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okay...umm yesterday was the 1st day of my period, and my boyfriend and i made out later on that night. well he ended up taking his clothes off, and he asked me to take my pants off...i explained to him that i was on my period and how i felt that it was gross because i didnt want to get blood anywhere. he didnt believe me at first so he asked, "did it jus come on today?" i responded and said, "yea!" and he said, "well it's alright baby just take em' off it's okay if u get blood anywhere" i blabbered on for like 5min about how disgusting it was. then he got on top of me, kissed me, then took my pants off. i laughed and asked him if he liked my "granny panties." okay anwayz, we made out for like 15min then i eventually got on top of him and grinded on his penis, i think he ejaculated b/c when i stopped it felt wet/moist. im too afraid to ask him if he really did, but the sametime im afraid that i might be a "pregnant virgin." Is it possible, how do i tell without asking if he ejaculated? and although i had on a pad + underwear could i possibly be pregnant?

Don't be afraid to ask him. Just joke around a little but say it in private or something. I am almost sure that you are not pregnant cause sperm cannot live that long out of the body. But if you do hvae this gut feeling then buy a home pregnancy test or go to the doctor. But don't be afriad to ask him.

Okay, so I shave down there, and I'm a girl..I ALWAYS ALWAYS get razor burn. You know, the little red bumpy things? It's SO ANNOYING! How the HELL do you get them from comeing back? It's driving me nuts, and I'm really self concience about it. PLEASE HELP! ANYTHING!

I tried shaving down there once but that happened. If you have 9.99 this is how i do it. At wal mart or target or any department store for that have at least one of these and for women and are usally 9.99 http://www.walmart.com/catalog/product.do?product_id=5293207 that works good and you don't have to worry about getting cut and having it itch down there. I just usally do it over the sink or the toilet cause you can do this dry. Also look for the bikini one, the one i showed you is for men but it doesn't really matter, but they are usally 9.99.

hey iwas just on buzznet.com looking at pictures and on the side it said e-scene and had links of different peoples buzznet profiles...one of the people is this girl whos dating the guy from my chemical romance and one girl is i think a model for bleeding star clothing and other stuff...

my question is...
WHAT DOES E-SCENE MEAN!?

like what does the e mean and stand for...i dotn get it

I think it mean emo scene

f/16

i have a prblem cause i really want to shave my pubes but the thing is that i have an allergic reaction to those cremes that take off the hair for you, and i'm really timid about shaving, as werid as this sounds, but how do you guys do it? in the shower, sink, etc

All girls have there choice. Some stay natural, some bikini wax, some was it all, some shave the top, some shave all of it. But one problem with shaving with a razor is when the hair grows back it itches. But this is how i do it. At wal mart or target or any department store for that have at least one of these and for women and are usally 9.99 http://www.walmart.com/catalog/product.do?product_id=5293207 that works good and you don't have to worry about getting cut and having it itch down there. I just usally do it over the sink or the toilet cause you can do this dry

what is douching?

O rdid you mean this http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=douch?

16/f

my freshman year i got accepted to one of the top performing art schools in the nation for vocal performance!! i was so excited!! ever since i heard about it ive wanted to go....My dream ever since i could remember was to be a singer...when i attended school for the first few weeks i noticed that there was a music male teacher that i would always catch looking at me....about 2 months into school, he told me to stay after class because he wanted to enter a song id written in a major record label contest. I walked into his room and he told me to sit on the piano bench and he'd be right back. So i did as he said and got my music out and waited. When he came back he shut the door and locked it he said that he locked it "because he didn't want to be bothered with the janitors" so i didn't think anything of it, kinda thought it was wierd (music rooms are soundproof) but anyway, he sat down next to me and placed his hand on my upper thigh and said im so proud of the progress your making in my class, you're deffinately going to acheive your dream and go somewhere with your talent" he put his arm around my shoulder and acted like he was grabbing my music, and he pushed it off the side on "accident" so i bent down to grab it, and as i bent down he grabbed my butt. and i told him to stop. but then he sternly said, "if you want to pass the class and win the comptetion you'll let me do what i want. Trust me, you want me on your side. I can give you everything you want." I sat back down, giving him another chance, hoping he would stop, but it just got worse as time went on. Long story short, he ended up raping me.
When i threatned him that i would tell, he just said "do you really want to leave this school?? you're parents would take you out of here and you wouldn't get ot pursue your dream anymore." and after i thought about it i realized that i wanted to be a singer more than anything else, and this school would help me out so much. So i continued to put up with it...
This situation has been continuing on and off for about 2 1/2 years now. I haven't told anyone, becuase i don't want to run the risk of anyone finding out becuase then i wouldnt be able to go to this school anymore. I just really feel like i need to talk to someone, but i don't know who to talk to. I don't feel comfortable telling my boyfriend, bestfriend, or anyone whats going on.
What should i do? I want to continue achieving my goals, and the school helps out with this alot, but at the same time i want the abuse to stop. I'm sorry this is so long, thanks so much for taking your time to help.

That just made me cry, this has gone on to longm you need to do something. Well first of all I don't care how scared of him you are but you need to tell your parents or the police! I know that it doesn't seem like a choice, but if you don't this is all of the internet. I looked up idgurl572 in google and it came up with all the questions i asked and answered, also if you search that category's like the police "might" do they may be able to find this. Has he raped you once? or continually? And if he's raped you your probally not the first. You may feel like this is your fault, but it's not. There are other ways of pursue your musical talent! You don't have to go to that school, I know that it is a good advantage but for what? Your bady, or spirit, your childhood. If you do decide to leave that school don't leave without telling the police about this, Don't go to anyone at the school even te principle cause you can never trust anyone that is on the inside. If you don't feel that the local authority will do anything skip them and so to someone higher, also if you call a an anonamous hotline tell them, go to these sites:

http://www.webmd.com/hw/health_guide_atoz/shc99rap.asp
http://www.rainn.org/?gclid=CN3nkPHH3IkCFSMjSAod0kcsFg

can i dye my blond hair with green koolaid and if so how do i do it?

I think what you have will work but permanetly. But if you want tempoary you best bet would be the Loreal Color Pulse. You can buy it at Wal-Mart or something in the hair dye section. After about 3 weeks it comes out. http://www.lorealparisusa.com/haircolor/colorpulse/index.asp well if so that's works very good!

Anyone who can give me an advice for the unwanted pubic hair?
I've been using this VEET Cream to remove my hair down there but they have said that it's not adviceable for genital areas. I also tried using wax but it's super painful. I can't stand it. Last is just shaving but i experience itchiness. I dunno what would i use now.. I really don't like hair down there so please help me guys to choose which product is best and safe for this situation. Thanks in advance. God Bless..

All girls have there choice. Some stay natural, some bikini wax, some was it all, some shave the top, some shave all of it. But one problem with shaving with a razor is when the hair grows back it itches. But this is how i do it. At wal mart or target or any department store for that have at least one of these and for women and are usally 9.99 http://www.walmart.com/catalog/product.do?product_id=5293207 that works good and you don't have to worry about getting cut and having it itch down there.

i've had sex maybe three times and once i shaved my pubes and then i got these red bumps that are too big to look like razor burns where i shaved...there aren't any of these bumps near the inside of my vagina but i have three red bumps towards the top part of where the pubic hair is...
i'm scared that they're herpes or some other untreatable infection. they don't itch and i'm scared to go to my doctor...would i have to a specialist?
any idea what it is and what i can get to treat it like creams and what not?
please help...

You should go to a doctor. If you don't think it is that serious, go to like wal-mart, or walgreens, or cvs and talk to the pharmisist and ask about any creams, and ask if they ever had someone ask about something like this. Although it doesn't itch that may be a sign that it is something worse. You best bet is the doctor.

okay, well first off i shave down there and it gets irritated very easily, is there any other methods i can do rather than shaving?
i wanna try waxing but i would never be able to pull the strip off myself, so if i went to a salon or w.e-- would they do the whole downstairs?
or just the 'bikini' part, like the sides of thighs.

All girls have there choice. Some stay natural, some bikini wax, some was it all, some shave the top, some shave all of it. But one problem with shaving with a razor is when the hair grows back it itches. But this is how i do it. At wal mart or target or any department store for that have at least one of these and for women and are usally 9.99 http://www.walmart.com/catalog/product.do?product_id=5293207 that works good and you don't have to worry about getting cut and having it itch down there.

i know its kinda wierd but whatever. i wanted to start shaving my pubes and i did but the hair kept extending out. i tried waxing but it hurts a lot. is there anything else i should try? if i use hair removing cream, will it keep extending or not? help thanks

All girls have there choice. Some stay natural, some bikini wax, some was it all, some shave the top, some shave all of it. But one problem with shaving with a razor is when the hair grows back it itches. But this is how i do it. At wal mart or target or any department store for that have at least one of these and for women and are usally 9.99 http://www.walmart.com/catalog/product.do?product_id=5293207 that works good and you don't have to worry about getting cut and having it itch down there.

15/f. i am friends with a guy who is bi. and i'm a little confused. it just seems weird to me because i don't even think twice before hugging him and it doesn't seem weird to me at all. but then when i think about it it would be really weird for me to hug any other guy.

so why do i feel more comfortable hugging my one friend and not any of my other guy friends. is it because he is bi? and if so why does that make it less weird for me?

i think it is just because you feel comfortable with him. it has nothing to do with his sexuality but it has to do with your trust in him, and that's why is not weird to hug him

so i've had this girl i've called my "best friend" since i was 5 (im 15 now, she's 20) we've always been really close but a few years ago she was dating my brother (she's always been in love with him, still is even though she has a live-in boyfriend) and i decided i didnt want to be her friend anymore (that resulted in her cutting herself really deep and she still has a huge scar). we weren't friends for months but then i got lonely and a mutual friend decided to have us start talking to each other again. we haven't been as close as before since then. she always has little messed up things to say to me now. ever since my family started making more money she has this bitchy attitude. she's always sad about something. its pointless to take her anyway. she's trying to sabotage my relationship with my boyfriend who i've been with for over a year now. im starting to cut her off slowly but im just wondering how i can stop being her friend without hurting her too much? i'm her only friend, seriously, and she has a lot of problems with her boyfriend/life in general. i know why she is the way she is but how do i cut it off with her without her killing herself? (because she would)

maybe you should tell her how you feel about her mooping around and feelig so bad for herself, she might not even see what she is doing. tell her you still want to be her friend but so much is going on right now, and if she doesn't understand maybe yall can plan a day when just the two of you hang out or so, if you need anymore tactics just ask me

okay, so i woke up this morning like i normally do and i went to take a shower. when i got out of the shower i went to brush my hair. but i noticed this huge (well..for being on an ear huge) bump on my ear. it kind of looks like it could be a tick or something. but its the middle of january so i don't think thats really possible. can someone help me? its kind of grossing me out...should i go to the doctors or what?

if it wasn't there before it couldn't grown over night so i think you should really see a doctor about something like this.

ok so im in 7th grade and 13/f i have average sized boobs but my mom only lets me buy bras that have no padding or anything its just really thin like cloth and when i change 4 p.e. it seems like people look @ me alot and since the bras are so thin people can c thru them and its embarrassing cus they can c thru it ya know but ive askd my mom if ican get bras w/ padding and she wont let me and she goes thru all my clothes so if i do get some w/ padding then she'll find it and get mad i guess so what do i do? and sometimes u can see a point were my boobs r when i were kindof thin shirts

well maybe tell her why you want to buy bras with padding. ask her how would she feel if she was changing and everyone was looking at her breasts, tell her how thankful you would be if she got you at least one, because then you wouldn't have trouble about changing. im kinda thinking this is about boys or something like she doesn't want you to seem like you have big breast you know? well try that and if you need anymore help just ask me

15/f
You know how when you get "turned on" your vag gets wet, well literally everytime I am with my boyfriend, that happens. And to the point where it's like i can feel it with just moving, its kind of strange. I'm just wondering if this is normal? is there something wrong or am i just really turned on by him? haha. and if he goes to finger me will he be weirded out or will it be a turn on for him???

thanks.

it is normal. some women just have alot of natuaral lube, be happy because some women have to get it out of a bottle. ANd must men think it's a turn on and that they are causing this to happen. So dont' worry

Is there any way to get like the little pop up in the corner to pop up when someone signs on, off, is idel, comes back, etc. like on 5.9 but enable it on 6?

yes you have to go to edit>settings then when that comes up on the right side click on notifications and click the ones you want to pop up then click apply and tehn save

I read somewhere that you will start getting discharge one year before you have your period. well ive been getting whitish to clear discharge in my underwear for the past 3-4 years, and i still dont have my period. i have spotted twice before, about a year apart. the last time was last year. i have pubic hair (sorry i know this is all kinda gross, but these are all symptoms of getting your period soon) and my breasts are still developing, and i grew a lot taller. so why havent i gotten my period?

i am athletic to the extremes (i'm on a swim team), i'm 15, and my mom got hers at age 13. each year my doctor has predicted my period, but it never happens. she has never bothered to examen me down there.

should i be worried? i want to get my period eventually, like i wanna have kids in the future. i heard about this disease where you never get your period and cant give birth.

any advice, comments, or feedback in general would be very much appreciated!!!! thanks!!

the alhetic part may be why you haven't stared. Or you might have allready from the spotting. When you do lots of alhetic stuff is makes your period go haywire. So yeah don't worry and you still have 3 more years if you haven't statred but if it is hasn't really started after 18 then you need to be examined

I'm re-doing my bedroom, with the colors of light blue and brown.
Anyone know where I can get good stuff to match?
Thanks!

some really good stores are

http://www.lnt.com/
http://www.pier1.com/
http://www.target.com/
http://www.walmart.com/
http://www.thehomedecoratingstore.com/
http://www.bedbathandbeyond.com/

some of these stores may not be located in your area, but you can order online at many of these stores

I love the skinny jean style, but I'm having a hard time finding them!

Does anyone know any good stores that carry skinny jeans?

the gap carries them but to me gap is expensive, ummmm you could find them online like at jc penny's or dillards

http://www.shopbop.com/shop/product_browse.jsp?FOLDER%3C%3Efolder_id=2534374302030601

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