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Okay!!! ( long... question!! Sorry! )
Well... I FINALLY told the guy I like (Matt) EAXCTLY how I felt about him last night. We were talking (texting...) each other back and forth. I told him... that I loved him ... and that I really did. He told me that he has a girl friend ... and he likes me as a friend and nothing more. I felt awful and embarrased!! I told him... I was crying and I was hurt. He talked to me and we worked everything out. So... he's my FRIEND and ONLY my friend, but I STILL love him. I really care for him 2. I have no idea how 2 get over him.Do you think that maybe ... just maybe he'll like me?? Also...I think I am starting 2 like my crush ...from last year again.(Tanner ) He's nice and funny... but not as sweet as Matt. Should , I go for Tanner? I can talk to him ... okay... but ... I don't want to ruin our friendship, my friends asked him out for me last year... a lot and all the times he said no. I think maybe he MIGHT like me... we laugh and stuff all the time... were buddy-buddy , I think were closer this year. What do you think I should do? I think I should try 2 get over Matt... and go for Tanner. If, you think so ... how should I ask him out? Thanks, and I am sorry this question is so long!!!
Thanks for who ever try's to help !!
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For now, forget about love or anything resembling love. Be open to going out with a number of guys. I don't mean go be a skank. I just mean if you are friendly with 3 or 4 guys, don't be scared to hang out with a couple one week then maybe the others the next week. It's too easy to like one persona nd be fixated on them. When you do that the whole world revolves around whether they like you or not. Just go out and have fun. You'll get to know a few people better. You'll see the good sides and bad sides of a number of guys and you will just get a better feel of what you want. It's like going to a buffet and having a smidge of everything then going back for what you really really like. That's better than just trying the first thing and if you like it filling up on that. You're young anyhow from what I gather. It's good to just practice your social skills anyhow.
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There's a guy I have loved for months.We've known each other for a very long time and we're going to get together soon.I have a problem-recently I started having this urge to have sex with him and it drives me nuts.It happens all the time.Whenever I think about him,talk to him,or basically anything that reminds me of him makes me feel that way.I don't want to scare him by being too straight-forward and I do not want to have sex yet,I'm only 15,and I think I'm too young for sex,but this urge is something I can't control at all,and I'm afraid I'll try to seduce him and end up doing it with him.What should I do to stop myself from losing my virginity to him?I love him,he loves me,so there are no emotional problems,I'm just afraid it might result into something bad. Plz advise,I really need help to make the right decision. (link)
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The things you are going through are normal. If you do end up having sex with him, make sure to use protection and other forms of birth control. Now that that is out of the way, let's look at the problem. You're tempted. You're extremly tempted. With most things, I would suggest talking to the guy. With this, I don't think you should just yet. I'm a guy, and frankly if a guy hears you are close to wanting sex he is going to rush things because of his own horniness. You want ways to wait. Try only meeting with him in places where sex won't happen, like your place with plenty of family around. If he drives, you probably don't want to go anywhere alone with him for the time being. It's too easy to be alone that way. Try to do group things. If you have any close friends, bring them along to keep it non sexual. I don't know if you are ready. Only you will ever know. When you lose your virginity it has to be on your terms. If you must, set a date or time in the future to aim for. Say "not until i'm 17" or something like that. The target date would be up to you. Once you make it to whatever time, you can always push the date back again if you don't feel you are ready. Your first time can be a wonderful experience. It won't be perfect but at the same time what makes it so great are the imperfections. Once you do this it will change you forever. Outside of actually having a child or carrying a child, you will know one of life's greatest mysteries. Once you go through that door you cannot return. So make it what you want it to be. Your first guy is highly unlikely to be your last. Make sure it's someone you like, someone you will think fondly of, and someone you want to share the moment with. Someday you will lose your virginity, it is going to happen. It may be good. It may not be good. It's not going to be exactly how you have it imagined. Even if it is an absolute disaster, someday you will have a wonderful first time with someone. But I hope I was a bit of help. I also hope that when you do finally lose it that it is everything you hope for and more.
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I'm eighteen and i would liketo know thebest sites to meet guys online safely. thanks. (link)
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i wouldn't exactly call any safe. but i would say that if you do this to use one of the pay sites. if it is a pay site then it's less likely that it's someone with a fake profile. also, it would at least mean there is a credit card paying for it. personally i think facebook would be somewhat good. at least then you could see other people this person went to school with and maybe be able to ask them a few questions about your future date.
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so im 18 years old, female, VIRGIN.
alright so whenever i'm around a guy, and he tries messing around with me i will get REALLY wet, and he wont even start doing anything! is this because i haven't been sexual and never really done anything past making out with a guy? does this indicate i'm inexperienced? i know guys say they like it when the girl is wet, but i've also heard that if a girl gets wet, fast and easy it's because she is not use to it. embarssing for me? YES!! can anyone help clear this up? is it true? (link)
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yes guys definitely do like it. honestly i wouldn't worry about it. guys will feel wanted because of this and make them more comfortable. maybe it is because you have little experience. but just as often as not a girl is like that simply because she gets wetter. it's a blessing. perhaps you have a better imagination, maybe you are more sensitive to being aroused. but i would say it's a very good thing and you shouldn't worry one little bit. that one little thing you have is going to drive guys crazy for the next 40 years. enjoy it :)
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So...I have this problem with jealousy...it's not a healthy amount either. If someone gets something I want, I get jealous. It's as simple as that. I've tried everything to get rid of it. Like, noticing the things I have right now, cherish everyone for their differences...all that stuff. But it doesn't work. I get obsessed with it and end up feeling worthless and like I have nothing. Any ideas...? (link)
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i don't think this is that unhealthy to be honest. if you were jealous about who you are dating than maybe. but you just seem highly competitive. it's a survival aid. it will give you drive to be better. it's not bad to want on a team or want to start or want the promotion at work. when this stuff happens though, you have to ask if they are as desserving. i think if you realize that they are deserving than it won't be as bad. i hope you do enjoy the successes you have though. you will have times of disappointment even if most things go your way. but i do think from how you put things that this isn't as unhealthy as you believe.
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17/f-- So I have this problem that I don't know how to strike up and hold a conversation with a new person. With my friends, I am very talkative, probably the most talkative in my group, because I know what is alright to talk about with them, and obviously we have alot in common/spend alot of time together so there is always somthing to talk about. And, I am not shy at all. I will just start talking to a stranger in a store. I will just start talking to them about how I like their shoes. Anything. My friends think I am crazy for this. I am not, by any definiton, a shy or nervous person. The thing is, those conversations with random strangers are like 30 sec. In and out, nice meeting you, goodbye. But say for example, I am at a party, and I see somone, girl or guy, that I just want to meet and get to know. I will approach them and say "Hi", but then after that I am completely at loss for words. I am not nervous, not tounge-tied, I just cant thing of anything to begin talking about. It is so frustrating, because somtimes I see a boy that I would really like to talk to, and all I want to do is show him the talkative and interesting person that I am. I can say hi but then I really dont know where to begin. What topic? How do you open up somthing to say? With people I know, I know what girls can I talk about shopping with, what boys can I talk about video games with. What social groups can you discuss politics intelligently with... What I am saying is, with people I alreay know, I am good at striking up conversation because I know what is appropiate and how people will respond. But with a new person, where do I start? The whole situation is beyond frustrating, because people who know me like my personality, and I know other people would too, if I only had a chance to SHOW them, which is what I am unable to do when I have no idea what to say. Also, alot of times, I am able to say somthing relevent to the situation, but then the people are just like "yes/no" and the conversation is over. I mean, what am I supposed to do, sit around for five minutes and formulate a question that cannot be simply answered by yes/no? I mean seriously: "Do you like Pizza? If yes, please elaborate on your favorite brand and toppings, and if no, exlain why and name another food you enjoy more." No. This just sounds stupid. AHHHHHHHH please please help me with my horrible conversational skills! There are tons of people I would just love to get to know, I just dont know how to keep talking to them! I mean, literally list me some topics. Quotes. I dont care. How in the world do you know what is appropiate to start chatting sombody up about??? I can hold a conversation once it gets started or If the other person starts it first, but I cant start one up to save my life! help! (link)
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i used to have the same problem as you but i am actually pretty shy. you are very right about the yes/no question thing. i've telemarketed and one of the first things taught to make rapport is to not ask yes or no questions. it actually does help doing that, but at the same time it is work. when the other person says stuff to you, it gives you ammunition to return conversation. possibly you are bad with that. i would say you do well by commenting on a person's clothing and such. most people will ask about music, favorite bands/music, movies, tats/piercings and stuff like that. personally, i'll usually ask people what is their most embarrasing moment that they will tell me. you can always ask about scars or birthmarks. plus if asking that to someone of the opposite sex you may get to see or touch. it's like they let you in a bit closer. if you liketheir cologne you can ask what it is and what else they wear. you can talk about pet peeves, fears, vacation spots, the weather, animals/pets, tv shows, you can ask them if they still believe in santa and what they want for christmas. you can talk about allergies or goofy family members or some silly teacher you used to have. if you show interest and are trying most people will accept you. i don't know if i was any help but i hope so.
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I really need help on this one.
There is this girl i have been talking to for the past 2 or 3 months, there practically isnt a day that went by where we didnt talk, she told me how she wanted to hang out and vise versa, and all of that. well we finally decide to go to a movie the other day, and keep in mind she is a quiet girl. well i had fun, it was a good moive, and she seemed to have fun, but i am not 100 % sure she did. she is kinda short with her answers to me now, but i think it might be due to the up coming christmas holiday (tomarrow). In a couple of days, I want to know if I can just come out and ask her if she is intrested, and if she would like to go out again. is that too creepy and forward. What do you think i should do?
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honestly i wouldn't worry about it or her answers. the best way to tell is to just ask her out to do something again. i would make a suggestion of dropping the movie idea though. you can't talk really when watching movies. you need something where there is more of a chance of interacting. you can always say something like "i need to go shopping for a few shirts and i'd love a second opinion." but you'd be able to talk and there are plenty of chances at the mall to try on ridiculous hats and stuff for a joke. there are food courts so you can grab a bit to eat and talk and sort of have plenty of things there that can stir up conversation. even though the mall is generally somewhat boring, it can be a very good casual date place because it can stimulate conversation.
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I'm 16/f and a junior in high school. I like this guy in my class (he's a senior) and we're also officers of the same club. I talk to him every once in a while and we're acquainted but not really friends. He's really mature and professional (a big reason why I like him) and we're really polite with each other. So, its not really like a laid back relationship. But still, (it sounds stupid but it kind of makes a big deal to me) he high fives me sometimes for little things. I'm not the type to just ask people I'm not really close with to to hang out. Also,you should know, I've never had a boyfriend, never asked a boy out, and I've only had three crushes on boys including this one. Also, what set me off is that I found out this freshman likes him too. So now I know I may have some competition and I really have to do something. So, what do you think I should do to get closer with him in school? I'm not asking him out now, I've still not really talked to him that much and I'm not ready for doing something like that right now. How can I have a more laid back relationship w/ him and do you have any advice for flirting with a guy? I realize he's a senior and he's not gonna be around for a lot longer. So, if you can give me any advice at all that would be great! thank you so much. (link)
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you basically want to get closer to him without asking him out or chasing him. i'm a guy so personally i'd say something like "we're renting movies tonight, you should come over." but i know you're scared of being rejected and such. i'd say to just add him on facebook because pretty much everyone has facebook. once you do you can just send a little message now and again so maybe while in school you actually talk more. plus, if something funny is said when you talk online it gives you something to bring up in person. i don't know your personality type but i'd guess you are either shy or not the most aggressive girl. you only live once. rejection sucks but take it from someone that knows, if you never take a chance you can't ever succeed. i've been scared to ask people out in the past and honestly i regret it even years later. as bad as it is being turned down, it's instant. it's over and done with and you can move on. if you like someone and don't put yourself out there a bit you can miss out. people can't always read the signals. i do feel for you. i hope someday you don't have to wait on whatever guy you are interested in. but for the moment, i think your best bet is to try facebook. then maybe you will end up chatting on some messenger and becoming a bit more than aquaintances.
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Can friends be and how can I not?
(1) How can one thin female friend tell if another thin female friend is jealous that the other female friend is thin as well.
(2) How can I not get angry with my mom when she talks on top of me talking when I am trying to explain something to her. My mom is in her 80's and I am in my 50's. For example: My mom needed stock quotes off the Internet. And when I found the quotes and wanted to copy the quotes in Excel which I did she saw that some of the zero's were missing in the amounts of one of the six columns. And when I tried to explain to her that I had to adjust the format so the zero's appear she would not let me talk and we had a fight. My mom acts sometimes like a little kid who talks while mommy is trying to say something.
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i am going to assume that you wonder if one of your friends is jealous that you are thin. i'll treat it that way anyhow. women are very sneaky and good at hiding this stuff if they want to. i don't know if you can truly ever tell. but, if she makes little hurtful comments then she probably is. it just sounds as if that she is competitive with you and wants to out do you. you probably can't change how she feels. she is probably just feeling threatened or wants to get more attention than you. i'd be more concerned about this if any of it hurts you. if it does you may want to tell her that your weights arent a competition. maybe you could bite the bullet and fib and say you are jealous of her figure. it's a white lie but it may ease alot of friction.
but your mom is like my dad. some people you just can't talk to at times. first off, realize that this is not your fault. i say that because you can go crazy dealing with this. some people talk when they should listen. they want control at times where they should be letting someone else in control. your mom was probably spoiled when she was a child. my dad behaves like the little kids on the nanny type shows just as an adult. your mom sounds similar. you're not going to break her of this. what you can do is try to make it less stressful. if you have a husband or any children, have them distract her a bit when doing something that may lead to stress. you need that sort of buffer. it really helps. if she won't shut up or let you talk sometimes not talking can work. what i mean is when they are asking you lots of questions and you refuse to say anything. you can sorta make it sink in that they need to shut up if you are going to talk. you have a difficult situation. you're not crazy. you're not wrong. it's not just you. but like the next time you have to do somethign like this, maybe you could have family take her out to eat or possibly have food delivered. that way she is distracted by the addition of food. i really wish i could help more. i know you are going through alot.
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ok yesterday i started going out with a guy.. i known him for a while.. he is like the sweetest guy.. he asked me if the only reason were dating is so i can get laid but like he said sex isnt everything. should i believe him. bc i think the same way. who wants sex.. so like yah (link)
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he may be a sweet guy and all but i guarantee he wouldn't mind sex. it's a basic human desire. any guy that asks you out has already imagined the possibility of having sex with you. i can't say his downplaying it is by any means evil though. it's not exactly easy to admit to a girl that you'd hope for sex. either this is a really nice guy that isn't comfortable admitting he desires you or he is a dog that is just sayin what he thinks you want to hear. if a guy has had a crush on a girl awhile he may have put the girl on a pedastal and no longer look at her sexually any more. i would say the best way to determine is to not let him rush you. if he seems anxious in the future about getting you into bed that first time then odds are he is just saying what you want to hear.
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Okay, so my friend hooked up with this guy. I don't know him very well, but I know his cousin.
Friend= "Lyn" (She's one of my close friends too)
Friend's bf= "Mike"
Friend's bf's cousin who is also my friend= "Brendon"
(Obviously fake names)
Okay, so Lyn hooked up with Mike and now they are boyfriend and girlfriend. I am friends with Brendon. Anyway, Lyn told me about her and Mike being official. I started talking to Brendon about it, because he and Mike are pretty close. Mike didn't tell Brendon, and got pretty mad at me (I'm not in contact with him, so he told me through Lyn) He said I shouldn't have spread it, because it's no one else's business.
I apologised several times, and told him how I only told Brendon, because they are cousins and close, so I assumed he would have known. I also told him I had no intention on spreading it or telling everyone, I just was discussing it with Brendon because I thought he would have known. Mike doesn't care and is still mad at me for 'gossiping'
What should I do? I'm thinking of just letting it cool down and wait until he does tell the news to people. I'm not friends with Mike, so I'm not too bothered. I just feel uncomfortable that he's really mad with me over a tiny mistake.
Lyn didn't care at all, she was just concerned that Mike got mad at me for telling Brendon. (link)
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maybe mike is mad about things because he is a private person. my guess is that only lyn thinks they are official. mike probably let her think that so he coudl fool around with her when he wants to. if a guy is serious about someone he isn't going to be scared who knows. i have to think he's a bad guy and will be soon cheating if he hasn't been already.
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Has anyone ever had a 5 Hour Energy drink before? I tried one for the first time and have had more suicidal thoughts than ever. I'm also feeling kinda tired and want to go lie back down for a while.
I took it to help study for exams coming up next week, if anyone is curious. I'm not even really sure why I'm asking this, I'm just a mix of being tired and awkwardly erratic, coupled with being more... I don't know, casually suicidal than normal? I certainly don't want to study right now.
I'm feeling the beginning of a headache as well, going to lie down for a while and read responses when I get up if this question doesn't get deleted. I suppose this isn't the greatest of questions, either, sorry for that. (link)
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i used to get panic attacks/anxiety attacks. through trial and error i learnedto stay away from a number of things. caffeine is one of the worst things to have. anything that raises blood pressure tends to be bad too like smoking . basically any stimulant tends to make bad thoughts worse. if i have caffeine i'm up half the nighthaving awful thoughts and feeling that i'm going crazy. everybody is different and i can't say what will necessary work for you. exercise should help reduce stress. if you already exercise regularly, maybe adding something like meditation could possibly calm you down. i once read this and it does seem to help. but i close my eyes and try to clear my head and breathe in and out very deeply. i imagine the air coming in and out and just concentrate on that. if anything pops into my head that's bad, as per the instructions i think " i know i have these thoughts but shall think of them later" but continue to breathe and such. now i never have to call upon those thoughts later. it's jsut a way to delay it and sorta move it away. i can't say this would help for sure, but for me i began taking the ginseng supplement "ginsanna gold" it's the ginseng with vitimans. but it would calm me down. plus it wold give the nice effect of making my thoughts more clear. it's like extra awareness. but if u do have such negative thoughts professional help may be necessary. don't go too long. you have yoru whole life to live and putting offhelp can be so easy to do.
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im 18 years old female. i would say im somewhat outgoing but i CANT keep a conversation for the life of me. i work with kids and parents and the parents will try to make a conversation with me and i will just answer their question, while the other employees start talking to them and can keep a conversation going. same with my friends, i am usually the one who is just listening to the conversations, well except with my best friends. i am usually the one always talking with two of them, because we tell each other everything obviously and its easy to talk to them. i just wish i could work on my communication skills, they suck i will admit. i just love when people can keep a conversation going, and be funny and outgoing. is there any steps i can take or any advice on how to keep a conversation going, and be talkative haha thanks! (link)
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if you want to do better then try this. first, try to take what they say and add to it. you don't have to add much. if they say "tommy loves coming in in here". maybe say "oh we, when he's here." or 'tommy sure makes things interesting for us. i'm sure you have some stories." you don't have to say much at all really. i've telemarketed. one of the best things is to ask questions. people usually don't avoid questions. also you're taught to not ask yes or no questions. so instead of asking "is tommy a bad kid at home?" maybe ask, "oh what kind of mischief does tommy get in at home?" now, they are forced to say something to answer the question. since you didn't ask a yes or no question, they have to say much more. another thing is this. if you have some joke or silly story, even if you have told all of your friends or coworkers, these people never heard it. youcould have just told this story 50 times but as long as they weren't in the room it seems you are being charming. also, try to find unique questions. personally, i think questions like "what is your favorite color?" is a waste of time. try to ask things nobody else asks. for the most part if someone seems like they are trying to be personable it's taken well. think about it, if someone makes an effort, how does it make you feel? i'd say most people would probably feel accepted and in a way honored that a person is making the effort.
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15/F .
Well there's this guy named Joe, and one of my friends had sort of like a "physical relationship " they were like sex buddies but without the sex . She claims she fell in love with him. Anywho, i dated him 6 months after they stopped talking because he left to the airforce. When we started talking, we hit it off, and after that we went out for 5 months. Me and him broke up because the distance was too painful and i didnt want to go through with him getting drafted off to a far away place, so we remain really good friends. But now my friend constantly calls him, texts him, and she's always talking to him on webcam. I know me and him arent together, but that still makes me kinda mad becuase he IS my ex and she should respect that. On thanksgiving when he came down, he came to my house and while he was here, she didnt know and she told him to sneak into her house. And i know what her intentions were. So i think she does it to make me jealous because whenever we ask stupid questions like "if you could have anybody in the world who would you pick? " she would say him . stupid things like that . How do i tell her that it makes me mad? because ive already told her and she responds me "well you went out with him knowing how i felt about him " like wtf they hadnt talked in 6 months. Well please Help! Thanks (link)
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that's just how girls are. she probably doesn't even really want him. she is using him as competition with you. the sad thing is, if he realizes that you 2 do this which he probably does, he is likely to play you two against one another. like if you make out with him, if he tells her that she may beyond making out and stuff like that. if you want this guy, your best bet is to get his attention on you. but, if u run after him then that's a problem. i'd say to make him jealous. maybe seem a little busy when he calls. suggest that you are spending time with guys around like at the movies and stuff. if you do this well, then he will want what he can't have. if your friend is chasing him and you are making him want you, he will be more interested in you.
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Ok... so I will start by saying that I thought I had good morals and was a decent person, but that seems to have changed. I fooled around with a co-worker last night, not quite had sex but close enough. Thing is I am in a horrid relationship with a child and he is unhappily married but loves his wife. I was very drunk and him sober...and I believe that alcohol is never an excuse but I also feel like if I was not drinking I would not have made that choice. I feel so incredibly crappy today..really really crappy. I want to do something to make it better which is probably impossible. I cannot tell my boyfriend because he would literally kill me or hurt me very badly. I just really lost all respect for myself and need some advice. please don't be too mean with the remarks because i already know what I did was VERY wrong. thanks (link)
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it's usually a bad idea to cheat. but i can't see much good coming out of telling your guy that this happened. i would get tested though for stds/hiv. i'm assuming that even though you didn't have intercourse that the possibility of stds remains. you at least have to know that all is well and that you can't make another ill. if your relationship is that bad, opening up will only make things worse. i think that you have to keep things a secret. you do have a burden on your shoulders and in some way it seems you need to get that weight of of your shoulders. for now, i'd just stick to telling people in a forum such as this.
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I'm 18/f, and I'm currently being pursued by my friend, let's call him Mike. I used to be head over heels for Mike, and about a year ago we hooked up once or twice. But then we drifted apart. Now he and I are hanging out a lot, and he keeps telling me how amazing and beautiful and smart he thinks i am.. and it's flattering and I really like, him.. except he's 25 years old, and that difference makes me feel uncomfortable.
When we hung out last he tried to kiss me, and I told him that I wasn't ready because I had just gotten out of a really bad relationship (that's true). I've kind of sworn off relationships, especially physical relationships. I'm not interested in sex anymore. He said he understood and he felt pretty bad, but I told him we could still be friends, and he said he was okay with that.
He still calls me every night and praises me constantly, telling me how much he likes me, asking when I'm free to hang out.. and I DO want to hang out with him, because he's a great friend, but I don't want to lead him on and make him think I want to date or get involved with him again.
What's the best way to handle this situation? I've already spoken about it to him honestly, and I don't want to start blowing him off or avoiding him.. help! Thank you!!
-YoungAndCelibate (link)
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if you absolutely aren't ready for anything now or in the future with this guy, you need to sit him down and have a long talk and be clear and set ground rules. there must be lines drawn. in a way though, it does sound like you would like him if his age magically was like 21. i don't know how your relationship is with the guy. but great connections are few and far between in life. it really isn't that big of an age difference. you're both adults. if you fooled around with him, you're somewhat attracted to him. if you think of him as this great friend then you like his personality. in a lot of ways, it seems like he offers you much of what you want or need. if you're with him and you often forget for a moment that he has a few years on you, then you are probably just thinking too much. if it's flashing in your mind and really getting to you then yes you have to stay only friends.
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15/F
do guys see it trashy if a girl smokes weed, like at parties and stuff? Thanks :] (link)
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trashy... not exactly. but to be honest most guys will think of girls like that as easy. of course, if guys think a girl is easy, then they will never respect the girl. more than likely she will go from one guy using her to another. if she wasn't easy before, now she will have a repuation. so guys won't respect her. because if she doesn't respect herself no guy is going to. yes there are guys that are gems and will look at the girl as someone that likes to have fun. but guys like that are few and far between. i don't mean to be so blunt. but that's pretty much the general thinking.
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15f.
i know you guys are probably sick of all the damn questions about friends and friendship issues, but i have a simple question: do i have a right to be upset considering the following:
i used to be really good friends with this girl, but then she got a boyfriend and EVERYTHING changed.
the first time she hurt me was when she told me she went to third base with her boyfriend FOURTH months after. and i know you're like, "um well that's her personal business with her boyfriend. no reason to be jealous, girl." BUT she told two other friends who aren't as close with her as i am BEFORE ME. she has never done that to me before. she used to tell me everything. i thought i would have been the first to know...
the second time she hurt me was today. when her boyfriend told me that one of our really good friends got practically raped. SIX MONTHS AGO. she does not know that i know, but those same two girls even knew before i did. this really got me upset.
do i or do i not have a right to be upset with her? (link)
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i think that maybe you are a bit too sensitive. i understand where you are coming from and all. but, i'll explain. if she knows you better than these other 2 girls, maybe she worries about your opinion of her more. maybe she is scared for you to know that she did this or that with guys. she wouldn't want you to think less of her. she probably just had to tell somebody and picked these 2 girls cuz she really doesn't care what they think. personally, i used to smoke but couldn't bring myself to smoke around my best friend because i was ashamed. possibly, she was too scared for you to know. with the almost rape, um i don't know if anyone but the guy that was attacked should even be discussing that. that' very private info. but if you were told by your friend's bf it is possible that your friend doesn't know about it. i understand you want to be close to yoru friend and feel like she trusts others more or is favoring others more recently. but sometimes friends only discuss certain things with each friend that they have. nobody ever gets 100 percent of what is going on. but you probably get more than almost anyone else. i understand that you were hurt. i'd probably be hurt too. but i don't think this is any sign of losing a friend or not being trusted or anything to be worried about.
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My friend send me a text saying we can't no longer be friends. We were the best of friends, confide in one another with our problems and issues. I depended on her and she knew she could count on me. This is what apparently did it for her:
She invited me to her bff's wedding and I told her I would go. She emailed me info on the wedding but when I replied she didnt' respond. I got really sick for 3 days and didn't call her nor did she. Then came Thanksgiving and the day after she text me "you should have told me you couldn't make it to the wedding" the event was a day after Thanksgiving. I replied what are you talking about you didn't call me to confirm. She then said we could no longer be friends.........
She holds against me that she didn't make it to her bff's wedding. I mean if you invite someone to a special event isn't it that person's responsibility to follow up and plan things out? I did say I would go but got really sick and since she didn't call I didn't know what was going on..............
She also holds against me her bday. We were suppose to celebrate it at a club and when I text her (a few minutes before we left) if my friend could go she wrote "go with her & take care" I text her back "nah it's your bday" she kept saying "no go and have fun" I did go and she holds that against me.............
Now where did I go wrong? (link)
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well who get's married on a friday? it's standard practice to do that on saturdays so more people can attend. i think since this was a bigger deal to her than you that it is her responsibility to inform you. but, as far as asking a 3rd from to go at the last minute to the club. that was bad etiquette. there was no way your friend could politely say no to it nor could she prepare for that. because if it was last minute, it suggests that you and the 3rd person were already ready. you're friend is being a little petty. but i think you both are somewhat to blame. i don't see why a friendship has to end. that seems drastic to me.
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okay so some guys have this thing where they don't really talk about their opinions on certain situations...especially when it comes to romance. so id really like a guys opinion on this because girls tend to over think things and say well maybe he thinks that or that...still i feel a guy would understand a guy better..
so there's this boy i met that has really been confusing me. Heres the thing he liked me and i liked him. we met about a month ago. we started dating. went out on two dates back to back friday and saturday. we had lots of fun and i felt we really connected. he told me this "honestly im not going out looking for anything right now, but if i do end up finding something then great!"
i was hopeful to say the least. the next week at school he always made an effort to see me, be with me. i did too dont get me wrong. hes got lots of friends and people started talking about us... then we got close, kissed, texted a lot... we made out once. some time passed and he was still sweet he treated me like a gf... then nothing...
he still showed interest but not as much. he never asked me out...we stopped texting so often and hed only come see me sometimes, if it was in his way.then he stopped altogether. im kinda hurt but mostly i wanna know what happened. i was ready to accept that he just lost interest BUT he still shows it. he texts me sometimes asking where i am, or if were in school he seems like he doesnt wanna be around me but then i say bye and leave and hes like "where u goin?" today i said bye to him casually cuz he looked busy and hes like "hey, your so mean to me!" wtf???? i dont understand at all do any of you???? (link)
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guys teasing you or insulting you can be a a form of affection. it's like when little boys kick the chairs of the little girls they like. but as far as him fading away. it seems like he doesn't want to say he wants to break up with you . i know u arent official. but seems he's scared to be the bad guy or hoping less attention gives you the hint. maybe i'm wrong but i'd guess he was losing interest. i dont know if he was just hoping for easy sex or if it has more to do with personality. but with him saying "whatever happens happens, i think the guy was just looking for a roll in the hay"
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