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Pressure
Ok..soo im 17/F and all my friends have had sex or have done sexual things. And of course im the one that hasnt at all. I just dont want to do that right now..im not focused on that. Im focused on other things and i dotn even think about it. But my friends are making me feel like that i should be doing that stuff..that like im a freak if i dont. And now i think..am i really a freak? What do you think about this and what should i do?
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seriously you shouldn't do it until you r ready because if you rush into it with the wrong person because of peer pressure then you have a risk of getting a std or worse so just calm down and be your self and not being like everybody else okay.
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your not a freak hun; your just playing it safe. don't give into them. it's your choice and you especially won't want to rush into things because it's suppposed to be something potentially special.; you won't want ot deal with the concequences.
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Don't ever ever think that. You're a smart girl for not worrying about that stuff. It's more trouble than it's worth. When your friends are the ones that end up with an STD or pregnant, you can be the one to say I told you so. Maybe it's time for some new friends. They have no right to tell you what to do. ESPECIALLY if it involves intimacy. Don't listen to them. You focus on those other things and save that stuff for another time.
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I can't believe that your friends are actually making you feel that way; that's horrible. There's absolutely nothing wrong with you, so don't even question whether you're a "freak" or not. Honestly, I didn't even have my first kiss till I was 17. It's *your* personal choice, not your friends. You have other things going for you & it's great you aren't worked up about that kind of stuff. All I can tell you is: don't change yourself to meet your friends' "approval." Tell them it's your personal decision & your business & if they can't accept that, then are they really your friends?
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well, i can defiantly relate to you! i am 16, and i've been going out with a guy for two years, and we aren't sexual. my friends ALWAYS make fun of me, and they think something is wrong with me because i don't want to have sex with him. i mean, sometimes it upsets me, but i'd rather NOT have to worry about getting pregnant each month and being 100% sure i don't have an STD. nothing is wrong with you, nothing is wrong with me. we are actually doing the RIGHT thing. if your friends are TRUE friends they'll accpet that.
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Hey, good for you for being the wise one in your group. Don't let your friends pressure you into things you don't want to do. If they think you are a freak and are trying to pressure you, then they aren't real friends in the first place. You need to make the right choices for you. They choose to engage in sexual activity, that doesn't mean you have to.
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its okay to not have sex.
actually in my opinion, girls who have morals these days, are higher than girls who don't.
your friends are tossing sex around like its nothing & it is. sex is something you & someone you feel close to should share, not because everyone else is doing it, but because you want to experience something special with someone you love.
its okay to wait. your friends aren't really friends if they don't agree with you. i'm sorry, but its true.
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you`re not a freak. if you`re not ready, or just plain don`t want to, your friends shouldn`t try to tell you that you need to. stick with your values. don`t cave in to their peer pressure. if they can`t respect you for your choices, they aren`t very good friends.
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if you aren't ready to do anything sexual, then don't. if your friends can't respect that, then they aren't really your friends now are they?
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you should never do what your not comfortable with. if your friends make fun of you for not wanting to, then maybe they aren't your friends. and i think you suld really talk to them about how you just don't see it as a necessity in your life and you just don't want to.
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