13/m, Hi, ive had pubic hair for a couple years now, and ever since ive gettin it, ive been mastrabating, and ever since i got pubic hair, it seems like my maturing process has slowed down. I dont yet have under-arm or facial hair. Is it just that i mature slowly, or am i maturing more slowly, because i am not yet fully mature, and i am mastrabating. Please help
I asked this question, and you already answered it, however i lied about my age, because im embarrased of my slow maturing. I am actually 15 and a half. Im scared something is wrong, considering that i am 16 in 6 months, and i am not nearlly fully matured..is there a problem?
Completely avoiding the comment of masturbation, its likely you won't grow facial hair for some time, not everyone does. I had mine at age 12, so its different for everyone. Under arm hair is likely to come first, if at all.
And it has nothing about not maturing or maturing slowly, its just your bodies process of growing extra hair hasn't come to notice yet. Being mature is more personality than physical body. When you've matured, you don't think girls are gross, their approachable and you become attracted to them. You become more adult like and care little for things that aren't to your interest anymore, your more or less curious about certain things.
Everyones body grows at different rates and puberty begins and ends at different times. Don't feel so wierd that you have grown hair in places and have in others, and don't expect that everything was to come at once. Everything takes time, so be patient and be comefortable about yourself. The only way anyone will know is if you tell or act like something is up.
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O.k. so my friend is turning 16 in about a week, and I'd like to make her a slide show with a ton of pictures of us with our friends, her with our friends, etc. The problem is I'm pretty bad at things like this and have no idea where to begin. I mean obviously I have all the pictures saved to the computer in a special folder, but my computer is not too great and probably couldn't handle a program you have to install or whatever. Is there anything I can buy at like a Best Buy or something that's very easy to put into your computer to just set up the pictures on it so that she can watch it on her t.v. (this part is very important, I'd like her to be able to watch it on a t.v.). So is there a DVD type thing I can buy to put in my lap top & set it up. Something that's not overly expensive, (but I'm willing to lay out money) and simple. Oh, and also how would I add cool music to the slide show after buying this? Help would be very much appreciated, because as you can see I'm a bit of a dunce when it comes to things like this :[.
Your not very detailed on how your computer works, what programs you have already, and what type of computer you have but there is a solution.
Check in your pictures folder and right click a picture, try to see if you can preview it. If you can, there might be a slideshow button in the preview screen.
If not, Windows Moviemaker does wonders for slideshows. Just upload your pictures and drag and drop. You can use music off the internet, Limewire, or if you already have .mp3s, you can use them.
If you don't have that, there are plenty of websites that have programs already on it to make slideshows. Just upload all the pics you want in it and adjust it how you see fit. For music, you'll have to deal with what the site has or what it allows you to use.
Those are the only ones I know of, so if your a Mac user, sorry for the slight inconvenience(sp?)
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I've never felt this way about a guy before. Sure I had crushes, and I even thought I was in love before.
When our eyes meet or when he moves in my direction I get sudden 1-second stomach pains, almost like extreme butterflies, which actually feel pretty good and exhilarating. What is this and can you explain it scientifically?
Also, he's not very good looking, at all, and I think this is the first time I've been attracted to a guy sexually for his personality and nothing else.
I just never felt this way before. I mean I never had these stomach pains before, for me I think I was always obsessive about some guys I liked and confused it with love.
By the way, I'm a sophomore in college, but I'm 17. Don't ask how that happened. I don't know if that information will help you help me.
I'm confused and overwhelmed with all these feelings. I'm feeling something very powerful that I've never felt before. Please just any feedback would be very appreciated.
Well there should be more than just butterflies if its really how you think is love.
other types of feelings, for example, are heart rate increase(enough that you feel it and hear it), feeling like your body temperature increases or decreases depending on how youre approached, imagined thoughts of being together, uncontrollable staring, constant blushing, etc, etc....
Having most of these symptons means you feel extremely attracted to the person. One or few means not so much. And there is no actual logical reason for these things to happen, all we know is that its chemical reactions at which our brain says to send out from various glands, like for adrenaline. There are probably books on this stuff, if you care to search for them. You may be actually in love, or it might just be a unique attraction you don't understand just yet... I don't really know, that's for you to conclude.
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Okay i met this girl at the family party and we started talking and i asked her number and her screen name so she gave it to me, and after that we talk for 3-6 hours a day, we also talk and flirt on the phone,text and chat online. We've known each other for a month and half we hung out and we flirt too, and i know she likes me and i like her, she even cooked for me but the thing is i told her that i love her and she started acting different, i told her i wanna be with her and i love her and everything and when i told her she started picking fights and she told me that she doesn't believe in love, because it sounds too serious and she doesn't like it when i say i love you to her. She never had a bf and she says shes a flirt but i know she likes me, yet she didn't wanna go out with me, and i told her we could be friends, but she keeps getting mad or picking fights about it and she told me that we shouldn't talk for a while and so i agreed and told her to talk to me when shes ready but its been 2 weeks and shes still hasn't talked to me even when we see each other she ignores me and wont even look at me in the eye, and she wont reply my texts, and i didn't know why she wont talk to me if she likes me too, but i don't know now what do you think about this? we were doing REALLLY good and we liked eachother, but when i told her i how i love her and wanna be with her she started acting weird and we dont talk anymore, please help..
It seems like she isn't the kind of person that wants to be in a serious relationship just yet. And your also kind of pressing down on her and pushing her to say what you really want to hear. You might be ready, but she feels she isn't. I suggest you give her some space and let her figure things out on her own. If you keep on trying to talk to her about it or pressuring her, she only feels more cornered and will lash back. Give her some space and give her some time to know her own feelings before you try again with anything. How long it will take depends on her, not you, so be patient and let her sort things out. When she feels she wants to say something to you, she will...
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ok i'm making a video to put on youtube with windows video maker vista. the only audio files they let me use are .aif, .aifc, .aiff .asf, .au, .mp2, .mp3, .mpa, .snd, .wav, and .wma so can anyone tell me where i can get audio music files with any of those files or a way i can get them. and can someone also tell me if i can put the video i make from windows video maker vista onto youtube thanks in advance
Newgrounds.com has a lot of songs that could be used as background music, considering most people post songs with no lyrics to them
Limewire is also good for getting .mp3's but it has to be downloaded and not all the songs you can get from Limewire are reliable or even real.
Those are all I have really... but for posting on youtube, as long as after your done making the video you tell it to become a .avi or .wmv file you should be fine, because it won't directly post. You have to access the site and upload from there...
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can you edit footage (cut parts of a scene etc) on windows movie maker?
if so how do you do it?
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If you right click on the video there should be a slpit or splice option. If not play the scene through and pause it where you want to cut it and there should be a button below the window that plays the movie that will cut the footage where you paused it at.
Its you want to be extremely specific, be sure to zoom in on the timeline bar so you can be as specific as you want. I pretty sure you can zoom in as far as you want.
Hope that helps cause I'm going on memory, not a PC right in front of me...
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im so self concious about myself and iv lost all my confidents. i dont know why b'cos i used to be so comfortable with myself. but now im so quiet and i dont have many friends. i just want to feel comfortable and feel good about myself again like the old me...
whats wrong with me and what should i do? i feel like im a loser and i hate myself. =[
Confidence comes and goes like the seasons, you'll have at one moment and then lose the next. The fact your quiet maybe because you don't have many friends, which also could result into your uncomfortableness around others. Nothing is wrong with you, nor should you hate yourself. It takes time to make friends and develop confidence, even if you had it before. One of the best ways to speed this up, is to make friends. Now I'm not telling you attempt to make friends with everyone at once, I'm saying that friends will help. Let them come to you, as through group projects at school or if they just suddenly talk to you, those tend to be the more loyal ones and develop relations faster.
And now to contradict myself, confidence can't be loss, only earned. You might feel like your insecure and self conscious, but its only because you holding back. The old you is there, it just needs place to express itself freely. And to find the old you again, just do something you love to do that others will join in with you to do. You should see that your still yourself, you just didn't have any place to express it.
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I think theres something wrong with me.
I don't usually have intense fears of things, like everyone i have those little things like heights but i overcome it.
The problem is i have this really intense phobia-like fear of snakes.
Even the thought of them makes me cringe and i feel really sick, sometimes i even shake.
My boyfriend one time when i told him about how i feel about them he wasn't being mean but he started saying that he doesn't think they're that fast, he was more trying to tell me they arent something to worry about, but it was just awful. I said okay and shook off the thought and then he said that the black mambo is the fastest and i said i didnt want to know and he started telling me how fast it goes and i just freaked out and started crying, hyperventalating and couldnt go near him.
Is there something wrong with me?
Nothing is wrong with you, you just have the fear of snakes. Fear can come up in several ways: visually, by touch, smell, hearing, and even through your mind. You yourself are probably able to put this fear aside, but the description your boyfriend told you got into your head and your sub-conscious made it worse that it really was. You may not have noticed it, but your mind was the part of you that was making hyperventalate and cry. Doesn't mean somethings wrong with your mind, it just means you should avoid hearing about snakes or touching them. Visit a zoo or something every now and again and try to slowly overcome it by seeing one behind glass. But if a keeper has one out for people to touch, then you should leave. Again, work you way slowly and attempt to overcome it. Because the only way to get rid of fear is to face it, whether head on, or slowly.
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I really care for this girl, I love her. we text or r with each other from the time we get out a school till we go to sleep, and its not like average talking, its pretty deep we get in each others heads, know how each others thinking. I can tell her anything n she can tell me almost everything but she’s had an extremely hard life she wants to tell me but she already told me a lot n thinks its better if I don’t know the rest right now n I’m perfectly fine with that. We trust each other. I can’t imagine how my life was without her, I’ve only known her for about a week though but we both say it feels like our whole life. She’s such a strong girl for her situation I know id be going insane. Every time she starts to love or trust a relative they die to cancer, it’s been over 20 of her relatives she says their almost gone, now the doctor thinks she has cancer and is going to the cancer lab to be tested soon. She keeps saying its fine, but she’s the coolest girl I have ever met she’s so sweet and nice n cares so much she’s the strongest emotionally iv ever met. She doesn’t want me to tell anyone and I won’t. I really care for her I want to be with her forever but I don’t know what to do, I don’t think she wants a bf she just broke up n had me give her the strength two days ago. In every way she is the perfect girl, we talk till we both fall asleep all day long and it never gets quiet or dull. She comforts me, n helps me w the smallest things n she says I help her sooo much to but I just cant imagine n it depresses me so much that stuff like this happens to the best people, n she keeps telling me she is ok n she doesn’t want me to feel like this because of her. im all about my music n she loves that, shes a rocker chic. She is different than all the others at our school, i love it, and wer new freshmen n both 14. She is so hurt inside, shes a recovered cutter but she doesnt know that i know it about her, she says she hasnt told me the worst parts of her life, but how can it get any worse! I can go on forever about her but she is perfect in every way n just does not see that, idk what to do I can’t get my mind off it im texting her right now as always, I miss her sooo much. What should I do to help any of this?
Your doing basically what I would tell anyone, be there for her and stay in communication. If she's says there's nothing you can do for, its likely to be true, but that doesnt mean you can't be with her while she goes through all these things. Knowing that at least person cares really helps.
Its only coincidence that a family member dies of cancer after she loves them or begins to trust them. Though the coincidence can put the person who has it under a lot of stress, no matter how well they hide it. I can almost relate to her because whenever I make a good friend, something happens where I move away or they do and soon after I lose contact with them forever. Its not a death per say, but its sucks nonetheless.
And if she does get cancer, be there for her more than your doing now and don't treat her like a different person at all. For her personality, she's likely to either be totally apathetic(emotionless) or act normal about it all, though in the end she's really stressed about all of this. But if yo show her you really care, you will help her fight for her life and try to live for more than a bad past.
My advice to her would to stay strong and get through it to the end. My further advice to you is to be with her as she fights through all this, and be her support when she needs it. She may not be telling you everything, and she may not want your sympathy, empathy, or help. If so, then just say you care and she needs anything your there for her.
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Okay so I like this girl...like ALOT. Like unbearably, but I recently learned she doesn't like me anymore. And I was wondering if I should keep trying for her or just take the cliche way out and find "Another fish in the sea"?
Well, you really should never give up until you know you can't get her no matter what you would try. If you've heard she doesn't like you from a friend or her friend, its likely not true. If you heard it from her directly, its most likely true. Either way, if you feel its a risk worth taking, go for it. But if you can't reach her, you will have to take the cliche road.
Funny thing, I have a friend who has your same problem. I told him that if any chance turns up again for you to get to her, take it. So I'm telling you now, if you find chances, don't let them slip by because your afraid. You have to go for it and do your best or else your going to fail, look back, and blame yourself for not taking those chances. But when all those chances disappear, you may blame yourself for not getting her, you have to realize theres more than one "perfect" girl in the damned world we live in...
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I really wanna tell my parents about my relationship..I dont wanna hide secrets from them...cuz my parents doesnt want me to have a boyfriend....and they'll get upset if I tell them...I really know them very well but I really wanna tell them but I'm just to chicken to tell it!HELP!
Its better to tell then ASAP because something thats hidden for too long that should be said will only grow worse. The sooner you tell, the more likely your going to have less of a time explaining yourself. If the relationship has been going on for a LONG time, parents will tend to freak because they never knew about it. So sooner the better. It takes a lot of courage, yes, but you know you have it in you!
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So,in our school they dont allow boy/girl relationships...All the school found out...and it came passin to the principal...the principal called us to the office to talk to us....She told us if me and my boyfriend are together...we said were just friends We lied about it!and she said if they saw us 6inches again the'll call our parents......so were tryin ourself to be apart...this doesnt involve breakin up!but i mean how do we not make it obvious to the whole school
like for example were just like friends, friends?HELP!!
Its actually quite easy to stay away from the other in certain situation. Try to work on notes or texting if you must. It keeps distance while you two still communicate. If you can, try to meet up with him outside of school. That way you don't have so many restrictions down on yourself or him. Though your school may not allow relationships in school, outside they can't do anything about it, no matter how much kids talk about it. So as long as its done away from school, they can't do much, and in school, your going to have to stick with acting like you guys aren't going out and stick to distance communication....
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Ok so here it goes.I like my best guy friend but idk if he likes me back.I dont know if i should tell him how I feeel or if I should lock it up inside me and forget i like him.I dont know how to show him the way I feel about him with out him getting all creeped out.I have liked him for almost a year now and thought about asking him back out.him and I dated for a week then we broke up cuz I was too young for him at that time. now he is going on 18 and I am 16.I likee him so much that i think i maybe falling in love with him.He is so sweet,down to earth,caring,hot,and everything i dreamed of having in a bf.I wish I knew of an easy non creepy way to tell him i like him.If anyone has any advice whatsoever please let me know.Thanks a million.
Sis1234
Well, you can try to tell him that you still like him. How to approach it is beyond me though. but you should never lock up your feelings. It just accumulates into this bubble and eventually will go BOOM! and you won't be able to control it. If you can manage to express your feeling, whether in person or anonymously, then do so. The best way to tell someone you like them is to straight up say it. Don't sugar coat or try to play hard to get, just say what ever comes to heart. That way your telling the entire truth of how you feel, and your feeling actually come out into what your saying.
I can't really tell you how he will react if you do this, but I can tell you its a better approach than trying to clue in how you feel or lying or anything like that...
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ok i asked this question earlier about Joe, Sara, and my friends. i decided to try and repopst this with better information cause the other was me in a hurry and kinda freaked out a bit:
ok Joe is in the same grade as me, funny, friendly, and one of my favorite people to be around. Sara is his 2wice ex and i somewhat do not like her. Jessey is another ex that i didnt even kno he had dated. Lulu is the friend who has been trying to hook me up with Joe.
ok I've known Joe for a semester and the 2 times he dated Sara, he became an asshole, like he wouldn't talk to me or even be himself really. But when he was single, he was always messing with me, teasing me, and doing whatever he could to make me laugh. Hes a great guy, a little mean at times, but usually just teasing. and whenever we text and i say something like i was upset or crying, hed always text me back why and not let up till i told him. so lulu, in a way, was the one who really got me and him talking. she makes fun of him too and has been trying to hook me up with him for most of the semester. she and her sister Tracie both say he really likes me because of how he acts around me. and Lulu told sara that i liked him and i honestly think shes over him without a doubt and shes started to try and hook me and him up. and when he called me, it was at 10 at night and he was finally home from michigan and he kept just messing around teasing me and picking at me. i really like him and i am majorly confused about this mess. HELP ME!!
15/f
Its sorta a guys way of flirting, teasing and picking at you. I personally don't like how we do it, but we do. But if everyone is trying to get you guys together, go for it and try it out. If you like, stick with it and make it last. If you don't well, then your friends were wrong to try and hook you two up. But he seems like he cares a lot and is "flirting" with you.
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i really hate my moms boyfriend. it gets on my nerves that he just stays here all day when he doesn't need to be. not one day did he just say or willingly went to do no this day i will not stay there. i feel so bothered by it. i think the only reason that he hangs with us is to fulfill insecurities he has about himself. i see a lot of bad in him like he is just using my mom for money.
Have you talked to your mom about it? If you haven't I recommend. If you have and it didn't work, your going to have to find proof that he isn't a good choice. Whether its righting down what hes done, or keeping track of how long hes been there. Though if he is trying to fill in his insecurities, then its actually doing him good. But if he is using you guys for money or some other reason, your going to need to show your mom. Shes the on that will determine whether he stays or goes. If you can convince her, then he won't be a worry anymore.
Otherwise, you need to find ways do deal with him. Whether its getting out of the house more, or keeping to yourself most of the time. Either way, its all upon your mom to keep him or get rid of him.
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I'm really shy... well more like afraid of people.
If I'm with people I want to like me, I freeze up and can't think of anything to say. If I do say something it's either really stupid or sarcastic/mean. This hinders me making friends because I freeze up and get really awkward, and I'm not pretty so it's not like people come to me. Do you have any advice as to how I can overcome this?
Don't say anything at all. Not saying this to put you down or anything, I'm saying if you want to avoid speaking rudely or saying something stupid, then don't say anything at all. Just keep you mouth closed. If you feel insecure being with new people, then be with others you know better and trust. This way, your more likely going to meet people who are similar to the people you know. Listen to the conversation, if there is one going on, and just listen for topics you can relate to. Don't interrupt anyone if you find one though, and if the topic moves on, don't try and bring it back up.
If you feel tense, then find someplace to sit or lean against, close your eyes and relax. Once your relaxed enough to move on, do so. Don't think about being accidentally awkward, because then it will just happen. Think about other things. Keep your mind far away from anything that would make a situation awkward. And if you can't think of what to say, let the other person say something first. It may seem awkward, but it'll pull a lot of pressure away from you.
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hi, i'm 14/f, and i live in boston. i play sports, a different one every season. i consider myself a popular girl, and i usually have a boyfriend. but recently, i have been doing some seriously dumb stuff. like 2 months ago i smoked weed for the first time with this really hot kid. then, a month ago, i got rly wasted but i got caught. my friends figured after my month long groundation i wouldnt be doing stuff like that anymore. i thought so to, until i woke up this morning and went downstairs. my brother and his best friend (both 16,) were rolling joints in the kitchen (both my parents at work) so my brothers friend kept telling my brother to let me smoke with them, even tho i didnt ask to. i ended up smoking a lotttt, and i got intensley baked. a half hour later, wen i was still super high, my friends mom picked me up to go shopping, and i think they could tell i was high. things were akward all day. now, i dont no what to say to them, i know their really disappointed, and i need to know how to make things right with them. thanks in advance..
your going to have to stop now. The sooner you stop such behaviors, the more likely your going to be able to make the right choices in the future. It will mend all the things you have done wrong and give you a chance to try again. Your going to get a lot of influences that will make you try again if you do manage to quit these things, and your going to have to either say no, avoid them and/or stop them. And if you get thoughts about trying to do weed or the such, find something to do or whatever that will keep your mind off the stuff. Like a hobby or rearranging furniture in your room or whatever floats your boat. But if you dont stop now, its only going to get harder and harder. And your going to find yourself in a lot of crap you dont need.
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I'm 16 years old and female.
Okay, so I like this girl, you see. But, she lives alllllllll the way across the U.S. I really like her, though. She's sung to me and played guitar for me and we've talked and laughed and she can always keep me smiling and blushing and she gives me butterflies and makes me feel more than I've ever felt in my life. But, I'm weak with distance. I want so much to be with her, but there's only so much you can do when you're all the way over ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------>here. I really like her.
I really do. I'm also afraid that my parents will find out about it. They're HUGE homophobes and I don't know how they'd handle it... I'm afraid they'd kick me out or lock me up or stop talking to me.... and I want them to be proud of me, but that's hard when you're the exact opposite of what they've planned...
I really need your help, dude. Please answer me...
Oh, and sorry my question's so long.
~Lost And Delirious~
Distance is always an issue with relationships. At the moment, your not really old enough to go out and travel across the country to meet someone. So that distance maybe be stuck there for awhile until either one of you can actually make such a trip. Though if you both keep in communication with each other, distance won't feel like such a big problem unless you worry about it. Which I suggest you don't because worrying only makes thing worse.
About your parents, I personally find nothing wrong with homosexuality, though I'd rather have gay men stay a good distance away if they try anything with me... But thats besides the point, if you really want your parents to know, you just going to have to tell them. Though I don't think telling them you still like guys even though it includes girls too will help much. I might help, I don't know. But if you tell them sooner, its going to be easier to explain than when you move out and confess. Then it makes them wonder how long its been going on. So if they ask any questions about it, you need to answer truthfully and calmly. No matter how far they get or how long it takes.
I will admit, they may not talk to you or want anything to do with you for awhile, and it will hurt. But if they are good parents, they aren't going to lock you up or anything. So I would also suggest you only confess if you know your parents are good ones who love you dearly. But it will take some time and after awhile they will have to accept you for who you are.
Though this has nothing to do with your situation, it may make you feel better. I have this friend that started dating this guy, and her dad didn't want anything to do with it. He actually didn't speak to her and gave dirty looks at him. It hurt her a lot that her dad would do such a thing, but after awhile it started to get a lot better. Soon, he talked to her again, though still hated her bf. Then it was just the mentioning of his name. Soon after, he actually acknowledged him, which was a giant leap. Though it took a few months*cough* he got over it a let it go(though he is still on her case just a little)
I'm sure your parents will understand over some time. How long it will take depends on them, but it might take awhile.
I know its a long explanation, and I know it takes a lot of effort and patience to pull something your going to have to try and do. This question may be new to me, but my help is always the same. I fully support you, and am glad you found someone you actually like. I pray it all goes well...
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my friend is always going around telling boys i like them or im obsessed. one time she did it and tried to blame it on my other friend. i dont know if i should still be her friend or not? its real annoying, but i dont have many other friends.
You should talk to her about. Sternly, but without harsh words or aggression. If she is a good friend, she will hear you out and stop, hopefully. If she isn't then you might have to stop talking to her for awhile, and maybe if nothing seems to work, drop her. Sometimes its better to drop bad friends than to keep them. They only cause more conflicts. But its better to talk it out than to just drop immediately....
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Okay so, my best friend since birth, lives right next to me, we're inseperable. And she was datinga complete jerk. Total ass. I hate him so much, and I always will. He was cheating on her last year, and she didn't believe me, then he came clean and apologized and said "she's the only girl for him" well, He got her pregnant, and its right before Senior year.
We start school september third and she just found out she's pregnant like, a week ago. I havn't talked to her at all, because we got into a huge fight. She doesn't have much of a mom, she hasn't seen her in almost 8 years. So I'll admit sometimes I take her mom's place.
I feel horrible, because I told her all the things she shouldn't have done and everything and that she's only 18 and I knew this would happen and she never listened to me. And she wants to keep her baby. Also, her "boyfriend" told her he'd be there for her, but he's not talking to her and she has no idea where he is.
So he bailed but she won't see it! I feel like she needs me, and I feel bad, but she was screaming at me. So I yelled at her. And then she got morning sickness, and I could see how sick she seemed. How can I help her? What should I say? I miss my best friend, and I don't know how to apologize. What happens when your pregnant? Please Help!
You should help her out. Even though she made a bad decision, if you know whats going on, you need to be there for her and be her eyes to the truth. Whether she believes what she says or accepts your help, is completely up to her. But it would help her a lot if you were there for her as she went through this. Shes still your best friend, even if she did make a bad choice and seems to be going down hill. And any best friend would help them get back up and get them through it. It will be hard, for both of you if you choose to help her out. But if your there for her, she will begin to trust you more, and possibly here you out and finally believe you. If you can be her conscience, she will make better decisions in the future...
Be there for her...
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