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Hey im a girl who expects everyone to give to me. i love giving advice..and also i like to recieve it in the right situations. i love to help the people who are in need. in fact wen i am older i plan on being a teenage pshycologist. i am also a very shy girl wen i dont know you, but when i get to know you, i open up and will speak greatly to you. i have gone through sum issues jus like ne body else. i have survived them issues and still standing strong and working hard to never have them again. I would except any subject or ne question, i love to help but hopin to actually help you. there may be times where i dont kno wat to say but later on i will. i will try to answer those questions to my fullest. if you would like any advice please dont hesitate to ask them.

advice

14/f
i know its wrong but all my friends have had sex, and thats all they talk about so i told them i have had sex too and i was like centre of attension... i know its wrong to lie but i hated feeling left out. Now i have got this boyfriend hes like well older than me about 4 years, and he understands i want to take things slow but now all my friends make comments like "dont do anything i woudnt do" and "use a johnny".
But i havent bein with him long and when we are making out i cant help bu thinking i know he wants to rip my clothes of and have sex but the truth is im scared...has anyone got any tips for having sex for the first time??
Please dont stay your a ass you lied to your mates, i know that already im looking for REAL advice!! And truth is im glad i lied..

make sure its the right time and place..and make sure you are ready..you shouldnt feel like you have to have sex becuz your friends did. jus take it slow and eventually you will. heck i would have lied to so dont feel bad bout tht one. but jus take things slow and know what your doing.
good luck hope i helped a bit

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My boyfriend and I started to have "dry sex" a few days ago. We only had underwear on and he started to get really rough and then actually cummed. I think a little might have gotten on my underwear and then when I went to the bathroom, I bled a little. What is going on and what are my chances of being pregnant?

your chances of gettin pregnant is very very slim, jus keep a look out.
good luck

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A day before Easter, this guy said he wanted to be more than friends with me, but I had a boyfriend, so I told him we could be friends with benifits, and we
were pretty much boyfriend and girlfriend, we did everything together! So, eventually I dumped my boyfriend for him! So then, we were pretty much really boyfriend and girlfriend. But recently, my friend Jessica, she's like, my bestfriend, asked him out, and I guess he said yes, so then, him and I became friends with benifits again! And that was okay with me, except for that he told me he doesn't like Jessica, and He only wants me in his life, he told me he is in love with me and he is going to dump Jessica for me! I told Jessica everything, I mean EVERYTHING! She wasn't mad, only upset! She is a good friend, and she understood that she couldn't be mad because I had him first! But in my school, I'm really popular, and she is kind of a Geek! Nobody likes her, and she hardly ever gets any decent boyfriends, and I get whoever I want, whenever I want, pretty much. But since she finally has a really hot guy, i don't want to hurt her but taking him from her, but really i had him first! but he's gonna dump her, and i want to go out with him, not only be friends with benifits! and he feels the same, but she is in the way of everything! him and i are in love, you could say, we both love each other, and he dosnt have feelings for her like, at all, so what do i do?!?!?!?

well you should think of your friend.to but if he is going to dump her, then i would go wit him as long as you dont loose a frined from all this. make sure she dont care. and if she was a true friend she shouldnt...but remember dont let a guy come in between ur friendship

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Ok there's this really cute guy at my school I wanna ask him out only Before when I asked a guy out I always got turned down everytime should I change my additude and clothes or just with a better additude? sincerly boycrazy
(16 F)

I would jus change your attitude on thinking more positive and saying that this time you are goin to get the guy. dont think back of what happened in the past. things change. Jus keep thinking postitive tht it will happen the way you want it to. I would go for it if you really like him. and if you get rejected, theres prob. sumone out there better. dont fret over it.

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i have used tampons before. but they hurt SO bad when i take them out. most times. is this normal. like it feels like i am ripping skin or something. and there is a piece of skin that hangs around the end of the tampon which is what makes it hurt. is this normal. what is it.

The reason why it hurts when you take it out is because the tampon is to dry, you need to leave it in longer so more blood goes on. it wont hurt as bad. Your pulling at your cervix when its dry thus making it hurt.

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ok does it hurt gettin your belly button pierced? ive heard some ppl say it does & some say it doesnt.. im kinda average when it comes to pain tolerance & ive had my ears pierced 6 times one of which i did myself but does it hurt like reallyyy bad ? and when you change the ring tha 1st time is it hard to do or does that hurt? & will they instruct you on how to? thx so much!

It really doesnt hurt to get your bellybutton pierced. i have mine done and it didnt hurt me. But it depends on where you go to get instructions but yes they all should tell you how to take care of it and how to change it. Changing it the first time was no big deal. But for me it kinda was becuz mine wouldnt come off so i had to go to a place to get it off..but tht was just how mine was. soo if you really want it done i say go for it, it reallly doesnt hurt.
Good luck

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im so upset all my boyfriends friends think they can do what ever they want to me my boyfriend always hits me and i cant tell my parents or the cops my boyfriend said he will hit me till i cant walk anymore please someone give me advice

wow are you serious..you dont need tht. you should get out of that relationship, its bad enough your boyfrined does it, but his frineds too. not uh..you need to get out. no guy will treat a gurl like tht. i really think you should tell your parents or the cops. if they knew they could do sumtin bout it and your boyfirned will never do it to you again. or like i said if you dont want to do tht just leave you have to. you cant be treated like this.
do the right thing..hope i helped..and good luck

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Ok please help me im young and i've had sex seven times and all of them i've been forsed into i just dont know how to say NO! because the one guy i first did it with always hit me and i dont want to be hit again by a guy and im not a slut please help

you should never let a guy hit or push you around. Being pressured is not right.. you should just stand up for your self and say no to them. And if they keep doin it, well thts rape and you go to the police. you should go already for when he hit you.. and your not a slut if your being forced..you should talk to someone bout this, like a councler or sumtin if your parents are out of the question.
im really sorry and i hope i helped a bit

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I have this friend he's a guy hes one of my best friends and everyone time he goes out with another girl i sorta get jelous i dont know why though...i just cant really figure out if i like him more then a friend

well it seems to me..tht you really like this guy. or that you just can see him with another gurl becuz they might take him away from being your bestfriend..
if you do like him ..u should also tell him how you feel..

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Ok here goes im 17 theres this guy that i dated awhile ago and i cant seem to get over him and we always end up goin back to each other to mess around n stuff but i want more than that and i finally told him how i felt and he said that he wanted to be single for the rest of the summer because he has a bet with his dad which he does because i talked to his father... (im really close wit his fam) and he said that we will decided what we are gonna do when school starts again but im sick of waiting im scared that hes not gonna wanna get back with me... he says he does but i dont believe him... ive waited around soo long and i dont kno what to to help

17/f

well you did the right thing by tellin him how you feel. but if you want to be with him so bad, then you should wait til he's ready, but also you dont want to waste your time waiting around. so you really got to think if he is worth tht and if he is tellin the truth. you can prob find someone else tht is better and wouldnt waste your time. but i dont want to be rude and tell you tht so you have to go with the heart, and like isaid if you still care bout him soo much, wait for him.
hope i helped and good luck

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14/f
Well, I broke up with my boyfriend of a year and 2 months last night around 11:50. I dont even know what I was thinking! I was confused and I kept thinking about what would happen if he broke up with me. then I guess I started conviceing myself that he WAS cheating on me and I broke up with him. He didnt seem too upset. After I got off the phone with him I balled my head off for hours. I even started gasping for air and then started choking. I dont know what that was all about but thats how much I was crying. anyways then I talked to my friend Zach till i dont know what time but we talked for at least 3 hours. He cheered me up some but I still cant help but think about him. I love him more than life itself! I miss him so much and I dont think he misses me. I want to call him and say sorry and everything but Im afraid he wont care! I miss him so much you have no idea! Please help! should I call him?!?!? Should I just move on??! please Ill rate 5's i swear!

I think before you broke up with him you should have talked to him and had an open relationship. And you should never be to scared if a guy is goin to break up with you, if they break up wit you well then they are lozers if they do.. dont worry bout it. But if you feel its the right thing to do call him and talk to him bout it. but seriously if another guy cheered you up who knows how many other guys can cheer you up. So my advice is just move on you may find someone better then him. but like i said iff you feel tht u need to talk to him..call him
good luck

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my mom is sooo annoing with puberty and stuff. she acts all embarresed when i talk about it (which i hardly ever do cause since her behavior it makes me humiliated) and she reminds me of a 3 year old. I told her i had my period and she's like ok put a pad on and then for the last 2 days she has been acting all weird to me. We had like 3 pads left when i first got my first period and that was 2 days ago and i still have my period. So right now i'm on my last pad and i've been wearing it all day cause i'm way to embarresed to ask my mom if she can buy more cause then it will be awkward and the awkwardness is just beginning to wear off from when i told her i got my period. and also i'm extremely embarresed to go to the store and buy pads myself. I have no older siblings and I don't want to ask my dad to do it. Gosh PLEASE HELP HOW CAN I GET PADS??? Please I know this annoys you but: please dont tell me to ask my parents to buy some. Also please dont ask me to buy some cause when i went to cvs and bought acne wash for the first time the employee was trying to hide a smile.

Well dont care what others say or think, when you said tht your parents are out of the question then i think you should personally buy them yourself. you really need them so you should go get them yourself. and if you still dont want to do tht you should go to one of your best frineds mom and see if she will take you to get them. I wouldnt be embarrssed to talk to your mom bout this. its natural for mothers and even fathers to act like tht wen their daughter gets the first period. It will fade soon..
hope i helped you and good luck

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ok.. so im 15/female.. and most of my friends are girls with a few guy friends. whenever im around guys.. its like i want to talk to them, but then again, im afraid of what there going to think of me. i want them to like me and decide to be friends and everything.. but i dont know how to act so that they would think that i want to be friends! ive tried just forgetting everything and to be myself.. but then theres that feeling that im afraid of what they think of me! what should i do to be myself without that feeling? how can i get more guy friends?

well like you said, just be yourself. If they dont like you for who you are. they are not worth being frineds. you dont want to change yourself for others even if its bout the opposite sex. Dont care what people think of you. That us just a waste of time because they will actually like you if you just be yoursellf and not sumthing you arent..
hope i helped/

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I have been best freinds with this girl since 4th grade and now that I am going into high school I don't want to be best freinds with her. I want a new best freind and meet new people. I still want to be freinds with her, just not as close. She doesn't have many close friends and me leaving her would be the end of the world for her. Is this mean of me? Should I stay BFs with her?

I think you should stay best frineds with her. You can have more then one best frined. if you know she doesnt have alot of close friends and it would be the end of the world for her, why would u want to do tht to her. stay frined wit her..and still meet knew people she will understand

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This is how you upload a pic

go to photobucket.com make am account. then upload the pics. and then use the url to put them on

-paige

kk thanks

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What kind of shampoo do you reccomend? and conditioner?

thankkkkkkks-

i really like pantene..thts my favorite..but tresemme is great too..

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How do i get rid of belly flab and lovehandles?


Well i think the best way to get rid of them is eating right and exercising correctly and daily.

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Whats some good love songs?


and good love movies?

kthanks

umm

the love movies i like are also darmatic.lol
but i like to watch..
-the notebook, a walk to remember, i would say honey is sorta like a love movie, in the mix is one,




sum love songs would be all my life from kci and jojo, sexy love from neyo, the one by genuwine, unfaithful by rhiana, stick witu from PCD..she will be loved from maroon 5, must be nice from lyfe jennings. ciara for and i

sry i cant thnk of ne other ones, tht was a tough one..i didnt kno exactly which catecory u liked..sry

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"When i scrunch my hair i use hair gel like lots of curls tht works rly well, mousse, hairspray."


I was wondering what kind though. Like the brand names?

Thank you

O well sorry

Well the gel- like i said Lots of curls, and La looks
and basically ne type of mousse or hairspary would do. they all work good..but i use
Hairspray- rave, aqua net
Mousse- tresemme

thts all i use but like i said..ne kind works

Sry bout tht one.

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My mom wont let me get my tongue pierced! Is there a way i can get her to let me? Please help

signed,
NEED HELP

Well gettin your tounge pierced is a big step. I would stop askin her for alil while becuz if you keep beggin, she might get annoyed with it and ffull out say no. But then i would go to her and explain why you want it makin sure its a good reason and that you know the consequences of gettin ur tounge done. Maybe even throw up to her tht your mature enough and tht you will pay for it.
Good luck :)

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