hello! my name is amber and i have been through a lot over the years! my father died when i was 6 years old and 6 years later i developed an auto-immune disease called lupus. i have been in and out of the hospital many time and have been through severe pain physically, and mentally because of it. no question is too odd or confusing, and i will try my best to give you my best and most honest advice. i am very spiritual and into positive thinking, so i could also help you out with anything having to do with finding your way in life. love and light!
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i try to get 7-9 hrs sleep. i dont oversleep or i dont get too little sleep. but then it hits around 2-6 i get sooo sleepy. I just go home and crash. When im with my friends they would like to go other places but i be so sleepy and just go home and sleep. I just want to know how to be more energizes. I wanna be the type who is full of energy. I can be some day but usually i just get sleepy and when i get sleepy i usually get quiet and cranky. I dont wanna be like that all the time. Well and advice thanks :)
also i eat right and i exercise correctly and drink daily doses of water. (link)
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have you ever figured that maybe you are emotionally tired? instead of being really physically tired?
try meditation.
meditation is like an awake, nap.
it re-energizes your soul,mind and body..
i know some people aren't into that stuff, but just try it! what's the harm (:! it really helps.
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I'm into a guy that i really shouldn't be. The wierd thing is is that i really don't know what it is about him that draws me to want him so bad. I told myself that i would never in a million years hook up with him, but i did anyway. I know in the long run it's probably in my best interest if i stayed away but he's all i think about. So should i just say screw it and have fun anyway? Or should i stay clear when i know it's for the better? (link)
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take deep breaths, in and out. sit in a comfortable position, until you feel relaxed and your body feels a bit at peace.
then think of the decision you are going to make,
if your breathing gets shallower or you have "that feeling" in your gut.. or start to feel a bit at unease, that's a bad sign.
don't do it
always, always follow your gut instinct.
no matter what :)
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So i have lost alot of weight ,and suddenly my legs and hands are getting stretch marks and on my hiips.
I use CoCoa butter with a special cream (whitfield's cream)And the stretch marks on my hips are fading but not on my legs and hands and it makes me feel reallly uncomfortable.
I never had stretch marks on my hand or legs until i started losing weight :\
Also on my thighs :(
UGH
is there anyway to get rid of these or is it because my legs have to be shaped up because i lost weight,Is there a home remedy/Way to do that?:( (link)
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i started using "sesame seed oil" the other day on my warts and skin..
a sort of doctor that used natural remedies for healing told me to use it.. all my warts were gone within a few days.
i rubbed in it for five minutes on the part i wanted to heal.. rub in downwards motion for your hips and legs.
you can typically get it in any grocery store, my skin looked so much better afterward. just try it ;) why not
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lately ive been feeling like ive been drifting away from my friends. i know that every body has this feeling but i feel like we have different morals now. I know that you have to get through differences to have that real relationship. Most of the time i feel like its my fault because i dont think i can hold a relationship very long. I always mess up and that one little thing can make a big diffence and let things drift away. I know a friendship or any relationship is two sided and not just ones fault but i just feel different and things are changing. I recently turned 18 and i think i am slowly revealing who i am but yet to fully show it. Life is to short to lose relationships over little things but yet i feel annoyed and want to get away. I dont particularly have a question i guess i just want you to give me advice or your opinions or friendships and life. Thanks (link)
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i have the perfect answer for you :).
i saw it on a site the other day.. i am going through the same right now and it helped immensely.
hope it helps you too..
http://www.tut.com/resources/askmike/?topic=4#
there is the link too it :).
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what do i do if my crush doesnt know if we should be friends (link)
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let it go, let him know what is missing.
you "decide" that you should just be friends for now, and if he likes you, he will quickly change his mind! in time it will come clear just try and learn to let it go :)
if he doesn't, then move on. but i'm sure he will..
i hope that helps, i really think it will work..
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I didn't realize I was such a negative person. But last year was the worst year of my life, and things don't seem to be getting much better this year. I started seeing a therapist.. and idk. School just gets worse and worse. I haven't had a great time at school since elementary school, tbh. Middle school was bad, and high school has been worse. I really want to get into the University of Chicago and now I'm even worried about getting into that.. and I keep feeling angry with myself for not doing as good in high school (I'm a junior) cause it's going to be very hard for me to be accepted there. It just seems like even when I try to do things 110% they still can't happen, so why really try you know? I know other people have failed and succeeded but there's no guarantee you will succeed in the end. Isn't that just naive? I don't want to amount to nothing, but it's so hard to now have much motivation.. even though I have goals and dreams it seems like they can never happen. I've never had a best friend or anything close to a boyfriend. High school hasnt been fun at all. I haven't been invited out with friends for more than a year. When I moved to a new town last year I tried making friends with people when everyone was nice and then they just abandoned me. nobody invites me to things. im uncomfortable doing that but i even tried inviting people to things and they couldnt return the favor to the new girl. even in my old school it was hard. i always felt jealous of other girls who got to hang out with friends often and go to parties and everything. i havent done that at all. this year has been a complete waste. i dont even have anyone on school i can really rely upon.. most days i hardly say anything to people at school, aside from teachers. people just dont want to talk to me and it just makes me feel worse.
And I'm not even ugly or anything. But because nobody really cares about me apart from my family, it makes me feel like I'm ugly. And then when I look at the mirror I'm surprised to find out that I'm just feeling ugly, and that I don't look ugly as I'd expect since nobody really talks to me. I'm not conceited or anything, though. I'm very against cockiness, I like quiet confidence. I dont think I'm very confident, though.. or I wouldn't be having these issues. I think I'm nice.. and like to talk and everything, I guess Im just socially awkward, and it's hard for me to initiate things usually. I spent a lot of my years on the internet.. doing a variety of things. I'm closer to people on the internet than most people I've met IRL. but at the same time it feels sort of empty.. because they have no obligation to continue talking to me and everything... its just an internet friend (link)
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:) positive is a true emotion.
negative is a false belief about something.
here watch this video and see if it inspires you!
if it does the full video is on the internet or you can rent it at most places like blockbuster and rogers :)..
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_b1GKGWJbE8
the main teachings of this video is a law in our universe which is supposedly called "the law of attraction"
please feel free too look that up and get much more info on what the video is all about (;
lots of love - amber
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I have a group of friends who talk shit on, me and others in the room. We all do it, myself included, but some more than others..
"its all fun and games until the jokes on you"
Ive known these friends for over 10 years of my life. i would consider them close friends.
how can i dissolve or downplay a shit talking situation when it becomes too much to handle? (link)
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the best way if you don;t want that to happen is to not be included in it/ not doing it yourself. that way they don't really have the "authority" to include you in the "fun". and when they do, just show them you don't really think it's funny by simply not reacting to it.. trust me your vibes will show them what you are thinking. but if these friends keep doing it after you've told them how you feel as well, then start trying to find better friends! for your own sake :)
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I really want an emo hairstyle to sort of "reinvent" myself. Im not exactly sure, its more of a "scene" hairstyle. Y'know, where the hair is long, with bangs that cover one eye, and it seems to be straight and thin at the bottom, and the top layer is layered short. I dont have a printer, so I cant print it out to show any hair stylists. I actually cut my own hair, so I would prefer to do it myself. I would need step-by-step instuctions on how to do it. Any help?? (link)
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it's really not the cut that makes this hairstyle so scene.. it's the way you style it .
basically to do your hair you can do it however you want, just making a lot of layers and having them go shorter at the top.. it's your choice how choppy you want them, how short, and how many layers you want. the best thing is there's really no way to mess it up, the crazier sometimes the better, it's your own hairstyle but sometimes the shorter the better.
however if you need help cutting the bangs here's a good thing to go on.. http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20100603030200AAR2Bhn
once your hairstyle is done, there are tooons of things you can do.
you will mainly need hair pomade, a straigtener and/or blowdrier, STRONG hairspray, and a comb.
other things that can help your hair are a teasing comb, a volumizer you put in while your hair is wet, and something to put through your hair that protects it against heat damagage.you can get any of this at a drugstore, or you might already have them.
what you do after with your hairstyle is so free as well, i usually put the volumizer and heat protecting cream in my wet hair first, then blow dry and straiten it to my likings..it's all abut experimenting and then doing what you want!
then i put the pomade in my hair so it is stickier and holds when i start to tease my hair.. if you don't know how to tease your hair here is a site for you..
- http://www.wikihow.com/Tease-Your-Hair
after teasing my hair i spray it all to hold it, i then tease other parts of my hair and spray them down again, adding more pomade if needed.
there are various ways to do this just experiment and have fun! (;
also when you;re done you can put many things in your hair or to hold your bangs up some days that are very scene
like colorful bows or bobby pins..
hope that helped somewhat
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I have this vaginal odor, I CANT GET RID OF! I have done everything and it just keeps coming back....Plz help me! (link)
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you really just have to make sure
a) you don't have a yeast infection or other infection that is causing the odor, either see a doctor or use a test you can buy from a drugstore, you can also us the internet and see for yourself
http://womenshealth.about.com/od/vaginaldischarg1/a/vaginaldischarg_3.htm
.. up there is just one of the sites you can go to
or b) it just has a bit of an odor that is normal. every girl has somewhat of an odor to her vagina but there are ways to help make them smell better.
what helps extremely well is just by simply washing your vagina with an odorless soap or one that is specially made for vagina odors in the shower, but doing this every day. they're usually cheap and you can get them at drugstore, but you have to make sure you wash the vagina fairly thoroughly.
what also helps, is using cottong underwear. this let's your vagina breath, therefor making it a lot less wet or smelly, and help prevent furhter infections.
the next thing you should do is to go commando while you sleep, this helps a lot more then you think in letting the vagina breath and becoming more odorless.
if you do the three things i put up there consistently, i garantee the smell will fade and eventually go away for sure. you should not use any artificial things like douches or scented soaps for they will only further irritate your vagina and are somewhat bad for you. it may also help if you have a lot of discharge some days to change your underwear maybe even twice a day instead of once.
i hope that helped a bit :)
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Do you usually use pads or tampons? Do you know any brands that work good? (link)
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hi (:
i usually use pads.
they;re just easier to change and you don't have to worry about leaving them in for too long really.
if you leave a tampon in for longer then about 6 hours,
you could get a serious infection or disease.
which means it;s harder to wear them while your sleeping.
but if you play sports or swim
they can be really handy.
always and tampax are the brands i use
they're probablly two of the most popular ones
and they come in different sizes, flows and shapes,
even pads for thongs or when you're sleeping.
however if you don;t like the feeling of pads
which some people don't and your comfortable and able to change your tampon often,
use tampons ! (:
a lot of people use them and it works great .
hope that helped your decision a bit !
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hey,
i was wondering if you would be able to help me with a screen name i've had my current one for soo long.
here are a few things about me:
my name is katie
i love the words peace and love and i would like them in my screen name, and possibly my name to but not spelled kt or kd lol.
um im 17,i love texting,love the 80's and the beatles and i love many types of music, if this helps at all lol.
please e-mail me at Benditlike_Buckingham08@yahoo.com
thanks! (link)
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- just a little more love, just a little more peace, is all it takes, to live a dream - techno song, by benny bennassi
katey
K4T3Y
kaytee
kay-t
k-tee
k@tey
http://www.sherv.net/symbols.html
this site can give you cute icons to go in your actual msn name
i hope that helped a bit ! (L)
like hearts and peace signs (;
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Hi, would you know where to find Graduation songs for for grade 5's? (I'm not in grade 5, my sister is. She needs a song appropriate enough for her to sing for her school on her Graduation day from elemantary school!) She REALLY wants to find one! She would really appreciate your help, but its ok if you dont know any graduation songs for grade 5's. We wont hate you!!
thanks!! (link)
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Here are some good graduation songs for kids aroud that age (:
http://www.graduation-invitations-graduation-party.com/good-graduation-songs.html
another really good graduation song that kids love is here
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vdKqMJ0O88I&feature=PlayList&p=EEC01105E94E2F6A&index=2
a lot of people use it for graudations but it'll never get old (;
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me & my boyfriend are both virgins, we have done everythink else wev bin goin out 4 6 months. hes 16 and im 15. wel we had dry sex ages ago he came all over me and did sorta entr me 2 but only a little bit. aneways that was 2months ago i havent had a period since. can i be pregnant? (link)
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if he did enter you in any kind of way,
as long as it went inside
there is a little possibility.
it's probablly not certain and girls can randomly not get there periods for a few months but that;s usually around the first few years you get your period.
I suggest if there's anyway you can, to go and get a pregnancy test right away.
that way you can be sure or at least have an idea and stop worrying (:
you could be worrying for nothing at all !
hope all goes well (:
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what are some good products from this store i should try? (link)
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Some things that I loveee , in their stores areetheir body powderss (smells the best) and their hand soaps and creamss (works better).those are the things that i think work or smell the best .buttttone thing you should probablly stay away from if you care about your hair a lot, are their products for hair like their shampoo, their natural , butt they just dont really workk . lol
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WARNING:long sorry just wanted to give full story or most of it
ok so im pretty much 14(my bday nov 9)
im not attracted to guys around my age i dont knw i just think older guys are cute and are more mature.well there are these three guys one well call d he is 18 or 19 and the other well call is x but i dont knw how old he is and lastly well call him j and he is 16 or 17.at first me and d werent like friends like we hugged and said hi but ya knw.he just kinda messed with me like put his arm around me and sang to me cause he knew i liked him haha just who he is.well now he flirts with me and kissed me on the cheek twice and he knws my name and one day my friend was like why do you kiss b and he was like have i ever kissed you and i was like only on the cheek and he said see i only kissed on the cheek i havent kissed her yet and kinda smiled at me and all my friends think he likes me.now x he is kinda new haha the first time i saw him me and a friend were waiting at the place cause it opened at 8 and he was alreasy there and he kept looking at me and finally he was like ya im lookin at you and i gave him a look like me? and he was like ya you(i knw kinda weird)but when his bro(i only knw it was his bro cuz he told us) got there they started whispering and lookin at me well then they left and he was like watch my stuff please so i did.that whole night he kept smiling at me and yesterday we had our second hug.we talk and flirt and he always looks at me.all my friends think he is mad sexy and are kinda jealous and they all think he likes me but im not sure cause he dont really knw me and he flirts with other girls.then finally the last on j.he used to always flirt with me and stuff then he ended up breaking up with his girl and i saw him lookin kinda bored so i went to talk to him and he was like how old are you and i asked him the same but he was like i asked you first so i told him and he was like damn i cant mess with you and told me how old he was and then the next week he was dating his ex now he doesnt really talk to me or whatever and its seems he flirts with his girl around me but looks at me to ya knw like see if im watching or w/e.and i saw him in the hall last thursday(i go to his school for math) and he walked next to me but didnt say anything but smiled and kept walking and called his friend and kinda looked back at me so i guess you can say im totally confused so i need major help!thank you (link)
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ahah dont worry about the length (: , the more you know the more you can say and help with it .
And oh yeah, well i know exactly how you feel . Im the same way with older guys . But before i say anything more, and you probablly dont want to beleive it and have heard it enough or more then enough maybe, but
all older guys want, expecially at that age, and with a freshman like you in highschool (especialllyy because you just started and your a lot more vulnerable and easy because youre new), is to get in your pants . And i know it seems like you might think you know that they're not messing with youre head or trying to play you, but in the end, they cant even help it . Guy are just like that and want stuff like that because its natural for them, no matter how nice they can be (: .
but , ill start with d . from the sounds of it, i will just be completely honest because it will probablly be better for you in the end , it seems like he is playing you , you can still be friends with him ? and maybe even get to know him a bit better, butttt , soon enough, he's probablly going to want more then to just kiss you on the cheeck and stuff . and untill that point, if you like him and stuff, just get to know him more . because seriously you never know for sure untill that point . But if he's that much older then you, than im sorry, i think he's probablly trying to mess with your head . because most guys that age if they were serious about liking someone, they would probably be looking for someone more around their age .
For x, i think you should probablly get to know him first , he sounds a bit like a player because he flirts a lot and stuff also, but again , you never know untill you get to know them and stuff for sure . but id be careful with him though and try not to fall for his tricks and stuff .
And for j . I think you shouldn't maybe bother with him ? if he has a girlfriend you dont want to get inbetween anything like that or make his girlfriend mad or suspiscious and stuff . He's probablly trying to make you jealous a bit also, or he likes the fact of making girls jealous, because he can ? but honestly, any guy that would even go out with a girl to do that is pretty much a mad player . And who knows what he would use you for then alsoo ?
but in the end, once again, older guys usually just want to get in your pants, even guys our age :| . i only liked older guys at first and went for them, but they completely took advantage of me . so i just found someone in my own grade, but he was totally different and actually mature and things were soo much better with him ! like i thought i would never like someone my own age, but it just kind of happened . if you dont find anyone your own age, try looking at different schools even, because some people from different schools act different, or maybeeven more mature . or if you just cant, try going for at least a bit younger guys, like maybe one more year older, theyre still a lot more mature, trust me a year can make a difference(:.
but also, maybe try to go for guys maybe that are a little less flirtascious, and maybe nicer or maybe even a little more shy ? not too shy, but just try different things , trust me you'll find someone , and sometimes you just have to stop looking or trying, and it comes naturally . thats how most long lasting relationships happen .
but,
goooood luck ! (L)
and tell me how it goes ?
(:
Amber,
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Wow this is a tough one for me, maybe not for others.
Oka, I like a girl, lets call her Jessica, I like Jessica for a long time until recently. Well not I am having strong feelings torward her bestfriend, lets call her Andrea. So Im wondering if this girl likes me heres the situation:
I am a 14/m and I go to a Catholic School, she also is 14. Well the last mass we had she "cut" her bestfriend to sit next to me. Well we were holding hands for a prayer and when it was over she didn't let go immediatly. She held on for a few seconds-which was very unusual for this prayer. So later that day she pretty much went out of her way to talk to me. Then later she came up and was kinda rubbin up on me. Like she came up to my side and started like rubbing my side.
Does this girl like me? I really like her but I don't wanna get nailed with a rejection. So what should I do?
I rate high...thanks (link)
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Well, there can be a few reasons why she was flirting with you and stuff .
1. She might know you like her friend Jessica, and be jealous or just trying to make you like her instead for many reasons . I know it might sound weird, but some girls can be like this .
2. She's trying to make abother boy or person jealous or play with your head because she knows or thinks you like her .
3. She does like you, and was tryng to flirt with you .
Girls dont usually rub up on guys for no reason, or hold hands with them longer just as a coincidence . If she held your hand for longer and this was in private, then i would think that she actually does like you, because it wasnt infront of anyone ? But if she's a generallynice person, and she doesnt flirt with a lot of other guys also, most girls would only do those things because they like you. But to be 100% sure, you just have to get to know her more and talk to her . You'll be able to find out what's really going on soon enough . Its pretty obvious when a girl is trying to make someone jealous usually ...
Just put together things like, if she has an ex boyfriend that hangs out around one of you guys, or shes around her bestfriend when she flirts with you a lot .
stuff like that (:,
goood luck though !
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ok so i like this girl and we were supposed to hang out on saturday night but she said she has practice but doesnt kno what time i wanna ask her if she can do sumthin before or after but i dont want to be a pest. What should i do? (link)
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Im a girl and i definitly wouldn't think a guy was being annoying or anything at all by asking me that question. And i can think guys get pretty annoying at times. It might seem like a lot to you, becuase you like her and youre thinking too much about it, but honestly, just ask her like casually .
as long as you dont keep bugging her after she says no or that she cant hang out before then, you won't seem annoying at all , trust me (: .
and dont say something like, "i dont want to seem annoying but.. " or anything along those lines either, because to some girls that can be a bitt annoying , or a bit of a turn off ? just be confident (: .
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i have black hair like pitch black, jet black whatever you call it and i want it red
so does that mean i have to bleach it first?
probably huh?
well yea id rather not bleach it but if i have to then i will
and by red i mean kind of auburny
thanx =D (link)
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Aha,
Yeah I have pitch black hair tooo,.
And Im pretty suree the onlyyy way to die it quickly like that is to bleach itt.
Unless you grow your natural hair outt, or dye it lighter shades slowly, but that would just kill it even moree lol,.
But if you doo bleach itt,
I suggest you do a lot of hairtreatments and only wash your hair every other day to keep it from breaking off or looking fried or deaddd :|.
Lol good luckk. :)
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I am 15 and female. I have noticed my breasts are very very tender atm and have weird lumps in them... Is this normal in growing up? Or should I be worried? What else could cause this?
I am worried about it, help? x (link)
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Yeeahh, this can be really normal and occur in a lot of teenage girls. But those a can also be some sighns of breast cancer in somee cases. it's probably just normal, but to be sure, you should ask your doctor about it the next time you go. Or of it keeps on hurting.
www.nhs.uk/conditions/Breast-lump/Pages/Introduction.aspx?url=Pages/What-is-it.aspx
Theres a sight to help you look at all the different typess. :)
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Hey i have a frend named Mark, and his best frend told him some girl likes him. So on face book they were talking about him.
So i said "yeah i heard she likes mark" and the insults started flying. Turns out she doesnt/never liked him. I sent him the conversation, and he flipped out. He said i shouldnt have opened my big mouth and he was saying i hate you im done with you and kept telling me to F-off. I just didnt want them to be talking crap about him behind his back without him knowing. cuz were real tight. I tried explaining this to him. But he just doesnt care. what do you think? (link)
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I think it was definitly okay for you to say that, it might have been a little annoying to him at first, but you werent trying to be mean or piss him off. You were trying to make sure they didnt talk about stuff behind his back, and in my opinion, if he was a real friend, he wouldve known or realized thta and not have tooken it so seriously, and being so mean about it afterwardss. Hem ight just be mad at the time being because he was probably a bit embaressed when you said that and she didnt really like him, andm aybe even a bit mad that the girl didnt like him and he thought she did that whole time, so he started getting mad at you just because he could or again, he was embaressed. He probably will forget about it sooner or later, or forgive you, or maybe even say sorryy, And if he doesnt, Hoenstly, hes notttt worth your time. What a jerk, is what I'd think, And just forget about him. Dont try to suck up to him or anything, because hell just take advantage of it, and think he can just treat you like that. So forget about him, and eventually, he will probablly come to you. Trust me.
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