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Recently I've been needing a lot of sleep. I've been getting about thirteen hours a day, if not more. I'm absolutely exhausted and cannot get up any earlier. I don't feel otherwise sick.
My question: is this a symptom of any sicknesses or anything? (link)
First of all it could be anything because there are about 70 different types of medical sleeping disorders, so if you think its something serious then maybe get a blood test? if you hate those things, because i hate them a lot and im like so scared of them haha. but you should maybe look up something like "sleeping disorders" on google? i sort of have that also i could go to bed at 10pm and wake up at about noon. sometimes it could acctually be lack of Iron for your blood. this is something from google "Iron-deficiency anaemia is a common and easily treated condition that occurs when there is not enough iron in the body. It is the most common type of anaemia. A lack of iron in the body can come from bleeding, not eating enough foods that contain iron, or not absorbing enough iron from food that is eaten." or just tell your parents/doctor if you feel you need to look in to this. but trust me, millions of people have sleeping problems so your defidently not alone. good luck :]


im 13 a girl ive been through some deaths a few even this month and whole lot my whole life. and my mom has some tumors they just found out but they wont tell her how many they just say its really bad and there is a few. we fight alot but i still love her. and my dad is always out of state or just never home and when he is home we do not get along at all. he loves my brother he will do anything for him or make me do anything for him. and he would tell me no if i asked for something. but i need my mom id kill myself if i lost her and would be just my dad and brother. what can i do to get over it. its so bad they wont even tell her HOW MANY tumors she has. what will i do? (link)
you really should talk to your dad first and if he doesnt listen try again. dont bug him to much. but its not good for a dad and a daughter to have an unhealthy relationship. im so sorry about your mom, the last thing you need is pity so, just try to stay strong for your mom. i know she'd hate to see you sad but its okay to cry about it first of all. many people go through this kind of stuff. i know a girl who's mom did pass away and she said it took a long time to get over it but she realized people just have to move on. your mom knows you love her. you should tell her tht you love her sometime so she'll feel better to. you want to stay strong for her but more importantly you. i really hope it goes good for you. good luck :]


Okay, well i am going to go to massachusetts wensday-monday.. My nana's sister is picking me and my 2 younger sisters and nana up to go there shes like 65-68ish. I live in maine, so its about a 1 hour& 30 min to 2 hour ride.
Well i keep thinking about car crashes, and how im gonna miss my brother and parents. I dont know. I just keep thinking about death and about my aunt ( who just died) and all this stuff.
Im like scared to go in the car with someone old like that driving, and I want to go to massachusetts but i dont. My brother cant go because he just got out of the hostpital for a breakdown becasue my aunt died on easter and drugs and stuff. I always am scared my dads going to die from smoking. I dont know ..
This year has been really hard for me since easter and on.
My aunt died
My brother went to the hosptial for a month
and my dad smoking.
Whats going on and what can i do?
Should i go to massachusetts, i dont want to let my family down. And i kinda do want to go
Please help!
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well why are you going to massachusetts? and i know how you feel to, ive had many many many deaths in my family but you should think its a part of life and it has to happen some day. my brother did drugs & sold them & got caught. it was hard. and my dad did smoke. but you should first take a deep breath and calm down and you could think about everything that has happend and try to throw it away. think of songs or something that helps calm you down first before you do anything. think, a lot of people are with you even if you don't know them. so many people are in same situations. but dealing with them is the hard part. can you talk to your dad about his smoking problem? quitting is the hardest thing ever. but my dad wears nicatine patches. im sure your brother will be fine. and death is something that happens everyday. its better to have lived then never lived at all.


15/f

wel, my boyfriend has been sick for the past 3 weeks, been to the doctor 4 times, and they've found nothing, but recently, i've been feeling the same he has.

i've been very dizzy, strong headaches, upper stomach pains, sharp lower stomach pains, and sometimes ear aches.

does this sound similar to anything you've had? know what this could be?

also, i'm sexually active, so could i be pregnant? my boyfriend generally uses condoms, but didnt a while back.

what could be wrong with me? (link)
Well if i were you i would get some tests or something. look up your symtoms and if nothing comes up look up "Pregnancy Symtoms" and read about them to see if your symptoms match then go to the doctor. i don't know about your boyfriend. maybe you should look up symptoms on different sicknesses that have something to do with sexual interaction to see if there is a link between what you both have. good luck. :]


ok well i just got my hair cut. i liek the hair just not the color.
thats a pic of me with my hair
http://i131.photobucket.com/albums/p289/dionnespicy/CIMG3582.jpg
what color should i dye it? and how should i dye it? i was thinking a few different colors or something. thanx (link)
first of all your hair to me looks really good that way, but yeah maybe a lighter brown and hightlights or something


Almost everyday I am sick. I have MAJOR stomach pains everyday. It's not because of my period, I would tell the difference. But it's causing me to not pay attention in school, ruins my day, and I can't talk to people. My parents refuse to think it could be anything serious. I've been getting this for years. When I went to the doctors 2 years ago, she said it was nothing major. I'm usually NEVER nasious when I get it. It's ruining my life and I feel like nothing can help. :( (link)
Okay when you get these stomache pains try to describe how they feel and where they are. tell your parents multiple times what you think. like you could say "its a sharp pain in the lower right of my stomache" or how long it takes for it to go away 5 minuets or an hour or a day. you could get allergy tests. or maybe you are eating something the same every day. i used to get stomache aches ALL the time in 4th grade to the point where i missed about 30 - 40 days of school. it could be anything. you could write down your symptoms and look them up online for a match. Then ask your doctor or talk to your parents. but don't freak out about anything or get yourself scared it could be anything from gas to nausea to nerves. i hope something helps. good luck. :]


alright so me and this guy that likes me and i like him have been talking for awhile online. we have great conversation online..but tomorrow we are hanging out for the first time.


so i guess my question is..how do you make it so it isnt awcward when you hang out with your crush alone for the first time? and dont say hang out with a big group..because its gonna be just us (: (link)
Well, you could think up a lot of questions to ask and see if you guys have anything in common? that normally works. so then it wont be akward. but don't ask all your question's right away and relax, don't get to nervous. then he can have some time to ask questions. and once you get to know him more, i promise things wont get so akward. also talking to him online is good to because you could also think of things you say online and talk about them in person. just get to know eachother and relax. hope it goes smoothly, good luck. :]


I like this boy and he is so cute. He is Italian and I am too, so I really want to get to know him but I seem to not be able to talk to him. I could talk to other boys but not him. Even the boys that I like the other years I was able to talk. I guess I want him to come to me. Well, I mean I did talk to him a couple of times because we got partnered up but very small words. Such as: 50ml, no, yes, and small words. When we pick our seats I want to sit next to him but I don't want to. At the begining of the year we started starring at eachoher, it was weird. How do I know if he like me too? Should I stop liking him? What should I do next year. (link)
first of all you should learn a lot more about him, defidently get to know what he likes and see if you guys have things in common, that will defidently help the conversation. see, how would he like you if you dont talk to him much? im in the same thing all i say is "yeah" and "mhmm" and "i know wht you mean" to this other boy i like. and i know he'll never like me if i dont talk and be confident and stuff. so you shouldn't stop liking him, get to know him so he can get to know you and then who knows, you guys could like eachother and end up going out.


okay, im 15/f and im pretty, I always had a boyfriend, and guys would call me hot and all. But my teeth are kinda messed up. My bottom are PERFECT!. But my top are messed up. Okay.. my front two teeth are a little tilted in. Then those "fang" teeth are weird too. My one is okay, its not bad i could live with it, but my main problem is my other fang tooth. I still have 3 baby teeth left and that fang tooth is growing on top of my baby. So its pushed out, like sticking out.
Now im a cheerleader, And i hate to smile bc of my teeth. People at my school are use to it i guess, and never say anything about it. But its when im with other people. How can i be more confident with my teeth like they are? And be more happy during cheerleading. We're going to an away camp friday and i dont want people to think im mean bc i dont smile.


((braces are not untill my baby teeth fall out, so i dont know when i can get them)) (link)
have you gone to the orthodontist/dentist in a while? you should ask a lot of questions about what to use for them also. yeah a retainer would work. but if i were you and you had to wait for braces, retainer, ect.. and since your in cheerleading maybe you could smile without showing your teeth? im shy about it to, except my lower teeth are all twisted in and i can't get braces yet either. haha. but you should be confident anyway. if your pretty and people like you and guys think your pretty then i wouldn't worry to much if i were you. and if anyone gives you a bad time about it, there are a lot of people on the planet with way worse teeth then imaginable and you should just roll your eyes at them and walk off. hope something helped :]


Ok.
so my friend just informed me that
she likes this one guy who is 16 and
shes 14 and she wants to ask him out.
but i happen to know for sure
that he likes someone else.

should i just help her through it
or tell her that he likes someone else
and see what happens from there?? (link)
Think about her and what would happen to her in the future if she asked him out and he said know. now are you SURE that he likes someone else for SURE? because these could happen: A. she could ask him out and he'd say no and then she'd be crushed and wouldn't ask out many guys for a while and you might feel some what guilty B.you tell her that you think he likes another girl, but your not sure, and you should make it so she wont think your "jelous" or anything and you should bring up an idea so you save her from a potential heart-ache. If i were you i would tell her but say it in a certain way she trusts you and knows your not jelous or you aren't "stealing" him or anything. don't be afraid to tell her, shes your friend she should understand. hope that worked because im not the best at this haha. :]


okay this kid named David called me fat. And he wouldnt drop it and he told me i should buy a tredmill and dumb stuff like that, i know im fat but i donno i didnt think it was that big of a deal.
http://profile.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=user.viewprofile&friendid=41915905
thats my myspace and i was wonderingif i really am as ugly as he says.. be truthful please..:( (link)
Okay look. I have a friend named Lindsey and shes's in the same thing you are. first of all who ever this "David" guy is, stay away from jerks like that, theres going to be people in your life that you have to deal with one way or another so deal with him first and anyone else who makes those remarks. you don't have to do anything physicall. there must be some reason why he would say that. you should come up with comebacks to his jokes. you could give him a nick name or talk about something he doesnt like about himself and make fun of it? but if you dont want to hurt his feelings just comepletely shut him up and shut him down from you. hes just trying to make your self-esteem go down. and you defidently don't need that. sorry if this is long but oh well. also you aren't ugly mmk? everyone on this earth has something they dont like about themselves, i think uglyness doesn't seriously exsit, its just flaws. and i have flaws to,and so does david, everyone does. so do what you want to do and think of things that will help you through your life. :]]


My brother is a jerk I have no privacy with any of my family members and jason tops the cake. I dont even have a room because hes always in it. Everyone knows i have my period and if i tel them id be laughed at because my familys not like that. And everytime i yell at Jason to get outa my room he's like bo hoo shut up.
HELPME
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Oh jeeze, that same thing happend to me like 2 weeks ago, except i have 2 brothers. How i solved my problem is i asked my mom if i could get a lock on my door, also it has a key so when im not in my room i can close it & lock it. i turned the key in to a necklace also so he can never get it. Also he'll grow out of going in your room, trust me. If the lock thing doesn't work, talk to your family because my family is the exact same way to. You want to have a good relationship with your brother but you need your privacy. Maybe go in to his room, sometimes i black mail my brothers doing embarresing stuff then threaten them if they don't get out of my room id show their girlfriend's. :] hope i gave you some good advice. good luck.




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