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Confused about a girl
hi there, well there's this girl i like. she has a boyfriend and she usually comes to me for help. we have lots in common and she has said to me that she wishes she had a boyfriend like me.. well recently i told her how i felt about her.. i dont know if i should of said this because im not sure things will be the same. she says its ok and she still loves me. but it feels like im in an awkward kind of position. any advice would really be appreciated, thanks.
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Continue being her friend.
If she breaks up with her boyfriend, she'll probably go to you for advice and shit. You can comfort her, and who knows what will happen next.
And even if she doesn't, at least you can become closer friends with her.
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I totally think she likes you. You should just keep being "friends" with her, and if she really doesn't like her boyfriend, maybe she'll dump him. You should ask her out!
♥ Gretchen
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OK well I agree with the other two comments, just acting how you always did and it'll probably fall back into place but frankly, what is this girl playing at?
Either she's confused and needs to sort herself out in terms of whether she wants you or her boyfriend in which case maybe backing off for a while would help you both, or she genuinely doesn't have feelings for you but really isn't being fair to you in some of the things she says to you. I mean a "love ya" kinda thing between platonic friends is fine but "i still love you" to someone you know has feelings for you?
Meh i duno maybe i'm judging it wrong but sounds to me like you need to have a conversation with this girl, not about how you feel, but how she feels about you and what she's going to do about it. Maybe set some limits. You seem to be filling the boyfriend role right now without her actually having to be with you-having cake and eating it so to speak. If that's the case that's definately not fair to you as it ties you up from being with someone you could have a proper relationship with.
Anyway, sorry, it's a sucky position to be in and it's way easier to give advice than take it where stuff like this is concerned i know. Good luck.x
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Act like you never said anything. Just act like you did with her before you said it. Maybe it'll be awkward the first couple of times you see her but if you push it to one side things should go back to normal. Your friend might say things like that but the truth is that if she was single she probably wouldn't go with a guy like you. You're too much of a friend. Girl's might say they want a friendly good guy as a boyfriend but she just thinks she does, when it comes down to it she'll go for just another asshole and turn the nice guy down saying she just wants to be friends.
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It might feel awkward to you only because you now know she knows. Just act like you never told her, I know its hard to act like you never said anything but I think it would really help your friendship. Don't flirt with her more than usual, and try to decrease it alittle. If her and her boyfriend break up, give it time, and than flirt with her more. I hope everything works out for you!
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