hey everyone!
my name is sam and i'm 16 and i live in wisconsin. I'm a sophmore. I'm pretty good at advice, as i've had many problems of my own and helped many friends get through theirs. I hope to help out anyone who needs it!!
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Alright well Im 16 yrs old..Soon to be 17 and I've slept with 7 different people. Is that considered a slut? I dont think Im skanky or anything, I just enjoy sex! Is that wrong? Im very open about my sexuality and people think Its wrong to be, Alot of people joke around and say that Im a nympho and shit like that..I need advice and I want people to truthfully tell me what they think. Dont be afraid to tell me the truth..Be straight up!! *Thnks* (link)
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If you really enjoy it then do it, don't punish yourself for wanting to have fun.. you're who you are & no one can change that!!
just make sure you're being safe about what you're doing!!
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my best friend and i have a "fling" going and his g/f is getting really mad that we hang out ... hes having issues dumping her ... should we do? (link)
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He should definatly break up with her. No one feels good when their boyfriend has a "fling" with another girl.. she shouldn't be put through this any longer. obviously it hurts her, because it would hurt anyone. Also, it might make you guys feel better about what you have, and not like your sneeking around behind someone ele's back.
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my boyfriend just came back from mississippi and we always talked online and he always told me how much he missed me and how much he wanted to see me. we was always saying how much he wanted to see me and he is always saying he loved me and he would never treat me bad and he treats me like SHIZ NIT! my friends tell me to break up with him but i love him too much and i dont know if i should break up with him or not. I mean he hurts me by not answering my phone calls and ignoring me and always ditching me for his friends. I was so mad when i called him and he got home an hour before and he was already with his friends. sometime i think he for gets he has a girlfriend that he soposably cares about. I need advice!
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if you are feeling this bad about it then you should really talk to him about it, maybe you could say something like "if you really care about me, then why am i always second best compared to your friends" or something like that. if he really does love you then he would definatly at least try to understand where you are coming from and try to improve. but also say to him, something like, "i don't always have to be your number one priorty, but i'd like to be that sometimes." or something like that. if he doesn't change though, i think you should break it off because you don't deserve someone who is going to hurt you over and over. if it doesn't work out, im sure you'll find someone else, who will give you what you need. hope it all works out though!
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there's this friend i have and she always lies to me, but then if i catch her in the middle of a lie, and am like well before you said this, shes like NO I DIDN'T. shes one of my best friends and shes fun to be around when shes not lying, but it gets really annoying...what should i do? (link)
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what you should do if she keeps saying no i didn't and stuff, & you really want her to know what she's doing then if you have one of those little tape recorders catch her & then when she says no i didnt, play it back to her. maybe then she'll stop.. if not, then it's up to you whether you want to be friends with someone who lies to you.. i don't know what to tell you.. you should just think about this.. is it worth having a friend who's fun to be around, even though she lies to you all the time?
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I have liked someone for 4 years now. He has moved away once and then came back. He now has moved away again with his mom about 2 hours from here. I still like him alot but im afraid to tell him incase it ruins our friendship. I have his phone number but im afraid to call him because i dont think he wants to talk to me. Now i just decided to forget about him because it makes me really sad to think about him and barely talk to him except about once a month on the computer. I barely talk to him anymore, but i really like him and i dont know if i should tell him or if i should just forget about it. What should i do? (link)
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i know that you're afraid of rejection, almost everyone is, but if you don't do anything, later on your going to regret not telling him how you feel, who knows it could have turned into something great, and still can, and it's all up to you. i know it's hard, but if you only talk to him once a month on the computer, that's not much of a friendship, so maybe you guys will make better girlfriend n boyfriend than better friends. i dont know all the details though, you guys might get together or something im not sure. but i still think that you should follow your heart instead of sitting around and doing nothing, trust me, you'll regret it!! theres this quote that i really like, it's "if you want big rewards, you've gotta take big risks"
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I love to dance..a lot..i do ballet ..pointe shoe...and i do tap, but i have another passion..i love to act and do commercials. when i was younger i audtionend for an agent and got one, i then was on sesame street..for a couple of years and i did comercials. but when i was 6 or 7... i had to quit. now tht i am at a higher age i want to enroll in that type thing...but i do to much dancing, and my mom is making me choose ..what do i do?
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you have to tell us what your user name is first other wise we don't know what inbox you are.. but neways i'll answer it here
i think that which ever one you like better, not nessisarly what one you are better at because you might be doing something and then you're just doing it to do it & not because you love it.. i think that which ever one you choose it should be because you like that one better and not because you're taking the easy way out.. once you work at something to get somewhere then you'll feel really good when you finally have your goals accomplished. let me know how it goes!
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hey my name is katie (( female )) and i have a boyfriend we've only been dating for a month tomorrow ;; we've went out before but i really love him and im only 14 but i mean i never felt this way for a boy before but i think hes ignoring me because some bad stuff kinda happened well imma tell you [[ short versen ]] -- well i was talkin to this boy that likes meh wait no loves me and he kept telling meh and like 20 mins before we were going to my boyfriends house he was all huggin on meh and holding my hand then when we got to my boyfriends house he pulled this headache crap cause i wouldnt talk to him but i mean i dont like this boy _at all_ and i told him then my boyfriend found out but i mean i didnt tell him so i found out a bunch of my friends told him but im not sure but i called him the nixt day and i told him i didnt like the other boy and he didnt believe meh but its been like 4 days later and my boyfriend still isnt talking to meh i mean if i call him hes either bout to leave or not there or about to do sumpthyn i mean is he igoring meh? i mean i've cried my self to sleep like almost everynight this past week and i dont know what to do -- will you please help meh -- (( i hope i made this understandable lol )) thanks [[ much love ]] Katie Sumner (link)
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obviously he still cares about you otherwise he would have broken up with you.. maybe you could go to his house, instead of on the phone, it's harder for you that way so he might believe you more. or maybe if you knew he was somewhere then go there and try to convince him you don't like the other guy and your boyfriend is the only one for you. i hope everything works out!
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I am a 13 year old girl, and my friend invited me to a party. She just said it was a plain old party, so I went. Some people that I'd seen before, but didn't know exactly were there, just playing like you're supposed to at a party. My friend, and a few other people that I knew, were all making out in another room. I left immediatly.
Now my friend is having another party. I don't know what to expect. I asked who she was inviting, and she told me, and I know everyone who she invited. She told me that, again, it would be a fun, plain old regular party. Can I trust her on this, or should I just not risk the chance of being stuck at a make-out party again? (link)
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it's up to you.. she did it once so there is a chance she might do it again.. sit her down and say.. "is it going to be another make-out party again, because i really felt stupid going there and finding out it was a make-out party, when you knew it was and didnt tell me" if she says it is then dont go but if she says it isn't it might not be, but tell her after what you say that if it is, im going to be really mad.. hopefully ur friend wouldn't want you mad at her over something like a party.
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I have a bunch of friends who miraculously happen to be boys. Seriously, a lot. None of them consider me their girlfriend, and I don't consider any of them my boyfriends. We're all just plain old friends.
I also have a lot of girls who are my just plain old friends. They are consistantly telling me that one of them HAS to be my boyfriend, and that it's just not right to have a bunch of guys for friends at the late age of 14 (sarcasim). I mean, sure I love them all like friends, but I don't consider any of them my boyfriends. Is this wrong??? (link)
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no not at all.. it's perfectly fine for you to think of all of them as just guys who are friends. it's actually really cool because then you can ask them questions only guys would know, or get there guy point of view about something. this is something you can't do with girls who are friends. if you don't consider any of them as boyfriends don't worry about it cuz it's perfectly normal.. you'll know when a guy comes along that you like.. you'll feel different about them than you do about your guy friends!
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I am a girl, and have a bunch of friends who miraculously happen to be boys. Seriously, a lot. None of them consider me their girlfriend, and I don't consider any of them my boyfriends. We're all just plain old friends.
I also have a lot of girls who are my just plain old friends. They are consistantly telling me that one of them HAS to be my boyfriend, and that it's just not right to have a bunch of guys for friends at the late age of 14 (sarcasim). I mean, sure I love them all like friends, but I don't consider any of them my boyfriends. Is this wrong??? (link)
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no not at all.. you're definatly allowed to have guys who are friends, it's actually really cool that you do, because you can ask them stuff that only guys would know and maybe your girls who are your friends wouldn't. if they say that one of them must be your boyfriend just say, "no, we're just friends." trust me, there is nothing wrong with it at all!!
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ok u see i love my b/f i will do nething in the world for him but right now hes at his moms which is 2 hours south from me ok there was this party n u know no girl is gonna turn down a party my boyfriend wasnt supposed to be home till the next morning. at the girl boy party we were playing spin the bottle it was my turn so i spined it then it landed on my ex n i wasnt gonna turn it down so i went 4 the cheek then he turn his head n stuck his tounge in my mouth every1 thinks i did it to him then at the same moment in time in comes my b/f!!!!?!?!?! wat do i do?? (link)
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explain it to your boyfriend what happend, and when u do really be sincere & if he feels the same way you do then he should forgive you. just think if you were in his shoes and walked in on him kissing his ex like that [[even though it wasn't his fault]] but you didn't know that, what would you do? think about how you would know that he was telling the truth & what it would take to make you believe.. then just do the same thing back to him. try to figure out a way to show him, that would make him believe you! tell me how it goes if you decide to do it!
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ThiS iS ThE SeCoNd TiMe ivE Sent ThiS bUt i ReALLy NEEd MoRe PeoPlEs AdViCe So PlEaSe JuSt LeAvE Me SoMEtHiNg..:-/
ok me and this guy..we will call him peter were like best friends until it started being more. well he stopped talking to me and when i asked him about it he said it was because he fell for me and didnt wanna ruin our bro/sis relationship.. so i told him how did he kno that i didnt feel the same way and such. so i guess you could say we were "talking" after that but that just led to him not talking to me aGaIn! its like he just picks these random moments where he stops talking to me and im tired of it! well this is one of those times right now except i know he doesnt feel the same way about me anymore but i cant help it i still like him alot! its like everytime i try to meet someone new i know i will just compare them to him. what should i do! i still want us to be friends but i know once we are i will just want to be more again.. (link)
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talk to him and tell him how you feel, it sounds like he's tired of losing you. make it clear that by him stopping talking to you isn't helping at all. hopefully he feels the same way but if he doesn't you'll never now until you take the risk... it sounds like you really like him & i think you should go for it. .. if you talk to him and he says he doesnt want to lose you as a friend again then say that, what if we make a better girlfriend and boyfriend than friends and that he'll never know until he takes a risk & make it clear to him that even if it doesn't work out you'll still remain close with him no matter what happens.
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Alright Well I dont want to waste your time but this is kinda complicated! Im 16 and I was going out with a 21 year old. Everything was perfect! He introduced me to ALL his family and friends, he told everyone I was his girlfriend (even to pretty girls he knew) It was totally perfect and I felt so special! He complimented me all the time and told me I was "the one" and had even told me that I was a freak in bed and I was the best he'd ever had! Well after all this he started to act shady. He wouldnt call me or come around for a whole week and when he finally did it would only be for a small amount of time..I also heard from different people that he was flirting with this one SLUT tasha!! Whom already has a boyfriend. Well to cut it short, We broke up and I really dont even know what the deal was..We kinda just agreed to not being together!? Im heartbroken and if you have ANY advice as to why you think he did this or what I should do, It would be greatly appreciated. *Thanks* (link)
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it sux that he did this and you deserve so much better, i think the only one who knows why he did this is him, maybe you should ask him straight out why he did what he did. if he doesn't tell you and even if he does then you have to move on and try to find someone else who will make you happy. i know it's hard but don't give up, the right guy will come along and when he does, he won't break your heart. don't give up!! :)
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okay well my ex boyfriend asked me out i said no when i still really liked him because i didn't want to screw up and hurt him again but he knows i still really like him and he said that he still likes me but last weekend i saw him and this girl i really dont like together and he had his arm around her sholder and stuff i got really mad and now shes always saying how much she likes him what should i do? should i just stop liking him.. its going to be hard (link)
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if you want him then i think you should go for it, but don't mess up someone else's relationship just because you don't want him with anyone else but you dont want him either. i think that if you really did like him then you would have said yes when he asked you out instead of saying no.. is there a big reason you broke up or was it something small, that's something you need to think about also. another thing, is that if you said no to him, you can't expect him to stick around, and stay in the past, he has to move on too. He probably still does have feelings for you, but he probably figures that it doesn't matter because you already said no to putting those feelings into a relationship..
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okay my friend and i were talking the other day and he was saying stuff like "BYE THIS IS GOOD BYE FOR EVER" and all this other stuff and im like what are you talking abotu seriously and then he sent me a picture of im guessing it was his arm and it had cuts all over it and he goes now times that by 10 im like wow okay then hes like your runing my death stop talking to be then he signed off the computer he has done something like this before but nothing like that serious and i talked to him the next day after but once this happend i haven't spoken to him in 2 days im kind of worried what should i do? (link)
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i think you need to tell someone right away, this can't wait, it's been 2 days who knows what he could have done by now.. this can't wait any longer..if he's really your friend then tell your parents or his parents or a trusted adult to help you, but be sure to get help immediatly.. i know this is hard, but just think what could happen if you don't tell anyone, it's something you should do whether you want to or not..but just think if you do tell some one your a 10 times better friend then you were before because you stopped something really bad from happening..
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can you help me find some books to read?i've read all the harry potters like 100 times, all the lemony snicket books,inkheart by cornelia funk,the traveling pants series,like all the books by louisa may alcott,chasing redbird,and mostly all the royal diary books, a lot of others too. could you please give me some advice on series and books to read? (link)
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i really like the V.C Andrews series (she has a bunch of series out, maybe you could try those) i can't really think of any more off the top of my head though..
oh yeah, my friend really like catcher in the rye.
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my best friend and i were spray painting our bikes. Her father comes out in a rage. He starts hitting her and she was screaming for him to stop. She used a bit of foul language towards him, but he was really hitting her. the mom had to try and calm him down.SHould I get help, tell someone or just leave it alone? I don't want it to seem like i'm in their family's business, then again that is my best friend she was crying histerically but i couldn't see her because he told me to leave. (link)
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Tell your friend to tell someone first or you could tell her to talk to her mom so they both could do it together... if she won't listen to you then you have to do it b/c it's wrong what he is doing to her and you know it, if she gets mad at you that's fine, she'll get over it.. but just think what happens if you don't do something, it most likely will get worse and not better.. i know it's hard, but somethings gotta be done b4 it gets out of hand!
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whats in style these days ?!
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layered shirts.. but everyone has different styles and i don't know what yours is so i would check out a magazine like seventeen, or teen vouge or something like that!
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hello my freind had sex and well just call him Bob and bob has pressured all his g/f into sex ! and my best friend well call her Jackie has just started dateing him and i dont want her to do the dirty deed yet cuz shes soo sweet and shes kinda gullable so shell prolly go and do it like dont get me wrong i love both of them soo much as friends but i dont want Jakie to have sex with bob but jakie knoes about bobs pressuring his other gfs into sex but she wont dump him wut shud i do i dont want her to get taken advantag of so shud i talk to her ? i need help cuz im soo stuck on wut to do ( ps were only 15 i dont want her to have it this early except bob is like 16) (link)
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Talk to jakie and let her know how you're feeling, let her know what she is getting into and try having them go to places where they can't have sex or something.. if he does get her into a place where she could have sex, come up with some things that she could say or do to get herself out of the situation.. but it sounds to me that she already knows what she's getting herself into, all you can do is warn her and talk to her about what she could say if she does get into situations where he pressures her to have sex. remember she's the only one that can live her live all you can do is be there and support her (( after all it's her descion to keep going out with him, so she must know the risks involved, (getting pressured) ))
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im startin a job in like a week and im waitressing and bussing and im really nervous howdo i get ova it? (link)
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maybe try to practice with your family and friends .. like balancing things on plates and cleaning up the dishes at your table after dinner one night, that way you'll get more comfortable doing it! hope i helped & please rate
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