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Boy Help
I'm 16/f and a junior in high school. I like this guy in my class (he's a senior) and we're also officers of the same club. I talk to him every once in a while and we're acquainted but not really friends. He's really mature and professional (a big reason why I like him) and we're really polite with each other. So, its not really like a laid back relationship. But still, (it sounds stupid but it kind of makes a big deal to me) he high fives me sometimes for little things. I'm not the type to just ask people I'm not really close with to to hang out. Also,you should know, I've never had a boyfriend, never asked a boy out, and I've only had three crushes on boys including this one. Also, what set me off is that I found out this freshman likes him too. So now I know I may have some competition and I really have to do something. So, what do you think I should do to get closer with him in school? I'm not asking him out now, I've still not really talked to him that much and I'm not ready for doing something like that right now. How can I have a more laid back relationship w/ him and do you have any advice for flirting with a guy? I realize he's a senior and he's not gonna be around for a lot longer. So, if you can give me any advice at all that would be great! thank you so much.
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you basically want to get closer to him without asking him out or chasing him. i'm a guy so personally i'd say something like "we're renting movies tonight, you should come over." but i know you're scared of being rejected and such. i'd say to just add him on facebook because pretty much everyone has facebook. once you do you can just send a little message now and again so maybe while in school you actually talk more. plus, if something funny is said when you talk online it gives you something to bring up in person. i don't know your personality type but i'd guess you are either shy or not the most aggressive girl. you only live once. rejection sucks but take it from someone that knows, if you never take a chance you can't ever succeed. i've been scared to ask people out in the past and honestly i regret it even years later. as bad as it is being turned down, it's instant. it's over and done with and you can move on. if you like someone and don't put yourself out there a bit you can miss out. people can't always read the signals. i do feel for you. i hope someday you don't have to wait on whatever guy you are interested in. but for the moment, i think your best bet is to try facebook. then maybe you will end up chatting on some messenger and becoming a bit more than aquaintances.
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Well you have to take into consideration, that he IS a senior, and the other girl that likes him is a freshman, thats 3 or 4 years difference, as I read, you said he's really mature; not many freshman I know are that mature. So, him being "grown up" you would think he would want the same thing in return. You definately have the advantage. Make sure he dont only think of you as a friend, and the high fiving deal, isnt a good start. Watch him, see if you can catch him lookin at you, when you all accomplish something, or whatever he gives you the high fives for, check his smile, is it a "Wow I really like this girl" smile or is it a "She's a cool kid" smile. As for getting closer to him in school, talk to him more. Your around him, start up a conversation, "Hey did you do over the weekend". Thats the only real way to get to know someone, talk to them. Maybe he'll even ask you out. As for flirting with him, if your good at dropping hints, you could do that. For example when your talking, dont just be regularly talking, put some of your flirtiness into it. Smile, ALOT. Laugh at all his jokes, even when they get lame.
This is about all I can advise. I'm sorry if I didn't give you what you needed. Happy Holidays!
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