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younger sister making dangerous plans
My sister and her friend (they're 14 years old in middle school) asked me if they could go to a friend's house at 11:00 tonight. I asked them about it, and they said that they would go to a guy's house who's also 14. He lives about a 10 minute walk away from our house. They don't want me to tell our mom.
Basically, I said no. My sister and her friend told me that the guy's parents don't know about it and that they would WALK there. I explained that 2 girls outside at 11pm is very dangerous. So they asked if I could drive them (I'm 16). I said no to that because no parents know about it, and I just don't have a good feeling about it (I don't think they'd have sex, I just think something bad will happen, like get caught).
My sister doesn't understand because earlier this year, I came home from a party because of my 11pm curfew, but I went back to the party til 12am when I found out that my mom was asleep. I think that these are completely different situations: there were parents at the party who knew about the party, my mom was drunk that night so she wouldn't get mad, and I wouldn't be walking.
Did I do the right thing by telling my sister and her friend that they couldn't go tonight?
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You did the best thing you could have done by saying no! You are keeping the respect of your parents by being a good sister and watching out for your lil sister and her friend and also worring about what will happen and all. You were deffinantly 100% right! Who cares if they get mad at you they will some day thank you!
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Yes, you did the right thing. Good for you! Your sister doesn't need to be sneaking out to see boys at fricken 11:00 at night. There's no reason that she and her friend can't see the boy during the day. It's good to follow your gut feeling. Your sister is lucky to have a role model like you.
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Just take your sister where she wants to go. There is no reason for her not to have fun. There is also no reason to let her walk.
Thanks for rating a girl that has been in the same situation almost a 3. Well I am teling you straight up, you are wrong. You can never put a person behind bars, meaning if a girl wants to go out, she ll go out, if a girl wants to hang out with boys, so she will, and if she wants to have sex, she will have. The STOP signs you are setting to her will not make her give up her cause, they are just gonna slow her down...AND MAKE HER LOOSE YOUR TRUST. See if she comes up to you for help in the future smarty pants. She will go out, she will have sex, she will have fun, she will get drunk, she will get high, she will make mistakes and you ARE NOT GONNA BE A PART OF IT.
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You definately did the right thing..immagine if someeething happeend..you would never forgive yourself! It was very responsible of you to stay strong and say no..i know i wouldnt be happy if i were the younger sister..but you definately made the right choice :)
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You did the right thing, absoulutely. I dont think your situation was fault free, but being the mature and responsible sibling is always the older siblings job. Lead your sister by example next time. If you dont want her to break the rules, you dont break the rules. But good job, if you kept from sister from going, you could have well have saved her from some pretty bad things.
-Abby
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yes and no
Did you do the right thing yes by saying no
but it isn't entirely her fault
I don't your situation was completely different. I think its very similiar. you both went somewhere you shouldn't have when you weren't allowed (well she wanted to)
she looks up to you and if she sees that you think its okay to sneek out she thinks its okay for her.
although you were watching out for her safety which is great she is probally gettin mixed messages (trust me I am 17 and have a sister who will be 14 next month I know what you are going through)
I don't think it would have been fair to rat her out when you went out and she kept her mouth shut... so basically let her go and risk whatever might happen or follow the same rules you set for her and she might be more understanding
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well im 14 and personally i would hate it for my older brother or sister to tell me i cant go. but its probably the right thing to do. make a deal with them, some sort of arrangement so that it doesnt seem totally wrong. just make it so that maybe they could meet this guy on another occasion where the situation is slightly different because the way it sounds, if you or your sis and her friend got caught it would get blown way out of proportion. my parents would freak out. you seem like a good sister whos only trying to do whats best. your sister is very lucky to have someomne like you thats looking out for her.
SAM~=]
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