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Age: 22
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I'm a 16 year old female and I have been dating a boy for about 3 years, we are very close and really care about each other. We are also about to move in together in a few months. But i also have this other guy he was my first love and i dont think we ever truly let go of one another. The other weekend he and i went camping with some friends and we got alot closer it feels as though we rekindle that old flame. I love my current boyfriend alot and dont want to lose or hurt him but when im with this other boy i feel that same love for him.
What should i do?
Someone please help.
Signed,
Confused Heart (link)
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This is a complicated situation to be in, but which one do you care most about?
if you think you have something special with your current boyfriend, then is actually worth throwing it away?
if i was in your place, i would try to find out if your old boyfriend really does care for you or not? because you don't want to end up in a situation where you leave your current boyfriend for the old one, and the old one doesn't want you back, and you'll be on your own.
-but if you are close with your current boyfriend try discussing your feeling with him, you do need to be honest, but before you do it would be a good idea to think with both your heart and mind.
if this doesnt help, just make a list of good and bad qualities of each guy, and see if that can help you decide.
i hope this helps but just think who will you be most happy with you, there is a saying 'you should love the one who loves you, not the one you love'. good luck though, this is a tough question to answer, but i wish you all the best.
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my friend. grr. gets on my last freaking nerve. she makes up FAKE screenames, and IMs these ugly guys, that are like total losers. like they smoke do drugs. and just total social outcasts. so, she was 'pretending' to set up him and her 'friend' who is 'her' and then im like, well let me be this fake girl, so she doesn't talk just like you. because, i was just thinking, yano i dont want this kid to find out, and her reputation gets messed up. and then shes like nooo, i wanna talk to him. and im like but you already do? and i dont know.
dont you think thats honestly patheic? that she does this stuff? i mean, and then she never lets me say anything to any of them. like she has like 10 screenames, of all of her fake friends. and stuff.
what should i do?
im kinda mad at her right now. (link)
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I guess it alright for you to get mad at her, but i think your friend is probably one of those people who like to get attention, which maybe because she never got attention as a child..i'm not sure if this is the case, because i don't know anything about your friend.
i suggest you should talk to her calmly, and try to ask her, are these the type of guys you really want to go out with. Maybe she feels that she's not good enough to ever find a sensible guy, so as a friend it should be your duty to find out why.
Thats all i can say, i think you should give your own advice to your friend. If she rejects your offer to help, then just let her be, she will realise sooner or later what she's getting herself into if she's trying to get in contact with these kind of guys. The only thing you can do is try to talk to her, if she doesn't listen she will suffer the consequences. we only give advice and help to the ones who want to be helped if she doesn't its her problem, as long as you do your part. hope this works take care.
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15/F
I haven't started my period yet. But my discharge comes out in clumps, Recently, it smells really weird and is a yellowish color. It's not like it normally is. So is something wrong?? (link)
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nothings wrong sweety, you just need to drink more water, and eat more fruits.
it could also be a sign that your periods may start soon.
so you dont need to worry too much.
take care.
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I'm 13/f, and I'm pretty sure I'm in love with this guy, or I just like him...a lot. He's 16 though, and I just feel like I'm way too young to start anything. We never really talk or anything, but when we were at a beach, I couldn't keep my eyes off him and we always looked at each other as if we had a connection. But I'm 13! I could easily pass as 15 or 16, but I'm not interested in lying. I feel hopeless, I've never liked a guy this much, and my heart aches whenever I think about never having a chance with him. You see, I have family friends that are almost like my cousins, and we always hang out (our families) and this guy is their cousin. I can't ask him to hang out, it just doesn't work that way. I'm not even sure about what I'm feeling, and I'm not sure how I'll ever get to know him. I'm too afraid to ask him to be my myspace friend, I'm 13. 16 year olds don't like 13 year olds. It just doesn't seem to work in my mind. When you look at him, you'd first think he's only 14 or something. But he's not, he's in highschool, and I'm only going into 8th grade. When he's a senior, I'll be a freshman. But I feel like I need him inside. We don't even talk. All of us were hanging together at a waterpark and at the beach. He teased me, splashed me, and looked at me and smiled at me all the time. I don't even know how I got so many feelings for him. I think about him nonstop, and then I almost cry thinking that we'll never really be together. I just want some tips that would test if he actually likes me, and if there's no chance, a way to get him off my mind. (link)
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Well, no one has control over their feeling i'm afraid. But you can try to be friends, and maybe once you get to know him, it might change your mind, you might findout he's not your type, or what you would want in a guy.
its hard to get rid of your feelings just like that, it will take time.
try talking to him as a friend and see if it works out.
but good luck, i'm sorry i couldn't be too much of a help.
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Whats the song at the beginning of America's Next Top Model? (link)
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i have that sound track on my pc, its called wanna be on top, the one i have is only about 30seconds long, if i had your e-mail i could send it to you.
or if you have imesh, you can download it from there. and just search for americas next top model.
you maybe able to download imesh from then net if you don't already have so.
if you need any more help, you can let me know.
takecare
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14/f
okay this might sound like HORRIBLY discusting,but i need advice. okay so im 14 and i HAVENT started my period yet. so lately i bought this energy drink, vault i drink 2 a day to keep me up. or just one. but lately its been brown down there(if you know what i mean) and when i go to whipe,its brown too!
and im wondering is this the start of a period or just effects of this energy drink?
okay im so sorry that this is such a discusting question. but if you can help me out, i would highly appreciate it!!
THANK YOU SO MUCH IN ADVANCE! (link)
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it can't be periods because period goes brown n staley normally towards the end days, because usually before you start you're discharge may be slightly pinkish (not bright bright pink, but pink with tone of red).
you should stop taking the drink, and try iron tablets, or better carrots or potatoe anything that naturally contains iron, because iron is needed to make blood cells.
sometimes it depends on your family, find out how old your mother or your aunts were when they got their first periods, then you may have a better idea of why yours have not yet started.
hope it helps but its nothing to worry about, it will happen in its own time..its like when every baby starts walking in their own time, some quickly some a little later on, but they all do walk.
hope it helps, takecare.
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my boyfriend hurt my feelings jokingly and has asked me how he can make it up to me..advice please what are some ways he can make it up to me?..possibly sexy wayss? haha kthanksbye (link)
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The best person who can help you is you, you should tell him exactly what you want to do (which you probably know already) so start making a list.
if it was me i would want him to shower me with gifts, and maybe get him to strip for me...that would be nice huh? (to a song of my choice)
its hard to come up with anything romantic......or you can make him a sing one of you're favourite songs..(only if he has a nice voice)
maybe you can add on to this list with something you would want him to do. good luck, hope i did help even if it was a tiny winy bit..takecare.
**make him do something so he knows never to make the same mistake again..hehe, but guys never learn from their mistakes.
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how do you kiss like really good? any instructions please? (link)
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hello.. well first of all, everyone has this information hidden deep down in their minds, which will only come out when you're actually in the moment, and when the moment comes you will know exactly what to do, because you know how you would want to be kissed, try kissing the person you want to kiss the way you would want to be kissed. (hope this makes sense)
there is one tip i've been told by a friend that guys like when girls turn their bottom lip under the guys bottom lip, it probably just feels good.
- another tip, make sure you have one of those sweet lipgloss, when you do kiss, it'll make your kiss taste sweet.
...but if you would like to practice, you can use lollypops, or maybe hold an apple in the palms of your hand and pretend like your kissing someone.
hope i've helped, but trust me, you will know exactly what to do. and after a couple of years you'll have so much experience, people would be asking you for advice, the first times are always abit scary because we don't want to make any mistakes, but with every mistakes we make we learn something new.
..so good luck with your first kiss!!x
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a) i havent had my period since may...i'm not sexual active or anything. and i started about two years ago. what could this be? i'm not worried about the whole pregnant thing..i'm just wondering. i have alot of like discharge like constantly..like alot of it, idk help anyone?
b) this guy and i have been hooking up for a while and he always does things for me, i want to do things for him and pleasure him. give me some ideas or something to really arouse him. plus bj tips would be great too :)
c) when i give a handjob do you go fast or slow or what? thnx.
d) whats the best way to shave "down there" before a guy like eats you out.
d2) are you supposed to like tell him when you're about to orgasm? i've always been kind of confused about that.
e) how long do you give head? like if he doesn't cum is that a bad sign like your not doing it right?
e2) don't you stroke the bottom of the penis, suck or whatever, and play with his balls? haha yeah i need bj tips :) thnx!!!!!!!!
thank you thank you thank you :) (link)
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i could give you some advice on the first question, the reason for your discharge maybe because your pelvic muscles may have loosen and that can normally happen if you do vigorious amount of exercise, and secondly it could happen if you're thinking too much about sexual stuff.
if it is because of loosening of pelvic muscles, then you need to the the pelvic floor exercises, sit on a chair with your feet flat down and hold your pelvic muscles, hold for 5, 10 seconds and release, you can do this whenever you're sitting down, and also you need to drink more water that may help. But if it does still happen you can ask your GP/ doctor. hope it helps.
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I'm putting together a notebook with meaningful quotes and sayings. What are your favorite quotes and sayings? It could be about anything: love, life, death, happiness, sadness, friendship, etc. They can be from movies, books, famous people, songs, etc. Thanks! (link)
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Without pain and deprivation one can never experience true pleasure. (i dont know where its from though)
Macbeth, said by lady macbeth: "Act like an innocent flower, but be the serpent underneath it."
- there was also the famous quote 'tomorrow' from macbeth.
i've heard the dialogue from the movie when harry met sally, i think they also use it on scrubs. its really sweet:
Harry Burns: "I love that you get cold when it's 71 degrees out. I love that it takes you an hour and a half to order a sandwich. I love that you get a little crinkle above your nose when you're looking at me like I'm nuts. I love that after I spend the day with you, I can still smell your perfume on my clothes. And I love that you are the last person I want to talk to before I go to sleep at night. And it's not because I'm lonely, and it's not because it's New Year's Eve. I came here tonight because when you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible."
you can also search the net for famous quotes, http://www.imdb.com and search movies or programmes etc, and on the side they will have a link to memorable quotes...hope it helps, good luck with the book and makesure to send me a copy.
some more quotes: " Live life like a burning candle which gives light to others. "
"time spent wishing, is time spent wasting"
" To think of the person you want to be,
is to waste the person you are. "
" Cherish all your happy moments,
as they make a fine cushion for old age. "
" Love sees love's happiness,
but happiness can't see that love is sad. "
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i am going to NYC for the first time
and i need help on what stores to go to
so if anyone has ever been there it wouldbe helpful
i love high fashion stores like H&M and things like that
no Abercrombie crap (link)
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Hi, you could try searching internet for latest fashion on googles, or try looking through some fashion magazines, but you will have to make sure whatever you decide to buy or wear suits your body shape, and the colours go with your complexion.
I'm sure if you pop down to the shops/ fashion stores the sales people would assist you in finding something suitable. I mean thats what they get paid for right? so make use of that.
but just keep this in mind..when you yourself think something looks good on you and act confident, others will think so too. I mean Cameron Diaz made a necklace or something out of paperclips was it..and no one argued with that, because she does seem confident in what she does and wear.
hope i helped...takecare.
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okay, so i am on this diet/excercise journey to try to get into better shape but so far i haven't been able to find any excercises that target the area on my back where my shoulder blades are. i find it disgusting cuz its bulges...but are there any specific things i can do to minimize that fattiness in that area? (link)
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you can also try checking out this link i've just searched for you, but please make sure you don't do it too much. because sometimes what we think looks awful, others actually like it. if you want to tone up a little there's nothing wrong with that but just be careful.
the link is: http://www.weightlossresources.co.uk/exercise/body_toning/upper_body.htm
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K so i dated this guy for like a month untill yesterday, hes realllly hot & cool to hang with... & tues. night we went out to a really nice dinner with the people he works with. We wore dresses, suits, ect. & after his co workers went to a cabin on a lake 2 hours away.. I didnt go kas i need to get home kas i live an hour away. anyway... i told him to be good & all & it seemed like we were ok ...but then the next day he texts me that he cant b with me anymore kas he got drunk & lost his virginity to some other girl.. i didnt really get all that upset..i didnt cry or anything.. i was just like ok.. thanks for telling me see you at tcu in the fall... so now were not talking & this friend of the family was like well you can still b with him if you want ...its just sex..no big deal.. & now im confused...i dont want to be with him anymore...but do i have the right to b mad at him? it was only a month but we were exclusive? bleh it makes me so frustrated..anyway any advise on my situation? thanks (link)
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Well my concern is towards your reaction, what is the reason you weren't mad at him? did you really like him a lot? how were your feeling about him before all this happened?
if you don't want to get back with him it's your decision, whether or not you think he's worth it. but he could have lied to you and never told you about him getting drunk and sleeping with some one else, i know it doesn't change what he did, and it doesn't mean you shouldn't break it up.
i think you should ask yourself how much did you or do you (if you still do) like him? because i think we normally get mad at people if we feel strongly towards them, it is these people who are closer to our hearts, that can hurt us.
i hope i make sense, if you think it might be worth giving him another chance you can do, if you think you can trust him, but if you don't feel anything towards him, maybe its best you bread it off.
i have always been told there's a reason behind everything that happens, maybe this happened so you can actually see for yourself how you truly felt about this guy.
I hope i've helped, take care, i mean there will be other guys, and with each one you will have more experience of the relationship.
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okay im 16/f and im really skinny. and everyone at my school and even my mom makes fun of me how skinny i am. and i really want to put on weight. im 5'4 and i weigh only 89 pounds. i have really skinny legs and arms. so how should i make my arms & legs look more healthier and how should i put on weight so that i look healthy and not like an anorexic? (link)
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i'm not too sure if eating would help, but try to keep a healthy balance.
i do know quite a few people who no matter how much they eat their body type won't change, everyone has different body types, these people, one i remember she was 8 months pregnant and her belly hardly sticked out.
but i must say you should eat, bit of meat, bit of poultry, bit of fruit and veg, vitamins, your dairy products (egg, milk) protein (fish) and keep up the water intake too. try to eat say atleasst 3 main meals and you can have a snack before lunch, and sandwich or something at tea-time. just remember eat (healthy) and maybe once or twice a month you good have a bit of fast food, and juice, water, and milk are much better than fizzy drinks.
I hope you gain the right amount of weight. i should try myself too, i need to gain some weight too.
so good luck to both of us then! (",)
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I have big breast.
and im not sure if i have veins or stretch marks on them.
a) whast the differnce
b) how do i know what i have
c) how to i get rid!!! (link)
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if they're whitish marks they it is stretch marks, and i have been told coconut oil helps get rid of stretch marks, they use coconut oil in most creams they make for stretch marks. But it's seriously nothing to worry about, as the breasts grow bigger the skin stretches out, try coconut oil thou, you can always search on the internet or maybe ask someone at your local pharmacy. but having stretch marks does not mean you have something wrong with your breasts.
I have also heard that lemon (rubbing on skin) can help get rid of marks, i'm not sure if it works for stretch marks, but it does for dark patches around or on the skin. I hope i've helped. take care and dont stress too much.
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I want to know if I have problems. Well I will like go a week without eating. But then on like Sunday I will sit and eat alot. I've lost like 7 pounds in like 2 weeks. Do I need to start eating reguarly? Do I need to start eating more? Everyone in my family thinks im pregnant. So should I eat alot more just incase? (link)
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Well, i think you should start off by taking a pregnancy test, just to be sure, if you're worried.
But about not eating for a week does sound a little unhealthy..i guess sometimes when we have too much off something (not at once, but everyday same eating routine) might get abit boring, so you can try eating something different everyday (but please makesure what you eat is healthy) and make sure you have a bit of everything, you probably have been taught in school about balanced diet (water, protein, carbohydrate, vitamins and minerals, etc) so try to eat different varieties of food. but if you still feel you may have some problems try talking to a dietician, or your GP/ doctor.
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well im 13 and ive had a boyfriend for like a month.
weve been like bestfriends for like 2 years so its nice and everything.
but weve only pecked 2 times, well weve only seen eachother 2 times sicne weve been going out.
but like i might go to my friends house with her boyfriend and me and my boyfriend, like we'd probably make out.
and ihavent before, so like any tips on what i should do like you know.
and is it weird for me to make the first move and if its not how do i do it.
thankss in advanced. (link)
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Your boyfriend probably feels the same way too, so it might be a good idea for you to make the first move and break the ice. Most guys love it when the girl makes the first move it makes them feel wanted, just how girls want to feel loved by their boyfriends and to be showered by gifts.
i hope this makes sense, but good luck, once you make the first move then next time he might decide to surprise you with some of his moves...take care.
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13/f. I know most guys are probably getting so overly annoyed with these questions, but no answers have been directed to me, and I really need to know what a guy likes in a girl. Anything at all would be helpful.I want to know what they like in looks and personality. And how to be less shy around them. Because I'm very very shy. So please please don't hesitate to write anything =/ (link)
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to be honest, i guess both guys and girls desire certain qualities of the opposite sex, which makes up a person's ideal.
but most guys do tend to go for who you are, and they would prefer someone who's natural rather than being fake. people will like you and should like you for who you are..so just be yourself, everyone has their own unique qualities and i'm sure you do too. about the shyness, it happens to everyone, because we dont want to do something wrong infront of the one we like. so to overcome your shyness you need to think and be more confident, when you feel confidence in yourself, others will see that too so if you have your eyes on this certain guy you feel shy infront of just start talking, and if it helps just pretend like you're talking to one of your girl mates... hope this helps.
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so, theres this boy i know at school. and everyone talkes about him in a good way. i really like him A LOT! he is so hot. but, he hates himself. he puts himself down, and doesn't think his life is worth anything. he doesnt want to go to college or do anything with his future. i feel bad for him. i want him to think positively and not so negatively. what should i do?
ps. i already told him that he is a good person, but he didn't believe me.
thanks!
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Actions speak louder than words, when you tell someone something it goes in one ear and out the other. So instead of telling him how special he is, show him how special he is to you. Become his best friend, and talk to him, make him open up to you, if necessary talk or share your own problems with him, so he can see he's not alone.
does this guy have friends, if not then you be the first. try this, i have a friend and she has been through quite a lot in her life, and i just try to cheer her up...maybe you should try to do something that he enjoys, but you can only find this out once you befriend him and talk to him about his problems, and maybe give him some of your own advice, good luck, and if you think he's hot, just tell him, guys like girls love attention, and want to be loved, its part of human nature, anyway take care...and let me know how it goes?
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Background: I'm East Indian but born in America, but my parents were immigrants to this country. I've always been loyal to my family, but its almost like they are determined to sabotage any happiness in my life.
The girl I was going to marry- they hated b/c she wasn't Indian or up to their standards, and made my life and hers such a living hell that she had to leave. I love her still, but I know that my parents will never accept her.
I'm debating if I should just bid my parents and my family goodbye and try to find myself? My parents were arranged and they expect the same for me. I don't want that, but I'm torn b/c I'm loyal to my family but I want to be in love when I get married.
This pain of conflict is tearing me apart inside, that I've started drinking too much at times and maybe taking some other pharmaceuticals to relieve the pain (ie vicodin, percocets).
I still love her and I don't think that I'll ever get over the girl I was going to marry.
(sorry if this doesn't make sense, but i'm a bit drunk while writing this). (link)
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I think you should discuss how you feel with your parents, tell them what you want?
it might be hard but sit down and ask your parents "what qualities would you like your daughter in law to have?" and then tell them what type of a wife you would want.
It is hard for parents too you know, they want what they think is best for their children and they will not know this until you tell them? so start off talking with your parents, and if you have any more questions you could always post another question.
good luck talking to your parents, makesure you stay calm, and remember drinking is not going to bring the love of your life back, too much alcohol consumption can affect male fertility as well as female fertility, and i'm pretty sure you would not want that when you do get married. Have word with your parents, they would also be upset seeing you in this situation, so tell them what will make you happy.
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