Heyy!! i love helping people and I like to think I'm good at it. I really want to become a level 2 moderator but I haven't been on long enough....so, yeah. Don't hesitate to ask me anything.
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Member Since: August 11, 2005
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ok i wanna have sex with my boyfriend.
but some part of me is scared....
why is that??
i'll rate.
and dont give me some "your to young to have sex" bullshit.
or any of that. (link)
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It's normal to be nervous. This is a big event in your life. You're going to remember this for the rest of your life. Make the right decision.
!~*becca*~!
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Ok...I always wash my face once a day. Sometimes 2 times. I can't keep the zits from coming! I need help. How do you prevent zits and blackheads!!?!?!?! (link)
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Yeah, I used to have a little zit problem and I couldn't stand them. I strongly recomend Clearasil daily scrub (or something) and also the cleansing pads. For moisturizer, I recomend just regular aloe gel. Good luck!
!~*becca*~!
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okay like i want a purse. but i dont know what to get. like "whats in". anyone know? im the kinda girl that like shops at abercrombie american eagle gap and all that! please help! lol. im usually not a purse type of girl but like now i really want one (link)
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Get what you think is cute. Who gives about what's "in"? Besides, usually what people like is "in" anyway. USUALLY. I think you're okay. It's not really too important what purse you have. Purses can be really annoying, but so cool, because you can carry you're makeup and wallet without having to worry about forgetting it.
!~*becca*~!
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I have a friend who is really nice but lately she has been driving me crazy.
Well for example she phones me about 6 times a day. And when she calls she has nothing to say, she'll just start out saying "how's it going", and then she'll be on the phone for about 20 minutes, finally after her not talking and me doing all the talking I'll say I have to go. The she'll phone me back again and ask if I am mad at her!!. This happens EVERY day.
I am too nice to tell her to stop phoning, but it is really getting annoying. Sometimes I get so mad with all the phone calls that I'll just unplug the phone for a couple of hours, but then I miss out on other important calls from either my boss or my parents. And if I don't answer my phone until the evening she ALWAYS asks if I'm mad.
When I first met her 5 years ago she had a lot on the ball, she was skinny, pretty, and had a boyfriend. But now she is quite overweight, has no boyfriend and no job.
This one time I was waiting for a very important call from my crush. He told me he would phone between 11:00 and 12:00 so I stayed off the phone to wait for his call. Well my phone rang TWICE in the hour and it was HER!! I snapped at her after the second call and then the next day she made me feel guilty and said "is there something wrong with our friendship"!!
What am I going to do about her? (link)
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Well, tell her nicely to STOP!!! That can get really annoying. I really hate when people do that. Sit her down and tell her nicely that "i mean to be mean or hurt her feelings or w/e, but you're calling way too much. I'm always happy to talk to you, but when you call and have absolutely nothing to say, it's completely pointless to even call. There's nothing wrong with our friendship!!" Something like that.
Good luck. Some people can be really hard to talk to because they get upset really easily.
!~*becca*~!
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im sooo freked out. my best friend is scaring me. he is running away and not telling anyone. i just found out that he has threatened to kill himself. im scared. hes like a brother. i love him to death. if anything happened to him id go crazy. how can i approach him about it? or how can i just stop freaking out? my sister is dating him and she is scared to. pleeze help me. im very worried about him. help! (link)
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That's really serious. You should tell your parents or his. Maybe a school counselor. Just make sure someone knows, so they can help him.
Don't keep these things to youselves. Even if you're afraid he's going to be mad. It's worth his life.
!~*becca*~!
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Well my boyfriend and I have been going out for awhile and i think he wants to kiss me becuase he always leans in and i pull back because i really dont want to kiss yet cuz i think its to early. I already had my first kiss and it sucked becuase i didnt even know that guy. And i want this one to be special. And my boyfriend doesnt know i have kiss someone and he hasnt kissed any one so. My friend thinks he will get mad because i already kissed someone. Should i not like make a big deal about it? I mean its not that big a deal that i kiss someone and he hasnt he should get over it. Its not like the kisses that i got a big deal they didnt mean anything to me and his will because we are really close. So should i tell him that i kissed someone before but not when i was with him and that they didnt mean anything or just forget it? Well i know its going to come out that i did kiss someone because it almost did like 4 times but i stopped it.
Sorry this was long
THANKS for your help
ill rate high for good answers (link)
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Psh, he won't care. It's not a big deal at all. Just kiss him! If you want it to be special, then set the mood. Make it romantic. I can see how it would be a bigger deal if you're younger. How old are you?
I know this advice totally sucked. Sorry.
!~*becca*~!
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We have a school dance this week and i want to sneak my boyfriend in that goes to another school. But i dont know if he wants to go or if i will get into trouble. So should i try to sneak him in and risk going home or not even try?
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It depends. Does your school have IDs that they check? Most school dances let you bring a guest or two. Ask about that. If they're really strick about security, then don't bother, because you could get in a lot of trouble, and people would assume that you were trying to smuggle something in (totally gay, i know).
If you can't get him in, then just do something else that night. School dances usually suck, anyway.
!~*becca*~!
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My Best friend Jessie likes this guy ( Michael ) for about a week. Secretly I`ve liked him for almost a month but I never told him cause I could always tell she sorta liked him too. Now everyone's tellin me he likes me and he's going to ask me out. I feel really badly cause my Bff likes him too! I told her I like him and she said she'ss not mad but I can tell she is. If he asks me out what do I do? She's my bff and i love her more then any guy. (link)
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I would try to get over him, because she's probably going to get really pissed.
But then again, try to explain to her that you really have feelings for this guy, and maybe she'll realize that you've liked him for longer. Besides, if he likes you, then what's the point of just wasting that because she likes him too (DO NOT SAY THAT TO HER!!)?
If she seems like she can't really get over him, then just forget him. I know it's hard, but it really sucks when someone's mad at you because of some stupid guy. Chicks before dicks, ya know?
Good luck with that.
!~*becca*~!
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How can you tell if a girl likes you{dont say flirting}? How can you tell if a girl knows that you like her? Does anyone know any advice on girls that is hard to learn on your own or that no onr told you and you figured out yourself.
Thanks in advance.
I rate high.
--Caden-- (link)
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Okay, well, yeah, flirting. If she flirts with you, she MAY like you, or she could just be playing around.
It accually depends on the person. Some people will be really be really flirty, some shy, some just try to be really normal around them, but some can be REALLY obvious.
I've learned in previous...times that you shouldn't assume that people like you, just because they seem to act like they do, because you could be in for a very nasty surprise. I've also learned that you shouldn't keep your feelings to yourself.
You can't really tell someone that you like them, you just sorta have to hint at it, unless you're very bold and aren't afraid of rejection at all. Ask for her screen name, then maybe her phone number (don't look it up or ask someone else, because that's kind of creepy). After you've gotten to know her a little but more, ask her out on a date. If she doesn't seem interested, take the hint. It's really embarrassing when someone has to spell it out for you. Usually when someone says that they can't go somewhere and they sound sincere, they usually mean it. If they sound like,"ah, i really can't...uh...I have to...uh...." then they're probably lying. Most people have the decency to just tell you straight out. But like I said before, it depends on the person.
I'm sorry that was so long....hope I helped!!
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There's this guy I know, and well, let's call him *Andrew* . I talked to *Andrew* like ONCE. and all i ever said was if he was a sophomore and he's like yea. So that's it. So anyways, i have myspace and i found him on there and i was like HEY! OMGGG! and i was like hey i talked to you like once and stuff and hes like ohh yea i remember you. But before i ever sent him that message, i heard he was having this halloween party. So anyways, i kinda see him like almost everyday. He's in my P.E period and when i walk out of English i see him around. But ever since i sent him that message, we've talked about like random things. And everytime he sees me he either smiles,tapps me on the shoulder and wave or just waves. (I KNOW RIGHT!! GREAT..) But the problem is that i asked him what he was doing for halloween and hes just like uhhhhh ..well..ima C if theres a party i can go to..
UGHH! he didn't even have the nerve to tell me that HE was having a party. I mean, it wasn't like i was just talking to him to get invite me to the party! Now im a person who just doesn't give a flying f***. But somehow this just hurt me. I mean we've been talking just like i guess normal friends. But he could've just told me that he was having the party and i wouldn't care if i got invited. But its at the point that im about to cry. Not because i didn't get invited.But just because he couldn't be a man and tell me the truth. And i guess you can say i kinda liked him. But i dunno. Should i just forget about this? And why do guys do this?! After he sent me that message that he was like "im gonna go c if i can go to a party." i was just like "oh kool." .....should i talk to him like nothings wrong? should i wave to him and stuff when he waves back?. I know i should keep talking to him like nothings wrong because he doesn't know that i know. But ugh..its just weird. Please help me! i feel soo bad && im sorry if this is long!! =( (link)
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Okay well the thing is, he probably doesn't like you. He barely knows you , and he knows you as that random girl from the hallway.
The reason he's probably not telling you the truth about his party is because you're not good enough friends yet. Talk to him more often. That's pretty much the only thing you can do for right now. yeah.
!~*becca*~!
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what are the signs of being pregnet??? (link)
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Skipped period, breast tenderness, I think irritablitity, vomiting, you get it. If you have these symptoms them you probably are pregnant.
!~*becca*~!
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ok hey, question for the girls. How would you feel if your boyfriend did something like this for you on Xmas. (by the way i am the male not the female lol) I get 2 roses, and put each in their own wrapped box. Ill say "when this rose dries up and dies, i will love you more," then give her the box and let her unwrap the first rose. then say "when this rose dries up and dies, you will love me more," then give her the box and let her open it. Then i will take a third box and say "when this rose dries up and dies, i will STOP loving you." and she will open the box, and it will be a glass rose. (for all the blondes out there, glass doesnt dry up and die ;-)) Ever. lol. what do ya think? (link)
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Oh my gosh that's so sweet!! I would love for a guy to do that. Go for it.
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What's wrong with me?
My parents think I'm strange and that I have something weird going on with me. "I have weird habits and a weird way of thinking."
Habits as in...counting the number of cracks I've stepped on, the times i circle around something, the seconds im in somewhere and if its not under a certain time then i..feel the need to start over..and then im yelled at when im still doing it ...I dunno. People think I'm retarded X___x I didn't notice that i was doing this stuff... i just do it because...its what i've always been doing..then people pointed it out. Its like ringing the doorbell a couple of times..before entering because..its just..there. I always think about something. I'm afraid of pain. I'm afraid to do P.E. in class. I'm afraid of running..tripping and landing on the ground..seeing blood or having my arm bend the wrong way or having my fingers crushed or having those bent the wrong way. It makes me sick. I don't want to twist my ankle or have a ball hit my face..because it might hit my ear piercings and those might rip out and hurt. I've got glue on eyelashes and I've just recently thought..what if i get the glue in my eye? My eyes will start to water and then i might get eye problems...might have to go see a doctor...and then i get awful images.. I dunno. I always worry a lot. Also.. my little sister was going across the street to a friends house...in my head I heard a loud crash..and had images of her lying in the street covered in blood and...blah. My boyfriend had this safety pin in his mouth...and it was open and for about 20 mins..he was talking with it still in his mouth..and all i could think about is.. what would happen if it cut him...or if he swallowed it and it got stuck..and i couldn't do a thing about it because there was no adult around.. argh. Am I stupid? (link)
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I think you might have a thing called Asberger's Syndrome. I think this because my brother has it and I've read books on the subject. I know little about other things so I could be wrong but it really sounds like you have it.
If you get a MRI you can be diagnosed.
Hope I helped!!
!~*becca*~!
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well their this kid that i been dateing for like a year and cheated on me like 4 time i dont no if i wamms be with him or not but their this really nice kid that likes me and i dont no i need help (link)
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Ok well you should've ditched this guy when he first cheated on you. That shouldn't be tolerated.
I don't know if you're talking about some other person too because I can't understand you. Try to use better grammar.
!~*becca*~!
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*this may be kinda long sorry! but thanks for taking the time to read this*
*well me and my ex boyfriend "mike" have been broken up for 9 months now! we talk about once a day or sometimes every other day! we have hung out quite a few times..and this is where the problem starts
*last night he came over and picked me up at my house around 10! he lives like 30 mins away from me so the whole time we were driving he was just kinda flirting with me..like making fun of me and stuff! well we were going to his friends house to get him and then gonna go bowling but his best friend was there and he doesnt like me so we didnt go there..instead we just went to mcdonalds! he kept asking me if i wanted something but i said no! well he got something and while he ate we sat in his truck and just talked..he kept staring at me and i was like what and hes like can i not look at you! and he kept calling me turtle lip which is what he called me when we went out! well then we left and went to his house and i started playing with my hair and
he was like whats wrong? i was like nothing and hes like what are you thinking about and i was like nothing and he was like dont lie to me i know better..well i didnt wanna talk about it! so we get to his house and he undoes his seatbelt..he looks at me and goes do you think it would really work out? i was like i really dunno and he was like honestly and i was like i dunno maybe! well i told him i was cold so he moved the thingy in the middle up and came and cuddled with me! well he was rubbing my feet for a while and he knows i love that! then he layed his head on my chest and was listening to my heart beat! well then he looked at me and was like can i bite your lip and i was like why and he was like i want to so i was like sure..so he did..then he layed his head on my chest again and just stared at me and was like can i kiss you so i was like i guess so we kissed! and that happened quite a few times! he kept trying to hold my hands and hold me in his arms! well i got up for a sec so he laid in my spot! well i was like fine ill go in the back and he was like no lay on me so i did! the seat belt thing was in my way so i went to the back..so he came back there with me and of course we cuddled and ended up messing around! weve hung out several times before this and weve never touched eachother like that or cuddled/kissed or anything! well then it was 1:30 and his dad was like you need to take her home! ya it seems awesome i know..but heres where it doesnt make sense! today he was on AIM and imed him (he was away though) and i was like you know things are gonna be hard now cause i cant get over him at all..and he signed off so i was like what the heck! so i got on myspace and he was on so i was like whatever cause sometimes it just leaves it on! then again later i got on it and he was on it again but he wasnt on AIM so i felt like he was avoiding me! so i called him and was like why are you ignoring me and he was like im not im watching a movie ill ttyl so i was like whatever! and he hasnt been on AIM all day..sometimes hes not but its kinda weird! i dunno if its just me or if hes ignoring me! i guess my question is what should i do? let go or keep trying? keep in mind he is my 1st love but i have been trying for 9 months.. how do you think he feels? do you think he really likes me and is scared to tell me or fall me or what? ughhh someone please help me! thanks so much (link)
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Yeah, that is REALLY long. Can you try to shorten it a little then get back to me?
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Ok well me and my boyfriend have been going out a very long time and i really do love him!! But then i have this friend that he really doesnt like and she is like my best friend and shes alwayz with me!! well yesterday we got in a arguement about it and he says he doesnt no y i hang out with her and i dunno but i dun think he wants me to be her friend so its him or her i dunno what to doo but i want them both?
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Okay, well who matters more? Your friend, who will probably be with you for years, or your boyfriend, who you will most likely break up with....?
BUT, but if you're not really good friends with your friend, then maybe your boyfriend if more important to you.
Then again, if they're equal....You could hang out with both, just at different times. It's not really that complicated. I guess if he wants you to totally ditch this friend then just tell him no, that's it's YOUR friend, not his, and that you don't see the big deal unless he's hanging out with her, which he won't be if you use the last piece of advice i gave.
!~*becca*~!
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you know the song gold digger by jamie fox and kanye west? well i know this sounds stupid, but what is a gold digger? (link)
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A gold digger is a person who just uses someone to get their money.
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i have hair below the shoulders that is wavy and on the thicker side and im getting a new hair straightening iron i already have two but i have had those for a long time (hottools) and some cheap brand is there any hair straightening iron that makes your hair very straight, frizz free, ceramic, and smoothens and straightens hair but is less then lets say $125
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The one I have sucks, but a lot of my friends have good ones. I'm not sure what brands, but they're from CVS and look plastic on the outside part. One is purple. I don't how much that'll help you but...yeah
!~*becca*~!
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this will sound stupid but do u have to take your tampon out when u pee? and is it possible to apply a tampon incorectly? (link)
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No, you don't need to take it out, because they're in a different hole. I guess you could apply it incorrectly, but it wouldn't go in any other hole comfortably. Use a mirror so you can see what you're doing.
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I want to be something slutty for Halloween cause thats what all my friends are being... But they all wear JR's clothes I wear a large in kids sizes. I needa find a costume for Halloween thats cute and a tad bit slutty but I can't cause I'm small. Maybe you can help me.
I'LL RATE 5'S!!!!!!!! (link)
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Try Spencer's.
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