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I mean, I think I'm almost there, the getting over part. We broke up less than a month ago and he's already moved on to another girl, and it doesn't bother me that much cause nothing in high school lasts anyway. But I know I'm not completely over him. We have class together 5-6 times a week, and we have the same group of friends & agreed to be civil with each other and be friends as well. But to get there completely, any tips, or do I just wait? -.-

The best way for me to get over someone is to not think about them (keep yourself occupied as much as possible!)Dont call or text him, no emails or anything until your sure your completely over him. When you see him in class dont be rude about it just say hi if he looks at you and nothing more. This will really help get him off your mind!

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Girls Out There, Do you all notice when a guy is staring at your boobs or butt? How do you feel about that,do you just want to smack him on the side of the head or do you care at all?If u don't care would you show them off on sometimes just to get a guys attention?I just want to know how girls think

It all depends on the girl and how she is. With me having larger breasts i am used to guys staring. Do i like it? no. it bothers me honestly cause i have a face too yanno? but guys are guys and they will do what they do. As for my butt, i havent met a guy that you can walk past in short shorts and he wont look at your butt. it just happens. I would never smack a guy in the face for doing it, but sometimes i wish they wouldnt. No i dont show them off, i want a guy to like me for me. Not for my assets.

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hi im 10 and i was wonder how old you have to be to babysit.

I started babysitting when i was about 14. This way you more grown up yourself and can take responsibililty for another kid.

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One night at a party, and I was running around outside with my friends until i tripped and i lost my necklace. I asked a boy to help me look in the woods for it, because that's where I lost it. While we were in the woods, he said "What do I get if I find it?" and I said, you'll find out when you find it! And sure enough he found my necklace, then he asked for his "reward" and I said he gets nothing but a thank you.

So school started this week, and today a boy walked up to me and said "HEY, if i find your necklace will you give ME head?" and I was really confused. Until one of my close friends came up to me and asked me if i blew a kid who found my necklace at a party. Of course I said no.. because i didn't! And people in school keep bringing it up.

I guess I'm just asking if you have any tips on how to cope with it? Ignore it? Etc.

Thankssss.

Honestly a lot of people have nothing better to do that to start rumors and mess up you life. It happens to everyone and honestly if you just ignore the comments for a while everything will blow over. I know its hard to just ignore something like that but you can do it! And if someone comes up and says anything like that again either be like what are you talking about? or just laugh it off and say it never happened.

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I was at a party last weekend. I hit it off with this guy, he's a senior, I'm a sophomore, he goes to a different school. I thought we really clicked. And we were back in the woods at this bonfire. We were just sitting by the fire, talking, for like three hours. People started drifting off but I didn't even notice and soon it was just me in him, I was sitting on his lap but he pulled me down so I was laying down and he was on top of me. I guess it was a little weird but I didn't mind too much at the time. I guess you could say we were dry humping, but he was really really forceful, like pushing really hard and kissing really hard and grabbing really hard and stuff. Granted, he is six foot four, 190 lbs of football/basketball/baseball toned muscle and I'm 105 pounds of 5'5 haha soo... I think he was trying to be gentle? I told him a few times, "not so hard" and it wasn't so bad when I was on top of him. We went out last night too, and he told me he really likes me, but we didn't make out or anything. I really like him and stuff but I'm worried our physical relationship might be bad... What should I do??

Well for one he is older and he is more experienced, your younger and nieve so he is seeing how far he can push you. Dont think he is the only guy that will do this. cause he's not. Next time it happens tell him that you dont like moving that fast. and not be so rough. and you could be right, maybe he isnt trying to be rough and he is just bigger han you. Just talk to him and if he doesnt stop, call it off.

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Ok, I love my boyfriend to death. He is so amazing except for one thing; he's TOO honest. I know, I know it sounds stupid but I don't know...sometimes we play this little question game like if we're bored or something and we just ask each other questions. I know I probably shouldn't ask questions if I'm so afraid of the answers but I don't know...I guess I just expect him to answer all of my questions nice and sweet for some reason. Ok, for example: The other day I asked him if he thought he would get tired of me if he hung out with me for too long and he said "yeah, probably...I have to have time for hobbies and stuff" and it's like I know that logically, what he's saying makes sense, but would it have really hurt for him to just say "No, of course not!" or something? :( It just seems that he doesn't really think about how sometimes his honesty can hurt me...I mean part of me feels ridiculous for even being upset about this because all anyone ever wants in a relationship is honesty right? But on the other hand, this isn't the first time he's done this...and then after he says it and I explain that it hurts me, he's just like "Yeah, I can see how that would have hurt you"...I don't think he understands how much it hurts me? I don't know...what do you guys think I should do? Or should I just drop it?

Honestly everyone says i want an hoenst relationship, but we all know that if we were in the same situation as you, it doesnt seem so great anymore does it? It isnt a bad thing that he is so honest with you because most guys would lie to you saying "no baby i could never get tired of you" and we would all know that it was a big fat lie. Yes it might make us feel better inside but in all honesty we know they're lying. But maybe talk to him and say " when i ask you those questions, and you tell me things like ya i would get sick of you, thats not what i want to hear. I appreciate you being honest and all it just kind of hurts to hear you say those things." and see what he says!

Hope i helped (: if you need anything else feel free to mesasge me personally.

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hello peoples.....i am a 13 year old girl. im in year 8 and today i just found out that this boy, who is in year 9 (15 years old) wants to ask me out! i dont relly know what to do about it cuz we have been friends for nearly 2 years now....and i really like him but im not sure about going out with him :) can someone please help me out id really appreciate it ^_^

Well... if he does ask you out, tell him that you like him and you would like to date him. But if you guys do date and it doesnt work out then you dont want things to be ruined or awkward with you two. Tell him that his friendship means more to you that a relationship. He will understand.

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so me and two of my friends have this tradition where every year we ditch the last friday of may and go to the beach. and another one of our friends in under the impresion thats part of this (which she isnt) and its nothing personal but we wanna keep it just the 3 of us, and shes already started asking like "are we still on for the ebach fruday" and telling people about it. what do i do?

Talk to her and tell her that its a tradition for you three girls to go to the beach, its been that way for a while and you'd like to keep it that way. Tell her its not that yo dont want her not to go its just a tradition you dont want to break. maybe plan something with her over the weekend so she isnt mad at you guys.

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I heard a rumor so I tried it and it works! So why does cold water make hair shiny anyway? Is it only the water in certain places? or does that even matter?

I rate!

Im not quite sure but im thinking that it would be becuause it has no moisture, with hot water your hair isnt shiny right? hot water has steam which makes your hair not shiny!

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16 and 17 year old girls, what are your opinions on and experiences of sex?

Being a 16 year old girl turning 17 in two months, and still a virgin, and also the kind of girl people assume have had sex, I'm definitely not comfortable with my lack of experience, and can't come up with any reasons why I havn't had sex except for, well, it just hasn't HAPPENED.

So I'm interested to know what other girls my age think. Have you had sex or are you a virgin? If you're a virgin, what are your reasons and how do you feel about it? If you've had sex, how did you lose your virginity, what is your sex life like now and how do you feel about it?

A lot of detail (though obviously I'm not asking for anything too personal or graphic, just your thoughts on the subject) because I really hate being a virgin at my age, and would like to know what your views are.

I'd really appreciate answers, thankyou!

I am 17 and i am not a virgin, i lost my virginity when i was 15. I had been with my boyfriend for a year before we had sex and we are still togetherr. Yes i was young, but i dont regret it becuase i love him and he loves me, i was perfectly comfortable with him and i stil am. If i dont want to do something, he wont make me. He is very respectful that way. I trust him and we have been together for 3 years now. We had some problems a while back and havent had sex for about 6 months but this hasnt changed our relationsip at all. So its just when your comfortable with someone! dont do something you wil regret!

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6/f

okay so i have been talking/texting this boy for two weeks straight. and i thought he was really into me. like he would text me first basically everyday and say hi to me in school all the time. so i thought everything was going great.

then on the bus one morning i get these swarm of texts and they were all from him, they said:

well i did want to say something, ive been thinking recently and im not sure if i want to get into a relationship again...well atleast not yet...i dated jess for so long and trust me im over her cause she is crazy but i just dont think i wanna start up something right now...like i think your a really nice girl and i think its so cool that you like a lot of the same things as me...im sorry if i sound like an ass im really not trying to be. i just wann stay single for now, and as i said its not you id say the same thing to anyone. im really sorry i dont want to sound like a jerk cause trust me it isnt you, who knows maybe in the future.

it was a complete shocker to me! i didnt expect it at all. now im so confused on what i should do. if he ever liked me/likes me? idk. his old girlfriend and him went out for almost 2 years, and hes right she is crazy. but idk im so confused. HELP ME! what do i do? what did all this really mean?

I have bee in his situation and im promising you that he wasnt trying to be rude. but after being in a realtionship for 2 years he might want to date around and see what other girls are like. And he said maybe sometime in the future. you know he has some feelings for you becuase he said that. Talk to him and tell him that you know he isnt looking for anything serious, and you get that but how would he feel if you guys hung out and went on a few dates? let him know that your cool with him dating other girls, this lets him know that you really do understand that he wants to be single right now. and who knows maybe if you guys go on a few dates that he will want to be with you. Just give him space.

Hope i helped (:

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How do you get over a girl you are in love with?

How do you move on?

What's the best way to do this?

Honestly you wont ever be over her. Once your in love, you dont fall out. Its no fun i know. But to keep yourself from hurting or thinking about her just keep yourself occupied. Hang out with your friends as much as possible and take girls out on dates. This will keep you occupied, but i cant promise that you will be over her or stop thinking about her. Thats just what happens when you fall in love.

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13/f
I met this guy during summer and used to text him 24/7..and then my friends stole his # off my phone and started texting him..and ever since then hes been texting me less and less..and now when i text him he wont reply...i see him a few times a month and he stares at me and i stare at him..but i dont say hi to him because he doesnt say hi to me..im a little confused on whats happening....any ideas??

Your friend stealing his number may have messed things up between you two. She might like him, or maybe she was jealous and told him things about you that werent true just so he would stop talking to you. Talk to your friend and him and see what they say! hopefully they are both honest with you and you find out the real reason why!

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My mum has been smoking for a long time now, and need a way to get her to stop. And all the typical ones arent working. I'm really scared that something is going to happen. Help Me!!!

Honestly quitting has nothing to do with what othe people do or say to try and get you to stop. The person that is smoking has to want to stop for themselves, not for you or anyone else, just themselves. It will either take a long time for her to realise this, and she'll try and try. or she might not ever quit. this is all up to your mom.

Hope i helped (:

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Opinion question-

What do you prefer out of:
One Lip Piercing.
Snake Bites.
Spider Bites.
Double Spider Bites.

Totally your own opinion.

I think that it depends on your personality really. but if it were me i would just go with one lip piercing. it looks good, and its simple!

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I work at a grocery store and this guy there always bags for me. The first night I worked with him, he bagged for me most of the night, which is rare. Now, every time we work together, he leaves someone else's register to come bag for me. Also, if I have a bagger, he'll come to the register behind me and like stare at me. I kind of like him and would like to get to know him, but I'm worried that I am misreading these signals. What do you think?

I dont think that your gettin mixed signals. he's definately in to you. nexct time he comes to bag for you start a small conversation. Ask how his day was or how long he's worked there. just small talk. then hopefully you guys hit it off (:

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I haven't had sex and im 15... Am I a freak? Cause it seems like all my friends are talking about having sex and I don't even WANT to until I am married.

It doesnt matter what other people are doing! just becuase everyone else is having sex doesnt mean that you need to. If you dont want to have sex until your married DONT! that is your choice no any one elses. your 15, you have your whole life to have sex. so dont start now!

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To start it off..I know I'm Young I'm 14..8th grader. My Boyfriend is 2 years older. Yes age diffrence I know. From the day I met this guy..on fb...(my best friend added him for me) So my friend always talked about how funny, cute and sensitive he is. At first I didn't think anything would happen..but after we talked for hours, and when my best friend and him called me for the first time I realized I was falling falling hard for him..At the same time I was dating my ex..and I didn't always feel we were "right" ..I always thought "Well, he's probably not the "one" I have alot more guys to expierence and meet." Sadly I didn't think we had a conection. He would play games with other girls..he would get angry at my friends..He never called or texted me. I felt unwanted..but when I met my bf that I'm dating now..when we werent even dating..he made me feel good about myself.He made me laugh, smile..made me feel amazing. I always went to bed with a smile on my face thinking of him. When, i broke up with my ex, for my bf now. Everything felt diffrent and it was a good diffrent. Now, we went threw a lot..he had feelings for someone else..he felt so bad over it he made a sucide attempt..well I already knew he cuts himself..it was a horrible night for us. We cried for hours over it..>.< Now things are doing ok he told me the truth about everything he wants me and Only me My brother is always mad at me..my mom doesn't like me talking to my bf after school..we talk for hours because we can't see each other at all..I love my bf he is the only one who i can really talk to.My brother says its sad that im so dependent on him, but i Can't help it. My brother judges my bf before he even knows him..if they only tried to get to know him they would realize how specail my bf really is

First off your not a bad person at all. your in love and thats fine. Maybe talk to your family and tell them how you really feel about this whole thing. Honestly your 14, you shouldnt be so dependent on one person because you are so young. you might think he is the only one but honestly you really dont know what else is out there for you. there could be another guy that treats you as good or better than your current boyfriend does now. and im not saying for you to leave him but you have to see where your family is coming from too. give them hope and tell them that you wont be with him forever and im sure they will start to like him a little more. Talk to your boyfriend about this too. and help him understand.

Hope i heleped (: if you need anything else just ask!

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nice way of letting someone know you're not interested in them? besides saying that they're like a brother

Done beat around the bush and just straight up tell them your not interested. I know this sounds harsh but if you dont tell them from the start your going to lead them on and then they really will get hurt! Its better to be honest in the beginning!

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Okay, so i'm fifteen years old
and i'm so insecure about what I look like.
Alot of people think i'm pretty, but for some reason I don't feel it.
I have a really low self esteem.
I worry about my weight, not because i'm too fat
but because i'm too skinny. i'm 5'4 and I weigh 98lbs. I have NO boobs, and NO butt. People Judge me all the time for that.
My body isn't the only thing I don't like about myself, I also hate my teeth I have had sooo many people say stuff about them, they used to be really yellow but I was recently taken to the dentist and I had that taken care of but I still feel like my smile isn't pretty.
People at school always talk about how i'm too skinny, it emotionally scars me because theres nothing I can do to fix my body!
I'm really shy only at school though, because i'm sooo worried about what people are thinking about me, though at home I can be myself because I know my family won't judge me.
what are some things I can do to higher my self esteem. I'm sooo sick of people at school saying stuff about me.

Hunny your not the only one that goes through this. Its high school and everyone has to find something to talk about. Dont worry about it because no matter what they say you are still you at the end of the day and you shouldnt have to change that to make someone happy. You may be skinny but no one is perfect,, there is nothing you can do about your weight. If someone says something to make fun of you just laugh with them,, i guarantee that they will stop! Just dont worry about what anyone else thinks. Look in the mirror everyday and tell youself that your beautiful, this can helf boost your self esteem!

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