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so theres this guy
ive been w/ my bf for about 8 months now .. and i love him soo much. When i hang out w/ my ex bf and see him w/ his new gf i get kinda jelious, but i dont like him like that. we're best friends and hes like my brother but i dont no what to do. I feel like i might have feelings but i dont no.
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That's okay, it's common for people to feel like that after they break up with someone. If you really love your boyfriend, stick with him. You probably just have some left over feelings from that relationship with your ex boyfriend. It just might seem a little weird to be hanging out as friends, but you'll probably get used to it over time! Just try to decide who you really like by spending time with both of the guys! That's what I did, but then I went back to my Ex after I made him really jealous.
Hope I helped!
xoxo Regina
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What you are feeling sounds very much to me like it could be one of two things.
Firstly, it's possible that you feel a little possessive of him. Not because you have feelings for him in 'that' way, but because you see him as a brother figure. When you have been the centre of someone's attention, as a sister can be to a brother, it can be quite difficult to see them suddenly give that attention to someone else. Not to mention, you possibly have a little trouble seeing him with someone, not knowing if they will end up hurting him.
The other possibility is a sort of 'girls prerogative'. When a girl is no longer with a guy (normally when she has been dumped), she reserves the right to want to see him suffer miserabley for a time and want to see him missing her. It's kind of hard for him to fulfill this obligation to you with another girl on his arm! I'm not saying necessarily that you want to see him wailing his heart out or anything but maybe you wanted him to miss you a bit more before he moved on. This doesn't make you a bad person because as far as I know, pretty much every woman wants her ex to feel like this when they're no longer together.
Whatever the reason, try not to worry too much. The point is that you love your boyfriend and you want to be with him.
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That's natural. Most people are like that, even when they have a new boyfriend. You two were very close at one point and it'll get to you seeing someone else in your place. You may still have feelings for him deep down that you don't realise. But remember not to let those feelings of jealousy get in the way of your friendship and current relationship, and remind yourself that you have what they have but with someone else who's better. In time you'll probably start to get less jealous it just takes time, especially if you were in love with him.
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