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okay so i just got a new really hot boy friend and im friends with his ex girlfriend and she said that they never kissed the whole time they went out, and that they only hugged. and he always hugs me but i really want to kiss him but i have only kissed one other guy on the cheek and i was really nervous. but im scared that if i kiss him or try he will be mad and im really uncomfortable talking about it with him. thanks in advance!
well you could work your way up to it you know? like give him a kiss on the cheek and see how he reacts to that, don't force him to do anything you wanna do. even talk about with him if you guys wanna kiss. it might seem embarressing but at least both of you will be on the same page!
Ok..soo im 17/F and all my friends have had sex or have done sexual things. And of course im the one that hasnt at all. I just dont want to do that right now..im not focused on that. Im focused on other things and i dotn even think about it. But my friends are making me feel like that i should be doing that stuff..that like im a freak if i dont. And now i think..am i really a freak? What do you think about this and what should i do?
you should never do what your not comfortable with. if your friends make fun of you for not wanting to, then maybe they aren't your friends. and i think you suld really talk to them about how you just don't see it as a necessity in your life and you just don't want to.
I got a new cat in March of 2006. My other cat before her was an outside cat more than an inside one. But one night she got hit by a car, and we had to put her to sleep.
When I got my new cat, my family and I decided to make it an indoor one, so the same thing wouldn't happen to her. We live on a very busy street so I felt it was OK to make her an indoor cat. But I feel horrible every day that she can't go outside. We already declawed her, so we can't just make her an outdoor cat. And yeah, I feel a little bad for declawing her because I feel it's inhumane, but she was ripping stuff up, and tearing carpets and furniture up.
When I see her every day, looking at the window, she just looks and sounds like she is sad, and I keep feeling I should of made her an outside cat, but I don't want the same thing to happen to her, as to what happened to my other cat. She just always looks depressed. I seriously don't know, but how can I tell how she is feeling?
Also, am I doing what is right for my cat? I mean if I was stuck indoors all my life I would be pretty depressed, yet I don't want my cat to feel the same way. What can I do?
Thanks for reading and anything is greatly appreciated!
you are doing whats right because your protecting you cat. and mostly she looks outside cuz she's curious as to what goes on. maybe you could buy her toys for indoors. and also at pet stores or maybe vet offices too(i'm not sure about that one) they have cat harnesses and it's pretty much a harness on your cat with a leash so you can take her outside and maybe go out back and let her play around in the grass. hope i helped!
How can you restrict your phone number on your cell phone when calling people? For instance, if someone hit star 69, your phone number wouldn't appear. Just like when someone calls your cell phone and it says Restricted Number. Anyone know how to do this?
*67 then put in the number
not *69
I'm pretty sick, & I have no energy for hardly anything. & all i've done all day is sleep, play games on my ipod & listen to my ipod, & watch tv. & that gets pretty boring after awhile. what else could i do? i can't be jumping all around..because i have a pretty high fever. my brothers both had this same thing. & it lasts about 4-5 days. any ideas so i dont lose my mind of being so bored??
you could draw or color or paint. ummm you could play internet games or video games. you could write poetry or something. maybe sew something or just make something. thats all i got hope i helped
One of my guy friends can be kind of... perverted. He like will look at my butt and make it totally noticeable like he wants me to know! It gets a little annoying after awhile. Well tomorrow is winter formal and I have a feeling he is going to ask me to grind with him. The thing is, I don't know if I want to. What should I do? Should I just wiat and see how I feel when I get there? What should I tel him If I don't want to dance with him?
ok well if when you get to the dance and you want to, then go for it. but if you don't and he asks, just be like, no sorry i just wanna dance with the girls tonight. or just say no and if he asks why you can just be honest and say i don't want to but it's what you feels appropriate, so good luck and have fun
ok soo heres what going on. my and my bestfriend (that i have been friends with for 3 years now) are trying to become friends again. after she kissed my boyfriend and slept over his house while i was going out with him at the time. he broke up with me last last monday and went out with my bestfriend!! and they both never even told me and i aksed her 3 times and she dennied it all 3 times!!! and then i found out and she was like lahh i`m sooo sorry and she tried to turn it all around on me but it didn't work! and she would talk shit behind my back and just yesterday she messaged me on myspace and was like ahh i really wanna be friends again blah blah blah ( a huge paragraph) and i was like idon't know i don't really trust you and you talked shit about me and now its like we never even met. i miss her sooooo mucha dn she misses me more then ever! and i just don't know what to do! it was the most bitchiest thing someone has even done to me!! really i wanted to die! and it wasn't just that i had a lot of other shit going on too! sooo should i be her friend again?
no no no no no no no no no. how can you even consider her your friend. if she was your friend she would have never done that to you or said anything behind your back. and she's supposed to be your "best friend" hun you could do better than that because that is quite ridiculous. but it's your choice, if you really wanna be friends with her again then i guess that is completely up to you. but if i were you, no.
do you think that giving a hj as a freshman is slutty? because some of my friends have.. not my close ones but i know that a lot have. and i have a boyfriend that i really love and like i want to but like a lot of my close friends would consider that to be slutty. like i really dont think its that big of a deal.
ok well the person below me basically summed up that whole thing. haha but i am also a freshman and no it's not slutty i mean some people may think that in your school, but mine just blows it off. and if your friends will think that's slutty just don't tell them. maybe tell one to get it off your chest. and if you don't want to get it out tell your boyfriend the same thing, maybe tell one of his very close friends just to get it off his chest.
ok so i see like a hot guy on tv and ill be like "oh he's hot i wanna have sex with him". Like ryan seacrest for example...or simon cowell....or a couple guys at my school....is this normal?
your perfectly fine, just your hormones =)
i have been dating my boy for a little over two years now. when we had been dating a year & a half we lots our virginity to eachother. since then we have been having sex about twice a week. i dont really enjoy it. it feels good and all but i could live w. out it. im on the pill but i always get parinoid before i get my period that i might be pregnant. i decided that i dont want to have sex anymore kas it stresses me out so much and i told my boy and he got mad. i knew he would but how do i convince him that we shouldnt anymore? & how can i get him not to be mad at me?
k its deff not you who needs to change. if he really loves you he should respect your decision. not get mad, although at first i could understand but if he's mad for a long time that's pretty ridiculous. explain to him the stress and stuff and you'd rather wait and even explain to him what will happen if you guys actually make a child out of it, cuz then he will get scared. but if he still doesn't respect that decision, i think it's time to let go cuz it would make it out to be he's just in it for sex, let me know how it works out
So, not this weekend, but next weekend is the almighty shredfest. It's a local show with a bunch of local bands, and they're all really good. It's in Panama City which is about 45 minutes from where I live. My mom doesn't like me going out there. Last time I did, I ended up lying and doing a bunch of bad stuff. It's been a few months since then. But, anyways, back to shredfest. See, that weekend my parents are going out of town for mardi gras. I was gonna go, but then I remembered its the weekend of shredfest. My mom said I can stay at a friend's house that weekend. But, I was'nt even planning on telling her about shredfest. I was gonna just say I was going to the mall or something, thens pending the night at a friends. Now, I might be able to spend the night at my friend Kylie's, but her parents are strict, and I'm afraid my mom will talk to them, and they'll tell her about shredfest. I don't know if I should take my chances, and ask her, or if I should lie, and just risk it.
alright well you could risk it, if you want it that badly. but i think you should like ask your parents, cuz if they find out you went without even asking, they won't ever leave you alone for the weekend again. and you probably won't be going out anytime soon, at least if they are like my parents. and plus your on thin ice from the last time. but like i said if you really thing it's worth it, go.
alright this might be lnog but here it goes..
so ive known this guy, call him Jack since 4th grade
well we started going out voer the summer
and i honestly fell in love.
like i cannot even describe in words how it felt when i was around him.
abut anways..
we went on adn off for a few months
then along came kyle,
whom im with now
and jack is with molly
thw thing is..
i really still love jack
and he said he'd always love me
but i dont know what to do?
help plz
alright well if you really like jack, you really shouldn't be with kyle. i mean it's not fair to him at all and if you keep going out with him jack might just get over you. then if/when you do talk to jack and stuff about how you feel, you should never hold that stuff in cuz you never know if you'll ever get another chance to tell him. hope i helped
I was with a group of friends at the pool. Then this guy from my group of friends kept swimming to wherever I went. I was wearing my swimming costume and I kind of felt that he was looking. When we were playing at the beach, he kept splashing water at me and when I wanted to splash back, he always held both of my hands together so that he was the only one who could splash me. Erm, is his behavior kind of ...sexual? I'm beginning to feel very uncomfortable and self conscious in front of him.
i think that the boy likes you and was just trying to flirt with you. if you don't like him, just talk to him about it and he should stop. if he doesn't tell your friends, or there's the ever famous 'slap him across the face if he does it again' plan =)
This is long. Bear with me.
I'm a 14 year old boy in ninth grade.
There's a girl. I'll call her Jean. I've known Jean since the end of sixth grade, and over the years a mild "she's pretty" crush grew to what I at that point thought was genuine love. In eighth grade, Jean and I became very good friends. I was, and remain, attracted to her independence, creativity, deepness, and beauty. My major flaw would be that around her I've always had the tendency to grow quiet, becoming sort of a background lurker when her friends are around. I don't think that comes off very well -_- But anyway, back to the story.
In seventh grade we were writing a song together for our chorus, and I would often call her and talk to her online. I spent most of the day at her house once. My affections were also heightened by the fact that we were in the same musical, and the emotional level we were reduced to by the last few weeks (very, very stressful) eased things along. In those weeks of stress and difficulty, we were there for one another, and by then I felt that I was truly in love with her. Mind you, this whole time I had been a rather whiny bitch over my MySpace blog: "Oh, I'm in love with a girl but she doesn't know I love her." "Oh, being in love is so hard". Mind you, she was well aware it was her.
At the very end of the musical, one of Jean's friends (who I later found out was sent by Jean) asked me whether I liked Jean or not in private. I, being naturally paranoid and defensive, said no. This probably goes on my list for the top five mistakes I've made in my entire life, as this information was relayed back to Jean. She soon lost interest, and my guardedness and inaction proved to be my downfall. After that, everything turned sour. My feelings for her, barely changed, but she grew to find me more of an annoying background character than a friend or anything more. This hurt me deeply, and I froze myself up inside.
Luckily enough, I met a wonderful girl at camp. I'll call her Lindsay. By the end of the summer, I had nearly forgotten Jean and I was dating Lindsay. Lindsay lived 90 minutes away from me, but we talked on the phone for two hours a night and saw each other every other weekend. Things were going pretty well.
Meanwhile, the school year began and I started at my new high school. Jean was not in any of my classes (I was unsure as to whether this was good or bad), and every time I saw her there was a tremendous awkwardness between us. I could tell she no longer flat out disliked me, but how could we possibly converse as normal when she had read all of those MySpace blogs? I began to hang out with the losers and emos, while she hung out with her regular theatre crowd. But time passed...
As things between us became very, very slowly less awkward (the occasional nod or hello), I began to move away from the emos and toward the theatre crowd. I felt that the theatre crowd was where I belonged, regardless of whether Jean's being in it would make things awkward. All this time, I talked to Lindsay every night, and rarely mentioned Jean. Our relationship began to wane over time. Finally, I felt fully integrated into the theatre crowd. Although I still had my "annoying lurker" persona when around Jean, we made a lot of progress. It was soon that I realized that I had rekindled my old feelings for her.
Regardless of circumstances, I could no longer hold back my old emotions. Her beauty is captivating and almost hypnotic, and all the characteristics that I was attracted to shine bright once again. Not to fall into old patterns, but my feelings for her are and were some of the most painful in my life. Imagine standing there as an observer, standing behind a wall of ice... I think of it as one of the worst pains in existence.
Now, what happened recently was a naked picture of Jean was discovered. A junior who I am going to call Wanker traded iPods with Jean's ex-boyfriend, and proceeded to start showing people the picture. I specifically requested not to see the picture (yaaay code of honor!), and made him promise not to show it to anybody else. It was apparently sent to a couple other people... With Jean's understanding and support, I devoted the past two days (Tuesday and Wednesday) to tracking down each address the picture was sent to and then wiping it from their hard drives. I'm a bit of a techie in that sense :P
All the while, I felt bad because of my relationship with Lindsay... But I know that we will be over in the near future. We have been going for five months, and our relationship has simply run its course. It's only a matter of time now. In any event, today, Jean was called to the office. She was pulled out of last period gym, and I waited for her until the school day was over. She got out, teary-eyed, and told me she'd talk to me later. I wanted to hug her so badly... But the VP was right there.
I got on the bus to go home, and the busses began to leave. Standing there, I ultimately decided "fuck this". Tired of being the lurking bystander, I got off the bus and waited an hour and ten minutes with a couple of her friends until she got out. When she did, she was crying, and I held her. I had pretty much been needing and wanting to do that since eighth grade. It felt really good. I finally saw her off to her car... I know she appreciates what I've done for her, but I really don't know other wise. Then again, maybe I do know but don't really want to admit that she has no feelings left for me.
Long story short, the school isn't doing anything and everything is Wanker's fault. After I had him promise not to show anybody, he showed the pictures to his entire bus. But that's not really important.
My point is, my relationship with Jean is so ridiculously strained and complex, I'm wondering what I should do. Is there any hope for me/us at all? If it's any help, here's one of my old questions that tells a lot about me, my stance on things, and my life:
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=465913
Thank you for reading this far. If you did, you totally deserve a cookie :)
k well first of all, that was really long and i totally want my cookie in the mail. but it was good that it was long because you gave a lot of details. well i'm in 9th grade also and i know where your comin from. ok Lindsay seems like a nice girl but i don't think she's for you. I think you guys should just stick with being friends before you really hurt her. now jean, jean jean jean. i personally think you guys should just like date. maybe you should go to the priciples office about that whole picture thing. and like it was good that you held her because what makes a girl go crazy for a guy, at least for 9th graders, is when a girl is crying and a guy will just hold her and tell her its ok. so i think if you keep doing that, and like defend her and stuff. she will deffinately like you again, how couldn't she. i really think you should loosen up and be yourself around her. show her the reaaaaaaaaal you., don't let her see that annoying lurker side she has before. and be honest with her. so if a friend asks you if you like her and you do, don't lie. it's nothing to be ashamed of to the point where you should have to lie about something as small as that (although i've done it myself before).
but i apologize i didn't read the other question because it's amazingly long and where i live its still 6:49 in the morning and i'm gonna miss my ride!
but i wish you luck and hope i helped
i want 2 get str8 2 the point i like 2 guys let me explain them both 2 u..... not the looks but the personality thats what i want
Jeremy
phsyco(but i love it)
examples brung a steak knife 2 school
(i told him not 2 bring it any more) he stopped.
put boot protector on his hand and set it on fire (what a wierdo i still luv it)
i asked him did he have a girlfriend he said no i like the single life 4 rite now (he needs me in his life)
always sits with me on the bus (even when there are empty seats) he sits pretty close
always waves at me and tells me hey
gave me a hug(once because i got this jacket from this girl for him)
Hakim
he is younger than me (by like 1 year)
he is in a lower grade than me
he said that last week he had three girlfriend in a row but the broke up with all of them because they are childish
gave me a hug (once i guess because he wanted 2)
told his cousin he likes me i just have 2 tell him i like him myself(thats not my style)
talks a whole lot(its not a problem with me but dang he can talk)
well thats it plezzzzz help
i know you like the phyco thing.
but i'd go with the second one,
because he's not phyco
by the information you gave me
what does it mean when your with someone boyfriend/girlfriend wise and you feel completely safe like nothing can hurt you. you get major butterflys in your stomoch and feel all nervous around them. you think about them alot and when you kiss them it puts the biggest smile on your face. you want to see them all the time and it makes you sad when you cant. what does this mean? does this mean im in love? do i love them? i know i love this feeling but i dont know. is this what in love feels like?
you show the signs of being in love =)
but if they fade you just liked that person a lot at that time.
hey there!
ok so i have a big volleyball tournament coming up and i would like some songs that make me feel pumped up! I kinda want songs without words... so here's an example:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vUCK-SrLyX4
towards the end= when Casey tells Teddy "well if the van breaks down or something" and then her friend looks at her weird... after that they arrive at an ice rink... well theres a song playing and it goes like "dun da duuunnn da... yeah!" well do any of you know what that song is called??
if you don't, then maybe you could name some songs that are like that?
THANKS SOOOO MUCH! YOU ARE AMAZING!
ok well "sandstorm" by da rule is about the only pump up song i know without words, it's techno so i don't know if that's what your looking for. hope i helped
Hey. Does anyone know of a website or websites were they have a list of current writing contests 9poetry, fiction, novels, essays, etc.) and like what the theme is and what the fee (if any) is and all that stuff. If anyone knows of a website that lists writing contests please let me know! Thanks!
poeticpower.com
it has poem and story righting contests too.
at my school we have teams -- 7-1, 7-2, and 7-3. i used to be on 7-1, but then i got switched to 7-2 because i was having problems in math. 7-2 is also the team one of my best friends are on. before now, we never fought, got mad at each other, or anything like that. i've made best friends with alot of her close friends because i have most of my classes with them. ever since that...she's been yelling at me for the most stupidest things. on her AIM profile, she used to always have something about me on there and she took me out. i don't really care about "profiles", but i just thought it was weird of her cause she normally freaks out if i'm not on hers. if i'm talking to one of them and we're saying something about one of our inside jokes, she'll just come out of no where and be like, "A-HA-HA-HA-HA!" in a fake laughing voice and then be like, "um, that's not even funny." or something. sjakdgasjda, it's getting on my nerves. is she just jealous or WHAT is her problem?
yeah, she's really jelous. because she used to have you all to herself and now she's getting less attention from you. and because maybe her friends are paying more attention to you then her now and she's having a baby fit about it. i think that you should talk to her about it because to me it's a touch rediculous
male/13 ok,my friend dylan,is kinda emo. we were hangin out and one of his friends asked me out. im not emo, but i didnt want to make her feel bad. now everybody in my school is making fun of me for going out with an emo girl :(
alright well if you like this girl then it shouldn't really matter you know? like i know it's hard to ignore people but just be like, dude shut up alright, i don't see you with a girlfriend. (or if the have a girlfriend) dude shut up alright, i like her. but like if you don't like her, then i suggest you break up with her cuz your leading her on and thats not right. hope i helped