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my friend ditched me for someone else, now they are fighting
This summer my two close friends-jen and kelsey got really close with each other. it was hard to deal with cuz for awhile i wanted included in things anymore. i felt left out and resented them for it. i expressed my feelings to one of them, kelsey and then the other got angry with me. now things are okay, but they are fighting...like..insane. rumors are going on about kelsey having gone behind the others back with the others ex. i dont believe it..but my friend sure does. i dont know what to do. Jen has ditched me so many times for other people, and now she needs me, but im also good friends with kelsey. What do i do? who should i be loyal to, or how can i be loyal to them both of them without them gettign angry? please help!
15/f
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You just need to sit down and talk with the both of them. Let them know that you're aware that they're mad at eachother, but you're not going to hate the other just because they're in a fight. You'll be there for BOTH of them, and you'll talk to BOTH of them.
They just need to realize you have other friends and you need to be loyal to them too and it can't just be them, them, them. You should be able to talk to whoever you want and if they're going to get angry about it, they're not really your friend and tehy don't want you to have any other friends.
So just talk with them both and explain to them you're going to be friends with the both of them, and it's not like you're going to force them to hang out together or anything. They can become friends again on their own time whenever they want to, but for now you're friends with them both while they're fighting. I hope I helped.
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Don't let them put you in the middle of their problem, especially since both of them took you for granted this summer. You need to be loyal to yourself and make sure that they will not use you again. You don't know what the truth is anymore than anyone else, and you should not be pressured into taking sides. Friends are supposed to be loyal to one another, but they have both let you down. This is their problem, not yours. Only you can decide who and when to trust again. Just be careful, because once this clears up, one or both may ditch you again. Don't put all your energy into them. Make sure to find other friends who may be more appreciative of your friendship for the long run.
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youre friend ditched you but thats no reason to side with one over the other. tell them that you care about them both and you dont want to have to be put into the position where you have to choose between the two of them.
hope it helps you :)
from GirlyGurl n Shandi
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