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friend is driving me crazy
I have a friend who is really nice but lately she has been driving me crazy.
Well for example she phones me about 6 times a day. And when she calls she has nothing to say, she'll just start out saying "how's it going", and then she'll be on the phone for about 20 minutes, finally after her not talking and me doing all the talking I'll say I have to go. The she'll phone me back again and ask if I am mad at her!!. This happens EVERY day.
I am too nice to tell her to stop phoning, but it is really getting annoying. Sometimes I get so mad with all the phone calls that I'll just unplug the phone for a couple of hours, but then I miss out on other important calls from either my boss or my parents. And if I don't answer my phone until the evening she ALWAYS asks if I'm mad.
When I first met her 5 years ago she had a lot on the ball, she was skinny, pretty, and had a boyfriend. But now she is quite overweight, has no boyfriend and no job.
This one time I was waiting for a very important call from my crush. He told me he would phone between 11:00 and 12:00 so I stayed off the phone to wait for his call. Well my phone rang TWICE in the hour and it was HER!! I snapped at her after the second call and then the next day she made me feel guilty and said "is there something wrong with our friendship"!!
What am I going to do about her?
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trust me its not easy being in that place just tell her and be nice about it say" we are best friends and we always will be and i'm not mad at you i just was wondering if you could maybe call less each day for instance instead of calling 6 times just call about twice so i can get all my work done and i can get all he calls i have been waiting for" that should work
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roxyhollister101
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no there is nothing wrong with your friendship
she is most likely paranoid, is she having a boyfriend problems? ask her, talk to her more try calling her, and ask her not to call u in the morning because you are too busy and you dont want her to think that you are mad she just wants someone to talk to! so talk with her
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from all that you have said...i've come to the realization that she needs you as her friend. just you being on the phone with her and talking about stuff or just sitting without saying a word makes her feel happy in knowing that your there. of coarse it gets annoying, but we just have to sit back a think about why they call all of the time. you may be the only true person that she has besides her parents and god.
understand? i hope i didnt confuse you.
Sam
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Well, tell her nicely to STOP!!! That can get really annoying. I really hate when people do that. Sit her down and tell her nicely that "i mean to be mean or hurt her feelings or w/e, but you're calling way too much. I'm always happy to talk to you, but when you call and have absolutely nothing to say, it's completely pointless to even call. There's nothing wrong with our friendship!!" Something like that.
Good luck. Some people can be really hard to talk to because they get upset really easily.
!~*becca*~!
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TELL HER!
There is no other way. I know what's going to happen: you'll get angrier and angrier, you'll snap at her, she'll try to make you feel guilty. She might also ignore you for a few days, waiting for you to make the first move. If you do, she'll be awfully cold and make you feel guilty.
She is NOT a good friend. She is like this huge energy-sucking monster. She'll drain you and move on to someone else once she has eaten all the "food" you can offer.
Next time she asks you if there's something wrong with your friendship, say yes. Tell her you are an independant person who values her friendship AMONG other things and that your life is about all those things, friendship included, but it's not limited to it.
She probably has a lot of problems, low self-esteem and she might be bored out of her mind. That's not your problem, however. Just point out kindly that she might want to focus on other things and that you will join her in an activity that involve both of you but also other people, if necessary.
If she ignores the problem or doesn't seem to understand you need space, tell her you understand she needs a friend, and that you respect her, but also tell her that she needs to respect you and your time. If needed, tell her you'll only give her some limited amount of time during the day and she'll need to respect the fact that you need time for yourself as well.
If she doesn't understand after that, well... it's a lost cause, I'm afraid.
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