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escape the "friends with benefits" stage
Alright so I'm pretty sure I've gotten myself into a "friends with benefits" situation and I am in need of some wise thought out advice.
I met this guy a few weeks ago and we really hit it off. He just recently came out of a 3 year relashionship so we aren't going to be rushing int anything. We've seen eachother a fair amount, each time ending in a make-out session. One time he even spent the night... He keeps telling me he doesn't wan't to rush into anything but less than 10 seconds after that he kisses me. I really like him so I just go along with it. I believe I have gotten myself into a friends with benefits situation and I want it to end. Not necesarily the whole relationship but the fact that he is somewhat using me for whatever reaons, consious or not. I'm clueless as to what to say or do to tell him I want "out".
Is there really an "easy way"? Probably not, so don't be afraid to be harsh if you need to, I want the truth, not some sugar lie.
Thanks =]
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i know what your going through it sucks but you have to stand up to him dont be afraid.tell him exactly how you feel and let him know that you feel like his using you tell him that you dont want to lose him but ,you just dont feel comfortable with the whole idea of making out and not in a relationship.its going to be hard but you have to its your body and your life so take care of yourself if he disagree with you and doesnt want to speak to you anymore well let it be just that because that will tell you if his worth your time or not. good luck(girl power)
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Well its very noble of you to want to end it. I am in a friends with benefits and i wish i wouldve ended it a long time ago, now im stuck in it. So, thats very good, because if you dont end it now you will be stuck. Him giving you mixed signals isnt helping you, and because you like him you are confused. Thats normal.
There isnt really an easy way to explain to him that you dont wanna just be "some girl" but its going to be easier that your going to tell him now and not later.
The next time you hang out just tell him that your confused because one minute he says he doesnt want to rush into anything, and the next minute he kisses you. Explain to him that you would want to date him, but you dont want to be a thing on the side. All you can really do is be honest and straight forward with him :]
Goood luck!
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