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Hey, im not going to sit here and say ive been through everything and i dont know everything and ye im only young so some of my answers could be a bit naive. Well im !5 im from England, Leeds (sunniest place on earth =]) I have an amazing set of friends that keep me alive and just love them!
ill try and do my best to give the best advice i can, as i said i dont know everything so they might be a bit limited but i hope it helps you.
Some thigns i have no idea about so i wont answer them kind of questions i wont give an answer that i feel doesnt asnwer the question well enough.
well thats it really
kim
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Okay, me and my frind are good friends, but we like the same dude. There's a roumour that dude that we like likes someone, so we are constantly squabbling. The signs point to me, the Knight and I talk and chat for a long time, and we have fun together, I enjoy his company, and I think he enjoys mine. There is going to be a all school dance possibly, should I ask hime before the Dragon does?
Aneis
YES!!! all he can do is say noa nd if hes does you know its not you he likes and you can move on
hope its you
kim
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well the guy i like went to a different school and i never saw him again since than. things were never good between us and i know he liked me but i always kinda turned him down (because i always got nervous when he talked to me and said things i dont wanna say. especally when he told me he loved me he was like: i love you and i tried to be your friend but you where so mean and than i was like: yeah i know i love beeing mean.)) I DONT KNOW WHY I SAID THAT. it was like another person was talking but not me.i apologized and he said it's okay but we never talked so much after that but he still looked at me alot , gave me high five and talked to me but only sometimes. so anyway he went to a differnet school now and i love him soooo much. he is all i can think about and the school is not the same without him. everything sucks now. i feel like there is nothing good in my life anymore. i miss him so much. and the sad thing is that i dont have many friends. just one , but she lives far away and also goes to a different school and one who is in 5th grade (i'm in 8th grade by the way the boy i like is in 9th grade ) so i feel so terrible and as i was saying i love him very much and now he's just gone...
it hurts so badly
please help
oh yeah and dont tell me what kinda idiot i was because i know that myself
thx
being mean to guy isnt a good idea but letting him know that you do feel something for him will help and if he doesnt hold what happened before against you then youre good arnt you.
Maybe he'll think youre going to be mean to himb ut let him know that youre not like that and hell soon see what youre like. You wernt an idiot you just didnt know what to do but tell him and see what happens because it was obvious he liked you maybe he still does
good luck
hope it all helps
kim
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Well.. normally Im a pretty outgoing, like laid-back kinda person.. not too laid-back, but I'm comfortable. Like around my family, and close friends. I'm really energetic and stuff, which is like the complete opposite of how I am in school. I dunno, but in school people usually see me as like a shy, quiet girl when my personality really isnt like that. like sometimes i feel like i shouldnt say some things, when its like my opinion.. i mean i raise my hand in class etc and im a good student, and i dont want to like fail or whatever, but i want to be as easygoing and more comfortable in school like i am in school and stuff, because sometimes it stops me from being friends with people and stuff when i know i'll get along with them and stuff. i guess it takes some time to know me.. and because of my softspoken and quietness in class, i got put in speech cause the teachers couldnt hear me when i could pronounce like all the words. i dont get it.. its like my voice kinda lowers and seems kinda dull and boring when i speak well sometimes, and like everyone in the class hears what i said except the teacher, of course. i mean sometimes i even pretty much shout it, and some kids like mumble and the teacher hears the mumble but apparently is deaf to me speaking?!? like i always have to repeat stuff. i mean seriously.. maybe i should just not care about what people think cuz sometimes i wonder if i say something like really weird i dont want to be labeled like that, when people like my friends really know me and wouldnt judge me like that. and ya i love myself and stuff but i dunno why i do that. i try to stop doing it and be like more outgoing every day, but sometimes i feel less like a kid and more.. like strict and junk, when i dont want to entirely be that way, and like be more flexible and stuff. i guess i'd like tips on how to be like.. more comfortable in school and stuff? or overall. thanks a junks for helping! =]
Just imagine that people in school are like your family it sounds like youve got a lot to say for yourself and you dont like to have to repeat things. But just speak up and people will soon get used to it, lots of people are shy but some of the people who are most shy are the loudest because they feel they need 2 b. Just be yourself and your friends know who you are and theyre the ones that count if you end up wanting to please everyone then youre ging to end up compromising yourself for them.
Youll get used to speaking louder and it isnt going to just happen over night just keep trying and im sure youll get the hang of it
hope i helped
kim
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Im almost sixteen, female.
So I kinda like this guy, and we've been friends since about 4th or 5th grade. Hes not like my best friend, or even my best guy friend, but we've been pretty cool. I dont know if i want to ruin that. Anyways, i kinda like him, and he really likes me, and hes supposedly gonna ask me out soon,like in the next couple of days. On top of that, i just broke up with my boyfriend a little less than a month ago (Sept. 1st) and they r kinda friends, but not that much. And, my ex was really attached to me, so hed be really upset if i started dating him now. (Actually...when he heard we're going to homecoming together, he called me that night, and started yelling and cussing at me! and we'd been broken up 2 weeks then. But maybe he's gotten better since then)Whats a good amount of time to wait? And is dating this guy worth all of this drama?
Thanks.
Never let a guy contorl what you do or who you see. you dont go out anymore so he cant tell you not to date. n if you really like this guy then maybe hes worth all this "drama" and you shouldnt have to wait for him its when you fell ready
good luck
kim
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let me put this simply..
i came out of my shell
and had sex with boys
because people were saying i was lesbian and such.
now im known as a slut
all my boyfreinds seen this porn video that this one guy took advantage of me then showed the world.
and i regret sooo much.
iwant to go back to my old life.
i just want my life back.
i dont want to be hated anymore..
help?
unfortunatly you cant go back and change the past. but you can change what you do in the future. You dont sound like a slut and sometimes people feel pressured into doing things because of what people say but do what feels rite to you. Dont change who you are for anyone just do what you think is right and im sure poeple will soon that youre not a slut.
good luck
kim
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i dont know what to do .my boyfriend just rercently cheated on me,then he brooke up with me.my friend briana was really helpfull saying ohh well its his l;oss not yours.but then today he asked her out ,and i asked her what she was goiun to say and she said "well im saying no cuz that would be messed up your my friend"but then he asked her at lunch and she said ya .should i be mad
p.s for now im not talkin to her
She obviously knows its wrong because when you asked her she sed no. tell her it upset you and if she doesnt do anything she isnt a very good friend is she? ignoring her will just make it worse because shell get mad at you then youll probably end up falling out.
hes your ex and if youre ok with it then maybe it would be ok
are you? or do you ot mind her going out with him?
she is your friend but if he cheated on you then he can do tht 2 her so maybe you should look out for her because then youll both end up getting hurt
hope i helped n gud look
There's this guy in the year below me, lets call him M, that I saw when I went to this party in June. I noticed he looked at me a few times when I was there, but only as much as he looked at other girls. We had to play this game that involved girls landing on guys, me and my friend landed on M and his friend, lets call him A, my friend was nearest to M and I was nearest to A. The next time we played it my mate landed on A and I landed on M. A said to M 'damn, you got her and I only got her friend'.
About a week after the party I was chatting to A on msn, and he said he thought I was really fit, and so did his mate M. My friend L also told me that M had told her to tell me he thought I was fit.
At school the next day I was in my ICT class and M was waiting outside to go into his class. He saw me through the window in the door of my class and made eye contact with me for what seemed like ages.
I saw M once during the summer holidays but he didnt seem to notice me. Then 2 weeks ago I went to this party and he was there. At the beginning, M and his mates were all staring at me and my friends. When we were dancing to the cha cha slide he stood infront of me so that whenever we had to move forwad we were really close. Then his mates, S and J came over and said that they were a gay couple and me and my mates were talking to them and M came and stood next to S and J and just stood there smiling for ages and then danced with us for, like, 5 seconds before going off. The problem is, M didnt talked to me and seemed to have a couple of girls wrapped around him most of the time.
At school whenever I'm in the lunch hall at the same time as M he stares at me for a while. Once I went and talked to someone sitting at his table then when I glanced over at M he quickly looked away.
Do you think M fancies me or not?
well hes deffinatley noticed you
maybe hes trying not to give to much away(guys can be funny like tht lol)
maybe next time you could talk to him and see
good luk
kim
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ok i just turned 13 a week ago and i'm in 7th grade, and i havn't had a boyfriend yet...i'm pretty sure its because... i'm ugly, i mean i wear glasses i'm 5'0 or 5'1 and i'm fat... (135) waht do i do?? i cant talk to a friend or cousin or aunt, and my mom passed away. so i live with my dad. what should i do?? please please please help me. o and if u say maybe to change my hairstyle, tell me a site or link please p.s. i have brown hair and the length is the middle of my arm befor my elbow.
your only 13 so its not the most important thing in the world to have a boyfriend and so what if you wear glasses? i do and its nothing to worri about if a guy cant see past them then theyre not worth the bother of worrying about.
and being small isnt a terrible thing. Youre being over critical about youreself. If youre really unhappy with your weight dont do something dreastic and go on a massive diet just try and loose it gradually because thats the best way. Theres so many things you can do with your hair, if youre not sure on a cut maybe just shange it from curly or straight. plus theres so many things you can have done. Side fringes and layers look nice i think. But dont think that your looks will guarentee you a boyfriend because personality counts 10 times as much as looks do. you can get bored of looking at person but never get bored of someone who makes you laugh
hope it all helps ( i know its a lot)
kim
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Well....First I have a big crush on a boy but he ikes another girl and i want him to notice me and like me? What should I do?????????Help!
Second of all: Okay my friend told my crush that I liked him and I told her not to but she did and im afarid he will make fun of me.
So what Should I do? Should I leave it and go on?IS it bad or good? I need serious help!!!!!!!
he likes another girl you cant hlpe that, but jst because he likes her doesnt mean he isnt going to like you? nd if he laughs then maybe hes not as nice as you think. if you like him you should tell him because if you dont youll never know and then nothing will ever happen
hope it helps
kim
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i'm jealous of everything about my sister. she has always had it easier than me since as long as i can remember. she has perfect hair, shes skinny, big brown eyes, her eyelashes are so long it looks like shes wearing make-up 24/7, perfect smile, great fashion sense, lots of guys and lots of friends and everyone is nicer and likes her better than me, its extremely obvious when we are together. i look at her and think about all the things she has that i don't...i'm average sized, shorter than her,(im older!)my hair is extremely high maitence, i have trouble making friends,my make up is always taking forever, i look like total poop if i don't work REALLY hard to look good, my grades aren't as good as hers, my parents make me do ALL of the chores because shes busy cherleading,(another thing that pisses me off)and what bothers me the most is that she can easily smile everyday while i have to force a smile just so people don't know how i really feel. please help me find an answer...thank you for even bothering to read this
youve got to stop comparing yourself to your sister your completley different people. its a good thing to be different from her. Try to be your own person rather try being like her because it sounds like no matter what you do you can never be lyk her. be glad for who you are and im sure youll be happier
hope it helps
GirlyGurl n Shandi
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Okay
I dont think im pregnant,but im paranoid about it.
I had sex with a condom but then got close to doing it again without a condom , but we only did it for like 3 seconds and then I said stop because i was scared.
My boobs have been hurting lately and I had a stomach ache but I didnt throw up.
He tells me he thinks im fine and i hope hes right.
What should I do??
You could still be pregnant it doesnt take much
even if youre nearly certain youre not you should make sure because if you leave it and you actually are theres nothing you can do about it then.
GirlyGurl n Shandi
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hey,thanks for opening this,i hope you girls can answer my question.
WHat is the most creative/romantic/unforgettable way to tell a girl you love her?
I mean i can go with the traditional telling her "i love you",but i want something different.
here are some of my suggestions
1)ask her is she believes in love at first sight,if she says yes then i will say i didin't believe it at first until i met you.
2)the sky is full of stars,the sea is full water,but my heart is full of you.
3)third question:do you girls think that sending a letter,speaking face to face,sending a message,sending an email,or just telling her through her friends will give the best impression? I mean,I think that messaging her is kind of sissy,and that sending her an eamil is also a pussy way of telling her,so would girls flip for a guy that sends her a letter or just tells her face to face about his feelings?or would you rather a guy tell you through the phone?
thanks a lot for reading,please answer my questions if the first two choices are good and what way you girls would prefer from the third question,and if you guys have any other creative suggestions please fell free to send it,i will rate good ones.
jst say it face to face its so much sweeter. just say you love her of she may think you wont say "i love you" because some guys dont.
good luck im sure youll b f9
GirlyGurl n Shandi
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okay well my best guy friend ever, likes me...and i think i like him and he is going to ask me to homecoming,
but i just dont want things screwing up if something bad goes wrong, like if he asks me out, and we break up and wont be the same again, thats what im afraid of. but all my friends say that having a good friendship first makes the best relationships..
so should i just go and see where it takes me or what?
oh im f/15
Let him know you want to be friends still and that you were best friends before you were bf n gf. I cant say it wont change anything because it probably will but if you dont youll wonder forever what will have happened
Hope it helped
GirlyGirl n Shandi
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What do you do if you fall in love with your best friend, and can't tell them?
its the hardest thing in the world to do i know but you have to tell them if you wait then youll never know!
good luk hope it goes ok
okay here is the thing. i rele like this guy. he is totally sweet and extremly cute. i dont think he even see's me. i mean he hardly knos im breathing. what should i do? i cant stop thinking about him and there is a dance coming up. help! thanx in advance
he'll never know you exist if you dont even talk to him, think about a way you can get to know him. IF you get to know him you need to get up the courage to ask him to the dance or see if he asks you! or youll never know!!!
good luk
GirlyGurl n Shandi
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This summer my two close friends-jen and kelsey got really close with each other. it was hard to deal with cuz for awhile i wanted included in things anymore. i felt left out and resented them for it. i expressed my feelings to one of them, kelsey and then the other got angry with me. now things are okay, but they are fighting...like..insane. rumors are going on about kelsey having gone behind the others back with the others ex. i dont believe it..but my friend sure does. i dont know what to do. Jen has ditched me so many times for other people, and now she needs me, but im also good friends with kelsey. What do i do? who should i be loyal to, or how can i be loyal to them both of them without them gettign angry? please help!
15/f
youre friend ditched you but thats no reason to side with one over the other. tell them that you care about them both and you dont want to have to be put into the position where you have to choose between the two of them.
hope it helps you :)
from GirlyGurl n Shandi
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theres this boy that liked me and i liked him for years, he was my first kiss when i was younger and everything. Last year we got really close to going out. things were really exciting for a while cuz we both liked each other and he was telling him and my closest friends that he wanted to ask me out. Well, summer came, school ended..and he didnt. he screwed me over because once school started up again..he bascially never talked to me. i know he doesnt like me enough to do anything about it now, and im over it. But now one of my close friends likes him. she says its a small crush for now..but it still bothers me, even tho i dont like him...you dont go after your friends ex love right? hoes over bros..... it scares me to think that they would go out..because that would be awfully weird. What should i do? am i out of line to be weirded out?
15/f
if you feel wierd about it then you should tell her and if shes your true friend then she will undertsand and not go for him. hope it helps
kim n gemz
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hey well im going through a very hard time right now... my dad has cancer and i have a feeling that my sister is going to move out... yea and well i cut myself kinda alot too.... but like i dont know what to do ... all my friends are worried about me(at leaset the 1s that know i do it) but like im split in half.... one siode is telling my im stupid for doing it and telling me never to do it again... and the other half is happy that i do it and it makes me wanna do it more..and i dont know what side to belive... none of my friends really understand what im going through and i scare myself when i do it...i just dont knwo what to do ... and going to a counsiler is out of the question because my family is almost broke from my dad and his cancer.. i just need some help and i really dont knwo what to do...
Thank you all so much in advance!!
ok rite well cutting may seem like it helps but it doesnt. ok so after you do it u feel better but it comes back and next time its worse so you cut more. its dangerous and you arnt crazy r stupid for doing it because soooo many peopl do it nowadays i did it and it took a lot to stop sometimes it may feel like that is te only answer but youre friends are right and they will be worried about you so talk to them it may seem like they cant help but it does help to talk. if it scares you then maybe doesnt it make yu think maybe this isnt right, and yeh it can be soooooooooooo hard to stop but when you do youll feel better after you do. just try n tlk to someone because it will help i know what its like to have a family member have cancer but sureley you hurting yourself wont make them better. i hope i helped n try to tlk to someone bcos u will feel so much better about it
kim x x x x x x
ok so im 16/f and for some reason my ankles pop everytime i walk up stairs and sometimes just taking steps make them pop really loud!! its really embarrasing in class when it's dead silent during a test and i have to walk across the room and my ankles pop!! is there something wrong w/ them or what? also my wrists and knees pop whenever i bend them back and forth but it hurts usually when they do pop. should i see a doctor or is just a weird thing that's normal? o ya im a cheerleader if that helps any!
its common because ive got it and i went to the doctors and all it normally is caused by there being excess fluid in your joints hope it helps xxx