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Ok, so, after alot of things that have happened to me in my past with guys, and, just my horrible trust issues, it's hard for me to see my boyfriend talk to other girls without thinking bad things. Is this normal? Like, he moved, and that day, this one girl was like, sorry I didn't call you! Right in front of me, and after school, she was hugging him and was like, you'd better call me, and I'm so sorry you're moving, and I'm gonna miss you soooooooo much! That really bothered me for some reason. Should it? I know I'm paranoid, but, I don't know what to do. I think it's my paranoia and my trust issues that's really bothering me. After everything that's happened to me, it's impossible for me not to be paranoid. What do I do?
Thanks :]
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Well it is just natural to take things out of preportion because it is with the guy you are with. I think it is just natural. You just got to say my boyfriend is a compleatly different guy and that he won't hurt me. Just think possitive and don't let things get to you. If you are really bothered, talk to your boyfriend about how you feel and what is going on with the other girls, but most likly it is just a friendly relationship and that tehy are mad taht one of there friends are leaving them. Hopefully everything goes ok and good luck with your boyfriend.
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ok so one of my best friends that ive known for like 3 years, yeah his grandmother has cancer. and shes basically dying :/
he visits her in the hospital and he did today actually and he said she was really "weak" and he was really quiet and didnt really talk much. hes like that a lot lately and im pretty sure its because of his grandmother.
he lost his grandfather like 2 years ago and that pretty much devastated him, he just slept around all day for weeks and i know that thats what he'll do if his grandmother (who hes extremely close to) dies.
now, hes a guy so of course he never ever talks about his feelings.
so..what am i supposed to say? i want to get his mind off of it but its like impossible. and i want to be there for him but if he never tells me his feelings i really cant do anything for him.
so, i need some tips on what i can say or do for him. (link)
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The only good thing you can actually do for him is to jsut be there when he needs a friend. I mean there isn't really anything you can do other then to comfort him because you can't help the fact that his grandmother is dieing. I mean you can try and talk to him about fun exciting things that go on in his life like jsut take him mind off the subject by talking bout sports or extra activites that he does or something that won't bring his mind back to his grandmother. Just be thre for him and do stuff to make him feel special. Good luck and i hope your friend turns out ok.
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Ok im 14 & im a female.
Me & my boyfriend just started dating & i like him alot. Problem is, im in the 8th grade & hes in the 7th grader(but he failed so hes suppose to be in 8th grade), so we have no classes together. And he has to take intensive classes so we cant have electives together either. The good thing though is I live in the neighborhood right next to his, so I can walk over there, even though its a 15 minute walk. But still, we obviousley dont hang out as much as he wants us too, because this is the 2nd time we went out, & last time he broke up with me because we never got to see each other. And now hes telling people how he likes me alot but never gets to see me. The thing is, I hang out with him as much as i can, alot of days after school & on the weekends. I mean i cant hang out with him everyday, because i do have a life of my own after all, even though i like him alot, i still want time for school work & my friends & my family, you know?
So my question is, what can I do to maintain this relationship, should i even try, & will this be able to work out for much longer?
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I say taht if he can't give you teh time you want to be with your family, friends and school work then he isn't worth being with. i know you like him a lot but if he can't respect you for what you want then he isn't wnat you want. You wnat to be able to be with him but not 24/7. You want to spend time with him just not your whole life. He needs to understand taht haveing a girlfriend, you are not supposed to be together everyday. You need a break and extra time for yourself. So if he doesn't respect what you want then i say to give up. Good luck and i hope this helped.
~sealgirl~
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ok well there is this guy that i really like but im not sure if he likes me too. this might be long but if you can answer please do!!
we get along great and whenever we see eachother we are super happy to see eachother and stuff. He kissed me one time but just a peck on the lips. but after that nothing happened. And i dont know i have the feeling he does because how he acts around me but i'm just not sure. One time he was sitting on a bench and he said to me "come sit next to me im lonely". So i did and then he kissed me on the cheek, but i didnt do anything and then he was jokin about something and i laughed and he said "well its the only action im going to get tongiht". do you think he was hinting something????
i dont know if i have supplied you with enough info to tell but please help!! (link)
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i say that he likes you. He was probally hinting on the fact taht he doesn't have anything to do tonite, do you wan to hang out kind of thing. I mean, if he kissed you more then one time, friends don't usually just go and kiss their friends. I say taht he likes you and if you have feelings for him then be alittle more flirty and show him that you like him. Good luck!
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Over the past two months I became good friends with this girl in physics class. She always makes an effort to talk to me, is always nice to me, and even made me a cd for me a while back out of nowhere after she asked me if I liked a certain band. She also copied notes for me one time. She asked me my number too recently, so we could study together, and when we got done and I was walking to my car, she also stopped and picked me up (my car was maybe 30 feet away), and we talked alone in her car. we went and got coffee at school a few days after that (after she waited a few mins for me to finish our exam since she finished first). She even dropped out of her lab project group to be in mine after I couldn't get in her's. She also asked me to goto church with her, so i went and got to come over to her her house and eat and watch a movie. I told her we should do it again so I got to hang at her house yesterday for most of the day, and when I asked her if we could hang out at her house yesterday, she picked me up at school and we went back and hung out. Do you think she's interested in me as a friend..or more? she said to me in passing the other day that she didn't want a relationship when talking about this guy that she said she didn't like (some guy from church that randomly called her while we were hanging out) So I guess she just wants us to be friends?
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My oppinion on this, if she makes an effort to talk to you then i say that she likes you. She wants to hang out with you and it is kinda weird for people that haven't been friends to just say, hey want to hang out. i mean, it is kinda random and stuff so i think that she likes you. She wants to hang out with you, she has fun, and so do you. And about the guy calling her and her saying that she doesn't want a relationship, she could have ment with just that guy and she probally didn't want you to hear what she was saying to him. i think that she likes you and if you like her too, then i would go for it. Good luck with everything.
~sealgirl~
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13/f 8th grade
Ok I like this guy at my school....I think. I only have one class with him. He talks to me sometimes and always asks me for a piece of paper(don't ask why I added that..)
But I have no idea what to do. None of my friends know. My friends are really trustworthy though. The thing is I don't know everything about him and if I tell my friends that I like him they might think he's weird or something, you know. But I know I shouldn't care about what they think or anything but that I don't know much about him. I have hardly anytime to talk to him though except during extra time in my class.
I know he knows I exsist because he knows my name and talks to me so....I have no idea what to do. Its not so much about my friends here, its more about him. What should I do? Talk to him more? And if I do, how do I go up and talk to him during class? I'm more confused than ever. Any advice?
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If he always asks for a peice of paper or somthing then write him a note on it asking for his e-mail or his aim or somthing so you can talk to him, if you have these things. I mean try to find another way to talk to him if you don't have much time in class. And as for going up to him in class, just be confident about everything and just pretend he is your best friend that you are talking to. Just make it seem natural and say hey. Everything is always confusing, that is how life is. Good luck and hopefully it is easy to talk to him.
~sealgirl~
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I have some kind of "friendship" with an old friend. We have always been so alike back in junior high that people thought we were sisters/twins. So we went to different high schools and things changed. But somehow she ends up doing something that I do. I'm quite tired of it. We always had the same ideas. Usually I presented it first or that's what people said. I know we have similar ideas so I can't say that she's always stealing my ideas. I just want to look different from her. She's annoying me now. I have had my nose pierced for half a year and i finally found a ring to wear. She got upset because she didn't want people to like mine better/first since she just got her stud in today. It's just.. rawr! I want her to stop. Is it even possible to bring up or is it just completely wrong to try? Would it be wrong of me to try to change my look? I don't like to be compared to her. This is a bit strange.. and I know it's jealously too. We have always had this secret competition between us. A few years of it.. and I'm sick of it. I just want to be my own person. (link)
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Why don't you jsut tell her that you want to be your own person, that even tho you are simular, that we need to have differences too. Or if you aren't comfortable just talking to he tehn maybe you should change your look. But not to much. You don't want to make a big deal of it. and if you change your look, she might end up doing the same thing so becareful what you. I don't think it would be wrong, i think it actually is a good idea as long as it doesn't change you. So don't change it to much just enough to be different from her and as long as you don't change for her, change for yourself or it won't be worth it and you might get mad at what you did. Good luck
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Okay here i go, there is this really hot guy at my school named john and he has huge muscles im in 8th grade. He is a huge jock and our families have been friends for a reallyyy longgg time. He is so cute and i happen to really like him. I have no clue if he likes me back. He looks at me a lot we talk often and he trusts me with things. Like he tells me secrets and stuff. he would always tell me like jokeslike watch this and i would watch and he would pull down his pants and say i dont even have to unzipper,he would flex his muscles for me he told me to pat his stomach and tell him if its rock solid. I thought he liked me but then he got a girlfriend that he thought was really hotttt and i would go okay and now their going out does he like me or is he like a "tease" (link)
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i say that he is just playin with you. Guys like to do that. they like to make girls jealous and stuff. He probally likes you just as a friend, but he seems like he is jsut a flirt to everyone. i am sorry to say but don't count on it. Just let him be with his girlfriend and still be friends with him. The only actual way to see if he likes you is while he is with his girlfriend, he kind of looks over at you and stuff when they are together. He might like you and is jsut trying to make you jealous too. THis is a tough call, but i say that he is just messing around. Hopefully you stay good friends so you can still be with him.
~sealgirl~
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theres this christmas song that i heard last year, and thats the problem, i cannot for the life of me remember any of the lyrics. but i know it was about a mother that was dying and this little kid didnt have enough money to buy his mother her red shoes for her to wear when she died, at least im pretty sure they were shoes. but the kid says something like and my dad told me to hurry because mommy doesnt have much longer. and i really want to know this song, so if anyone has any idea, PLEASE LET ME KNOW. thanks. (link)
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It is a sad song called christmas shoes and NewSong sings it. i love that song and i have it on my ipod but it is soo sad.
~sealgirl~
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My birthday is coming up soon, i am turning 13 adn am having 30 some girls sleep over at the local sports complex..it should be a balst but there is this one friend who is nice but she ditched me and my other firneds for more popular ones we had this huge fight for 2 years now were finally made up but then last night we kinda you know butted heades again but now were cool.....do you think i should invite her to my birthday party? shes really controlling but is SO nice, but sometimes we just dont get along and its definitly not like old timeswe dont sit with eachother at lunch or anything. should i invite her? (link)
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i say if you have been friends with her so long you should. jsut think about this, if you don't invite her, would you feel bad that she isn't there or would you feel lonely without her. Just think of how u would feel. You might as well jsut invite her and it is her decion weather or not she comes. i mean, if she doesn't that means taht she really doens't want to be with you, most likely, and if she shows up..then you know she is still your friend and wants to be with you. Good luck.
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I am 13/f and my bf is 14/m. We have been going out for 2 months and tomorrow he is coming over, only even though we have been going out that long we both get nervous around each other. We are both shy, so there is never much convo between us in real life, but there is when we IM. I know that sounds lame, so don't tell me. What do you think I can talk to him about? He is a skater, and he said he was going to show me some of ot his tricks on a bored. I don't know if he was just joking around with this, but he also takes Karate and he said he was going to teach me some self defense (he doesn't know this, and I am not going to tell him but, I used to take karate for a couple of years before I met him, but he likes telling me a bunch of stuff about it, and I act impressed).
Anyways. . .
Another thing that is going on is that at school all of our friends won't stop bugging us about kissing. Yea I know that also sounds lame that we haven't kissed yet, but I am his first real gf. I have been kissed before but only once a few years ago. He told me that he didn't want to kiss in school, the first time. The other day, we were talking to our best friend, Derek (yes he is both of ours best friend) and Derek kept bugging Shane (my bf) to kiss me at least on the check. He said that he would, but I am not sure. Do you think he would?
Please answer and sorry that it is long I promise I will rate if you answer.
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Stuff taht you can talk about is your interests. I mean, if he likes karate..maybe you should tell him that you were in it so then you can both talk about somthing that you like to do..or did like to do. SOmthing that you both share..or if you don't wnatto tell him tehn jsut talk about it because u knwo a lot about it. You can also talk about just your fav stuff. like food colors, animals...adn little conversation starters. I know it is hard to talk to poeple. i agree taht it is easier to talk on IM then in person. it is just easier to express yourself. i understand what you mean. And about the kiss, i think he will do it when he is ready. i mean, his first kiss, he wants it to be special and you just need to give him time. Hopefully this helped. GOod luck and i hope he kisses you soon.
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There's this guy in my class and we were really good freidns which surprised me because i'm really anti-social and didn't think that i would make a lot of friends when I go to highschool, but i did.
And I always give him guna nd he's so nice but I ran out of money for two weeks and couldn't get gum anymore.
Then he's like "You're not my friend anymore" which REALLY hurt me!
Then I bougth him chocolate and he's like i love you again friend =]
Is it worth it? I don't know, i just don't liek it when someone doesnt' like me because i get hurt easily but he's so nice and everything. Is he a friend? or not? (link)
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I say he isn't your friend..You don't be friends with someone who is just in it for the reward. He just wants to be friends with you because you give him stuff which isn't really nice. He just like teh fact that you give him stuff. Once you stoped giving him gum..he didn;t like you anymore..and that is his true feelings. He only likes you for what u give him. So no he isn't your friend. iF i were you, i would dump him before he takes anythign else.
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Heey ,
I am going to get Proactive for my acne ... has anyone had any experiance with this product ? Good / bad or inbetween ? It would really be apreciated and I will rate if you help !!
xoxo
Stephii (link)
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It is good stuff...my brother got it and he used it everyday for it to work but it realy cleared up his face..Good stuff. It only works if you use it everyday tho. Good luck and i hope it gives you teh reslults you are looking for
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Me and my best friend of 4 years recently stopped talking because things got awkward between us when we started accusing each other of lying (which we both did). We havn't talked for 6 months to be exact - and here's the weird thing - i havn't missed her! I thought my life would end without this girl.. but it didn't? Was there something wrong with our friendship (I dont think so because we even got the best-friend award at our school cause we're always together, and have supported eachother through funerals, earthquakes, broken hearts and soo much more!)? Well she contacted me 4 days ago through text message asking me why we randomly stopped talking and if I want to be her friend anymore, and I dont know what to answer. Do I? I dont miss her very much? But I dont know if Ive just been denying it to save myself from saddness? Actually, I dont know anything at all here.. what do you think is going on? (link)
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I think that you are just not needing to have her as your friend. I mean..if you don't miss ehr then you don't need her that much. But htis same thing happened to me before..and i didn't really feel like i missed her but she misssed me a lot. so maybe she just needs you to survive and not the other way around. So i say taht you should still be her friend but you odn't have to be as good of friends because of everything that has happened between you. Good luck with you friend.
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Ive really liked this guy ever since he came to my school in October.
Okkay, We have gotten real close like friend wise and he told me I was his best friend.
He sent me a text asking me if I had feelings for him, and I told him I didnt want to disrespect his girlfriend & then he replyed Well I dont want to be with her.
Then he broke up with his girlfriend.
Well the other night at the movie, we were all cuddled and holding hands and what not, and he has been leading me on way before this.
I asked his friend to ask him if he likes me or not, because if he doesnt, I didnt want to waste my time anymore, & he said that he didnt want to do that with his best friend.
I was really heart broken, because I was really starting to like him. Part of me wants to let it go because I know that he doesnt like me like that. But I still have feelings for him.
I dont know what to do.
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Well if he is leading you on then he definatly likes you. maybe he just says that he doesnt want to get into a bigger relationship with his best friend but maybe he is jsut saying that for a cover up. I say that he likes you and u jsut need to come out of your shell and tell him that. If he takes your hand and cuddles with you that is a definate sign of affection. Just go for it and don't give up on him. He seems like a really great guy and you don't want to miss the opportunity with him. Go for it. Good luck
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well i just got over the worst relationship OF MY LIFE. i went with this guy that i'll call Kevin for 2 and a half months and then he decides he wants to break it off because we never get to see eachother. although i get the vibe that that's not the only reason. so the night of my birthday he called me but i never called him back and he got pissed. so he sends me all this hatemail and stuff and tells me off, (even though he knows DAMN WELL that he upset me more than anyone else in the world!! and he wasnt my bf, so why does he care if i dont call him back or not, right? and there were plenty of times when we were dating that he never called me when he told me he would.) and just today he sent me these texts on my phone calling me names and what-not. and so his best friend and my best friend, (who hooked me and that guy up in the first place) want me to get to know this other guy...we'll call him Jay. well, im 15. and jay just turned 14. hes really nice. and cute. and hes just really awesome. but 2 problems here: i dont really like going with guys younger than me, and i only go out with christians. jay is an atheist. but i guess having no religion is better than worshipping the devil, right? well i dont know what to do. should i try it with jay? should i keep going after kevin? what?! PLEASE GIVE ME YOUR OPINIONS!!! I DONT CARE WHAT THEY ARE, JUST TELL ME PLEASE!! thanks. (link)
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I say taht you should give jay a shot. i mean...you gave kevin a shot ans he dumps you and then he gets mad at you for stuff he did to you. That is jsut mean. you don't wnat to be with someone like that. Jay, if you think he is a nice guy then give him a chance.. you have nothing to loss. But then again, if your two friends picked the first guy for you and it turned out like that, then it might not be a good idea. But i still think you should go for the new guy. it is just a chance to take and if you don't like him, you can alwasy break up..nothing big..good luck.
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So i have this sister. We never used to fight but lately everything she does pisses me off and visa versa. I talked to my mom about it but all she said was stand up to her whenever she says something mean. She always says, "Im so much faster than you" (we both run) and "Since im better than you i thought you wouldnt care" and i always stand up to her and she always makes me feel like i am ten years younger, when shes only 3 years older than me. What should i do? (link)
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I say next time she starts to do this...then walk away. She probally knows that it is bugging you because that is why they do it. So eaither walk away or just ignore it..aand change the subject. SHe will do it if she knows it is bothering you. So show her that it isn't bothering you and she will probally stop. And if it doesn't work this way., then just tell her that she is bugging you and making you feel bad. Just be truthful and tell her how you feel. She is your sister, she will understand. Or you could try and give her a piece of her own medicine. Do waht she does ot you to her to make her know how it feels. Theses are jsut 3 ways ot deal with this. i hope you like one of them. Good luck
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okay well im 14 and there is this guy who i met and he really likes me im pretty sure, hes been dropping these hints. hes a sophmore and im a freshman, i know age doesnt matter when your older but now it does, i know of 2 other people who like him and he kinda likes one of the girls*(but he has for a while and nothing has happened) but like the other day i was all excited that he liked me and wanted to hang out with him but like today im just like eh thats stupid etc... i dont know what to do,. (link)
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Well i say you jsut go for. Just start dropping hints to him saying you like him and maybe he will ask you out. I mean, if he doesn't it isn't a big deal because you don't really like like him. but it would be cool if you did go out with him. right? It is exciting to think that someone likes you, and if you that they like you, you begin to like them back somtimes. that is probally what will happen. SO just go for it and hopefully everyhting works out. and if it doesn't then you will be ok, eventually.good luck
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13/f Gr 7
So well I like this guy. Hes not in my class though. Hes with my best friends class. Last time on msn, we were playing confession so i confessed i liked him. So things were kinda awkward for about a day. Then I started noticing my best friend always with him. But she told me she "used" to like this other guy. Which i know who. And then shes always talking about him and wanting to get close to him. Now im afraid that he might like her. What should I do? she is my best friend though. Is there anyway I can talk to her?
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Why don't you tell her that you liek this guy. Friends arn't supposed to go out with guys that there best friend likes. If ou jsut tell ehr that you reallyu liek this guy...maybe she can help you be with him..and she won't try and steal him away. Just talk to her and tell her that you like him..and say it isn't nice if afight hfter i said i liked him..you go and get all cuddly with him..maybe she is trying to make you jealous or maybe she likes him too...just talk to her and solve out what she is doing. Good luck
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Okay so, me and this guy like eachother but we're not going out because we have before but eh doesn't want to go out because well, he's afraid of the "break up trouble" if you catch my drift. Anyway, he basically NEVER talks to me, and we don't hang out like we used too, I think I don't like him anymore but I don't know how to tell him.
Me and his good friend were talking about it and he doesn't know what I should do either but he told me that this guy does like me. The guy that likes me, tells me he really likes me and stuff, but I mean seriously, how can you like someone if you NEVER hang out. Trust me, I try to but all he says are things like "Hey, cool cool, yeaah, sweet, well bye" and thats it. I don't think I like him anymore but I feel so bad. =/. Plus he talks to a lot of other girls all the time, and he has like secret handshakes, sayings ect. with them but he basically ignores me. Anyone have any Ideas how I can? Please helpp. (link)
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i don't think there is a need for you to tell him..i really don't..i mean..if he ever asks you out..even tho you said he won't, just say that you aren't attracted to you and that you have moved on.But just to tell him you don't liek him would crush his heart. SO really he can still like you but i do't think you need to tell him that you do't like him unless you have to. Nothing is wrong with that. Good luck with everything
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