I just wouldn't exclusively date one guy at a time. I met this one guy in class, after we were assigned in pairs for a project. And I started to like him. A lot. And I knew he liked me too, because he was flirting with me and walking me to classes ect. I was taking a walk outside when it was raining (Don't ask me why I just like the rain)and he came up to me when I was sitting on the bench. He said he saw me and wanted to know what I was doing sitting on a campus bench in a rainstorm. By that time it was raining really hard.(Before I go any farther he asked me out twice by then, but he was a boyfriend kind of guy and didn't do casual anymore, so I turned him down) I said I was just going for a walk, and he sat down beside me. We talked for a while in the pouring rain, and then he leaned over and kissed me. It turned into a pretty heavy make out session and I started thinking 'what the hell am I doing, I can't be his girlfriend I'm not gonna put myself in the position to be hurt again'. Anyways I pushed him away away and when he was about to say something I spoke before him. I said "I'm sorry, but this was a mistake, I can't do exclusive realationships, you know that" (Those were my exact words) Even though I really liked him I didn't want to get hurt again. I stood up ready to walk away when he caught my wrist, he said "You can't or you won't, why can't you give a relationship a fighting chance. I really like you, a lot more than you know and I know you feel the same. You and I both know It wasn't a mistake" and then I said "Thats where your wrong" and I walked off. He called my name but didn't try to stop me again. I'v been avoiding him for the last few days, and he's called my cell phone a million times. I don't know what to do, I really really like him. He's sweet, funny, gorgeous, caring, honest (I could go on but I'll spare you)I know he's not my ex but I'm just scared. Scared of what I feel for him and scared I'll get hurt again. When we were kissing everything felt so right. I felt safe and loved and not lost anymore. He's offering me a real relationship, a healthy realtionship. But should I take the chance? What should I do? Is the ball in my court? (link)
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I should call you cinderella, because this seems like such a fairytale. This guy, as you have described him, sounds amazing, and REALLY likes you. And you sound like you REALLY like him.
Even though you had a bad relationship in the past, you cannot let that scar you. The longer you hide from love, the more your letting the pain set in and the harder its going to be for you when you do find Mr. Right. And this guy might just be him. Theres only one thing to do. Go for it. Take a chance, and take a leap for love. When things just click and feel right, it usually is right. Not all guys are the jerk your old boyfriend was. Dont let this guy hold you back when you've found love thats meant to be.
I know your hurt, and scared, but you need to accept love now. The only way to get past this is do jump right in. And you know what? If this doesnt work out, you'll still be better off than before. You'll be stronger, more experienced, and you'll know you can move on.
So stop worrying and call this guy. Dont waste any time. Tell him exactly whats in your heart, and that you TRULY want to be with him.
I'll be blunt if your still not assured.
Believe in yourself. Believe in him. Believe in love. Take the jump and enjoy the rewards.
Good Luck and Good Love,
-Abby
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My sister and her friend (they're 14 years old in middle school) asked me if they could go to a friend's house at 11:00 tonight. I asked them about it, and they said that they would go to a guy's house who's also 14. He lives about a 10 minute walk away from our house. They don't want me to tell our mom.
Basically, I said no. My sister and her friend told me that the guy's parents don't know about it and that they would WALK there. I explained that 2 girls outside at 11pm is very dangerous. So they asked if I could drive them (I'm 16). I said no to that because no parents know about it, and I just don't have a good feeling about it (I don't think they'd have sex, I just think something bad will happen, like get caught).
My sister doesn't understand because earlier this year, I came home from a party because of my 11pm curfew, but I went back to the party til 12am when I found out that my mom was asleep. I think that these are completely different situations: there were parents at the party who knew about the party, my mom was drunk that night so she wouldn't get mad, and I wouldn't be walking.
Did I do the right thing by telling my sister and her friend that they couldn't go tonight? (link)
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You did the right thing, absoulutely. I dont think your situation was fault free, but being the mature and responsible sibling is always the older siblings job. Lead your sister by example next time. If you dont want her to break the rules, you dont break the rules. But good job, if you kept from sister from going, you could have well have saved her from some pretty bad things.
-Abby
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I have an account on fanfiction.net. How do I upload my stories to the website off of microsoft? (link)
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Hey!
This isnt really advice, just a question, but I'll do what I can. I had a fanfiction account, but I found it uber difficult to use. And the stories are poorly organized and managed, so most likely someone will stumble upon your story if your lucky.
What fan fiction are you writing? I write harry potter fan fiction, and if you do as well, I highly reccomend www.harrypotterfanfiction.com. It has a great search system, a ton of stories, and some really great quality of writing. I just love it for the great users and personalities.
Good luck with your writing! If you ever need a beta for any type of story, drop me a email.
-Abby
Replying to feedback: I've never seen a gilmore girls fan fiction...do you have any fics I can read? I love the show but never thought about it in writing. Sorry, I dont know much about fanfiction.net
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okay i just got my hair cut and i hate it..how long would it take for it to grow an inch or 2 bwlow my sholder..right now it just touching..is there anyway to have my hair grown faster
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People say there are formulas or remedies to make your hair grow faster, but none have been proven. Average hair growth is half an inch per month (it varies, like my friends hair grows very slowly and mine grows out pretty fast) so it will take a few months for a big difference. To make your hair appear longer, you could straighten it with a flat iron to lengthen it.
Good luck!
-Abby
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i have really pale skin and i haven't been able to find foundation or concealer to match my skin tone. the closest match i have found is avon creme to powder foundation but even this makes me look like i have orange splodges on my face in certain light.
i dont want to spend more than £10 and i live in england - i dont want to have to buy over the internet, mail order and telephone order are ok though. (link)
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I have fair skin tone as well, but its simple for me to find a match. I go to a drug store (a chemist for you, I suppose) or a department store with a make up counter and try things on. Covergirl, revlon, almay, avon, and maybelline are all brands that have worked for me.
Good luck!
-Abby
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So its almost my sweet sixteen && i have no idea what i want to do for it. I havent had a bday party kinda thing in over 5 years. I wana do something fun && cool but most of my friends would just wana drink for my bday && stuff like that..
Any ideas on what to do!? (link)
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Can you have a big blowout? Like in the show, super sweet sixteen? Because that sounds amazing. You can pick a theme and make it crazy.
If you want something more chill, try having a You Day. I had a Abby Day were me and my best friends did whatever I wanted to. We ice skated, had a little spa thing, ate my favorite foods, and they made me this AMAZING shadowbox with so many memories in it. Its better than any gift I could have ever gotten.
Spa parties, hotel parties, pool parties, beach parties, winter parties, were all really good parties that i've been too. Do whatever suits you.
Have a happy sweet sixteen!
-Abby
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heeyy! i reallyyyy need to know how to say "i want you" or better yet "no one will ever want you like i do" in spanish! can anyone help me! /cause babelfish messes it up/ thx"
so basically, to sum it up:
how do you say "baby, no one else can ever want you like i do" in CORRECT spanish?
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te queiro bebe is I want you baby lol thats all I know. Try freetranslations.com
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My dog has a trouble with biting,he is just a puppy, and he is only play biting but i dont want him to get used to biting, so what do i do? (link)
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When he tries to bite you or someone, say NO, and hand him a toy. He will understand that the only chewing he should be doing is with a toy. Or, when he bites, put your hand in his mouth and I believe there is like a gum at the back of their throats that you should put your finger on. It wont choke or hurt them, its just uncomfortable.
Good luck!
-Abby
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Hello! I have a big stye on my eyelid. I've had it for about 3 days, and I went to the doctor for yearly physical the first day it started. They said it should be gone in about a week. My question is will it stay longer if I am around allergens, and anything that can irritate it? Is there anything that can make it go away faster ( I've been warm-water compressing it)? (link)
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I dont think allergens trigger styes. Try putting a cold tea bag on your eye, or something cold, because cold water reduces swelling.
-Abby
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So at the beginning of the school year I got in a fight with this girl. Let's call her Lynn. Then we became best friends! But later I was noticing these weird things. At school she would sit REALLY close to me at lunch. At recess she recently put her arm around me. Whenever I talked to her she would either stare at my boobs or right into my eyes! She's always talking about how much she thinks guys are hot... but ahh is she like bi? we're both 13/f, is she lesbian?? what's up??with her??? and she calls me 30 times every 2 days... i'm scared... because i'm straight! (link)
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Dont jump to conclusions. Some people are just more touchy than anothers. Like I'll hold my best friends hand or lean on her sometimes, but it doesnt mean Im a lesbian. It just means Im comfortable around her.
If she is gay though, don't lead her on. Make it clear you are totally straight, and thats it. Nothing personal. Thats really all you can do. If she's being to clingy, introduce her to some people she doesnt know that well so she will have someone else to chat with, or just privately tell her that its a little to much for you.
Good luck!
-Abby
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At the end of 6th grade my friend, Brady transferred schools. I've been tolerating it until the end of 7th which is now. (13/f) But I don't know if I can put up with the fact that... he doesn't know me as good anymore. See... the thing is... in 6th grade I was such a weird girl and he was such a weird guy but in a REALLY cool way, and he was the only guy that accepted my weirdness in my personality. And I loved that about him! I really miss his personality. I see him at hockey games but it's not the same... :(
I wore make-up at the game and I didn't in 6th grade when I knew him but... when he saw me he just looked at me weird then laughed. I don't know what to do!! He's not acting weird around me anymore... he's changed... and I can't act the same way I used to around him since I haven't seen him in sooooooo long. But he IMed me on AIM a few weeks ago but then he signed off right before I had a chance to reply!! I used to IM him but he was never there it was always one of his parents at the computer so eventually I just gave up. I really miss his great personality... I know I sound sappy but i'M JUST AN IDIOT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! it's so hard to keep in touch with him. i .... idk.
please help me!! (link)
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Why not send him a we havent talked in a while email? Or call him? The only way to stay in touch is to put in some effort. Ask about his new school, and friends, and life, and the more you talk the more comfortable it will be. Im sure you two can have a friendship again. But some people just change and grow up, and no one can do anything to help it. If that happened to him, dont take it personally. Its just life.
Good luck!
-Abby
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okay so this boy that i have loved senc like pre k hates me now and I don’t know why well i think i do but I’m not sher cuse one night we were aiming and talking and then we got to talking about myspace pic's and he was all like you need pics of you in a bikini and i am so self conscious about the way I look and he was like no you'll look fine and then out of no were he became this person I had never seen b4 like he kept trying to presser me into taking the pics and i was like look don’t make me do this and now he blocked me on aim, deleted me off myspace and in school when ever we see each other we act like we never new each other and I hate it what do I do how can I fix this?? help me=[[ (link)
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This boy doesnt hate you. He's probably embarrased. He acted stupid. He probably likes you as well, and wanted to see you in a bikini, and now feels stupid for asking. So let it all go, and start fresh. Talk to him as if it didnt happen, and he should follow along.
Good luck!
-Abby
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I'm really picky about the kind of guys I date, so when a guy asks me out, there's a good chance I'm going to turn him down. The thing is, I'm so bad at it! I either 1) panic and say yes, even though I don't mean it or 2) make up an excuse and hope he doesn't find out the truth or 3) ignore him and try to act like it never happened. It's so awkward & embarrassing! What are some good ways of telling a guy "thanks, but no thanks" in a straightforward but not rude way? (link)
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Just say, "Im flattered you like me and I like you a lot, but I can really only see us being friends and nothing more. Sorry." or along those lines.
-Abby
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Well, i'm about 5'6 105. I know that i'm i guess.. "considered" thin, but i don't really believe it myself sometimes. I often feel fat and i always want to lose weight. I come up with different diets, like eating just salad (lettuce with fat free dressing.) I do like food sometimes, so i'll want to eat something and feel kinda bad about it. This has been happening since 5th grade and i'm now a junior in high school. When i was 10 or 11 i would eat hardly anything and i lost weight. I've been that way off and on since 5th grade. I feel like i'm never thin enough. (link)
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For your height and weight, you sound very thin. It also sounds like you might have an issue, like low self esteem or a eating disorder or a body image issue. Get a tape measurer and measure around areas you think you need to lose weight. Compare that to the average woman in your age group, or for your height, or weight. If you can't see it in the mirror, the numbers should show you that you do not need to lose weight. Focus on being healthy. Making good choices and exercising will benefit you no matter how large or small you are.
If you can not get over this block, try talking to someone. A friend, a parent, a councelor, a psycologist. Anyone who you can trust. And try to love your body. Really love and accept it for what you are. Thats the only way you can truly be happy, no matter what size.
-Abby
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I wanted to ask what do you think of a male psychologist who acts more like a friend to his client. He would say things to his client "Your boss really hates you", "Dont trust your boss" (the only reason the boss was mean was because he missed his old secretary and wanted her back so he acted mean to the new one hoping the new secretary would quit) and the psychologist would say "I think you should give up your coworker as a friend, she gives you terrible advice she is going to get you fired" I mean if you gave up a friend every time they gave you bad advice you would not have any friends. SO WHAT DO YOU THINK OF THE PSYCHOLOGIST? (link)
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Psychologists are supposed to be un biased and look at the situation with optimism. Yours sounds pretty negative, and more like a friend than a professional. You could just talk to anyone and get that opinion, but I suggest you seek help elsewhere, because pyscologists are meant to be positive, help you move forward in your life, understand, be a listening ear, help you make the best of a situation and not the worst, and just give professional advice that can really better your life. The guy your seeing now doesn't seem like that, but its just my opinion.
Good luck!
-Abby
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heyy im one of those girls that got the more hair gene..like my arms..yeah. i was wondering..could you shave your arm? or what? i really dont like it..it makes me kind of self-concious. thanks!! (link)
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You can shave/wax your arm, but its hard to maintain.
-Abby
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