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Why is she acting like this?
Okay i met this girl at the family party and we started talking and i asked her number and her screen name so she gave it to me, and after that we talk for 3-6 hours a day, we also talk and flirt on the phone,text and chat online. We've known each other for a month and half we hung out and we flirt too, and i know she likes me and i like her, she even cooked for me but the thing is i told her that i love her and she started acting different, i told her i wanna be with her and i love her and everything and when i told her she started picking fights and she told me that she doesn't believe in love, because it sounds too serious and she doesn't like it when i say i love you to her. She never had a bf and she says shes a flirt but i know she likes me, yet she didn't wanna go out with me, and i told her we could be friends, but she keeps getting mad or picking fights about it and she told me that we shouldn't talk for a while and so i agreed and told her to talk to me when shes ready but its been 2 weeks and shes still hasn't talked to me even when we see each other she ignores me and wont even look at me in the eye, and she wont reply my texts, and i didn't know why she wont talk to me if she likes me too, but i don't know now what do you think about this? we were doing REALLLY good and we liked eachother, but when i told her i how i love her and wanna be with her she started acting weird and we dont talk anymore, please help..
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well since you've only known eachother for such a short period of time, I doubt she feels that strong. Love is an extremely strong word, and I respect her for not wasting it (dont take it the wrong way - Im not meaning that you're a waste).. its just that so many people throw that word around and dont even know the real meaning to it.
But anyways.. she probably feels you have way more feeling for her than she does for you, and it probably scares her. Give her time.
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after reading this, this story reminded me much of myself last year. this boy and i reallly liked each other but when it got too serious i freaked out. for some reason i would get angry with him and either lash out at him or ignore him. i think it was because i like this chase, something flirty and simple and when it got too serious i panicked. i also dont always trust my feelings so when i feel like im being tied down i worry maybe i made the wrong choice. relationships take a lot of commitment and patience and maybe she wasnt ready for it. what i think you should do is respect her wishes and not make any effort to talk to her. i told the boy i didnt think we should talk for a while and i ended up thinking about him every second. i realized how much i did like him, but it was my pride i had to obtain so we didnt talk. in the end i gave up and we are friends now and im glad we are. i hope everything works out, and make her come to you. maybe by the end of this mess you will both have matured and you can start over.
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a lot of people are different when it comes to love maybe she heard what guys do when they say this that they are looking for sex so she really liked you and then you said you loved her which made her think you wanted sex only and now shes mad at you and perhaps she cant belive that she let her self like you so much so that all you can just use her. i mean thats probally not the deal but its a posibility also maybe she has problems with love like maybe someone really broke her heart once even if it was a crush. if i was you i wouldnt talk to her give her space. rite now she needs to think. tell her on a message that you didnt mean it for to make you angry when you said that if thats the case then suggest you guys start over from scratch and wait a looonggg while before saying i love you to her again.
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It seems like she isn't the kind of person that wants to be in a serious relationship just yet. And your also kind of pressing down on her and pushing her to say what you really want to hear. You might be ready, but she feels she isn't. I suggest you give her some space and let her figure things out on her own. If you keep on trying to talk to her about it or pressuring her, she only feels more cornered and will lash back. Give her some space and give her some time to know her own feelings before you try again with anything. How long it will take depends on her, not you, so be patient and let her sort things out. When she feels she wants to say something to you, she will...
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She told you exactly why she responded that way: She was just flirting and not interested in something that serious with you. Your confession of love was scary and offensive to her. She didn't want to hear it. She doesn't feel the same. She doesn't want that kind of relationship. It made her uncomfortable.
You knew her for less then 2 months. You weren't even dating. Although I'm all for honesty this is the kind of thing that can happen when you don't get to know a person a bit better before diving in head-first. A few more months of getting to know her you might have been able to guess what her response would be, and choosen a way to talk to her that she would be more comfortable with. A few more months might also have taught you that she was not interested in anything more then flirting.
Instead, you rushed into it, and she didn't like it one bit. At best, she got scared off. At worst, she got offended that you didn't pick up on her clues of disinterest.
Of course, she is being rather rude now, but little can be done about that. Shrug it off. She doesn’t want what you want. You are incompatible. Leave her alone and decide if you want to strike up a plutonic friendship if she ever does contact you again. However, I can pretty much guarantee that if you continue to try to talk to her, she’ll continue to give you the cold shoulder. She has told you as much herself.
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