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a breakdown or something..
Okay, well i am going to go to massachusetts wensday-monday.. My nana's sister is picking me and my 2 younger sisters and nana up to go there shes like 65-68ish. I live in maine, so its about a 1 hour& 30 min to 2 hour ride.
Well i keep thinking about car crashes, and how im gonna miss my brother and parents. I dont know. I just keep thinking about death and about my aunt ( who just died) and all this stuff.
Im like scared to go in the car with someone old like that driving, and I want to go to massachusetts but i dont. My brother cant go because he just got out of the hostpital for a breakdown becasue my aunt died on easter and drugs and stuff. I always am scared my dads going to die from smoking. I dont know ..
This year has been really hard for me since easter and on.
My aunt died
My brother went to the hosptial for a month
and my dad smoking.
Whats going on and what can i do?
Should i go to massachusetts, i dont want to let my family down. And i kinda do want to go
Please help!
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well why are you going to massachusetts? and i know how you feel to, ive had many many many deaths in my family but you should think its a part of life and it has to happen some day. my brother did drugs & sold them & got caught. it was hard. and my dad did smoke. but you should first take a deep breath and calm down and you could think about everything that has happend and try to throw it away. think of songs or something that helps calm you down first before you do anything. think, a lot of people are with you even if you don't know them. so many people are in same situations. but dealing with them is the hard part. can you talk to your dad about his smoking problem? quitting is the hardest thing ever. but my dad wears nicatine patches. im sure your brother will be fine. and death is something that happens everyday. its better to have lived then never lived at all.
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What's going on is you have decided to put the problems of the world on your shoulders!
You are becoming a first class worry wart. In fact, you are worrying so much that now you can't even enjoy this upcoming trip because you're afraid of what 'could' happen. Yikes! That means you're worrying about things that HAVEN'T EVEN HAPPENED YET too!
Slooooooooooow down. Take a breather.
Go ahead. Breathe in.........Breathe out......Breathe in........Breathe out.
I think you are looking at the things going on around you and want to fix everything. You CAN'T. All you can change is yourself. You don't have the power to change other people. You may help to guide them or support them, but they have to make the changes on their own. We can do what we can to help others, but at the end of the day, each person is responsible for the choices that they make in their lives.
So please, give yourself a break, wonderwoman.
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its natural for you to be scared of whats going on but you just have to embrace the fact that you still have people to hold on to you and make you feel comfortable. you've overcome so much,and its understandable that you don't want to loose anyone else for any means. When your going down to Mass, keep a notebook with you..and if you get nervous, write whats on your mind. I know it may sound silly, but it actually helps. Writing down whats on your mind helps get things off your mind, especially if you don't want to talk to anyone else about it. you have to be there for the rest of your family,don't limit yourself just because you're afraid of what might* happen. (God forbid) especially for your brother,because it seems like he's taking it the worst. if you really want your father to quit smoking, go online and look up the effects, and actually show him pictures of smokers lungs. i did this for my mom and she quit after 2 weeks. you have to know, its hard to quit an addiction and only half of the people who say they will quit,actually do. Its really up to them,its all in the mind. 65 isn't AS old as you think,trust me. My nana is 80 and she still drives fine. well we tried :]. hope we helpedd,good luck!
xkristen&jillx
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