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I have a really spoiled best friend and I can't stand her anymore! Help!
I have a really spoiled best friend and I really can't stand being around her anymore. Her parents have lots of money and my friend gets showered with money all the time. The last time my friend and I went to the mall her dad gave her $200 and said here honey have fun! I have an allowance and I actually have to work to get my money and my friend has never done any work in her life! She wears expensive clothes and has a container ten times the size of a shoebox chock full of makeup she never wears! She makes me so mad! She brags about it too!
Please help me!
Thank you :)
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I fully understand your situation, the only thing to do, because I assume she must have good qualities as well. You have to take a moment and realize that her family's wealth is irrelevant to you. THe fact that she brags is what you need to address, when you talk to her next just tell her that it bothers you, in a calm, nice way. If your friendship is worth it for both of you, she and you will get past this.
My best friend is really rich, I spent three months in a homeless shelter just last year, but we are friends to the end you need to realize that friendship is very important and just to work through it.
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Sounds to me like the biggest issue is your jealousy. Its really none of your business what her parents do or don't give her. It has nothing to do with you, what you're worth, or what you have. You'll understand when you get older the true advantages you have over her by knowing how to earn your own money. But for now just know that her having more doesn't mean you have less. Her life has other challenges that you may not even know about, so don't be so quick to judge her situation as "perfect". And when she brags, look at it as her sharing her happiness with you, and try to feel happy for her that she doesn't have to work as hard as other people, if she really is happy. Trust me, with a healthy and positive attitude about it, you will come out on top in this one.
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It's really hard to gauge how much your friend is a brat and how much you are jealous to give you the proper advice.
Yeah, it's ridiculous that she got 200 to go shopping at the mall. I just went and spent 200 on groceries, and we feel like we bought way too much stuff and spent too much. Some people are born into families like that.
If you can't deal with it, leave her alone. The fastest way spoiled brats learn not to be is facing negative reactions to the way they act. She'll either learn it or not, but you can't teach it.
I tried that once. Former friend who was one of the "girl looks fairly attractive, acts like people are supposed to worship her because of it" case of entitlement. She treated guys like shit because they were supposed to adore her and want her, and girls worse because "you're not as pretty as me makes you a lesser person" which adds up to pretty much the same thing you might be facing.
I told her that if all she placed value in was her looks that's all anyone else would care about either, and when the looks ran out or she treated enough people like shit she'd be the only one still valuing anything about her.
I was way more eloquent than that actually saying it to her, didn't help. Worse, she got pregnant by one of five guys, claimed a sixth one (who was in jail for some misdemeanor something and couldn't possibly be the father) was the daddy, and is living in another city now in a condo his parents bought for them and had a shitty white trash courtroom wedding with pictures of her seven month baby bump and a dude who was probably arrested for public intoxication in the background. She's happy as can be.
Not only did she not learn anything, but she's pretty much turned to shit as a person since and is leeching off some dude and his family to keep her lazy ass doing nothing and posting facebook messages asking if soon to be mommy can find some weed.
Now that you've taken all that in, I want you to think for a second how pissed off I was (and still am, to have written all that crap out for a question someone asked) about what happened and I want you to imagine how you'll feel if you try to talk to her about working for and earning what you have and then watch her get her way paid by daddy up to and maybe past the point where she marries some guy who's willing to take care of her and let her do whatever the hell she wants.
Put up with it or walk away.
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SHow her the path to God. Teach her about his word and how ye of riches should share with thee of of poor.
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Don't worry, just try to deal with it, but if it is really that annoying, you should talk to her about it. Tell her how much it annoys you. Tell her that it makes you not want to hang out with her. (:
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Honestly, you'll be better off in the long run, you will understand the value of a dollar. If your friend is inconsiderate and acts like she is better than you then drop her, or explain to her that you don't appreciate how she acts.. Well, good luck, and remember that karma is a b****. (:
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Hey,
You will have to deal with it if she's you're best friend. Some people have to work for money, and some people will get it. The one who brags will have nothing left in the end.
Just tell her that she might jinx herself if she keeps bragging about it and might lose it all, so she should keep that information to herself.
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