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I'm danika :) i'm 17 and i've been an advice columnist for almost 2 years i'm not on here a lot anymore but feel free to leave me and inbox and i'll get back to you asap

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14/f About a month ago a boy who I liked asked me out and I said yes, but it's like as soon as I said yes I realizied that's not what I wanted! I want to break up with him but I don't want to just tell him I don't like him anymore. He knows my parents are okay with it. What do I do?

just tell him that the sparks aren't there anymore.. but you would like to still be friends if possible.

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i dont see whats wrong with sitting on a boys lap...i havent done it...of course not because everybody makes such a big deal out of it but isnt it sorta just like sitting next to eachother?

it's not the same. but i don't think it's a big deal? i sit on boys laps ALL the time. and they sit on mine as well? haha

but sitting next to eachother is different because when your sitting on his lap usually it's flirtacious. and not like sitting next to eachother hope i helped =]

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does getting fingered hurt?
i know it depends on the person so don't say that, im asking if it does for you.

also how long does a guy usually do it for?

thanks

it kind of hurt the first time i did. i think it was because he was kind of agressive...

it all depends on the person on how long, how many fingers etc.

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18/f

Like seriously how the hell do they think!!! I dont understand them. They like you one day they hate u the next! like all i want is a nice guy who i can cuddle up to and tell everything and yes do other stuff ;).. but i jsut feel so lonely! My sister told me that guys just arent like girls. they arent so sensitive .. and i mean i dont think i could ever be with a girl because guys are just amazing to me.. but i just dont understand

this is so true. haha two days ago my ex boyfriend was like i still have feelings for you and the next he's all like 'you should really go kill yourself' haha i've been nothing but nice to him...


but guys are like girls. they want to be love and held just as much as girls do.. only girls show it.. and guys are sensitive too.. but they think they need to look up to the 'guy perspective' and how there all big bad and tough..

haha yeah sometimes i'm like wtf. i should be a lesbian. girls know what you want. and there would be no problems right ;]


one day you'll find the right guy who will pursue your needs =] just don't look for him. let love find you.

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Alright, my mom says that I shouldn't be an actress because she doesn't want to see me waiting tables when I get older. But I love acting, it's what I do, I mean my nickname is basically Drama Queen. But now I don't like much attention, yet I still want to be an actress, that or do something with animals. Everyone says that I'm a great actress, and I'm waiting for for the play I always wanted to do, Romeo and Juliet. Ever since I was like 5, I wanted to do this play. But I think I should just end my acting career now. Who am I kidding, show buisness wants an actress to be beautiful and skinny, which im neither. What do you think I should do? Should I end my acting career?

thx. ^__^

if you want to be an actress and are serious about it. go for it girlfriend. nothing shoudl hold you back from your hopes and dreams. but you should have a back up plan as well just in case the acting thing doesn't work for you

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13/f

Tonight I'm going to a mixed boys and girls sleepover, and the guy I fancy is going to be there. I want to look good, but I can't be too dressed-up because it's a sleepover, not a party. Also, I would like to wear something a little rock chick.
So my question is, what should I wear?

Thanks in advance, xxx

wear a cute jean skirt with a stud belt and a cute tank top or something like that.. then wear beads.. & just sneakers or flip flops =]

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Can parents see texts messages their kids sent through the Verizon Wireless website or something? My friend claims to have gotten for phone taken away because her mother found a spot on the website and read all of her text messages. Also, another friend complained of this but she had Cingular.

My brother's girlfriend has the Administrator's account in her family for Verizon.com and she said she found no where on there to do such a thing. Is it possible?

no they can not see your textes. but they CAN see who you've been texting. believe me my mom tried to find out how to view her boyfriends textes and they told her there was no way possible.. all you can see are the numbers being texted to

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Hey, I just met this boy, and we're looking for some things to do, and places to go. Around the Allentown/Bethlem area, kinda localish. I tried looking on the internet, but I couldn't come up with anything. Thanks for your help. =]

well i guess the usual movies/mall thing ? and then maybe out to dinner haha umm.. i don't really know what's around allentow and bethlehem. maybe CROCK ROCK =] yeahhhhh =] that's always fun

take walksssssss =] watch movies. have shaving cream fights. bake stuffffff like brownies. yum. and throw the batter at eachother =]]

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i like two boys. and so, i was wondering, is it okay to say the same things to both of them? they dont hang out together, they go to different schools. so is it a bad idea to say "i miss you" to both of them, and blah blah? or should i say different things to both?!
xo

IF YOU MEAN IT.. SAY IT. it doesn't matter if you say it to both of them.. all that matters is if you mean what you say... but i think your going to hurt one of them.. and that's not going to be very fun.. your going to feel like a bitch.. so you i think need to pick and choose right now which one you want to be with because they get caught up in you even more because it will only hurt worsee.

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Ug so I like my ex still but only a LITTLE. I'm the one that broke up with him. And me and him stayed pretty good ffriends then I flipped on him on myspace becauase he like stopped talkin to me. But he told me he did it because he still likes me alot and I didnt know that and now i feel bad because I dont know what to do :[

i know you DO know what to do. tell him your sorry and you feel the same way because you made a mistake and want him back =] plain and simple girlfriend.

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ok well me and this girl used to be really good friends!! the last year in 7th gr ( im in 8th now and 14) she spread a rumor about me and started stuff between me and alot of my friends! so i decided not to hang with her anymore!!! we've had a lot of fights after that too and we've been very close to fighting 4 real!!!! but now i kind of over it and at a party the other night she invited me to a barbque of hers next month! I donbt know if i should forgive her or what to do ??!?!?!?!!! please HELP!!!!

forgive her.. everyone deserves another chance =] you never know she could have changed.. just make a fresh start

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Today, i noticed that on of my friends (& she is a girl) has really long hair under her arm pits. It's super gross. Now I can't look at her w/o thinking of the hair. I dont want to be rude. What should i do?

that's funny butt i know it's EXTREMELY nasty and all.. but you just have to realise that there is probably a good reason why she doesn't shave.. maybe it's likee against her religion.. when you talk to her you don't have to look AT her just look past her.. i'm sure it's gonna be the first thing in your mind when you talk to her but i think you can handle still talking to her without being rude.. if you know you don't want to be rude then you won't =]

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one of my friends may be on the verge of killing herself

She won't tell me what's wrong with her ... she's ignoring my calls and when she answers, she hangs up.

On myspace, she reads my messages but wont reply

she was happy at school and is all depressed now...

anything I could do to squeeze the truth outta her?

your not goign to want to try and push anythign out of her because if she doens't want to talk about it then she will probably get angry at you to try and squeeze the truth out of her.. you just gotta let her know that your there for her if she needs to talk to someone... ya know? just let her know if she needs to talk to someone that your her girl.

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16/5, what are some ways to masterbate other then fingering yourself?

vibratorrrrrrrrrr ;] maybe a dildo too?

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16/f and my bf is 16/m we have been going out for almost two years now and when he fingers me i dont like moan, shake, or anything...is that ot normal? like he doesnt go "fast" he does it at a moderate pase. please dont tell me to masturbate and find out where i can moan beause i do that. and when he "eats me out" which hes only done once my legs started shaking but nothing else and that lasted very shortly. and when i masturbate i only get to my legs shaking then stop like i really dont know what an orgasim is and i really need some help here?

thanks so much

i'm silent. because i think it's kinda embarrasing to make noises haha. i only shake afterwords sometimes.. it's weird.. it's perfectly normal in order to have an orgasm it doesn't mean you moan because you can have an orgasm and be completely silent... you'll know when you have an orgasm believe me.. maybe if he goes faster than you might moan.. try that

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I gave my boyfriend a handjob and when he cummed, it got on my hands and on his hands too. Then my boyfriend fingered me. Could I get pregnant from this?

it's about 1 and 9 million chance that you could get pregnant because the sperm dies once it reaches air

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Do you have to use lubricant or lotion while giving a handjob?

no i dno't believe so

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ohkay well i was just wondering, when you go to give a guy a hand job, or head, do they get "hard" right away? or like what happens. cause dont you have to be hard to get head and a hand job and have sex?

lol they get hard when you even talk about it ;] you'll be fine.. all you have to do is blow in there ear or somethign and they'll get a hard on it's actually extremely easy for them to get one

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15/f


I'm a freshman in high school. And there are sophomores and juniors in my spanish class. So, everyday they bother and harass me. Today, it got to the point where they were trying to grab my boobs. They were kidding...but one of them grabbed my chest, hard and another guy HIT my chest, by accident. They didn't apologize...just shrugged it off...kind of like "Oh look at the freshman. Let's take more advantage of her". They laughed and went to their next class. I feel so violated and ....insecure I guess.


Help? :(

you my darling. you need to tell an adult. NO ONE should be touching you even if it is on the arm. seriously wtf. they shouldn't be touching you esp. in school. tell someone because it could go further and you could end up getting really hurt. and it might start to get more serious and that shouldn't happen . best wishes xox

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Okay, I'm 16, female. Today, me and my boyfriend had sex for the first time. I've had sex once before but it was almost a year ago. After we had sex, I was bleeding a little bit. when I got home later, there was a very little bit of blood in my underwear. but when i checked myself, it was a little red, but there was no signs bleeding.
It's also still a little sore. is this normal or what is it? I've already had my "cherry popped" ... or so i think?

it's normal

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