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Tips?
14/f
i know its wrong but all my friends have had sex, and thats all they talk about so i told them i have had sex too and i was like centre of attension... i know its wrong to lie but i hated feeling left out. Now i have got this boyfriend hes like well older than me about 4 years, and he understands i want to take things slow but now all my friends make comments like "dont do anything i woudnt do" and "use a johnny".
But i havent bein with him long and when we are making out i cant help bu thinking i know he wants to rip my clothes of and have sex but the truth is im scared...has anyone got any tips for having sex for the first time??
Please dont stay your a ass you lied to your mates, i know that already im looking for REAL advice!! And truth is im glad i lied..
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Look hunny,
when you suddenly become the center of attention after telling your friends you've had sex; it's most likely because they are lying. YOU ARE 14! Im 14 too and I've done the same thing you've said. Believe me, guys don't like girls that tell people that they have hooked up and had sex already. Guys like girls with inexperience - not sluts. And who cares if you don't want to feel left out, they are stupid if they are going to give it up at 14. Sex is a special thing, and its about LOVE. don't let them change who you are just because you are a virgin. Tell them the truth. If they have anything bad to say about you its because they are jealous that you are comfortable with being a virgin and you don't have to lie to be cool.
And I seriously think you should put it off. Don't have sex because "all your friends are doing it." Sex is a real big responsibility at your age. Don't ruin your life because sometimes condoms can slip off or break.
If your boyfriend/friends truely are real people that care about you; they won't care if you are a virgin. Be real with them. Seriously...
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hey. alright well you obviously are just doing this to fit in.. which isnt right. if your neervous.. your not ready. you'll know when the time is right.
stay true and be safe
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hey,i dont have any tips because i'm a virgin and pretty proud.But i know being under pressure is hard..trust me.But if your not ready to loose your virginity its your dession,NOT YOUR FRIENDS!Honestly do you wanna loose your virginity at 14 years old?If Johnny knows you wanna take things slow then oviously he knows your not ready to have sex.And the other thing is who cares if you lied to your friends,you already know you were wrong and its over and done with.
i know i probuly didnt help with your question
but i hope i help a little bit
-Alex
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you know what i think....i think you should come clean with your friends about being a virgin....you should be proud to be a virgin because your only 14! i think your friends are only doing this for attention if thats all they ever talk about....plus you dont have to worry about all the risks of having sex and your friends do...they'll be thinking how "kool" they are when they're pregnant and have all those diseases.....also it seems you are not ready for sex....you should wait till you are absolutely positive that you love your partner and not just because you dont want to feel left out when they talk about sex....remember be proud your a virgin because you are young and dont need to be having sex this early! hope i helped ♥ terri
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I didn't read any advice people wrote below so I have no idea if its similar. I've been thinking the same thing except all my freinds haven't but I've really been considering doing it. It just made me feel like imature in comparison to the people who had done more and not equal to them. Then one day randomly I was talking to my mom about some guy and she was telling me that your virginity is YOURS! Thats your pride and your jewel. Do you wanna give away what is yours without someone earning it? That's yours you only have it once and once that moments over you won't get it back. That's what I thought and I realized it wasn't worth it. I'd rather be able to say I'm a virgin and I haven't done it with tons of guys. It's a matter of respect for yourself, screw everybody else & that's the truth. Don't do anything just because someone else did. It's stupid and is this the guy you want to remember giving it up to at 14! Has he truly earned it and do you even love him? Just think about it. I wouldn't do it. Good Luck w/ everything! Need anything don't hesitate.
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You're too young to have sex. Unless you want a kid, I'd stop and think long and hard about it. I got pregnant when I was 15, and believe me it's NOT FUN so STOP worrying about fitting in. Also, your boyfriend is just using you for sex. You deserve someone better and you need to make sure you get someone better. The issue isn't that you LIED it's that you're going to have sex and you SHOULD NOT! They are going to totally turn their backs on you when you get pregnant - then you'll have no friends AND no boyfriend!
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Truthfully, most kids who claim to have had sex really haven't. They're all trying to fit in just like you.
Look, you can only have your first time once. Do not rush it because I'm here to tell you from experience that you WILL regret it. I don't know what has gone wrong that young kids just cannot understand how special and precious sex and virginity are.
Sex, for one, isn't going to be anywhere near what you are probably expecting. It's painful and awkward the first time. Sometimes the first few times. It's not all that uncommon for alot of women to never or rarely experience orgasm from intercourse. I'm not saying sex is BAD. I'm just giving you a more realistic view.
Honestly, if you aren't emotionally and mentally mature enough to handle sex, it's going to suck. Period. And it seems to me, that you are looking to have sex just to impress a few friends who are probably still virgins themselves. And if not, who cares? It's just sex. It doesn't validate you. It doesn't make you cooler. It doesn't make you more mature. It doesn't make you more worldly.
There's something about sharing the experience with someone you love very much when you are ready to do so that makes it incredible. Even though it's awkward. Even though it might be a little painful.
Do not have sex simply because he wants to. Every guy WANTS to. That doesn't mean he's going to get it anytime he damn well wants it. He'll live if you say no. And if he wants to bitch or get angry about it, dump him because he is only after the ass of a young girl he knows he can manipulate.
If it makes you feel better, keep lying about having had sex. It really doesn't matter anyway. We've all done it at some point. Or most of us anyway. But keep your virginity until you are ready to lose it.
I know you'll do whatever it is you want to do regardless of what I tell you. I'm just trying to put some sense into your head as one girl who has been in your position before.
If you're still going to have sex, get on birth control. Use a condom. Educate yourself on your body and how it works.
There really aren't any tips that will make it easier for you if you're going into it with hesitations, second thoughts, and fear.
--Just something to think about...
You were the center of attention in a group of kids who had supposedly had sex...for having sex. Don't you find that odd? That they would have so much fascination with that? I'm telling you...it's probably because most of them have not had sex and want to know what it's like.
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if you're scared about it, you shouldnt do it bc that proves you arent ready. you will regret it later, trust me on this i have friends who arent virgins and they all say it wasnt worth it and they wish they woulda waited. when youre really ready you'll feel totally comfortable about it & you'll kno you're ready.
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make sure its the right time and place..and make sure you are ready..you shouldnt feel like you have to have sex becuz your friends did. jus take it slow and eventually you will. heck i would have lied to so dont feel bad bout tht one. but jus take things slow and know what your doing.
good luck hope i helped a bit
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