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a girl thats different from the rest
I really care for this girl, I love her. we text or r with each other from the time we get out a school till we go to sleep, and its not like average talking, its pretty deep we get in each others heads, know how each others thinking. I can tell her anything n she can tell me almost everything but she’s had an extremely hard life she wants to tell me but she already told me a lot n thinks its better if I don’t know the rest right now n I’m perfectly fine with that. We trust each other. I can’t imagine how my life was without her, I’ve only known her for about a week though but we both say it feels like our whole life. She’s such a strong girl for her situation I know id be going insane. Every time she starts to love or trust a relative they die to cancer, it’s been over 20 of her relatives she says their almost gone, now the doctor thinks she has cancer and is going to the cancer lab to be tested soon. She keeps saying its fine, but she’s the coolest girl I have ever met she’s so sweet and nice n cares so much she’s the strongest emotionally iv ever met. She doesn’t want me to tell anyone and I won’t. I really care for her I want to be with her forever but I don’t know what to do, I don’t think she wants a bf she just broke up n had me give her the strength two days ago. In every way she is the perfect girl, we talk till we both fall asleep all day long and it never gets quiet or dull. She comforts me, n helps me w the smallest things n she says I help her sooo much to but I just cant imagine n it depresses me so much that stuff like this happens to the best people, n she keeps telling me she is ok n she doesn’t want me to feel like this because of her. im all about my music n she loves that, shes a rocker chic. She is different than all the others at our school, i love it, and wer new freshmen n both 14. She is so hurt inside, shes a recovered cutter but she doesnt know that i know it about her, she says she hasnt told me the worst parts of her life, but how can it get any worse! I can go on forever about her but she is perfect in every way n just does not see that, idk what to do I can’t get my mind off it im texting her right now as always, I miss her sooo much. What should I do to help any of this?
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Your doing basically what I would tell anyone, be there for her and stay in communication. If she's says there's nothing you can do for, its likely to be true, but that doesnt mean you can't be with her while she goes through all these things. Knowing that at least person cares really helps.
Its only coincidence that a family member dies of cancer after she loves them or begins to trust them. Though the coincidence can put the person who has it under a lot of stress, no matter how well they hide it. I can almost relate to her because whenever I make a good friend, something happens where I move away or they do and soon after I lose contact with them forever. Its not a death per say, but its sucks nonetheless.
And if she does get cancer, be there for her more than your doing now and don't treat her like a different person at all. For her personality, she's likely to either be totally apathetic(emotionless) or act normal about it all, though in the end she's really stressed about all of this. But if yo show her you really care, you will help her fight for her life and try to live for more than a bad past.
My advice to her would to stay strong and get through it to the end. My further advice to you is to be with her as she fights through all this, and be her support when she needs it. She may not be telling you everything, and she may not want your sympathy, empathy, or help. If so, then just say you care and she needs anything your there for her.
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