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Long Distance + Bisexuality = KABOOM
I'm 16 years old and female.
Okay, so I like this girl, you see. But, she lives alllllllll the way across the U.S. I really like her, though. She's sung to me and played guitar for me and we've talked and laughed and she can always keep me smiling and blushing and she gives me butterflies and makes me feel more than I've ever felt in my life. But, I'm weak with distance. I want so much to be with her, but there's only so much you can do when you're all the way over ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------>here. I really like her.
I really do. I'm also afraid that my parents will find out about it. They're HUGE homophobes and I don't know how they'd handle it... I'm afraid they'd kick me out or lock me up or stop talking to me.... and I want them to be proud of me, but that's hard when you're the exact opposite of what they've planned...
I really need your help, dude. Please answer me...
Oh, and sorry my question's so long.
~Lost And Delirious~
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Distance is always an issue with relationships. At the moment, your not really old enough to go out and travel across the country to meet someone. So that distance maybe be stuck there for awhile until either one of you can actually make such a trip. Though if you both keep in communication with each other, distance won't feel like such a big problem unless you worry about it. Which I suggest you don't because worrying only makes thing worse.
About your parents, I personally find nothing wrong with homosexuality, though I'd rather have gay men stay a good distance away if they try anything with me... But thats besides the point, if you really want your parents to know, you just going to have to tell them. Though I don't think telling them you still like guys even though it includes girls too will help much. I might help, I don't know. But if you tell them sooner, its going to be easier to explain than when you move out and confess. Then it makes them wonder how long its been going on. So if they ask any questions about it, you need to answer truthfully and calmly. No matter how far they get or how long it takes.
I will admit, they may not talk to you or want anything to do with you for awhile, and it will hurt. But if they are good parents, they aren't going to lock you up or anything. So I would also suggest you only confess if you know your parents are good ones who love you dearly. But it will take some time and after awhile they will have to accept you for who you are.
Though this has nothing to do with your situation, it may make you feel better. I have this friend that started dating this guy, and her dad didn't want anything to do with it. He actually didn't speak to her and gave dirty looks at him. It hurt her a lot that her dad would do such a thing, but after awhile it started to get a lot better. Soon, he talked to her again, though still hated her bf. Then it was just the mentioning of his name. Soon after, he actually acknowledged him, which was a giant leap. Though it took a few months*cough* he got over it a let it go(though he is still on her case just a little)
I'm sure your parents will understand over some time. How long it will take depends on them, but it might take awhile.
I know its a long explanation, and I know it takes a lot of effort and patience to pull something your going to have to try and do. This question may be new to me, but my help is always the same. I fully support you, and am glad you found someone you actually like. I pray it all goes well...
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