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ok so their is this one boy and i really like him. i finally got the courage to tell him and when i did he told me he like me lots too. i was so incredable happy! then a few weeks after that their was a party that we bolth went to and we hung out and ended up making out on the floor.
but little did i know his ex girlfriend walked in the room and spoiled it. he didnt care but i did it felt so wierd! so i told him and he had been calling me prude. every friday my friends and i go hang out at this place and he was their and we ended up making out their too. but then some how my mother found out and she said that she didnt want me to have any relationship with him. so i tried getting over him. i went to another party and he wasnt their and this one guy i had a crush on for 2 years was their and we ended making out! it was so much fun. but then it got around school. then i found out that the guy i had like for 2 years was going to ask out my friend. and he didnt really like me. i was devistated. then the boy i had made out with twice told me he still liked me and of coarce i still liked him. but then he started flirting with other girls ALL THE TIME! i have been dealing with this FOREVER and the other night i told him i couldnt take it anymore and i couldnt like him i also told him i just wanted to be friends. he sat down and looked like he was going to cry and i dont know if he did because he was wearing glasses. but then he still had enough happyness to be all over another girl. so i felt bad so i went to talk to him and he said that i was the player and the flirt and i told him all the girls he was flriting with that night. then he told me that they where all over him. i had upset him so much he didnt want anything to do with me. what do i do? do i say im sorry? do i stay mad at him for LIFE? what in the world do i do? i NEED advice badly!
if it makes a difference im only 14 and he is too.
thanks! :)
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Okay, don't stay mad at him for life. Guys get jealous, he was probably trying to get your jealous because you made out with another guy. You probably hurt him, and he tried doing the same thing back. If I was you, I would talk to him on the phone, or in person, alone. Explain that you like him, and that he shouldn't be flirting/kissing other girls when he says he likes you, but either should you. Its important that you admit your faults also so this way he'll see that your not just picking on him. See what he says, and than just play it by year. I hope everything works out for you!
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I broke up with my boyfriend, because I was scared. I have heard rumors he still likes me, and rumors he hates my guts. I still really like him, and I'm ready to accept the fact that being afraid of something new will not make me give up.
I want to pull him aside and tell him this,
" Hey, um, yeah well, I still really like you, and I miss you alot. And breaking up with you was a stupid mistake thats hard to explain, I was just scared. I wanted to know if theres any chance of us going back out again, cause if theres not, I want to stop trying, and stop holding on to that last bit of false hope"
Will that work? Or should I say something different. I'm not trying to make him feel bad, I wanna know the truth, please help =] (link)
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I would talk to him, either on the phone or in person. Don't do it on the computer though. As easy as it is on the computer, for this type of situation you will need to see or hear his reactions. Try saying something along these lines:
"Hey, I've been hearing that you hate me, and I mean I hope you don't because I really like you. I broke up with you because I was scared, but now I regret it." See his reaction, he might just ask you out again, if he doesn't than you could say something like " Would you ever consider us going back out again?"
I hope everything works out for you!
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On weekends, and such, I go out with my mother and grandmother. I'm very close to them, and they're really cool. We relate a lot even though we're all different generations. I guess I'm a lot closer to my family than most people my age.
I look at other seventeen year olds though, and they're always out with their friends, partying and stuff. I very rarely go out with my friends, because a lot of them annoy me and I have a lot more fun with my family.
But I'm starting to think I'm the only teenager who goes out with both my mother and grandmother, and I should be going out with people my age doing more "teenagery" things, as I don't want to look back on my youth and think of all the things I missed out on.
Firstly, is this pathetic? Should I be doing things with people my own age? If so, how do I meet some new people?
Be honest! I can take it. And thank you. (link)
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Its not pathetic. Don't worry about what other people do. Its good that you are your Mom and Grandmother are close, especially at your age.
If you want to hang out with your friends, which is good so yous remain friends, maybe go out with them friday and saturday night, spend the day with your Mom & Grandmother and than Sunday spend the entire day with them. I hope everything works out for you!
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Alright, so my social is in about 2 weeks and I yet to find a hair style. Does any one have a hair style for medium long hair? I don't want any options but a site for one please. Also, I want some of the hair to go up. (assesories are always welcome to be offered.) My dress is blue and I am white. Thank you! (link)
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Im confused. I don't have any sites, but you could use seventeen.com or google.com and type in what you want. Some hairstyles I normally use for dances or going out are: Half up half down either straight or scrunched, down straight, down scrunched, up straight, up scrunched. As for accessories use a clip if your doing half up half down. If your wearing your hair down you could use a headband. As for up they have things that go over your actual hairtie. I hope I helped.
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Is there an age that women reach and they'll stop getting their period? (link)
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Yes there is an age, but as I've heard its not until your over 40/50.
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ok so me and my "bestfriend" ashley have been friends for a couple years now and we grew apart so much but she told my friend jen that she doesnt think we grew apart at all but i dont no what to do to let her no that i dont think we should be friends anymore its not that shes mean or i want to pick a fight i just dont have fun with her anymore i get so bored when im at her house so i need to find out how to not hurt her feelings or get in a fight and ill rate 5s as long as you dont say talk to her cause that will hurt her feelings (link)
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If I was you and I really didn't want to be friends with ashley than I would just gradually call her less and less. Don't make plans with her and don't be like " Ashley your so cool, I love you!" if you know what I mean. Don't act like you are her best friend, but don't act like your her enemy. I hope everything works out for you!
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so im 'together' with t his one guy, we arent going out but we do the same stuff. were freshman in highschool. i have neever kissed a guy before and i dont know why i wont kiss him! its not like i dont want to or think its gross.. it doesnt matter, but i just cant do it. maybe he should make the move? should i wait? how do i stop this madnesssssss? (link)
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If you feel weird doing it, than let him make the movie, hint to him.Or you could always use one of your friends to dare you two I hope it all works out for you.
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Question 1) can anybody tell me what song this is by tech nine?
"close the door before your child hears the sound baby" "Momma said stop or I'm gonna tell Poppa..."
greatly appreciated!
Question 2) I want to be a pyschiatrist. I HEARD you need 3-11 years of internship! That means i wont be starting my life until like 30! I want a family by then! How do i find out or if someone else knows how long a real internship is?
thanks
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The song is called "Imma Tell" if you want lyrics the site I got them from was: http://www.lyricsondemand.com/t/techninelyrics/immatelllyrics.html
You can try googling it? If you want me to I'll do it.
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I really like this guy but there is one problem, he has a girlfriend. I want to go out with him, but I don't want to ruin his relationship with his girlfriend. That's just not what I do. He is really easy to talk to and he is really cute. The other guys who I have had crushes on were really cute but shallow. But this guy is different. What should I do?
signed,
confused (link)
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I have the same problem. The only thing you can do is wait and see what happens, it'll all work out in the end.
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Im a 16 year old boy who doesn't want sex....at all i have a girlfriend and i guess she expects me to be perverted maybe because her other boy friends were. Im a virgin shes not.She be offering me oral sex but i don't want it.then she calls me gay and all these other homo names.
I was raised on not being able to see people kiss at all if i said sex i was slapped,and i never seen a womans vagina ((Porn)) until i was 15 and I gagged when i seen it.Is this normal? am I gay? (link)
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It doesn't mean your gay. It could just be how you were brought up. I think your girlfriend expects you to be like that, because a lot of other guys are to the extent where its annoying and as a girl, you just become use to guys always wanting things. I hope everything works out for you.
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hey..i'm doin trig in algebra..and i need help..can someone help me please? if you have msn would you be willing to add me and help me w/ my quesions? thx a lot will rate good no matter what (link)
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I'll try to help you just ask me the question from my advice site thingg lol
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hi there, well there's this girl i like. she has a boyfriend and she usually comes to me for help. we have lots in common and she has said to me that she wishes she had a boyfriend like me.. well recently i told her how i felt about her.. i dont know if i should of said this because im not sure things will be the same. she says its ok and she still loves me. but it feels like im in an awkward kind of position. any advice would really be appreciated, thanks. (link)
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It might feel awkward to you only because you now know she knows. Just act like you never told her, I know its hard to act like you never said anything but I think it would really help your friendship. Don't flirt with her more than usual, and try to decrease it alittle. If her and her boyfriend break up, give it time, and than flirt with her more. I hope everything works out for you!
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Does anyone know ways to start a conversation with someone? A way that doesn't make you seem like a rambling idiot. Lately there have been many of those "awkward silences" in conversations I have with people. (link)
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just say either so what are you doing? what did you do today? hows everything? or bring something up they said earlier and just go on from there.
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So I'm like 13 and theres this guy in my neighborhood who likes me and I like him too but like hes 17....he asked me out but I told him I would think about it. I like really like him, what should I do?
PS. He said he would show me a good time if I went out with him **if you knows what I mean** (link)
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Don't go out with him. Thats not good. Stay away from him until you are older, like older than 18. I hope everything works out for you.
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What are some good sites for cute layouts for myspace. please give links.
no cleate blog
no whateverlife
or myspace pimper..
thanks n advance && cute advanaters things to please (link)
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for myspace, I think its www.myspace.com/woah_html
or something like that they have a lot of good codes & layout sites.
I hope I helped!!
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Ok, well I'm 14/f and I'm not sexually active at all... i don't even kiss guys (it's a personal choice). But I do crazy stuff with them if I'm at parties or soemthing.. like go streaking, flash them, haha play strip poker. It's just how the parties go. And it's not liek I do it alone, my best girlfriends all are in. Is this liek really slutty? Am i considered a slut? I mean I have fun and all, but I don't want to be considered a slut at all. Thanks for the advice (link)
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Its not really slutty. But guys might take it that your easy, if your doing that. At your age little things like this make guys think your easy. But I personally don't consider you a slut.
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okay...i'm 13, and just lost my virginaty yesterday. actually, i'm not sure if i did or didn't. i was raped by my next door neighbor who is 16, and has a gf. also, my bf came to find me, and caught me being raped, but he thought that we were actually having sex. now he's mad and won't talk to me because i won't have sex with him. i really need help talking to him and everything. and should i tell my parents? or not? help!!! (link)
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You need to tell your parents right away, don't wait, do it now. Thats the first thing. Make sure they call the police. Than after you have that handled explain everything to your boyfriend, he should understand. If you need any more help, just ask me. I hope everything works out.
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starting off with i've spent over an hour looking for lyrics for this song:
"THE GRADUATION SONG" BY ISAAC FIGGS
please help. ive really spent time looking for it, and this is my last resort. i know google it all that, but ive been on every website about him, and iwant them cus im graduating in 2 weeks!
Thanks ahead-all 5s!
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I'm really sorry, I couldn't find the lyrics. If you still haven't found them ask me again and I'll listen to the song and type them for youu.
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There is this boy at my school. Last week, I did not know him at all. My friend knew him and showed me his myspace. I sent him a message asking if he knew my friend and he said yes and we began talking. We had never talked in person. I told him I would say hi to him sometime at school. I think he was beginning to figure out I had a crush on him. Today he was standing in the lunch line behind me and I thought it was the perfect chance. So I said hi and we talked shortly. Then I said "see you later" and that was it. I don't know what to do. I get shy when it comes to talking to him at school. I feel like I am being annoying over myspace though. Everyone tells me he is down to earth, nice, and funny. I just don't know how to get closer to him. I really want things to work. We can never have any classes together because he is a grade younger. He is so my type and I really want to tell him how I feel, but that would be too fast since we barely know each other.
Any takers?
It's a toughie, but PLEASE help. (link)
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I understand where your coming from.
If I was you, I wouldn't always message him first on myspace. If you message him once in awhile, or message him when he messages you than you won't seem annyoing.As far talking in person, I know this can be hard because you really like him, but honestly use any excuse to start talking to him. For example, be like sara said you were in the 7th grade, thats cool, Im in the 8th but I liked the 7th much better. if you get my point, something like that. I hope I helped and I hope everything works out for you!
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I'm Melissa, and I'm 16 years old
So I'm crazy jealous (to a really large extent) and I don't know how to get over it. If anyone has been through it and somehow SOMEHOW overcome those horrible feelings, let me know what you did...Because I'm working on it and I'm afraid to push my boyfriend away at the same time. He's really understanding, but I'm assuming that there's only so much that a person can take.
Missy
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I understand your situation. But I'm confused on your question, I'm sorry if I understood it wrong. Just try and trust him, thats the only way the relationship can work. If your jealous of someone who is talking to him, remember your his girlfriend.
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