i just turned 17 years old ill be off to college in about 6 to 7 months .im a nice person im a good communicater.i want to answer peoples advices mainly because ive been through some things in my life too and wished during those times that someone could have giving me some advices.i well take your advice serious, only if your serious too .
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Location: northbabylon new york
Age: 17
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I have been talking to this girl for about two weeks. She is really cool and I have grown to really like her. But unfortunately she has a boyfriend. The boyfriend lives in north Carolina. We live in PA. She is convinced that they will be together forever. But he is a control freak, and she knows it. She constantly rants to me about it, so there are already problems in the relationship. My question is how do I win this girl over? (link)
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By being the nice guy "support her whenever she needs you tell her its going to be okay .DO NOT try to convince her his wrong for her b/c shes going to think your just jealous.be yourself talk to her hang out with her always give her your full divided attention.good luck
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Please don't judge me! I made a mistake and just want advice. Thanks.
The other night I was at a party and had too much to drink. I ended up messing around with this guy. We kissed and I gave him a hj. He asked if I wanted to have sex, and I said no (im a virgin). He didn't argue. Later on I'm pretty sure he fingered me. I was on top of him, and I'm almost 100% positive we didnt have sex, but he was hard and i felt his.. through my pants, like i had pants on, but i was still moving on top of him just to feel it because i was horny haha. i was a tiny bit sore when i stood up, but nothing major. and i didnt bleed. but the next day everyone was like you guys had sex and you were so loud. and apparently even the kid told them all we had sex. but i dont remember and i know thats horrible! im not sure if hes lying or what. i have no way of talking to this guy. i remember him telling me he doesnt use condoms. but i am on the pill. but is there any way to find out for sure if i had sex without going to a doctor? like wouldnt i know by how my body feels? im so worried. please help! thanks! (link)
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sounds like you two didnt have sex but when you drink too much you dont have that much control or memory (i would try to get in contact with him if it is possible)but if not i would take some sort of test for diseases or something thats why the doctors are here for so dont be shy.(maybe you guys dried humped each other cause people moan when doing that dry hump is rubbing two bodies together)or maybe your friends are just trying to scare you saying they heared you screaming the only way you will know is by going to the doctors.
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Just wondering, but can you breast feed with implants? (link)
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nope.
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Well, I was wondering I've been feeling really depressed lately. I usually get really upset over little things like homework sometimes and I feel the need that hey if I died then I wouldn't have to turn this in tomorrow. Idk. When I'm around my friends and family I'm not. But when I'm alone and think about it I feel really alone and think about commiting sucide. I have a lot of friends and they're great, no one knows that I'm depressed. But what are the signs of depression? How do those depression pills help? How do you become undepresed?
Thanks in advance and mean comments are unneeded! (:
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depression can happen to anyone in fact it happens more to females .everybody experiences depression at least one stage in there lifes.you just described depression it can get pretty serious, so i would tell a family member or a friend that im close too just talking to people about your problem can make you feel alot better or i would ask my mom if i could see a professional that deals depression .if all fails the problem is left in your hands i would advice you to do the same thing i did take a pen and paper write all the good things about you read your list out loud whenever your feeling bad or just compliment yourself in the mirror.remember there will always be school but, there will only be one you one life so dont get stressed out over homework always do the best you can ..best of luck
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okay so theres this boy i met a while back. he's older. he's 21, and i'm 16. when we first started talking, we talked a lot. like i used to talk to him for hours. and like almost every day. and then one day he came over and we just chilled and watched videos. and then the next week i went to his house and we were gonna watch a movie, &then he made a movee, and yeah. we did i and yeah. the next week i went over again and we did it again. since then we've been seeing each other atleast once a week, even if it can only be for a minute or two. like two fridays ago, i told him i was at a party, and he was texting me and he was like what are you doing. and i didnt text back because i didn't know i got a text, and then when i checked he had texted me again after that saying "stop making out with other boys!" and we just talked and then i visited him for a minute and then i had to go home. uhm. then like i think on friday last week he was texting me, and he said i'm a player, like he said my friends told him, but i know they don't talk to him. so he was like okay they didn't say that but he said he thinks that i'm a player. and i told him i wasn't. but idk. and then on saturday, i was at a party, and then like i drank waay too much and i had motrin, so i got alcohol poisoning, and he was at this other party like half an hour away, and he drove all the way to where i was to pick me up. and then he took me back to his house and gave me like bread and water and stuff and was just taking care of me. and then the next morning, he got up at 830 to take me back to my friends house. and like we slept in his bed, but we didn't really do anything, we just sorta messed around. but like lately, i feel like all we've really had is a physical relationship, but then he's really sweet to me and he does all these little things for me sometimes, but i feel like sometimes he just wants the physical stuff, and idk what to do. i guess i don't really have like one exact question. soo uhh. any thoughts on the situation? (link)
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he could be the player but then again i dont know him that much im going by what you just said.i would talk to him you always have to communicate about how you feel if you do want more then a physical relationship i would tell him see his view on all of this sometimes guys are afraid to show there feelings are explain there feeling. the best thing to do is speak to him good luck.
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Alright my boyfriend and i were fooling around and some precum leaked through his his boxers AND shorts and then he brushed it and then touched me. he didn't insert his finger in me, but just touched that general area. am i safe? I'm just a paranoid person and normally i'm extremely careful and he says that he didn't get anything on his finger before touching me but can someone just tell me the chances are extremely small to ease my mind. (link)
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no big deal if he touched it with really wet fingers then there would be a possibility or if he fingered you.
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okay so im new to this whole sex thing. i've heard girls talk about when they "explode" or something related to that.im just wondering what this means, how it happens, etc. also after your done having sex i read that a lot of people cuddle with each other, or go to sleep but i was just wondering, since the girl usually gets wet, isn't like the sheets going to be all wet and gross and doesn't the girl feel gross afterwards? how can people just like lay there after they are all wet? maybe im thinking totally wrong but i just don't have a clue so if you guys could give some advice i'd really appreciate it! (link)
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when a girl is wet she doesnt wet the whole bed thats impossible its a little bit of vagina secretion just enough to wet your underwear sometimes your jeans or whatever your wearing doesnt even get wet.if you are planning on having sex try researching more good luck
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novbember 1st mad close, but i dont kno what i should buuy them well yes i mean them thyre twins girls btw lol, so what should i do and what should i buy? thanks..any ideas would be useful =) (link)
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first you have to set a budget, think about what they like im not sure how old they are but you should think is there something they talk about alot .do they ever say i love this thing i would like to have it .ex . my friends little sister loves miley cyrus (famous actor)so i bought her something that have miley cyrus picture on it .good luck
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I have a friend (who I am very digusted with right now) who is a chronic and obsessive liar.
I know all about the lies she tells and have confronted her in a nice manner to no avail..these are usually lies designed to get out of trouble or to take advantage of others so not little white lies--but basically lies upon lies and elaborate lies at that. I plan to end the friendship, but she owes me a lot of money I mean thousands. She has taken advantage of me too. (I have ended the friendship in my mind, but attempting to play it cool with hopes she will pay me back)
Anyway, since this is about mental health, how does one handle an obsessive liar? Contiously confront them--which leads to arguments or should I keep my mouth shut? I have to get the money she owes me I am doomed without it. Yes the money was for something legal...in case you are wondering. I tried to help her before I found out what she was really like. Taking her to court will do no good even though I am certain the judge would rule in my favor, she still won't pay up. (link)
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The best thing to do is to ask her nicely and give her a date to pay up, if not tell her that your going to have to take her to court(even if your not).someome like that will make you lose your mind your right its best to end the friendship . And you should be honest with her tell her that you dont plan on being friends with her and you would like to get your money back .my advice to you in the future is to not let someone borrow all that money from you good luck.
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okay so im 5'3 108 pounds. i know im not fat!! but like i feel like everytime i eat something, im guna get fat. i eat really healthy though most of the time! maybe once a week i will have some ice cream or eat some fried food but thats it! idk whats wrong withme but whenver i eat i feel like, guilty, and i feel like i need to workout asap! even though im at a healthy weight and my body is pretty fit.. idkkk! i think i have like a phobia of becoming fat!?!?????? advice tips?! (link)
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that could lead to some problems if you dont try to control yourself now becuase your becoming your own enemy by critizing your body.your at a good weight level and no just by eating ice cream twice a week will not make you fat.you have to get that out of your head. you should try to join a sport team if your not already in one.i would also stop weighting myself all the time if you do.good luck
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i just had sex for the first time with my boyfriend last week. we were talking about it tonight and he was saying how i cant last long enough to get him off and was asking if im a virgin. i cant help but take this as an insult. im not a virgin but have only had sex a few times before him. should i be embarassed or insulted by this?
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im 19 if it helps (link)
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sounds like an insult to me his not a very nice person you should let him know that you werent too happy with his comment if he brush it off then theres something wrong he should apologize or at least show that he cares.good luck
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Oksy, so I am not in need of a lecture on how I nned to be protected from oregnancy and STD's. I have take the proper precautions; I have been taking BC pills for almost 3 months now and I have condoms on hand. I am planning on doing with someone I trust and care for very much. No need to worry too much, I know the consequences and what-not.
My question is more of what would be the least painful way to lose virgnity. I have never been fingered but am willing to if it helps. Also, I am a rather tiny person so I don't know if that makes a difference. Is the top or bottom better for pain? If it hurts can we stop or is it one of those things that's going to hurt as much on the way out as it did on the way in? Does masterbation make it easier for later? (random detail: i know i get wet rather easily, as in turned on, would this benefit me or make it woerd?)
I am 18/f and he is 22/m if this makes a difference. In Canada that's legal right? As in, the legal consent age is 18 right, not 19? (link)
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it doesnt hurt for everybody if you take proper precautions.as you mentioned you get wet easily which is good b/c if your private is dry its going to hurt more.i would let him finger me before and you could try oral to relax each other.(days before you should start fingering yourself)and advice him to take it slow .sex is not suppose to hurt if your tense then its going to hurt all you have to do is relax.good luck
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me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 and a half years and i am 17 and i love him to death but, he gets so mad all the time over little things and i dont know what to do everytime i try and talk to him he gets mad and thinks im trying to start an arguement what do i do? (link)
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not to be mean that could be a sign that he wants to break up.or maybe his going through some stuff right now.i would try to talk to him but before you start the convo compliment him just to show him that you mean no harm.tell him how you been feeling about things and how you want to make things better.good luck
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20/f
I have been dating this guy who is an artist for almost a year and a half now.
Pros: *He is a really nice guy
*He claims he wants to marry me.
*His sister is awesome
*He makes me laugh and i can do stupid stuff with him
Cons: *We do the same things over and over
*He is an artist but he also has to have a regular job, so he is always broke
*I cannot stand his mother
Ok, now everyone is going to think I am a bad person, but I just feel like the Artist is my friend and not my boyfriend. So I have been looking. I have met this guy who is a firefighter online, and he seems really nice. I haven't met him in person yet, but I have his phone number.
What is your opinion on what I should do? I am so confused right now.
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i think you should decide once you meet the other guy in person hang around him for a little while.then if he meets your needs and the artist is still not willing to change then make your decision but becareful, cause as you already know someone will get hurt just make sure your a 100% sure with your decisions . good luck
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So i get all into the whole body language thing. I was wondering if anyone knows any type of signs of body language that mean a certain thing. It can be if a persons lying, likes you, is angry, sad, ect.
Please feel free to write anything you know :]
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well if there playing with there hands alot means there nervous are lying.if they cant look at you also means there lying.if they look at you longer than 5 seconds means there thinking about something.
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im 17 and i havnt had a proper bf before. ive had one lousy kiss. no lad has ever called me pretty/cute/beautiful etc. i leave for university next year. i have no prospects for a bf before then but i really really dont want to turn up at uni an inexperienced virgin. cos i just know everyone else will have done everything already. all of my friends have lost their virginity and have boyfriends. i really hate it but im not sure if im confident enough to do anything about it. :( (link)
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im 17 years old and a virgin and iam so proud for making it this far that shows self respect.dont rush into anything because you feel that you need too.right now your dealing with very immature young boys your about to go to college its all going to change.do not disrespect your body just becuase you feel you feel you need too.good luck
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Alright so I'm pretty sure I've gotten myself into a "friends with benefits" situation and I am in need of some wise thought out advice.
I met this guy a few weeks ago and we really hit it off. He just recently came out of a 3 year relashionship so we aren't going to be rushing int anything. We've seen eachother a fair amount, each time ending in a make-out session. One time he even spent the night... He keeps telling me he doesn't wan't to rush into anything but less than 10 seconds after that he kisses me. I really like him so I just go along with it. I believe I have gotten myself into a friends with benefits situation and I want it to end. Not necesarily the whole relationship but the fact that he is somewhat using me for whatever reaons, consious or not. I'm clueless as to what to say or do to tell him I want "out".
Is there really an "easy way"? Probably not, so don't be afraid to be harsh if you need to, I want the truth, not some sugar lie.
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i know what your going through it sucks but you have to stand up to him dont be afraid.tell him exactly how you feel and let him know that you feel like his using you tell him that you dont want to lose him but ,you just dont feel comfortable with the whole idea of making out and not in a relationship.its going to be hard but you have to its your body and your life so take care of yourself if he disagree with you and doesnt want to speak to you anymore well let it be just that because that will tell you if his worth your time or not. good luck(girl power)
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Basically i've been friends with this boy Thomas for 18 months, and during those 18 months we've spoke every single day, we used to be on the phone for hours at a time. 6 days ago we had an argument he involves his self in my family life and basically we had an argument about that, we haven't spoken since and i've been feeling constantly lightheaded and have this numb feeling all over my body, i feel so empty.. i guess i kind of feel dead. Does anyone know if this is normal? I haven't taken alcohol or drugs, so it doesn't make sense. One of my friends suggested that i might have been in love with him and that its just normal.. are they right? Cherry x (link)
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well, your the only one who can decides if you were in love with him or not.well obviously, you guys was close and you miss him very much maybe thats why your feeling likes this.maybe you guys should try to resolve the problem; everyone makes mistake you have to learn how to forgive . if you feel like he deserves your friendship back then you should speak to him if he was way out of line and he apologizes for it i dont see a reason why you should lose a friend over this friends are precious. good luck
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Alright, so I've worked once before for Old Navy, but got fired because of a big misunderstanding about what my schedule was and therefore I didn't come into work (which looks horrible). So now I'm applying for Adidas a year later, and on the application it asks if I have ever been discharged from employment. I was wondering if it is better to not mention it or to say yes I have and explain myself. I know you're definitely not suppose to lie on your application, but would they ever actually find out? Any help would be appreciated :] Thanks (link)
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same thing happened to me in my very first job i was fired because they said it looked like i didnt want the job and that i did everything too slow.so when i was applying for another job i just said no and i got the job currently working .if you do put that there going to think your a bad worker and someone else with a clean background will get it .wish you the best of luck
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15/f
Okay So Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost a year.
He is eternally hooked on me, and i think i could stay with him for the rest of my life if i really wanted to! He is crazy about me, and has become so comfortable with me. Were both only fifteen and hes talking about our marraige life, and how many kids he wants to have. Anytime i say something along the lines of breaking up, whatever it may be he always says "Oh please dont let those words come out of your mouth ever again, i cant even think of that happening." something like that.
I am also his first girlfriend, and before he met me he was sort of considered the "Loser". Which, i really dont care about what other people call one another.
I, on the other hand, have had boyfriend experience, and i know what to say and what not to say.
When i first met him, i always had a burning sensation in my stomach when i saw him and i really really liked him alot, despite what everyone said. Now, i dont know if im getting used to the feeling, or if i simply dont like him anymore. But, the burning feelin has gone away, and when i see him i dont normally get as excited as i usually did.
Im also being attracted to other guys, that never happened when i liked him, and only him. I also dont know whether thats normal, or a sign to move on.
He says things that upset me sometimes, and i also get realy bored with him sometimes too. Like, we never do anything different, and he never says anything different. When im with him, he never wants to talk, all he wants to do is hook up, and if i make it clear i dont want to, he'll keep pushing it. I dont know if hes using me becuase im the only girl thats ever liked him, or if he really likes me. I really dont know!
Any advice?
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you sound very mature for your age and im sure your going to make the right decision no matter what; your story was very interesting.your right his getting too attached and he needs to slow down. his acting like that becuase he never had a girlfriend before never been in a serious relationship in his mind he probably already thinks your his wife.maybe you should consider taking a break during that break see what else is out there and if you still think his the one after then you should keep him if not move on.i wish you the best of luck.
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