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Hi, I'm just really out in life to have some fun, trying to keep homework, my life, my friends, my pets and school under control. I wouldn't call me the average teenager because I am quite different with my personal circumstances. But I can honestly say I wouldn't have it any other way (well maybe some changes). I have learnt good and bad things the hard way and watched friends get hurt- I haven't been through it all but I'm working on it. Help you? I'm not sure but lets see how well this advice column goes. Ask Shaylee :)advice
Ok, well I have an audition on monday for the school musical and I am going to sing "A Whole New World" from Alladin. Anyways, I got the music from my piano teacher but it is all off key. So, I am trying to find free and printable piano sheet music for it. Plz help! I NEED HELP FAST!
thanx so much!
i will rate high!
If the one above doesn't help try this
http://www.mrpiano.bestmusicpages.com/film.html
go to Aladdin and click download on the sheet music, hope you kick ass at the concert
Yeah im 14 1/2 and I have had sweaty armpits for about 2 1/2 years now , and it still hasnt gotten any better! I have used almost every deoderant and anti-perspirant. i have also tried prescripted stuff. My mom thinks i sweat when im nervous. But that would mean i would be nervous everyday. I just got my period a couple of days ago too. Please Help Me!
Thanks,
your doctor sounds like crap...
okay well you have two choices you can either hide the sweat or stop it all together.
To stop the sweat there is a device called drionic or something- What it does is you use it a couple times a week and it stops you sweating- but sweating is actually good, just not too much of it. There are loads of things out on the market which you might like to try which are like a step up from anitperspirant. Stronger.
Then you could always hide it, which you might prefer- There are things you can wear under your clothes which hide it completly, Some of them are like extended bras others are just tight shirts. It all varies
But hey- don't sweat it, look around find something thats right for you
At the school dance the other night, i danced with one of my good friends who i found out liked me..and he's going to ask me out. I like him a lot as a friend and i think that I would like to give dating him a shot. Trouble is, my best friend really likes him. He doesn't like her in that way, and my best friend is a great friend to me and everybody else...now people are telling me that i shouldn't have danced with him because it was a mean thing to do to my best friend.What do i do about this whole situation?
Yeah stupid- you shouldn't do that... omg that means.... you're such a bitch...oooo
Okay firstly no one can condemn you for dancing with anyone, lets see- he probabley asked you so that would mean something as well. Maybe so your friend is okay with it talk to her about it- put your friendship above this thing. If she is totally not okay with it then don't do it, but if she's fine then go for it. Its' best to stick to friends more then boyfriends just because they will be there long afterwards.
Also speak to the guy a bit, tell him you like him but maybe now isn't a good time. I'm sure he'll understand and wait
hope it turns out for you, but it all screws up- then time heals everything
dear advice giver,
I am 13 years old and I do not like my body. I am young for my grade and I am considered rather small in my grade. But what bothers me the most is that I have no breats. I can't even fit into a size A yet. All my friends have breasts but I am as flat as a cardboard. Consider this, I am a size 34 in sports bras but not the size A to go with it. My mom is a 34B and she says that she grew at a slow rate. Please help.
-arielle-
AWWWW, small breasts are so damn annoying but you're mum... well it sounds like you are just like her. You will grow slowly- they will come but slowly. Well firstly do you have your period- if you don't that would explain a lot- They will grow but in the mean time you will just have to be patient with yourslef and wait
So this is my first year at this new school and I came here looking forward to a whole new future and being able to restart witha clean slate and nobody knowing who you were or what you were like. And I have been doing pretty good so far I wanted to be friends with everyone, because that wasnt how it was at my old school, and that worked except I had this one bestfriend at the begining of the year now we hardley ever hang out and she says that I am just trying to be popular. She is completely wrong I think???? I tried to explain and she says she understands now but I dont think she does. What do you think I am dong trying to be popular or just trying to have a lot of friends?!?!?!?!?!?!
Well the definition of popular is having a lot of friends- but she might thing you are trying to climb the social ladder. Talk to her about it and assure her that you are not rejecting her or anything- that you won't drop her for anyone. She might be just afraid of that. Maybe spend some special time with her to make her feel wanted as a friend. She obviously isn't as social as you are but unless you are willing to change there is nothing you can do about it.
Just assure her you won't drop her or anything and she should be fine.
im 16 and i havent had a period since febuary this year..i dont know why when i was three months late i took a pregnancy test but it was negative..at the same time i lost my virginaty when i got drunk could that be the reaosn why?i dont want to go to the docters cos my mum wll find out she a frend of the docter,i cant tell school cos my mum will find out.i dont want to tell my mum coz she wud be so hurt that i hadnt told her...plese reply quick..
Firstly are your periods irregular or have you been going through a lot of exercise or stress in your life?? Like I'm notoriously known for not getting my period for months on end. Its crazy, and bloody annoying.
So that should depend on the regularity of your periods and how old you are and how long you have had your period.
The other scary thing would you be pregnant, but its been an awfully long time for you not to have your period. If you really were pregnant you would have had some signs by now. Lets see my sister got pregnant in January and gave birth a few weeks ago. You'd definatley would have had some sign so I highly doubt that you are pregnant.
Tell your mum about it, you sound pretty young and your mum owuld be able to help with this kind of problem. She won't be hurt, she will know you've been scared and chances are the irregularity run in the family- so she might have the answer for you right up. I have painful ones and I'm on the pill my mum has the exact same problem- so its all explained in my family- stay away from us if we snap at anyone.
Don't worry about it- if you were pregnant I'm pretty sure you'd know by now by the physical signs of pregnacy- you'd probabley be giving birth by now.
For the past week my hands have just been ice cold. My guess it is do to poor circulation. I work on a computer all day, so it is not like I am not moving them. Does anyone have any ideas what causes this, and what I can do about it? It is very uncomfortable.
Well firstly that kind of problem is usually hereditary and has to do with your blood pressure
CONGRATULATIONS YOU WON'T DIE OF A HEART ATTACK OR ANYTHING TO DO WITH BLOOD PRESSURE COS YOURS IS LOW
you can die of anything else thou.
It is to do with your circulation and ask your parents or relatives if they have the same thing. I do and so does my mother and her Irish relations. Maybe every so often you should just go for a brisk walk to take a break from the computor to get that blood pumping through you.
Two ways you can fix it- salt which jacks up your blood pressure, but too much is bad for you and exercise. I'd go with the exercise
if all else fails you can always wear gloves
ok so my friend alexia has a really popular twin sister who is named ashley. i hang out with alexia but i also sometimes hang out with ashley. and alexia and i decided last year in 7th grade that we wanted to be more social and popular in 8th grade. so far things are going well but she is more popular than i am because of her sister. i guess that is just a natural advantage. and alexia has got such style and lots of clothes (because her and her sister share clothes) and if you meet alexia then she will automattically be the leader of the group just because that is part of herself i guess. so anyways i want to be like her because like guys like her and guys dont really like me. what does she do to make everyone like her? well anyways i want to be like her but dont get me wrong i love me, myself, and i and who i am but still i want to be like her. what should i do. please help!!
-ARIELLE
So you want to be more popular, well talk with more people. Don't just stay in your group, go up and talk to people you usually don't talk to. The definition of popular is having a lot of friends. Well my brother used to be unpopular in high school and they always looked down on him but he made lots of friends in university and now they still look down on him but he's way more popular then they are.
Just get out there and make more friends, some make them easier then others do- its a fact of life. She does have an advantage but now she probabley hates how she didn't work her way up from the bottom- she's accepted because of her sister. Don't worry too much about it and concentrate on making more friends that way you will be invited more into their group outings and you will get to be more social.
ok.. well i have these 2 bffs and weve been bffs since 5th grade.. im in 8th now and were all pretty popular (not to sound conceited) but 1 of them is like known by like very single person in my town and one is almost the same.. but the one that isnt as popular always gets me pissed off bec she trys soooo god damn hard to be like the other one.. whens shes not with the other one shes a WHOLE differnt person.. how should talk to her like about this w/o havin a big agrument?
srii if this was confusing lol thanx
Most girls will go through a stage like this in their lives. People just put on different faces to different people. I have a friend just like her. Okay well to not affend her say she's always changing to her, don't say when she changes just that she does and its annoying. But I have a feeling that won't help. It's best to catch her out in the act. She has a different face for different people so get all the peopel together and see how she acts, if she keeps changing then kept on confusing her and she should sort out who she is.
People will probabley always be slightly different depending on who they are with, my family reunions are definatley different to my group of friends. I just have to act differently and I don't know how to stop that she couldn't either, but basically if she keeps on changing non stop then she will confuse herself too much and she will settle down more. Good luck
um my friend says that she think she catch some nasty dieses i dont konw what is taht, she say the girl privite part itchys and alot of stiky liquid thing comes out alot she dont konw what to and she cant not go to the doctor b/c her family dont konw english
plssss help me out very much plz
ill rate highest i can
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Ummm about your mum not letting you go. Tell her she has a yeast infection... Your mum will understand and might be able to get the stuff for her. The girl doesn't need to go in personally someone else can go- you can go the chemist yourself and describe her symptons. The chemist will be happy to help promise
Oh I'm pretty sure there is nothing to be worried about, it sounds like she just has a thrush. Yeah she probabley does, it is a yeast infection and it causes an itch and cheesy discharge, the area is usually redder then usual, and painful as well. Going to the toilet is hard as it burns it also itches like crazy.
It can usually be treated with some antibiotics from the doctor or chemist. It is called a yeast infection and what you should do is go to your doctor or chemist and talk to them about it with some medication.
Don't worry too much about it, it is temporary and occurs to something like one in four women in their life time. So just go down to the chemist and they can probabley give you some cream for it
I have a problem in the learning catagory. You see, I dropped out of school because of a few things, mainly panic attacks and basic miserableness (which I'm working on fixing now). Before 6th grade, I did great. Math, science, English... was all very easy to me.
Then in 6th grade things started going bad. I've been made miserble purposefully by most of my classmates for years. But I stuck it out. Then in 6th grade I started skipping because it was too hard around those people who hurt me all the time. And then I started enjoying the freedom and not doing all that work. So work started to become harder and I avoided doing it.
Now I feel useless and I actually want to get my education and go to college and all. The first step is to get my high school education. It's hard when I'm 18 and officially dropped out in 9th grade. (I hardly even did 7 and 8. I skipped a lot and they put me in 9th when I said I'd make an effort.) So I'm continuing my education through distance education.
I actually have been keeping up on brainy subjects because it interests me. I've been watching history and science documentaries for years and I've always loved books. The problem is that I have hardly been able to retain any of it in my head. I haven't been able to learn. I am doing all this mostly to learn (and to get ahead). But I just... can't remember how to learn. Hardly anything is getting in there anymore. What can I do? How do I learn?
Okay well I know this sounds bad but school isn't just about being smart, its about learning the right answers. Lets test this shall we, I am a professor I know every single fact there is
I fail my essay because I don't knowt he layout
I obcviously didn't study what was going to be in the test did I. Firstly find out what you ahve to learn for your tests and assignments and learn that. The other isn't always needed for your educaiton. It makes you a more intelligent person but might not help your education becauser thats not in the test.
Also its not enough just to learn it, you have to revise it otherwise you'll forget it, your brain is like a filing cabinet. Its easy to put stuff in but takes practise to find out where to find them again. However if you keep getting that specific file out then you'll know where it is easily won't you. Same with information.
Different techniques of learning also help with different people. There are three types of learing, visual, audic and kinetic. You either learn by seeing things, listening to things or doing things. Most people are a mixture of them all but lean towards one of them. I know if you have no idea which one you are then there is a test which you can take which will tell you it. Good luck with you learning
hello,
right now, i am in 8th grade algebra. my teacher, is very different from my others. i guess she is a pretty good teacher, but on the third day of school, i asked her a question and she made a total fool out of me, because i didn't know something that she would teach after a few months. since then, i've been scared out of asking her numerous questions. my friend in the class is trying to get me to ask questions, but sometimes i just can't, because she is always so intense on you when you get something wrong. does anyone have any advice to overcome my fear, and actually clearing up some math problems i don't understand? thank you.
First of all you have to ask yourself what you are afraid of, I mean the teacher won't hit you if you get something wrong will she? What humilate you because you don't know something. Some crappy teacher that would be. Looking her in the eye will help stop her being harsh on you. There is something unnerving when you pay attention like that. It makes them feel like you want to listen you are completly enraptured on everything they same. Makes them feel bad as well if they are mean
OH the power you have... if you don't know if that helps then try it out on someone. Ask a question and give them your complete attention by looking them in the eye and hanging off every word- almost freaks them out.
Once you learn this then its really useful. Called "listening"- good luck and if that fails then I'm sure you can post your questiosn up here or ask another teacher
Hello guys, long time reader but first time writer here. I really need some advice.
I've had this best friend for about ten years now (ever since the second grade) and he knows all my secrets. He has been the friend I've been able to go to for all my problems for over half my life. He's always been a great guy, but lately he seems a little different.
He came up to me the other day and told me that he needed to talk to me after school, and of course I told him it was no big deal. Well, when I got to his house after school he called me back to his room. When I got back there he was completely naked and said that if I didn't suck him off then he would tell everyone about my issuses with my sexuality that I had confided in him. I didn't have any other choice, I can't let everyone now that I have impure thoughts about other men since I'm in a private Christian school, but I'm not attracted to him at all. He's really overweight and he has hair everywhere.
Now he's saying that I have to give him head everyday or he will tell everone about my secret desires, even my parents. I don't know what to do, he tastes horrible. I can't keep doing this.
Lets get one thing straight... your friend is an asshole, no-one has the right to treat you this way.
Also you seem to be thinking that what you are thinking is wrong. Did you know that it is normal to have these thoughts at your age? That you could change and turn out to not be gay, and even if you are gay since when was that wrong?
http://www.thinking-big.co.uk/gay_sex.htm
read this article and if you have any more arguments about why it is wrong then please enlighten me.
Okay also it seems that your friend also goes to the school surprise surprise. You have just as much power as he does. Did you know that YOU could reveal that he's been forcing you. That he likes and and more importantly you don't want to. I reckon he's more screwed then you are.
I also go to a very conservative private school and they are very strict on these kind of things- but they'd prefer me to do what I believe and feel whats right then go against it.
Then of course there is lying about it, tell someone you feel that he's forcing you to do something you don't want to- then when he comes out you can say that he's lying. People make lies rumours like this all the time. Not many people believe them if someone denies it. Why my friend was pregnant last term then she was frigid- quite amusing actually.
Good luck and hopes it turns out for you, he's a dick and no one should have that power over you. No-one- not to mention an ugly guy
What should I do to remove my leg hair?
I would highly suggest waxing, waxing does hurt but you have hairless smooth legs for a month at a time- when it does grow back- its heaps heaps thinner and if you keep on doing it the hair stops growing- it does hurt a bit thou
Shaving is easy quick job. Bad side is you can cut yourself- IT REALLY HURTS, also it grows back pretty fast so you have to keep on doing it. Like every few days. It doesn't encourage it to grow back thicker- if anyone says this give me some proof, BUT it does look thicker- which is what counts doesn't it
Then there is laser and electroylsis, but the thing with these ones are they are expensive require quite a few treatments and don't always work. Its best to start waxing and wait for the hair to stop growing back.
With waxing it is hard the first time I would suggest you go into a parler and get it down for you, so your body won't ask you why you are ripping hairs off- you can tell your body someone else is doing it and you haven't gone insane.
Funny this came up cos I'm waxing mine tomorrow as well.
well i weigh like 230 and im only 14 and i want to lose weight b4 high school cause of the formal plus i want to lose weight b4 my prom and prom is probably gonna b n may..well i need sum tips and stuff on how i can lose weight and how to eat right cause i have a eatn disorder to..i want to get over it..It Is driving me crazy. i want to get my belly button periced and stuff and wear a 2 peice during the summer and wear lil clothes not be fat
AWWWWW I know what that feels like- like shit alright, firstly if you want some personal advice or just some support to get over the bitches at school feel free to ask I know what it feels like.
Firstly the key is not to go on a diet like the southern beach one. It works but is a quick fix, wihch means you won't stay that way. You can gain the weight back on as soon as you get off it. Which isn't good.
The key is exercise and eating good foods. Thats all there is to it- sticking to it is harder. Firstly a great article on this very topic is right here
http://www.dance.net/read.html?postid=2039118&replies=61&page=1
It literally summarises anything you want to know. Don't take any tablets unless they are prescribed by your doctor. If they were that great- we'd all be using them. They are just an illusion but don't fully work.
Just a general tip- do at least 30 minutes of exercise a day and only allow yourself to eat food you can cook or fruit for snacks. Go slowly and you will be able to make it, if you want anything more advice, any time just email me ok. Good luck
okay ive been dieting for the past like 3 dayz...ive been eating about 3 healthy meals a day and stop eating around 6. but today i dunno if i ruined it. I have an orange, an apple and a banana for breakfast, then for lunch i had a portion of turkey and a turkey sandwich with wheat bread, and then for dinner i had a bowl of chicken soup..But inbetween the meals i had another orange, a boiled egg, another apple, and another banana, and a bite of a pickle... it sounds like alot but it was through out the whole day..is this gunna affect my diet because i kinda over did eating the fruits?? thanks!
Can I suggest something. Diets are usually bad for you because you stick to certain foods and sometimes you just don't get the right nutrition and its easy to stuff up (which you didn't by the way) Firstly there are soo many good foods out there which you are cutting out of your diet. How about you cut out the bad ones instead of picking the ones you can't eat.
For example. You are not allowed to have any dessert, junk food, juice with added sugars, white bread (go with brown bread), sports drinks, chips and coffee (yes i know hard one).
See how you go with that, its really hard, I know because I am a dancer and I know what its like to watch what I eat, but the most common mistake is not getting the right nutrients and then overeating in response. Yes it can happen- and does a lot.
And most of all don't bite off more then you can chew (yes lame I know) don't jump into a diet so fast, because we aren't that strong we can't stop ourselves from soo much good food out there- it takes time, practise and self control- hard but you'll get there.
Just one more because if I don't stop I'll rant all night, its better to have five smaller meals then 3 big ones. Its got to do with your metabolism and how it processes your food into energy or fat- long story. If you want more info feel free to ask
good luck- sorry its long
Okay so me and my ex,Adam, broke up. But when i was talking to him he said he wasn't ready even though he's the one who broke it off. He started to suposely work his "charm",lol, and i am not over him, but i went through soooo much pain after the break up. I mean it felt like a peice of my heart fell off and burnt inside of me. I really need sum one to talk to!
Signed,
Helpless
One of my friends once said 'if he can hurt ya- he aint worth it'
but i sadly haven't followed that advice but its true all the same. He did hurt you- what was he trying to do by breaking up with you?? Make you jealous. Sounds like bullshit to me. He doesn't know what he wants- so he's doing it then not being sure about it. Which means his decisions could hurt you so easily. I think if you do like him and he likes you then you should take a break from it. See what its like for you to be separated from you. See how he likes it and see how you like it. That way instead of being unsure you know the ramifications of both actions and you can choose which one you like better.
Generally you shouldn't get back with you ex- this is because there is a reason you broke up, and thats not going to go away (well it might but generally it doesn't). So take a break from it all and see how you like it- see if its worth giving it another try.
ok so over thanksgiving break i hung out with one of my friends like every day. i basicly lived at her house. and we became really good friends. but my other friend got mad at me kas i didnt hang out with her at all. and shes like my best friend ever. but heres the thing. she was at her moms house which is an hour away from where i live. her dad lives down the street but she hates him. anyways, now shes really mad kas she thinks im replacing her with my other friend. what should i do?
Well can't you learn to all get along together? since when did you have to choose between them. Your friend is mad because you are her friend and she's bored and you haven't been with her- she's been stuck with her parents who she doesn't like... sounds like fun doesn't it. Maybe you should ask her over for a sleep over some time or for a couple of days- just so she can have a break. If its really that hard and she doesn't accept you can't get there then invite her over- see if she can get over to your house so you can do something.
ok so here it goes tomarrow, friday people were planning a birthday party for this girl catherine and everyone was talking about it since monday well everyone but like 4 people in our grade was invited i was one of the four. Well today at brunch carla a senior, asked me and another girl to go on friday . well i wanted to go until i thought about it and since its a new school for me i wasnt sure if other people wanted me to go since they didnt ask me to go until the a day before(today). so should i go or not i dont want people to be like who invited HER and i have no other people to go/hangout with but i want to go casue carla asked me and she is really nice for asking me
what do i do ?
If they didn't want you to go- they wouldn't have invited you. Its not like they hate you they just didn't invite you before because they don't know you. Just go and relax AND HAVE FUN. You'll enjoy it and will have a lot of fun trust me. When you are new you can't be expected to be invited to everyone you are new and you must wait a little bit- but if someone invites you YOU GO, have fun and make new friends
have fun
i put a crap load of deoderant on every day before i go to school. i'm never hot or anything, but i always sweat in my arm pits, and i don't know how to cover it up. i can't wear a sweatshirt anymore, i get even hotter and it feels more gross. i don't know what to do! somebody help!
Well firstly are you wearing an antiperspirant?- that could help.
http://www.jeez-ca.com/
This website shows stuff you can wear under your clothes to stop the sweat from coming through
Another alternative would be to see your doctor if things are really bad, which would be good because if it is bad then they can give you something that will stop it being as bad.
There actually devices that will stop you sweating- sounds nice doesn't it but remember sweat is good just not too much of it, as far as I know it is called a drionic or something. It reduces the amount of sweat under your arm so you can make the anti-perspirerants work but say the underarm device, if you use it a couple times a week then you will have no sweat for six weeks.
You might want to do some research about it to see the different choices you have
but hey- don't sweat it... (sorry lame attempt)