jazzyvanscoy's advice column

It is never okay for a man to hit his girlfriend. Even if she did something to piss him off. Hitting is never a good way to handle things, and if this is happening to you, you need to find a way out of the relationship.

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I am not a good person. I have made many poor choices and no matter how hard I try, I cannot seem to stop screwing up. I know suicide is selfish, but I just don't want to hurt anyone else. I know that by committing suicide I will hurt many people, especially my daughters, but if I stick around I will hurt them more over the years. I have tried everything and nothing has worked. I know I will go to hell, and I am prepared because I deserve it. I tried to get God to stop me or help me or save me, but He hasn't. He just lets me continue to hurt those I love. I have researched, and thought this through for a very long time, tried to get every help I could. Am I missing something? I don't think there is any other way out. No matter what I do, I will hurt my loved ones. This seems to be my only option, but before I go and do it, I thought I would just ask. Maybe in the depths of this pain, I have missed another choice. Maybe not.

NO. Please, just reading this made me feel so bad. My father has just committed suicide this past month, and trust me, it will be much harder for your family without you here than with you here. It is so hard to lose a family member through suicide, and no one seems to quite understand. For your family, dont make them go though what I'm going through now. It's devastating. It's the worst feeling to know that someone you love dearly is now gone. Your family will hold such guilt about your death, dont do that to them. It is such a loss knowing that they will not wake up, and they will never see you again. Please thknk twince about this, and dont make your family suffer like I am.

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Alright well I am 18 and a female. I dated this guy named collin for about three years and we ended up splitting because he cheated. I was in love with this guy and I couldn't stand being anywhere near him after that so I moved to another state where I had family. After about 5 months he breaks up with the girl and then comes running back to me. We talk again for a while but I don't trust him. I met this other guy and we start dating. I didn't want to get to much hope up on collin because afterall he did cheat. Well now they both want me to give the other up and idk what to do. It'll be hard to give up either. I love collin but I nknow this guy is loyal and will treat me good. Collin would be a chance. I'm not willing to give up either so I don't know what to do.

I have totally been there in the same place before. If you really like this guy that you have been dating, and you KNOW that he will be faithful, take a leap of faith with him, and go for that relationship. You never know what Collin will do. If a guy cheats once, how are you going to be sure that he wont cheat again? You dont know. Thats the problem. Over time, you will become more attached to the guy you are dating now, and you will find that he is there to stay. (:

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18f. My boyfriend and I decided after four months, mutually that we should be friends. Hes the same age. Things had been going good, but then things would feel off and we would not see eachother for a while and then be happy when we were together again. I felt we needed more interesting things to do when we were together and he just seemed content. One day he seemed real frustrated at me and so I had brought up the idea of being friends for awhile, he said he agreed. His one guy friend said to me that he probably didn't want to break up and that he just agreed, which makes me wonder if he still has feelings. I don't have any close friends/family to talk to or hang out with and so all I can think about is him. I feel as if I lost the only person I had going for me, but I also feel it was kind of the right thing to do. I hope to find another guy, but every nice guy seems taken. I am a friendly, approachable person. What to do?

It doesnt matter if he still has feelings for you, it matters if YOU still have feelings for him. If you still like him, go for it! But if yuo really felt as though this was the right thing to to, move on, and look for all of the good things in every guy you'll meet! Your sure to find someone soon! (:

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I have a really spoiled best friend and I really can't stand being around her anymore. Her parents have lots of money and my friend gets showered with money all the time. The last time my friend and I went to the mall her dad gave her $200 and said here honey have fun! I have an allowance and I actually have to work to get my money and my friend has never done any work in her life! She wears expensive clothes and has a container ten times the size of a shoebox chock full of makeup she never wears! She makes me so mad! She brags about it too!
Please help me!
Thank you :)

Don't worry, just try to deal with it, but if it is really that annoying, you should talk to her about it. Tell her how much it annoys you. Tell her that it makes you not want to hang out with her. (:

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so i'm eighteen girl and i dont know whats wrong with me but i'm always feeling really crappy. i'm not sick or anything. but i just don't feel good. as in, i'm not happy. all of my friends are always hanging out and making plans and they ask me to come with but i always say no because i'm not in the mood to be around people and i always just want to go home and sleep and be by myself. what is wrong with me? i used to be so social and happy.. now i'm just always in a bad mood. yes there was a lot of crap that happened in the past, so that could affect my mood. but that was in the past, and i'm trying to forget about it and move on. but i just can't seem to make myself happy again or in a good mood. i used to love shopping and going out to the movies. now all i want to do is come home and lay in bed. what do i do to get myself back to normal???

I have been the same way since my father has committed suicide. What you should do, is get a journal, and write. I have found that writing really helps you get out your feelings, and hopefully your mood will improve! (:

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So I have this guy , and we have been seeing eachother for a month or two and he always makes these rude comments like ''oh if my ex was alive id marry he ri know you dont like hearing it'' or ''you have the same wasteline like amanada'' or makes jokes ''i would pick a 20 year old model instead of you '' and so lately.. i just ignored all the rudeness.. but i took him to a work party , and he made a joke saying '' oh i can make my imagination make you pretty'' and laughed and then made another rude joke of ugly jokes and put a cloth on my head and then looked around at all the girls adn then turned to me oh you look good too.. and its so frustrating because i do everythingn for him and he treats me like this... and he says he is a bit cruel but he didnt mean to hurt anyone , also he said that hes at his primetime of life 23 and he needs sex because he doesnt want to waste it as he heard on the base... and so , he said he wont wait years for me , but 6 months is enough and then later that night at work , he said he is happy with what i give him... does this make sense?

help
thank you so much
Betty

This... is bad. I mean, really, if this guy treats you like this, he doesnt deserve you! You deserve better, and dont settle for him!

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