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hey well im going through a very hard time right now... my dad has cancer and i have a feeling that my sister is going to move out... yea and well i cut myself kinda alot too.... but like i dont know what to do ... all my friends are worried about me(at leaset the 1s that know i do it) but like im split in half.... one siode is telling my im stupid for doing it and telling me never to do it again... and the other half is happy that i do it and it makes me wanna do it more..and i dont know what side to belive... none of my friends really understand what im going through and i scare myself when i do it...i just dont knwo what to do ... and going to a counsiler is out of the question because my family is almost broke from my dad and his cancer.. i just need some help and i really dont knwo what to do...
Thank you all so much in advance!!
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ok rite well cutting may seem like it helps but it doesnt. ok so after you do it u feel better but it comes back and next time its worse so you cut more. its dangerous and you arnt crazy r stupid for doing it because soooo many peopl do it nowadays i did it and it took a lot to stop sometimes it may feel like that is te only answer but youre friends are right and they will be worried about you so talk to them it may seem like they cant help but it does help to talk. if it scares you then maybe doesnt it make yu think maybe this isnt right, and yeh it can be soooooooooooo hard to stop but when you do youll feel better after you do. just try n tlk to someone because it will help i know what its like to have a family member have cancer but sureley you hurting yourself wont make them better. i hope i helped n try to tlk to someone bcos u will feel so much better about it
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I have been there my mom had cancer...but sweetie cutting yourself isnt going to make you r dad's cancer away, and it isnt going to make you feel better.Hurting your self isnt the answer. I know you are going through a tough time right now but there is a reason. What I do is find something I really like and work really hard at it . I PRAY all the time...and hope things will look up. I also lean on my friends for support when my family cant be there. I have many depressing problems its not even funny, but I love to smile....so I try to be perky. Imnot saying to fake happiness, but find a happy place, and try to be there often...focus onit. Now if you really want counseling and the only way that you dont want it is becauze of the money then...go to a churh. They are confidential, and they will give you persective from a spiritual level.which is all that can really make you feel better. Now I am not preaching at you, but on an honest note..alot of my happiest times were at church. but i am no saint .....find a church....or maybe a free choir...a way to pray and focus on those things with happiness mixed in. Find God, i bet with all thats been going on...he's been waiting for you...if you need help..please email me at bunnuggetsweetie@yahoo.com please...I will plray for you and your dad
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Cutting may seem like it helps, but it dosen't. REally, it hurts. Obviously you, but also all of those aound you who care about you so much. If not for yourself, do this for your dad and stop, because it's doing no good.
Also, there are free help lines, and therapists you can go to, so there's always someone.
I'm sorry about your dad, really. =[
Just, please, try to keep yourself happy for him, and make his time left the best possible. You wouldn't want him to have to worry, would you?
Write me if you need any tips on how to stop cutting. Good luck with everything going on!!
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ok lemme ask you something,is cutting yourself making it any better?And will you be happy if you got what you wanted?NO,happieness isnt getting what you want,its wanting what you got.Hard but true.Ok your dad has cancer,you have to get over it and move on with your life.Everything changes to the better,nothing remains the same.If you cut yourself,all that your getting to is skin disease.Use a pillow instead,take all your anger out on it lol.You have to be happy with what you got.God doesnt give you everything,THAT would make life not fair.Ok what if you had a father with perfect health and money,something eles would be missing,you mighta been handicapped,its possible.God created you for a reason and the reason is not for you to cut yourself.
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I was diagnosed with depression two years ago. Cutting ruined my social life. When my classmates found out that I cut, they considered me crazy & quit talking to me all together. I finally went to the psychiatrist & got medication. Everything's wonderful now. If you have that opportunity, go for it. Also, I'd like to say that you're probably cutting for attention. That's the number one reason people cut, & that's why I did it too. Trust me, there are better ways to let others know you're hurting inside. That's what your family & friends are for. [:
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Its all ok... you'll get through it ok... even if its not what you want... but life goes on... and cutting yourself isn't going to help... you may think that it helps... or that it makes you feel good... but truthfully, its making things worse than they really are... cutting yourself is just making things seem much worse than they are, and its making you wanna cut more! its just better to stop cutting... try something else to occupy you when you are feeling down... like reading or dancing to loud happy music!! trust me it will work!! if you want to you can IM me so we can talk more about it!! i can help!
My Screen name: catloverisme009 & LuLuLovesYou2010
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well, first of i want to say my mother is recovering from cancer and you must have faith that they will get better because if you don't believe it won't happen. my mother had a cancerous brain tumur that had a 15% chacnce of even shrinking, after 8 months, it completly disappered, so have faith, i promise your father will get better, and i never break a promise.
also talk to yoursister, it might be hard to accept her moving out if she does, but it won't be the end, you will see her plenty, all three of my siblings live in other towns yet they visit me and my parents around every day. it wont be the end of the world, she will still be your sister and be there for you
Listen, dont believe that you are stupid but you have to understand that cutting yourself is not the answer, this site can help you quit because believe me thier are other ways to be happy and you have caring friends who want to help you can lean on.
this site might help and searching online for support groups in your area might be good to.
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try this site, also at your school their is likely a school counselor, even if you don't tell them about cutting yourself it is a good way to vent and they are sworn to confidentiality so there is no worry there.
please also contact me if you would like to talk, vent, just get thing of your chest or if you want to talk about your father, i have been their and i know it hurts and is scary.
contact me at
email: jec1992@aim.com
AIM: jec1992
please contact me if you want or need to talk
GoodLuck and stay strong
Jon a.K.a GateKeeper
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