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should you still have sex with your ex??...if you have feelings for him still but arent sure if he has them for you

No. Why the fuck would you want to have sex with him if you dont know where you stand? Sex isn't a game.

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Ho come everyone says that you need to wear a condom when you have sex?? ( I mean i knoe why) But what if someone wants to get pregnant... seriously..

Do some of you people know what Google is? Or research? Things like this can be answered in a snap. If someone wants to get pregnant, seriously, then the guy shouldn't wear a condom and the girl shouldn't be on the Pill. And for God's freaking sake, I hope you're over eighteen if you're seriously considering getting pregnant.

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When I moved to my new school I didn't have any friends. (I didn't have any at my previous school either) I met this really awsome girl named Heather. She is completley insane, just like me... Well a year later I made another friend, Sarah. Sarah and Heather have been friends for 10 years. I love heather, sadly enough more than my own sister, but Sarah and I have alot more in commen. We spent the entire summer together, which caused our friendship to grow even stronger. Heather didn't talk to either of us all summer. When we started back to school Sarah and I talk quite a bit, and tend to leave Heather out of the conversation. This has been going on for more than 2 years...I know it sounds concieded, but I think I'm tearing them apart...what can I do. Some people have said to make other friends and give them some time, but I'm a complete social outcast, and they are the only friends I have.
Hansmankey, 14. Hannaroo1991@yahoo.com

Heey, I'm going through a rough patch with my closest friends too. Well sort of. Three of my closest friends moved away this year and it sucks, so first of all: I'm glad you appreciate their friendship. Number two, I can see where this is going. If you dont get together, the three of you, and talk about it, things wont get better. Its good that you realise there's a bit of a problem, and its incredible that you care that you might be tearing them apart, what with people these days. I think that the three of you should talk about it, and you should tell them that - that you think you might be causing a rift between them and that you want to know where things stand. You never know, Han, maybe Heather will make new friends. I say, dont leave it hanging. Things are usually like this when people are close and there's three of them, but it always turns out for the best when you face the truth, talk about it and get things sorted. The best of luck to you =).

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My friend Cindy, is kinda always the center of attention. well she don't get that much attention but... Ok! She sometimes asks me to come somewher with her and so i ask my mom and she said yes, so i go with her, she said we were going to her uncle's house who is a famous foot ball player. We were ther right so, an insy bit of her family is there, and some other people were there, so this 1 time music was playing and everyone wanted her to dance, and she all shy and said she din't want to. then all of a sudden she goes up ther and sart doing the chicken head dance.But my piont is, I don't want to go anywhere with her if she just going to end up every body pays attention here. Cindy also acts the same, thinking she the center of attention. But if she tells or writes me a note asking me if i want to go any where else with her,and some of her family, and her family's friends are there then what should I say? Right now I am almost close to not being her friend because I hate the way she act, Cause she also think she pretty and act like she....OOOOOOOOhhhhhh!!!! Ok I'm just saying she's REALLY starting to PISS me off right now.

Please learn to use grammar and string a sentence together. Kthx bye.

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I;m 13 f, and I've been having a lot of different thoughts about things. I have a little of OCD, if that might be a conclusion of whats going on..
Okay, it started just maybe a month or 2 back, and I've been having thoughts about sucicide, like overdosing on pills and stuff. That's all I think of, and it wont stop! What can i do to help this?

Stop being an over-reactive little bitch, alright? You probably have no good reason to have suicidal thoughts and leave your family and friends in pain like that. That is so selfish. I want you to wake up and look around at what you've got that some others wish they had. Think of the fucking kids in Johanesburg in South Africa who get sold when they are four and lose their parents to AIDS and have HIV, and dont have a house let alone a fucking computer. DONT BE SELFISH, KAY? Be careful, be smart, look out for yourself. Suicide is for quitters. I'm sure you're not a quitter, do ya wanna be a quitter? Dont take the easy way out and lead a good life.

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me adn my friend brooke spend an auwfull lota time together.. and people are starting to call us twins... we look nothing alike.. well kinda i guesss tall and blond hair... we both hate it so much and always say no we don't!! but people just keep saying it !! ugh ..what should we do~!

Lyyykkk ommmmggg. THE SHHEEER HORROR OF IT! THE DRAMA! The PAIN! ugHH, lik those silly ppplzzz. I have a solution: commit suicide. That way no one can say anything anymore and stuffs lyk right? UGH!!

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ok well, i live in PA, and i was in new jeresy at six flags today. Anyway well i was on medusa and this kid kept staring at me while we were waiting in line. Then when we got off, my friend went the other way and i felt really sick. So i went over to a tree and dropped my stuffed animal i bought and started throwing up. So he came over even though i didnt know him and put his hand on my back and he was help my hair back and picked up my animal..and then when i was done i looked up at him and he was smiling at me. I said sorry, but its like, it's okay come here, and he took me over to where him and his friends were standing, and he sent his friend to go buy me something to settle my stomach.. then after thati left and eventually i was in line for nitro and him and his friends were like 5 people behind me and he came up and put his hand on my shoulder and he was like, are you gonna be able to handle this one? Then when we got off i was walking down the stairs and i was like stumbling and hes like, you okay there drunky? and we started laughing, and then we split up again and then later we went on this ride that sends you over the lake, and i ended up getting broken away from the people i was with and i had to sit with him, and the sun was setting and it was so pretty. But then anyway, we were leaving, and i said bye, and i had left my phone with him because i was afraid i would drop it in the lake, and i opened it and i was flipping through the numbers, and it said tony with a heart next to it and his number. Just wondering, what does this mean?

I know it's been said a million times, but that's so sweet of him. Lol. He sounds sweet. Even if you aren't interested in a relationship, call him up and say thanks for helping me and everything. And second, don't rush into a relationship, but I think you know that considering that you hardly know him. It means he likes you. Any guy that watches you throw up likes you xD. Good luck.

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Hi im 14 and my family and i have a memorial day party every year. All my good friends are coming, as well as my family. We have A LOT of people over. I've going out with my cousins best friend for 9 monthes, and he hates it. My other cousin is going out with my best friend. My best friend wants to kiss her bf, and i wanna kiss mine, but is there a way we can do this without my other cousin seeing and going to tell out dads that we did more than we actually did? I really want it to be special because its going to be a really fun day. Any advice on how to do this? Thanks!

You're making it sound like a big serious ohmygosh plan. 'I wanna kiss my bf and she wants to kiss hers'. Hello. Things like that just happen, they aren't planned and they shouldn't be things that are ratted. Tell your cousin to get a life! Evil bastard. If he does tell your parents, tell them that you did nothing more than kiss, and explain to them how he feels about the whole thing. A good move would also be to speak with your idiot cousin and tell him to set his priorities straight. Right. Good luck.

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do i tell the guy i work with that i really like him or do i just keep it to myself? most of the time he acts like he hates me but like today he gave me a hug and i was like "aww" so im so freaking confused right now its not even funny!!! then his friend stated coming up to the movies and talking to him and he would talk to me and he seems really cool. GOSH!!!!! i dont know what to do i really like the guy i work with but then again i like his friend...if someone could give me some advice it would really help me out. thank you!!!

I don't think the problem is whether or not you should tell him. I think its that you need to set your emotions right and decide WHO you like. I understand teenagers [I am one] have a hard time keeping horemones in check, but its really a little out-of-hand if you like a guy AND his friend, you know? It could get ugly. So think about it and go with your heart, for the most part. Then think again, and think that if its worth it? Are they right for you? And let me tell you, good traits and no flaws and a good person doesn't make someone the right person for you. So be careful, and don't hurt yourself and others, make good decisions. Good luck, sorry if I came on a little harsh.

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I have a question.. ok alot of guys always ask if im horny. Like online. If im like never.. i think its like low when they wanna cyber or have phone sex. im just looking for a friendly chat deal.. does that mean im gay?! Just cuz im not horny?!

Most definitley not and anyone who tries to convince you otherwise is a flagrant ignorant. Save yourself the trouble and don't go to chatrooms, they are full of perverts and idiots. If there are actually people/guys you KNOW on MSN/AIM/whatever or in real life asking you this you need to tell them to fuck the hell off, because its an invasion of privacy, and it is annoying and personal and they have no right to ask it. No one expects you to be horny all the time except perverts, so no you are not gay. Take care of yourself.

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I met a guy at a club and i went up to him first and danced all nite w/him and he asked for my number first. An hour after the club he called me saying he still wanted to chill with me, but i said im pretty tired for the nite, so he said to call him later on the day. So i called him, and we chilled for a little at the beach. But soon after he had to go and said that he had run arrands with his friends and if me and my friends were still at the beach later on to call him, other wise he can always visit me in LA since he lives in SD and he visits LA ocassionally. Any way almost a week is up and he still hasnt called me but acouple of days ago i text him saying, hello and what he has been up to.. he text me back an hour later saying that sorry for not getting back, hes been busy but he'll call me later. Its been 2-3 days since that text and he still hasnt called back. I called him today but got his voicemail. so what should i expect or do? he isnt interested, just just let it go..?
-confused need advice

Hey confused, I would say that if you really lke this guy and think about him much, and think that he has potential, then I say you text/call/leave a message telling him how you feel and/or ask him if he is interested in you. Don't leave yourself hanging like that. If he doesn't get back to you then drop him, but like I said, ask him first. Good luck.

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I am 18yr old girl in my second year college.i was a victim of child marriage 4 years ago.my husband died in a road accident 2 years ago.but i have tried to be normal after that and happy with good friends until last month.my professors(3 of them) have started to misbehave badly to me passing objectionable comments.one of them even proposed me and said he was in deep love with me.i even went to the extent of complaining to the principal who warned all 3 of them severely.neither the pricipal nor the professors know about my past life till now.in between all this,i fell in love with my batchmate who refused my love for sure.my love is very well known to those professors too.

now im in my home town for my 6 months training.a week back i recieved a call from mr.x(one of those professors) who had proposed me and asked if i was a widow.i was shocked for a moment as to how he came to know about it but finally had to accept.after that his approach has totally changed.he says that my love was just a lie to avoid him,that i was flirt and he started to link several of my senoir boys with me..this made me burst with anger and i scolded him for having abused me and hung up the phone.later he started msging me using very bad language....

im really hurt and depressed about all that had happened.the worst thing is this particular professor will be handling my subjects when i return to college after six months.so im afraid if he will be a threat to my career in case i proceed with any further actions..my parents are not aware of any of these incidents..

please help me..im desperate

Your future, and your personal space are at risk here. You have enough going on and college itself, and this professor needs to leave you the hell alone. What he is doing is illegal, and it is not allowed. Please speak to the head of your college again, and give him as much proof as you can. Proceed to inform police if you must, because this is an invasion of privacy and personal space, its abuse too, and tell your parents. Something WILL come out of that. This guy shouldn't be allowed to teach! Don't let him do this to you, because no one deserves this kind of thing. If you dont take action, you are putting yourself at risk of many things...please do something for yourself. Good luck, let me know how it goes!

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I have a friend who cant keep her mouth shut! She tells everything I say and I always try to remember tp tell her stuff but sometimes i am just itcing to tell someone. I really wanna be her friend but then again I dont NEED her! any suggestions? 5 points for anyone who helps! xoxo

Shoot her. If you don't need her friendship and she talks your secrets then I dont see why you should waste your time with her.

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Well hey yall, The other night , well day actually Me and my 'boy' were just Hanging out, right? Well yes i am young, A minor ( too young for kids either way ) .. Well yeah we hadnt seen eachother in forever .. So yeah we hung out n stuff yeahh.. Then we ended up having..sex & I left blah well Later on, His father ( yess.. can you say Ahh? ) he walked in the room saying he smelt sex & Picked one of the.. four condoms up and realized it was broken, This was around 5-8 or so.. on a Tuesday night, so I'm gona get tested to be safe ( i guess, right thing to do right? ) on Tuesday.. night probably like 9. Well, Do yall think its better to have a plan what to do before I find out, and we need to make one ? Lately alls weve gotten at is, "Shit were gona be even more fucked" , Or should we just worry about it later? Also, He is going to be 18 next year, And I will still be a minor, I am NOT bragging at all I just want help, But we both have very wealthy families.. Not sure how this happened, with bright futures, and How to break it to them? His father knows ones broken though, Whats the best thing to do here?

Omfg lyk yu shuld kill urself =o. omggg i would frek out if that hppnd 2 me wit my rich familia n all that shizzz. if yur pregnant,dun abrt the baby..id un get wutt yur problem izz...go get ursself checkd fur like, herpes, and then, like, stop freaking out over lame crap that you got yourself into.

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Ok. First, my sister is graduating this year. Second, im getting ignored a lot lately. Its been really bugging me and i cant stand it. All my parents talk about is my sister and how shes growing up. Im not jelous but it would be nice for my family to acknowledge me once and awhile. I love my sister and im gonna miss her when she goes to college but shes not the only one on the planet right now... should i talk to my sister and parents about it or what??? UGH!

You're the one thats being selfish if you can't wait for a couple of months till your sister graduates [I'm assuming that she's graduating this school year]. This is an important time of her life for her AND your parents and if you cant see into that enough then you should reconsider. After she graduates you'll have all the attention to yourself, so chill. I dont mean to be offensive, but really, you'll understand.

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OK please tell me if I am wrong or not. This guy used to be my friend and now I hate him. He became obsessed with me but we NEVER talk anymore. He finds out what everything means in my info and talks to everyone about how hes in love with me. His voice annoys me, hes perverted, and theres just something about him I absolutely hate. Well my grandma died.. and in one of my classes I sit in the front of the room and sleep while all my friends go to the back and talk(including the guy). Today he told my best friend to not talk to me because i was upset and I WASNT! i sit infront of the room every day and now since my grandma died im upset? he doesnt know me.. i love my best friend he has no right to tell her not to talk to me. he doesnt know me and i cant stand him. Am i being wrong to be so angry? whats your opinion?

Look, I understand your feelings towards him, but while reading this I noticed something...have you no respect whatsoever for the fact that this boy has feelings for you? Perverted or not, you have to acknowledge that and when you do, believe me, things will get better. If he comes on too strongly and talks about you, then go upto him and tell him [nicely] that you are not interested in a relationship with him, and tell him to please stop talking about you to others. Be respectful, and remember that you were once friends.

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I amgoing to a party on Friday and there is gonna be alot of making out.. and I have done it before.. it is just this guy is gonna be there and we prob will make out but how do you prefer it?? Liek slow fast alotta toungue??


I really wanna impress him! soo leave good stuff

Do you have any self-respect at all? Its just a game of impressing for you? Thats all being with someone is to you? 'just like making out and stuff'? Dont you have self-worth? I dont get why people just go throwing themselves at others for the hell of it. Sad. I hope you 'impress him'.

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f/15
ok if i think of a guy 24/7 and i absolutly cant get him out of my head what so ever and i hear his voice and see his face infront of me and i miss him the second i dont see him anymore would you say im in love?

i rate

No, dear. Thats called puppy love with hormones. Would you lose a leg for this guy? Would you love him even if he lost a hand or became blind? Trust me, you'll be over him in a years time. And love, kids, is not a one year thing. Be careful of who you hand your heart over to, and dont kid yourself. Be careful :). Good luck.

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16/f/California. I hang out a lot with my 15 year old female cousin. Me and her always have a good time. Its not like I want to stop hanging out with her. She's part of the "punk" crowd (but she's only in it because its the trend, and I KNOW thats why, because I know her well, and I know thats not the "real her"...but thats beside the point). And I'll admit, I do say "like" and "oh my gosh" a lot. Everytime we're at the mall or somewhere and we walk past girls that say something like "LIKE...OH MY GOD" she ALWAYS has to say something like "wow...did you just hear those girls? I can't stand those types of girls". And she'll say it loud enough to where they can hear. And I always act like I can't hear her, or I just start to say something else, because 1.) I don't judge people because of the way they talk and 2.) That seriously doesn't even bother me. But if she sees a punk guy or girl walking, she'll stare, admire, walk a little slower to where they can see her, and she'll try to tease her hair more (she has big hair) so she'll look a little more like them. But just because she's dressed like them and they're dressed like her doesn't mean shit. Theres more to that and she judges people SO quickly. And tonight we were at dinner with my aunt and she was explaining how she can't stand girls that talk like that and I quickly jumped in and said this:

Me-"you know what I've noticed about you? You judge people so quickly"

Her-"no I don't"

Me-"yes you do, everytime we walk past girls that say something like that, youALWAYS have to make a comment, and its stupid, you don't even know them"

Her-"I'm just saying I don't like girls like that, I'll talk to them and say hi and stuff, but I can't hang out with them"

Me-"Well, why do you have to say it all the time, you don't have to like them, just don't think like that so fast.... you know why I think you do it? I think you do it just to bring them down and push yourself up and thats stupid."

Her-"[[[[same thing as above.]]]"

What should I tell her? Because after, I just ignored what she said after that. But I'm really not done with this conversation. I hate when people make quick judgements like that, especially when you say it loud enough so that person can hear. That only makes enemies. And whats the point of talking about them anyways? Its not going to make anything change nor is it going to make them go away. What should i tell her. I don't want to just stop hanging out with her, because aside from that we have no problems. I just want her to be a little more opened minded...not just about people, but about everything and also to start thinking for herself. What should I do?

You have a right to think what you're thinking. Oh, do I know what you're talkin about. I can't count the issues I've come across regarding such things. Alright, first of all, your cousin is pathetic [until you help her straighten her crap out]. I know a lot of people think like her, but it had to be said. Next thing, tell her that being a 'punk', [sorry, I dont believe in labels - they are for soup cans not people], is in your heart, not your hair and clothes and the music you listen to! ITS IN YOUR PERSONALITY! Then proceed to tell her that she is like...a movie character as in, being FAKE. People automatically draw characteristics to labels. They think 'prep' - airhead. 'Punk' - mean. Uh, sorry but no. Tell her that its okay, none of her scene points will be taken away for not being rude and that socialising with one group of people because of what they look like is ignorant. I've met 'punks' and 'goths' who are so friendly they blew me away. How you dress is apart of your personality and the way you express yourself. Tell her its lame and that if she doesn't stop it'll only make her look lamer. Tell her life isn't about trying to gain scene points, and that it'll do her better to make allies than enemies. No one's forcing herself to be friends with those types of girls but that doesn't give her the right to insult them. This is a serious issue and it pisses me off that people can't see past this labelling shit and act like themselves. If people are just going to dress and act like they do because its cool, when are they going to find the real them? Good luck.

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I'm just curious at your guys opinion. What's the best way to get a guy? Like him or not.

1 - Don't appear desperate. Guys dont want a girl anyone can get.

2 - Don't play games like appearing interested then ditching him for a period of time - MOST guys hate games, and it just seems bitchy.

3 - Give him his space, and drop hints, unless you feel he too is interested - ask him out.

4 - Show interest in him, dont just talk about yourself.

5 - Be honest, confident, self-respecting and friendly. Dont do the 'I'm so fat/ugly' thing.

Thats what I think anyway. And dont be a drama queen and start an issue over everything, that includes trusting him. Good luck ;).

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