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Alright well I am 18 and a female. I dated this guy named collin for about three years and we ended up splitting because he cheated. I was in love with this guy and I couldn't stand being anywhere near him after that so I moved to another state where I had family. After about 5 months he breaks up with the girl and then comes running back to me. We talk again for a while but I don't trust him. I met this other guy and we start dating. I didn't want to get to much hope up on collin because afterall he did cheat. Well now they both want me to give the other up and idk what to do. It'll be hard to give up either. I love collin but I nknow this guy is loyal and will treat me good. Collin would be a chance. I'm not willing to give up either so I don't know what to do.
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Cheating is a bad thing to do in any kind of relationship and it can really put a strain on things. I would suggest the new guy in your life, you said yourself he's loyal and will treat you really good. Why should you have to be in a relationship where your constantly thinking if he could be cheating on you it would only bring up trsut problems, i can suggest all I like but you have to think about this yourself. Would you rather go with a loyal trustworthy guy whom you've just met or chance it for lets say your "chilhood sweetheart" who cheated on you and took 5 months to realise he wants you back?xx
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I have totally been there in the same place before. If you really like this guy that you have been dating, and you KNOW that he will be faithful, take a leap of faith with him, and go for that relationship. You never know what Collin will do. If a guy cheats once, how are you going to be sure that he wont cheat again? You dont know. Thats the problem. Over time, you will become more attached to the guy you are dating now, and you will find that he is there to stay. (:
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hey girl,
i completely understand the situation, seeing as i have been there myself. i actually chose to go back to my cheating ex. he ended up doing the same exact thing over again. i have come to the conclusion that once a cheater, always a cheater is true. if a guy would do it once, why wouldnt he do it again? i would like to say that people can change old habbits, and maybe he is the exception, but i dont think you should put yourself in the position to get hurt again. the odds are against him changing, and i believe you can get over him if you focus on all of the pain that you felt when he cheated on you. also, think about the constant fear and suspicion you would feel if you stayed with him. do you think its worth it? you are much too good for a guy like that. you need to build up your self-esteem and confidence to stay strong against falling into his trap again
hope i helped(:
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You're not willing to give up on either...? You're going to have to, sweetie; it's not fair to either of them if you go back and forth, so get that mindset out of your head.
Anyway, I don't recommend going back to that ex. Trust is vital in any healthy relationship, and how can you trust someone that cheated on you and made you feel dispensable? Don't go back to a relationship like that, or you're setting yourself up for a hell of a lot of pain.
Do you really like this other guy? If so, stick with him. If not, don't. Don't just settle for him because he's there, you know? You might want to refrain from being in a relationship to heal and whatnot, but that's your decision.
-Manders
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As much as you still love your ex, do you really love him after all you did move to a different state. I don't think its a good idea to give him a second chance. I mean if he truly loved you in the first place he wouldn't have broken your heart that way. Now if this new guy is the real deal then go for it, don't let something good pass you by. In the end its you choice, only you know whats good for you.
good luck!
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