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How do I control my sexual urge?(15/f)
There's a guy I have loved for months.We've known each other for a very long time and we're going to get together soon.I have a problem-recently I started having this urge to have sex with him and it drives me nuts.It happens all the time.Whenever I think about him,talk to him,or basically anything that reminds me of him makes me feel that way.I don't want to scare him by being too straight-forward and I do not want to have sex yet,I'm only 15,and I think I'm too young for sex,but this urge is something I can't control at all,and I'm afraid I'll try to seduce him and end up doing it with him.What should I do to stop myself from losing my virginity to him?I love him,he loves me,so there are no emotional problems,I'm just afraid it might result into something bad. Plz advise,I really need help to make the right decision.
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The things you are going through are normal. If you do end up having sex with him, make sure to use protection and other forms of birth control. Now that that is out of the way, let's look at the problem. You're tempted. You're extremly tempted. With most things, I would suggest talking to the guy. With this, I don't think you should just yet. I'm a guy, and frankly if a guy hears you are close to wanting sex he is going to rush things because of his own horniness. You want ways to wait. Try only meeting with him in places where sex won't happen, like your place with plenty of family around. If he drives, you probably don't want to go anywhere alone with him for the time being. It's too easy to be alone that way. Try to do group things. If you have any close friends, bring them along to keep it non sexual. I don't know if you are ready. Only you will ever know. When you lose your virginity it has to be on your terms. If you must, set a date or time in the future to aim for. Say "not until i'm 17" or something like that. The target date would be up to you. Once you make it to whatever time, you can always push the date back again if you don't feel you are ready. Your first time can be a wonderful experience. It won't be perfect but at the same time what makes it so great are the imperfections. Once you do this it will change you forever. Outside of actually having a child or carrying a child, you will know one of life's greatest mysteries. Once you go through that door you cannot return. So make it what you want it to be. Your first guy is highly unlikely to be your last. Make sure it's someone you like, someone you will think fondly of, and someone you want to share the moment with. Someday you will lose your virginity, it is going to happen. It may be good. It may not be good. It's not going to be exactly how you have it imagined. Even if it is an absolute disaster, someday you will have a wonderful first time with someone. But I hope I was a bit of help. I also hope that when you do finally lose it that it is everything you hope for and more.
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Yes, 15 is probably the worst age for horniness and everyone starts losing their virginity then. However, I find if you just keep your pants on and try not to get too close to having sex that works. What I mean is one thing leads to another...There is nothing wrong with this desire, it is totally normal. If you really feel like it is distracting you birth control really helps with that. It also gets ride of cramps and raises iron levels (it's not just good for baby protection). Just keep reminding yourself about your stance on sex. And trust me you are not missing out on anything...Pretty much any other form of sex is better for women anyways (for example oral sex). Maybe masturbation would help lol...
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