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She's 18 and pregnant.
Okay so, my best friend since birth, lives right next to me, we're inseperable. And she was datinga complete jerk. Total ass. I hate him so much, and I always will. He was cheating on her last year, and she didn't believe me, then he came clean and apologized and said "she's the only girl for him" well, He got her pregnant, and its right before Senior year.
We start school september third and she just found out she's pregnant like, a week ago. I havn't talked to her at all, because we got into a huge fight. She doesn't have much of a mom, she hasn't seen her in almost 8 years. So I'll admit sometimes I take her mom's place.
I feel horrible, because I told her all the things she shouldn't have done and everything and that she's only 18 and I knew this would happen and she never listened to me. And she wants to keep her baby. Also, her "boyfriend" told her he'd be there for her, but he's not talking to her and she has no idea where he is.
So he bailed but she won't see it! I feel like she needs me, and I feel bad, but she was screaming at me. So I yelled at her. And then she got morning sickness, and I could see how sick she seemed. How can I help her? What should I say? I miss my best friend, and I don't know how to apologize. What happens when your pregnant? Please Help!
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She might've been screaming at you because she's so scared about what she's going to do. With no maternal figure, she probably has 0 support. That's one thing you can do.
Another thing you can do (this ties into support for her) is help her through the process of having a kid. Take her to the doctor, get a check up. If she doesn't have health insurance, try going to a local Planned Parenthood center. They'll provide all the information you need to help her through it.
Since this is the first trimester, she won't really show yet. Morning sickness, tenderness, mood swings, she'll feel all that. She'll need to keep off her feet. She'll also need to eat healthy. Meaning as little to no caffeine as possible and little to no junk food.
She should also use this time to try to get things in order for her baby. Because that baby is going to be the star of her life once it's born.
Just let her know that you CAN go through school with a pregnancy. You CAN work at the same time with a pregnancy. Just make sure things are clear with the counselor or principal that she may need to leave a bit towards the end of the school year.
But right now, the best thing you can do to help your friend is to take her to a doctor or Planned Parenthood so that she could have a healthy term.
I hope all that helped.
cheers,
stargirl
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You should help her out. Even though she made a bad decision, if you know whats going on, you need to be there for her and be her eyes to the truth. Whether she believes what she says or accepts your help, is completely up to her. But it would help her a lot if you were there for her as she went through this. Shes still your best friend, even if she did make a bad choice and seems to be going down hill. And any best friend would help them get back up and get them through it. It will be hard, for both of you if you choose to help her out. But if your there for her, she will begin to trust you more, and possibly here you out and finally believe you. If you can be her conscience, she will make better decisions in the future...
Be there for her...
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