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Q: Okay, this isn't the easiest thing for me to ask but it's pretty much anonamous, so here it goes. I'm completely unhappy with my privates. It's a point of severe lack of confidence for me and i have no clue what i can do about it. I am most hesitant about being intimate with anyone because of the way i look down there. It grosses *me* out. And it often hurts to masturbate because of the little, erm, flappers. I think they're called labia? They are all messy looking, and messy feeling as well. I don't feel like this is normal at such a young age.
Well I'm not sure what, if anything, i can do about this. Does fixing this problem absolutely require plastic surgery, or is there anything else i can do? Please help me! I am at a complete loss as for what i can do about this, and i think i mentioned already it takes *such* a toll on my confidence!
Sorry for the length of this, and I appreciate anyone who helps me out, greatly.
Also i apologize if this is the wrong category, but it seemed to fit better here than elsewhere.
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Honey, read this:
http://www.the-clitoris.com/f_html/c_size.htm
We ALL struggle with this problem. Our vaginas simply do not look like porn stars in the real world. I am sure that you are normal.
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Q: ok well i was wondering what color eye shadow would really bring out my eyes.. make em "pop" & just be bright. my eyes are round and kind of a denim/dark blue.. blonde hair & kinda light/average skin.
ok well picture::: http://i20.photobucket.com/albums/b235/xo_kristin/PICT1718.jpg
my skins a lil darker than that now tho if that helps! thx!
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Try shades of brown, taupe, mauve. Also, gold, silver, and bronze make blue eyes really pop and compliments a fair skin tone very nicely. My coloring is very similar to yours and those are the colors that I wear.
Your eyes will also pop more if you use a brown or black liner on your upper lids and apply a base, contour, and highlighting shadow.
You can view tips on how to apply here:
http://www.wildaboutmakeup.com/apply-eye-shadow.html
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Q: I don't feel the same way about my boyfriend anymore. In fact, I feel that its time that we ended our relationship. There seems to be a catch, however. We haven't seen each other much this summer, but we do talk on the phone almost every night. I don't know if its appropriate to end the relationship now, or wait a couple of weeks until school starts and we see each other every day again. What should I do? Wait it out, or say whats on my mind?
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Tell him now. It would be unkind of you to string him along for the next few weeks. It might seem inappropriate to end it over the phone but if that is your only way to connect at the moment, it'll have to do.
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Q: 14/f
i know its wrong but all my friends have had sex, and thats all they talk about so i told them i have had sex too and i was like centre of attension... i know its wrong to lie but i hated feeling left out. Now i have got this boyfriend hes like well older than me about 4 years, and he understands i want to take things slow but now all my friends make comments like "dont do anything i woudnt do" and "use a johnny".
But i havent bein with him long and when we are making out i cant help bu thinking i know he wants to rip my clothes of and have sex but the truth is im scared...has anyone got any tips for having sex for the first time??
Please dont stay your a ass you lied to your mates, i know that already im looking for REAL advice!! And truth is im glad i lied..
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Truthfully, most kids who claim to have had sex really haven't. They're all trying to fit in just like you.
Look, you can only have your first time once. Do not rush it because I'm here to tell you from experience that you WILL regret it. I don't know what has gone wrong that young kids just cannot understand how special and precious sex and virginity are.
Sex, for one, isn't going to be anywhere near what you are probably expecting. It's painful and awkward the first time. Sometimes the first few times. It's not all that uncommon for alot of women to never or rarely experience orgasm from intercourse. I'm not saying sex is BAD. I'm just giving you a more realistic view.
Honestly, if you aren't emotionally and mentally mature enough to handle sex, it's going to suck. Period. And it seems to me, that you are looking to have sex just to impress a few friends who are probably still virgins themselves. And if not, who cares? It's just sex. It doesn't validate you. It doesn't make you cooler. It doesn't make you more mature. It doesn't make you more worldly.
There's something about sharing the experience with someone you love very much when you are ready to do so that makes it incredible. Even though it's awkward. Even though it might be a little painful.
Do not have sex simply because he wants to. Every guy WANTS to. That doesn't mean he's going to get it anytime he damn well wants it. He'll live if you say no. And if he wants to bitch or get angry about it, dump him because he is only after the ass of a young girl he knows he can manipulate.
If it makes you feel better, keep lying about having had sex. It really doesn't matter anyway. We've all done it at some point. Or most of us anyway. But keep your virginity until you are ready to lose it.
I know you'll do whatever it is you want to do regardless of what I tell you. I'm just trying to put some sense into your head as one girl who has been in your position before.
If you're still going to have sex, get on birth control. Use a condom. Educate yourself on your body and how it works.
There really aren't any tips that will make it easier for you if you're going into it with hesitations, second thoughts, and fear.
--Just something to think about...
You were the center of attention in a group of kids who had supposedly had sex...for having sex. Don't you find that odd? That they would have so much fascination with that? I'm telling you...it's probably because most of them have not had sex and want to know what it's like.
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Q: I am a 17 year old female & I work at a candy store. I really like working there, the only trouble is they let us eat whatever we want. I am not big, but I do wind up eating TONS of candy & I want to stop! I try to tell my self I can't (or just to have a little bit) but when I see everyone else I work with eating too, I cave in and wind up over eating most of the time. How can I stop eating so much? How do I get more will power and not eat the candy (or at least cut down on the amount I eat)? any advice (besides quitting my job) would be great! Thank you!
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Eating fruit always works for me when I'm craving candy. It sounds like it wouldn't be a very satisfactory replacement, but it really is.
Try bringing some strawberries or pineapple with you and eating that when you crave the candy. I usually carry around frozen chunks of each. You can buy them by the bagfull for fairly cheap that way.
Of course, cave in sometimes. A little candy in moderation never hurt anyone. Just go in with a small bag of fruit. Have some candy (a preset amount that you feel is acceptable) and then if you still crave candy, eat your fruit.
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Q: 16/f
okay so i lost my virginity yesterday but it didnt hurt. i just felt pressure and when i got fingered there was more pressure than before. my friends told me that when they lost their virginity that it hurt but i dont get why it didnt hurt me. any suggestions?
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It's possible you tore your hymen prior to losing your virginity which is perfectly normal. For alot of girls, that's the most painful part. If your hymen was still intact when you lost your virginity, it's still possible that it wouldn't hurt. I didn't feel much pain when mine was torn. Every girl is different in that way.
The more comfortable you are with your partner and the longer you take to build up to the experience (foreplay), the less it's going to hurt. Alot of the pain the first time comes with being very nervous and tense and not taking enough time with foreplay.
Those could be any of the reasons. Each woman is built differently. Sometimes there are no reasons for why it hurts with one and does not for another.
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Gender: Female Member Since: July 21, 2006 Answers: 6 Last Update: August 4, 2006 Visitors: 1453
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