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Q: does anyone know how old you usually have to be to work at a tanning salon? thanks.

where i live its 16.
=)martyna

Q: Again this boy Roshon has been bothering me. With all the touching me and walking me to class things. I mean he is cool and everything but in the hall I see him doing it to other girls to just not as much as he does it to me. And he still talks about me. This morning when he tried to walk me to class. The only way he will get his hand off me if I pull away and say I will talk to you later. And the bad thing is he is only. I don't know how to say it but he goes up to my chest. What I mean by that his height. Do you know how weird that looks? Anyway help please!

just tell him to stop. i think i know that you dont want to be hurtful and stuff, but you have to tell him because i think he thinks that what he's doing is ok, and he's not going to stop on his own.

Q: ok look i kno this chick and we've been goin out for about 9 months and she wants to do stuff really bad and dont get me wrong i do too but i am not done with puberity and i am shy about it i dont kno what to do what do i do? what do i say? should i just go for it and see what happens or should i just wait?

P.S. we love each other VERY much!! :)

if she loves you and you love her, then i think that you should talk to her and tell her that youre not ready to do anything like that. tell her and she will probably understand. tell her you love her very much, but you dont feel that the time is right.
hope i helped
=) martyna

Q: okay there is this guy, matt, and he's a- well- a bit of a slut. we are good mates and last year he got with my friend. not sex or anything but fooled around. i was totally cool with that coz he's a nce guy and everything. but a month or so later i realised i had feelings for him. i told my friend and she was like OMG go for it!!! he had a party, so after a few drinks to soften the blow, i told him i liked him. he was like. OMG i've liked you for ages. i was so happy!!! he kissed me and we were making out when my friend banged on the door asking for me. i ran out and my other friend had passed out. i looked after her and made sure she was okay. when i came out of the room i saw matt kissing his ex. after pouring my heart out to another guy friend i got over it and we kept being friends. we still are. he was like so into my sister so i introduced them but warned my sister about him. they hooked up (not sex) but she wanted nothing else. he was cut up about it but got over it. i havn't spoken to him much lately coz i been busy. but i ran into him at the mall yesterday. we chatted for a while and today he sent me a message saying hey gorgeous, i'm thinking of you. and i dunno whats happening. n e 1 that can help it would be appreciated!!! sorry it's so long. i rate!

i think that you should ignore him...he sounds like an asshole. guys like that arent worth anything. if you do get involved with him, just watch out for yourself...
=)martyna

ps HE is a 'slut' that humors me.

Q: you give really good advice...how come your rating is so low??

i dont know...cuz some ppl hate me i guess?? lol

Q: Hey it's me yet again with yet another problem.
There's this kid who I have strong feelings for, and we were into each other for the longest time. He just broke up with his girlfriend and he's miserable because he cared about her... gurr it makes me so jealous!
He's ignored me for the past month... just all of a sudden stopped liking me. I care about him SOOO much. Should I be mad for his ingoring me like that and going out with someone else... and just avoid him? Or try, now that he's single... to get his attention again????

well if i were you i would try to get his attention again, i mean now that hes single and all you guys might even end up together. lol
=) martyna

Q: Hey Wats Up...Im a freshman in highskool nd I gotta girl whos goin through alot. The doctor said she is kinda Anorexic nd Balemic 4 all da depression in her life. Well she hardly ever eats anymore nd last nite wen she tried she couldnt stop it from throwin up...also she gets random blackouts wen she does dat bcuz she doesnt have any food in her system to keep her out of it. I realli wrry bout her nd hope nothin happens to her. I wanna just know how she can stop da food she eats from her throwin it up

i really dont know anything about something like that and im really sorry, but here are some websites that might help:

http://eatingdisordersonline.com/familyfriends.php

http://eatingdisordersonline.com/familyfriends.php

http://www.gurze.com/site12_5_00/abouteating_advise.htm

hope i helped!! sorry if i didnt.....
=) martyna
good luck!

Q: i was at my friend's house and we decided to prank my crush (because he's the type of guy who would sort of play along). well when we called him, we couldn't stop laughing so well he couldn't really play along with that and hung up. he was sounded pretty upset (like when he was asking who is this). but i don't know, what if he recognizes me by my laugh? my friend said that i didn't exactly disguise my laugh but that it's ok-but if he knows it was me, wow i'm dead. everyone will definitely know i like him (trust me, they already suspect it!). and plus he'll like hate me, which i really don't want because he's like the sweetest and funniest guy ever!! i dont know what to do, please help!

well if you like him, dont you want it to go somewhere someday anyway?? well thats ok if you dont i was just asking, i think that you should just be careful of what you say or 'how you laugh' in front of him. dont say anything that you said over the phone! see if he acts weird, if he does then really seriously be careful about what you say, if he doesnt then dont worry, he probably wont even remember it later, or maybe he just knew it was you and doesnt care. anyway, be careful and good luck.
=) martyna

Q: yesterday i went to my friends house and i broke a lot of things because i was soo hyper and crazy, and now i feel really bad! it's not like a glass vase, like i broke her headphones, markers, and even her computer mouse! i feel so bad and i tried apologizing-like she forgave me but she doesn't really trust me anymore.. what should i do?

i think that you should just explain to her that you were just really really mad that day. i hate to say it, but she really does have every right to be mad at you or not trust you. maybe you should try to repay her for that stuff or maybe buy her new stuff. promise her you'll never do it again. maybe next time when your mad, you could just rip..paper? lol or i dont know try some other stress or anger reducing things...
hope i helped
=) martyna

Q: ok my best friend goes to another school and her school has a lot of cliques. our school doesnt have as much but like they're the preps (popular people) at her school who're really annoying and girly. they aren't like that at my school, everybody's just cool. but like my friend's always talking about how the preps are always sooo annoying and preppy, and she and her friends try to be mean to the preps. and the preps at her school actually are pretty annoying *like their profile, they act so ditzy!!* but she talks about them a lot-and i'm SOOOOOOOO sick of it!!! what can i do

talk to her about the stupid preppy people lol. if the way they act makes you mad or your sick of it just tell her. i had a problem like that once, and i talked to my friend about it, and she said that ok, she will stop talking about them. if she says anything about them just say that you dont like them and you would rather not talk about them. if she's your real friend, then she'll understand. tell your other friends to lay off the preps and find something better to talk about. i mean if they hate them so much, why would they talk about them right? as for to preps themselves, just ignore them. lol
hope i helped
=)
martyna

Q: i like to wear my hair up in a bun or pony tail but my mom is soooo annoying about it. she says that i hav beautiful hair and i should wear it down. i keep telling her wen i wear my hair down i get really hot (like today i got out of the shower and i felt sick i was so hot). any suggetions?

please help. i rate!

just tell her. my mom does the same thing. tell her thats the way you like your hair and your going to keep it like that no matter what she says.lol
=)
martyna

Q: Hey everyone,

Ok heres the problem...my neighbor is the hottest thing, hes a redneck about 15. And i really like him. We were friends when we were younger but his parents got divorced and now he comes down here on the weekends. There was never anything like sexual tension between us until now. But the pathedic part about this I havn't talked to him. i am super nervous and afraid. Of what? I guess rejection. What should I do? I wanna see where we could go? Please help...
BTW: 14 in April : Female

labels are bad. but anyway, just go talk to him, if he rejects you just be like whatever, who cares there are hotter guys. but im sure he wont. just go up to him and be like hey wuts up? and thats it, now you'll be on a 'hi' basis and he'll notice you every time now.

Q: Ok, so there is this kid that likes me and I like him. I talk to him on the phone and at school. One day we got into the subject of boyfriends and girlfriends. So I said we would be like perfect and he goes yea let me think about it? Its been a month. How do I bring the subject back up, or do I just let it go?

i think you should just bring it up as a joke, like 'yea you know me and you would be a perfect couple right' or i donno somthing like that. the reason he didnt say anything is probably because he doesnt know how to bring it up either.
hope i helped
=) martyna

Q: im 13/m and just wondering. my goal is to be a virgin until i get married, i want that special moment to be with the women i love, can i get some feedback? anything you want to say. ill rate all answers with a 5
irish
13/m

thats the sweetest thing ever i think its really good when guys want to wait until they get married. that shows that you have a lot of respect for women and girls.

Q: ok i have this friend and he's a guy and hes really cute but were just friends and we like to do sexual things but we havent had sex or anything. i showed him things and he's showed me things on our bodys.well we got into 3 fights and when we stop talking to each other he always comes and apologizes to me and i forgive him. now its a regular day in school and he calls my cell phone and askes me to come get him out of class so we can have sex in the stairwell in school. i wanna have sex with him but then im not sure were like really close friends and having sex with him it wont be the same after because it will be akward talking to him after we have sex. well if any one can give me some advice please cwrite back

signed: sexually wrecked princess

if you want to do it then do it. if you dont want to be friends with him after you do it, you could just remain fuck-buddies...
=D lol
martyna

Q: Okay.My boyfriend told one of my best friends that he doesnt like me anymore so she can tell me. When I got online she told me and I was really mad. I was mad because all of my friends were telling me to break up with him because he didnt treat me right. He didnt know how to be a boyfriend and plus he was prude. He always told me that he loved me and he would never break up with me but look now he told her he didnt like me
anymore. Im so mad at my self that I didnt listen to my friends before. I didnt want to belive them. Now I`m hurt and I dont know what to do. I dont wanna talk to him and let him know I`m sad or anything. So .. do you think he ever liked me or that he just said he did? Im so confused and hurt. Please help! I rate 5's!

wow your kinda young to be in this mess. i think that your x bf in an ass. maybe he did like you, but since hes a prude, you know nobody's ever gonna be good enough for him. i think that you shoukd just forget him if he's being so stupid and get on with your life. he might even realize how much he's lost by breaking up with you, and he might want you back. DONT LET HIM GET YOU BACK NO MATTER WHAT HE SAYS. guys like that never change trust me. so good luck and get over him hes not worth it.
hope i helped
=)
martyna

Q: (Sorry if this turns out really long!) I've only been cutting myself for a little over two weeks but I'm already addicted. I told my boyfriend first because I vent to him a lot. I trust him and he can comfort me. Then later I told my teacher and she suggested for me to talk to my school counselor. My teacher told my parents, too. My mom talked to me but it wasn't about ME, it was about what my sister went through. It wasn't helpful. So I talked to the couselor. She freaked out and kept telling me, "You can't do that! STOP! You have to stop! If you do it again I'll tell the principal!" That is not what I expected from her. It wasn't helpful or encouraging. It was threatening! It almost made me want to cut! Later that day I was sitting alone in the gym slicing the skin on my arms and my Gym/Health teacher saw me and made me go alone in a room with him to talk. He kept telling me that even though life may suck now, it'll get better because I "have a good mind". I didn't think it was helpful either, but I started crying. Everytime I had to talk to someone, I wanted my boyfriend there holding my hand helping me endure it. I feel uncomfotable around everyone but him. One day my teacher actually tried to send me home because I was cutting and crying and miserable. I told her I didn't want to go home, I just wanted to talk to James. (James is my boyfriend.) She said she couldn't let him out of class. I glared at her and wouldn't talk to her. She called my parents and they took me home. The whole time I wanted to scream, "I JUST WANT JAMES!" When I got home I just reread old notes from my bf. He's the only one who can comfort me and it feels like he's the only reason I go on living. Do I depend on him too much? How can I stop cutting if I have nobody to talk to? Please comment or give advice! Sorry so long!

i dont think your boyfriend would want you to cut. dont you think that a little obsessive? i mean i hate to say this, but what would happen if he left you? you cant just live for him. find a hobby, something that you like to do, or set a goal for yourself in school, anything to keep your mind off cutting, i mean you can still spend with james, but dont think about him every waking minute of your life. i think thats weird. you have to be more independent.
hope i helped, sorry if i didnt
=) martyna

Q: Where are some good stores to shop for clothes??
Lacey

KOHLS yey i love that store...umm DISCOVERY is a really cool store too. and maybe if your into this kinda stuff HOT TOPIC

Q: how can i get my big butt looking good in a swimsuit? like tighter legs and butt?

umm i think you should just wear those boy short swim shorts. the kinda short/kinda long ones. i think you know what i mean right? they camafluage big butts lol.
hope i helped
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Q: My ROOMATE is going through a seperation. She has a 4 year old daughter. From what I am told, There is to be no men around his daughter, and if there is, that could be grounds for him to take his daughter from my roomate,{He lives in another state} My question, If there is to be no men around his daughter and I live here to does that pertain to me also? I don't think it should seeing as how I am not part of there family. She takes care of her daughter, pays her half of the bills and I pay my half. Can me seeing my boyfriend at my house, with them living here be grounds for him to take his daughter from her? Also, what if she has a man here? Is her trying to rebuild her life and meet new people whom if she liked or got serious about one and wanted them to meet her daughter....Could her ex do anything about that too? ANOTHER THING, IS THAT EVEN LEGAL FOR HIM TO SAY THAT THERE CAN BE NO MEN AROUND HIS DAUGHTER? WHEN NOTHING HAS BEEN SIGNED STATING THAT?

THANKS, ILL RATE HIGHHHH