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Can friends be and how can I not?
Can friends be and how can I not?
(1) How can one thin female friend tell if another thin female friend is jealous that the other female friend is thin as well.
(2) How can I not get angry with my mom when she talks on top of me talking when I am trying to explain something to her. My mom is in her 80's and I am in my 50's. For example: My mom needed stock quotes off the Internet. And when I found the quotes and wanted to copy the quotes in Excel which I did she saw that some of the zero's were missing in the amounts of one of the six columns. And when I tried to explain to her that I had to adjust the format so the zero's appear she would not let me talk and we had a fight. My mom acts sometimes like a little kid who talks while mommy is trying to say something.
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i am going to assume that you wonder if one of your friends is jealous that you are thin. i'll treat it that way anyhow. women are very sneaky and good at hiding this stuff if they want to. i don't know if you can truly ever tell. but, if she makes little hurtful comments then she probably is. it just sounds as if that she is competitive with you and wants to out do you. you probably can't change how she feels. she is probably just feeling threatened or wants to get more attention than you. i'd be more concerned about this if any of it hurts you. if it does you may want to tell her that your weights arent a competition. maybe you could bite the bullet and fib and say you are jealous of her figure. it's a white lie but it may ease alot of friction.
but your mom is like my dad. some people you just can't talk to at times. first off, realize that this is not your fault. i say that because you can go crazy dealing with this. some people talk when they should listen. they want control at times where they should be letting someone else in control. your mom was probably spoiled when she was a child. my dad behaves like the little kids on the nanny type shows just as an adult. your mom sounds similar. you're not going to break her of this. what you can do is try to make it less stressful. if you have a husband or any children, have them distract her a bit when doing something that may lead to stress. you need that sort of buffer. it really helps. if she won't shut up or let you talk sometimes not talking can work. what i mean is when they are asking you lots of questions and you refuse to say anything. you can sorta make it sink in that they need to shut up if you are going to talk. you have a difficult situation. you're not crazy. you're not wrong. it's not just you. but like the next time you have to do somethign like this, maybe you could have family take her out to eat or possibly have food delivered. that way she is distracted by the addition of food. i really wish i could help more. i know you are going through alot.
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